As a guy I've had that happen sometimes. Not sure what the criteria is.
But I've definitely had an ejaculation without an orgasm or the feeling of one. Usually it comes from teasing or deliberate attempts to edge without going all out.
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Sex Ed Era: Judgement-free zone for questions
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As a guy I've had that happen sometimes. Not sure what the criteria is.
But I've definitely had an ejaculation without an orgasm or the feeling of one. Usually it comes from teasing or deliberate attempts to edge without going all out.
I switched to Skyn, they feel a lot better and as a bonus, are non-latex.
You can also try applying a tiny bit of lube to the inside of the condom. enough to allow a little bit of movement but not so much the condom slips right off.
Lmao wow. I never thought about slapping my hand with my cock during matsurbation. Or the octopus thing. Lol
interesting. i will try this skyn brand but something tells me its more expensive than the normal latex ones
My doctor is a pretty big moron on anything beyond the common cold but very convenient. I've never heard of a urologist so thanks for the recommendation. I hope they will be able to do something, this is miserable to me.
They are but it's worth it, about 6$ where I live for either Regular or Large for 12 packs. Some of the other brands like to gouge on other sizes, so that's another reason I like Skyn.
If you're not in the US, Europeans and other countries can get condoms exactly sized to your penis for maximum comfort. In the US, we're limited to two sizes because the FDA regulates them like a medical device and has deemed that there's specifically only two penis sizes in the United States of America(tm). So if you're bigger or smaller than the two allowed sizes you're just stuck with an uncomfortable condom until people can convince them to have sanity.
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Agreed. They shouldn't have to do it for your sake. That's how it sounds now. I'm sure he doesn't mean it that way, but still. And women who don't like it aren't "wrong" women.
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Cheaper than kids or STDs.
Can be bought in bulk on Amazon.
Pales in comparison to what I spend on first dates, etc.
Keep it in perspective, my man.
I think people thought you were saying that "right" women would enjoy anal, but I think you meant that you just have to find the "right" person who enjoys the things you do.
Doesn't always help prevent them. Fuck UTIs and fuck my shitty woman parts. :(
The ideal length of sex for you women (with or without foreplay)?
I enjoy foreplay a ton, but in the past my partners just sometimes wanted to hop into bed.
I sometimes get anxiety over not lasting long enough for my partner even when they say it's cool and they enjoyed.
I enjoy foreplay a ton, but in the past my partners just sometimes wanted to hop into bed.
I sometimes get anxiety over not lasting long enough for my partner even when they say it's cool and they enjoyed.
This fascination with time is so strange. Like, are y'all setting a timer before you start?
Sex is long enough if everyone is happy. The end.
The mental image of someone trying their best not to nut for another 4 minutes and 12 seconds to unlock a bonus seems hilarious to me.
You can have great sex that lasts 40 minutes. You can also have great sex that lasts 4 minutes.
ED can be caused by a mental block such as self-esteem, anxiety, depression, nervousness, overthinking or focusing too much on maintaining an erection, or other mental-health/health aspects. I think porn can be a negative to your sex life if it is the only thing that can get you hard, I know because I've been there and I had to cut it out my life completely and I have no regrets. There's like a dissonance thing between porn and sex for me, and I failed to separate the two during sex personally. My mental state doesn't always help, but I most definitely found it troubling when I'd be butt naked in front of a gorgeous girl and couldn't stay hard for shit no matter how hard she and I tried.
I basically had to rewire myself mentally, and find a way to no only get a hard on from visual and audio ques, but find other things that turned me on. I mean, I'm a lot better now. But I'm kind of glad I don't really have to rely on the temporary high of porn to get a quick nut anymore. I only masturbate when the urge actually comes up instead of out boredom. Now I am not part of nofap or kill pornographers, just giving my personal experience. I don't really care to prove the scientific credibility of it... I mean, after all, people are still crazy misinformed about the science of sex. So it's a good thing we have this thread to help some.
Use some toys on yourself first to get used to it. Plugs come in all kinds of sizes so you can gradually size up and get used to the sensation/action.
Still not always for everyone though. It can feel way too much like taking a dump to be enjoyable.
I had a girl herself tell me to slow down because she didn't want me nutting at that point in time. So that's why I thought it would be cool to ask.
I'll echo the "bad phrasing" part. I'm sure you didn't mean it in that way, but this implies that women who don't enjoy anal are "not right", and that's not cool. You probably meant to say "you simply haven't met women who do enjoy it, but they certainly exist".
I wouldn't be surprised if only a small minority of women actually enjoyed it, but you can't extrapolate your personal/anecdotal experience to all women, lol.
I think it's higher. Around 70-80% who need more than just penetration (fake edit: yep someone posted a link where only 18.4% of surveyed women said PIV/intercourse alone was enough for orgasm). The latter part is due to porn and idiotic male competitiveness (aka toxic masculinity ;)).
If that worked for you that's fine, I just think it's harmful to try to discourage people from porn period.
In that particular case it probably wasn't a time thing so much as a rhythm thing - chances are you were going for broke while she was just warming up. In that context, time matters in terms of trying to climax together, sure.
But time as in a "does it need to be X minutes long?" is a silly concept.
If you shower and clean down there, it's as clean as you're gonna get. Remember that poo doesn't reside in your anus and rectum, but in your lower but stones until is ready to come out. And you actually have two spinchter to ensure this.
