Bisexual Era Did/Will you "come out"?

I've told my closest friends but beyond that I don't see a need to just 'come out' as its not really anyone's business but mine and the person I am seeing.

Yup told my wife about it back in February. Don't know why I waited so long to tell her. She was cool with it.

I was already out as trans by the time I acknowledged myself as bi/pan so it didn't feel like much of a leap at that point to tell people.

People know I'm bi, but I just say I'm gay because I have a male partner and I'm lazy.

my bisexuality extends to sexual relationships not romantic & i have no desire to come out... when i have in the past ive gotten called fake. i mean my closest friends know but thats just cuz it has comes up naturally and theyve been w me when ive met woman ive been intimate w
I think ppl should feel comfortable coming out if it gives them a sense of peace bisexuals kind of get glanced over in that

Stalker said:

If you don't mind me asking how long till you told her and what prompted it? I feel like I'm in a similar boat except she knows but I'm happy to let people just assume mostly. Though I make partners well aware

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Hmmm we'd been together for about ten-ish years, married for two prior to me telling her.

When she went off of her birth control her libido exploded over night. She started getting really into sex, talking about group sex, swinging, doing stuff with girls. So when she told me she was open to doing stuff with the opposite sex, I eventually told her that I had some bisexual tendencies as well.

I came out to a then-boyfriend several years ago. After about a week of pretending to be cool with it, he decided to get super insecure and out me on social media. Something along the lines of "Apparently Sabrina doesn't like penises anymore. Could've fooled me"

That was fun. Luckily most of my friends were chill and had my back.

The only person i have told thus far is my mom. I've been dropping small hints to my friends, but I don't they've caught on yet. Tbh I'm the same way as the OP. I'm "straight acting", so I'm not really in a hurry to tell anyone tbh. It's really no ones buisness.

I dunno. Most people in my life would be totally good with it but I'm not in a rush.

I told my closest friends, then came out fully on twitter, then told my mom.

Sorta, my family doesnt, my fiance does, some friends do. I'm considering just coming out on Twitter and never telling family. I don't owe my family shit and they aren't going to give me any validation

Stalker said:

This is a big yikes

Sorry about that it's shitty. But I mean I guess it reveals peoples true colours

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Yeah. In retrospect he'd been kind of a shitbird all along, but that's the clarity of hindsight for you. And, ultimately, forcing the issue put me in a much better place overall, so after a week of crying through it my life was already getting better. I got lucky there.

My gf knows it, my closest friends know it, family will be kept in dark until it somehow washes up from different channels.

Came out on Twitter during Pride Month this year. Been 100% happier since.

Haven't come out to my family though, because I don't want *that* stress in my life. (They're not the most LGBT-friendly people)

OOPS double post

I've only told my mom but I'm open about what I'm attracted to with my friends so I'm pretty sure some of them are aware.

I came out to my friends back in high school when I first really realised/came to terms with the fact that I was bi like fifteen years ago. I never really directly addressed it with my family or anything because there were wasn't really much of a need at the time, now it's just something I'm open about and don't shy away from when that kind of stuff comes up.

I dated a guy for 3 years, so if people didn't think I was bi, they thought I was gay. Fast forward to now and my girlfriend and I hit 5 years just a few months ago, so most of my long time friends are pretty aware. My girlfriend is really supportive, too, and I'm thankful to work in a place where I can say stuff like 'my ex boyfriend' or 'a guy I dated' as freely as I can say things about 'a girl I dated'.

My girlfriend makes fun of my taste in guys b/c I'm very basic tho ;(

Edit: Guys who try to pick up my girlfriend tend to be assholes though since I guess I read as pretty gay.

I'm out as bi/pan. I got tired of having to hide my feelings and coming out was a relief. Thankfully people were pretty understanding about it.

I came out in June after dating my boyfriend for a year (I had only dated girls before). I only told my family and very few friends originally, and it felt like such a weight lifted off of my shoulders. I didn't realize how much it was impacting my mental health until I finally told everyone and was open about who I am. Everyone was extremely supportive.

I would only come out if I met a guy I liked enough to be with, and that would only be because it would be obvious and people I know would probably ask. Otherwise it feels a bit unnecessary to announce, for me at least.

I came out the day after the Pulse shooting. Every time I told someone in my family, they were more caught off guard by the fact that I was also into women.

Don't think I ever will, to be honest

I'm not sure if it's worth the trouble

No I've never told anyone explicitly but most people I know wouldn't be surprised anyway. My sister, my cousins and some of my friends have made it clear over the years that they think I am gay. Even though they've met several of my girlfriends, haha. So I'm pretty transparent I guess. I am not afraid to come out to them at all (several of them are LGBT themselves), it's just that I am a very private person and I don't like to openly talk about my relationships and they respect that.

My wife knows that I'm into the gray area between bi and straight. Otherwise it hasn't come up, but I'm cool with talking about it.

I dont feel the need to tell anyone.

carlsojo said:

Hmmm we'd been together for about ten-ish years, married for two prior to me telling her.

