Maybe try some sex pillows? Can help adjust Angle and height.
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Maybe try some sex pillows? Can help adjust Angle and height.
I recommend the webcomic Oh Joy Sex Toy. It is a very sex-positive and diverse comic about sex toys and sex in general.
This is the comic about "How to Masturbate... with a Penis!", but I would recommend all their comics. They are very down to earth and matter of fact. Though not entirely safe for work, on account of the massive amount of comic genitalia.
This is the comic about "How to Masturbate... with a Penis!", but I would recommend all their comics. They are very down to earth and matter of fact. Though not entirely safe for work, on account of the massive amount of comic genitalia.
How big of a hit is it to your womanhood if we don't climax? It has happened a few times to me and I always feel like I need to go on a long explanation on how alcohol and/or condoms makes it really difficult sometimes.
The irony is I probably could have used some specifics from this comic. Never done it once in my life because I just honestly do not know how, specifically with regards to... well, not making a mess. Like, do I just hold the paper or towel over the end in one hand while playing with the other? It seems like it'd be awkward to do while sitting on the toilet seat, yet that's depicted as the default location. I just don't get it and people treat it as the most obvious thing so I've not really readily gotten a source of tips on this.
So... yeah, any such tips in here?
In my first sexual relation, I had the same problem at the first weekend. Didn't see her again for three weeks then (because of long distance), and she told me to stop masturbating. It solved the problem entirely.
I know it sounds like a hard thing to do, especially when you are used to it. But you can do it. After two weeks, I was so horny that I could hardly get dressed because the trousers touching my junk was almost enough to get me off. But once you will start coming with her, it will be all worthwhile and if the curse has been broken once, chances are that you will have no problem anymore in the future. You can also continue masturbating afterwards, no problem. I think you should really sacrifice your habit here. It's just for a short while and intentional or not, chances are that she will not feel too hot about you not coming for three months now. Even if she doesn't show it, it might make her question herself a lot.
As someone who has run into trouble in this specific field, let me tell you: one hour or more of continuous pounding is definitely a reality for some men. The problem is, a lot of women don't enjoy that one bit.
Fortunately, my current FwB is a real trooper, she has only tapped out once, and that was >> 1 hour. Still, if you have the stamina for 20 minutes, that's more than enough.
For me it's more as to why that number got so high. If it's just for the enjoyment of sex, then it's fine with me. If it's a way of dealing with trauma or issues or sex addiction then i rather pass. I want sex to be pure and horny. Not a therapy session. Some men say: the crazier the woman, the wilder in bed. But i think that's a selfish and sad statement. Not how i like my sex. But it's personal.
70?! Wow. That's a lot to me, haha. I'm at 5.
I think it's best not to lie about these things (or anything, really), because it'll come back somehow, some way, and if you're dating someone who cares about that stuff, they're going to care about other little things that shouldn't matter too.
Better to give them the full truth of it, and if they're going to run the other way, let 'em.
Personally, I've never met a "body count" that turned me off. I like partners who enjoy sex, and as long as your practices are safe and considered while we're together, I'm fine with whatever choices you have made and continue to make in that department.
Yea I don't want to lie but most of the time I feel girls lie about it. Telling the truth has never worked out in my favor. In actuality it's probably higher than 70 that just what I can remember.
Alcohol makes it harder to stay hard and acts as a depressant, slowing down your brain's ability to coordinate giving you an erection.
Secondly, you're likely overthinking it. When you get in bed with someone, focus more on foreplay - kissing, touching, cuddling, going down on them etc first. This distracts you from thinking about getting hard, and eases both you and her into it as well. It may help to not masturbate on a day you think you're going to have sex.
A Fleshlight will help, but just masturbating less is about the only way to re-sensitize the penis because that skin toughens up just like any other skin on the body when used a lot. The upkeep on a FL is more involved than a dildo or other toys, but it's not too bad.
But it's also possible you may have a mental block on having an orgasm, which does happen and is more common than you think.
I've never messed with towels or anything. But I've never masturbated in the traditional way either. I just learned how to stimulate myself with boxers on. The cloth absorbs it all, so it's easy to clean.