Eat tons of fiber it really helps. But yeah a huge part of it is psychological. It will always hurt the first time but don't freak yourself out. Do tons of foreplay, tell your partner how you feel about the whole thing and a very understanding top will take it very slow and be very mindful. Once you feel comfortable, it really does help. And you might like it.
Im actually like you. I don't like bottoming unless I have an actual connection with the person I'm with and I feel safe. Then it's fucking enjoyable as fuck!
That theres such a high statistic of women that can't get off from penetration.....man, really seems like nature let women down.
Just seems insane that it would work out like that. But then again, thats me trying to think of it from a standpoint of someone engineering this whole thing intelligently when its all kind of chaos to begin with.
Just seems insane that it would work out like that. But then again, thats me trying to think of it from a standpoint of someone engineering this whole thing intelligently when its all kind of chaos to begin with.
Great idea for a thread Fiction. Fucking subbed!
Hopefully I can contribute some information from a cis-het man's perspective.
Hopefully I can contribute some information from a cis-het man's perspective.
It can't be said enough that communication is the key to good sex and I feel like any communication given should be taken at face value and embraced. If you've voiced concern that you aren't lasting long enough and they've assured you that it's fine then you should believe them. If they aren't being honest with you then it's their loss. Are you happy with how long you last? You can always work to change things for your own enjoyment as well as theirs.
They have their clitoris and little to no refractory period. As far as the potential for pleasure goes, I think nature did just fine.
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This is getting a bit much don't you think? "Harmful to discourage people from porn"? Come on, humans lived without porn for thousands of years. :P I don't agree with saying porn is inherently harmful/should be banned/etc. obviously, but going as far as to say that it's harmful to stay away from porn is every bit as ridiculous.
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Will edit, thanks. I usually call out girls only because if you use a condom the uti risk is low for men but the same for women.
Let me rephrase: If you want to stay away from porn, that's okay, that's fine. Nothing wrong with that.
What I'm saying is when we create a society where we say that it's a "shameful" thing or how it's a "public health hazard" or something like that, that's problematic for sure. That's one of my issues with the whole "NoFap" thing, in addition to it being pseudoscience in the first place.
I think the risk is way lower for men, but I remember in college a sex ed professor gave me that tip and it's something I've done ever since. And, not to be gross, but I find if I don't pee shortly after sex, you get that weird stuff where your next pee hours later shoots into weird directions. Peeing after sex just generally seems a good way to clear the clogging.
Fair enough. I haven't researched the NoFap thing much but it did always seem really dumb to me. Also, one can forego porn and still masturbate.
And that's also absolutely fine if that's your preference. My main issues are just with that whole campaign of trying to sell it to people and how that pushes sex-negative agendas based on pseudoscience.
Pretty sure it also has some alt-right connections, although not 100% on that. It would not surprise me though.
i wouldn't be surprised either. pretty sure every time i've seen nofap being discussed it was in, like, 4chan or weird subreddits.
i wish men were more conscious of the porn they consume, but that's probably never gonna happen.
I honestly doubt that one. You've seen how crazy the alt-right goes when companies "censor" their anime titties :P But anyway, that's getting off-topic.
I don't want to quote everyone, but you are right of course. The whole "haven't met the right women" thing in regard to anal sex has some bad connotations and implications. I didn't mean it that way, sorry.
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Two things:
Try Skyn brand condoms.
You might be buying condoms that are too small for you. Try a larger size
I wish schools would teach people (boys) that sex isn't about numbers. It's not a game of Top Trumps, ffs. You're not rolling dice to score critical hits. Just show some damn empathy and take an interest in the person(s) you're with.
Did Clumberblunders just burn down Nibelheim or something???
This is something that I've researched and am pretty sure of, but on some women that I've had unprotected sex with, I've gotten a bit paranoid with - Is it possible for a woman to get pregnant off of pre-cum? One of my last girlfriends, I was not going to take any chances with so the next morning, I went on a quest around town for Plan-B.
And if I pull out, cum on her vagina, and then go back in for penetration, there's no way she's getting pregnant off of that lube cum, right? (Due to oxygen killing the sperm?)
And if I pull out, cum on her vagina, and then go back in for penetration, there's no way she's getting pregnant off of that lube cum, right? (Due to oxygen killing the sperm?)
Pre-cum can contain live sperm cells so there is definitely some chance of pregnancy even if the chance is hard to quantify exactly.
Sperm cells do not die that fast. So if there are sperm cells on your penis and you put in the vagina, yes, there is some chance of pregnancy even if lower.
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For women who've had Plan B, how rough is it on your bodies? Any weird side effects or symptoms?
How about with normal birth control?
My last ex wasn't on birth control but she said Plan B made her naseus. The two girlfriends before her would always complain about different annoying symptoms while using birth control.
It is possible to get pregnant off of all the example cases you just listed. Yes to pre-cum, yes to cumming on her vagina, and yes to lube cum.
She's going to get nauseous if she gets pregnant too. Plan B is just that, a Plan B. Only as a last resort. But it is generally safe.
Different types of bc affect all women differently. I'm fine with a regular combination Pill (has different doses of hormones for each week in your cycle). The patch made me nauseous (IIRC they don't even make it anymore!). The shot is a pain in the ass. Some people have a lot of issues with the Pill. My best friend tried a bunch of different things before finally getting an IUD, which works great for her.
Basically, women will likely need to try several different options before finding what works for them.