When she went off of her birth control her libido exploded over night. She started getting really into sex, talking about group sex, swinging, doing stuff with girls. So when she told me she was open to doing stuff with the opposite sex, I eventually told her that I had some bisexual tendencies as well.

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...so did you guys end up doing stuff orrrr

Most of my family and friends were actually surprised when I told them I was bi because they thought I was homosexual. I even had a family friend tell me once at the dinner i cooked for everyone that I would make someone a great wife one day. I just started dating someone recently that I haven't told yet and I'm trying to find the right moment.

I have no problem telling people but I don't feel ready to tell my immediate family so I'm careful who knows and who doesn't.

Like, of them only my older brother knows who I only told because I was drunk at the time, and my nan who was wrongly convinced my cousin was a lesbian so no one would believe her.

My co-workers know, but then I work in a hotel, and let's just say it ain't exactly a sea of straights in that industry.

In general though, that I can go along with the stereotypical straight man behaviour and conversations without dishonesty sort of makes it a bit pointless to bring it up unless sexuality or dating men comes up in the conversation. Not a healthy way of looking at it but people do noticeably change their behaviour around me so I avoid bringing it up sometimes.

I'll properly come out at some point. Maybe.

Stalker said:

This is a little disheartening. The fact you feel their will be trouble is just :(

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I know, and it sucks, but it is what it is

Maybe if one day the people around me grow up and/or I find myself in a better mental state in order to have the courage

Yeah, although not quite to everyone. It had just been to my GF and my closest friends, but then after Pride this year, I uploaded a pic to Facebook of myself at the parade in a shirt that made it pretty clear I was Bi. I'm in a similar position, as I've only been in hetero relationships and generally passing, so it was a little scary, but I felt better after doing it.

I only told my little brother when he told me he was bi but I don't think he really thought I was serious, I didn't talk about it again and I don't really plan to

Sure, If somebody asks or it's relevant to the discussion.

I'm out to anyone who knows me already, have been for decades.

Most would consider me bi, but I identify (and came out) as queer, and am closer to demisexual than bisexual. The biggest problem for me is people not understanding why I'm still married to a woman. Like, how the fuck does that change anything? I've been in multiple relationships with both men and women before getting married, so it's not like I'm not experienced. It's just super annoying when people make assumptions about you solely based on your sexual orientation.

The amount of gatekeeping that bisexual/pansexual/demisexual people experience at PRIDE events is also getting out of hand and needs to be dealt with. Just because a guy and a girl show up as a couple, it doesn't mean they're straight. I know that seems obvious, but you'd be surprised at the amount of people who don't realize this.

The only people that know im also into people of my same perceived gender are people i know exclusively online, despite suspicions by people around me, i prefer not to come clean about it yet, don't feel comfortable yet.

I came out as bi in 9th grade. Told my mom and she just said, "that's nice dear, go get your father for dinner."

I am in a monogamous heterosexual marriage. My wife and my best friend know. I don't see the point of coming out.

I came out to my parents, mostly because I didn't want to explain it when I'd bring my first boyfriend home, and I definitely would to any possible partner before things get serious even if it was a straight relationship. It is an important part of me, so I'd want them to know. Everyone else can figure it out by themselves. Some people think I'm straight, some think I'm gay, others know that I'm bisexual, I don't really care. If they ask, I will answer truthfully, but it's not something I feel I have to tell everybody, same as they aren't telling me that they're heterosexual.

I've been confidently out to myself for like 11 years, to other people for 10 years and to my immediate family for 9 years. I have included work experience that implies I am bi in a recent resume, and in some job interviews.

When I was not yet out to my family, I had ordered a book about bisexuality from a book store (Borders) for them to get in stock. When they got it in they sent a postcard, not even a letter in an envelope, or the PHONE CALL to my mobile I had told them to make. As a postcard, it had my name and the book title right there on it for whoever got the mail. I came home one day to my family having found it and asked me about it. I said it was a comedy book which it was. I complained to the store and contacted privacy commissioner about it.

I came out about 2 years ago. I only really admitted it to myself about 5 or 6 years ago. Not everyone knows, but I'm not ashamed of it or going to hide it.

Not really, because I've only been in hetero relationships, and because of that I feel a bit weird calling myself bi/pan, like I don't belong or whatever. I don't hide it, but I don't proclaim it either.

I came out on Bi visibility day this year. I got nothing but positive responses and lots of love.

My partner and some friends know about it but that's about it.
Edit: Actually, I've also told a bunch of strangers at a videogame forum.

Aarglefarg said:

I have included work experience that implies I am bi in a recent resume, and in some job interviews.

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I'm curious, what kind of work experience would imply your sexual orientation?

Everyone I talk to about this stuff is usually surprised. I keep it to people that I actually interact with in a more than friends kinda way typically. I prefer feminine types, and some people try to say that I'm not really bisexual because of this because I'm not too much into hairy masculine guys but more androgynous or very girly guys.

Then again I've seen some masculine guys that I've been really attracted to, so I'm making myself a liar in the same post. v///v