But I would imagine most people wouldn't enjoy getting off that way. For me it's just about relieving myself, so I don't mind. Who knows though, maybe people would find it pleasurable if they tried it.
The very idea of "one hour pounding" sounds supremely painful. This kind of thing is what straight friends say is why sometimes they fake orgasms.
*I'll gladly answer any and all male on female anal related questions. I am super duper experienced with many different partners starting back in the 80's, up to my wife and I who have been having anal sex 2-3 times a week for the past 15+ years. I am well versed in both perspectives and have fucked a lot of virgin butts.*
The receiver dictates all matters about anal and the giver respects the receiver's wishes.
When you say spontaneous, do you mean just sticking in her ass without saying anything, or having anal on a whim without cleaning/prep?
The receiver dictates all matters about anal and the giver respects the receiver's wishes.
When you say spontaneous, do you mean just sticking in her ass without saying anything, or having anal on a whim without cleaning/prep?
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Yep, I've had it too - for myself I noticed that with me becoming more adjusted and confident in my sexual abilities, I was also able to get out of my head way better. If it happens, try to talk about it, I've never had an encounter so far that wasn't at least somewhat understanding about the situation. And talking about it made me feel a lot more comfortable too as it took the pressure away.
I was out of the dating game for a few years and when I started dating again, I had a similar problem. If you are comfortable with it and your partner is cool with it too, just try to finish yourself in her presence first and then somewhat try to give more control to her. And try not to overthink it. It's hard, but for me, personally it was way harder to come when I was thinking about the possibility not to all the time. Feeling for different stimulations also came back over time. It just took a while.
I'm gonna download this so someone might see it and think I jerk off to it.How babies work.
Maybe I'll jerk off to it.
I made 4 girls squirt in my time. It feels great as a male but is definitely messy.
Zero relevancy to me, personally. I care what they are like now, with me, not what they've done in their wild youth or whenever.
Yeah, if I've had a good bit of booze, it can definitely take awhile. If it's one of those nights where it's going to take a long time, I'll just throw in the towel (she'll usually take care of me the next morning).
The bolded is about right; my wife is about done after 15 or so minutes...much more than that, it becomes uncomfortable for her. After being together so long, she knows what she needs to do in order to get her cookies, and she'll give me the "wrap it up" signal after that.
Can confirm it is
Gf won't accept that it's mostly pee, even though it smells like it and feels like it
i have so many questions
so, you tasted it?
and you also know what pee tastes like?
looks like we found a kinky one, lol
i've had the same problem in the past
whether you like it or not, going without masturbation is the easiest way
or getting used to a weaker grip during masturbation. or even focusing the masturbation completely on light head stimulation to condition your body to other stimuli in more pressure-free situation where you're on your own
(i can still only come from doggy-style 90% of the time myself, but it's better than not being able to at all)
also, if you have a mental block from climaxing during penetration, asking her to finish you off by hand can help a lot too, because that way you'll have some experience putting down your mental barriers and climaxing when not alone, which may make you more relaxed for future sex as well
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Yeah i did. And i'm not that kinky actually, haha. I don't like piss, for instance. But i had to kiss her down there when she came that way. Just curious man :)
I guess you could argue that providing pleasure is a beneficial evolutionary adaptation because it could lead to more sex; thereby more offspring.
So not sure if this is exactly the right place to ask but seems close enough so why not. As a 24 year old virgin this question has always been at the back of my mind but I have never really been able to ask it in fear of being made fun of.
My question is:
When and if the time ever comes that I'm about to have sex, is it a major turn off for women to reveal that I've never had sex before? My immediate thought process is to just not say anything but it worries me that I'll probably perform poorly my first time and at least that gives me an excuse so I'm not too much of a disappointment. What's the consensus?
My question is:
When and if the time ever comes that I'm about to have sex, is it a major turn off for women to reveal that I've never had sex before? My immediate thought process is to just not say anything but it worries me that I'll probably perform poorly my first time and at least that gives me an excuse so I'm not too much of a disappointment. What's the consensus?
Better to tell them then and there be room for improvement than to have them think this is your A game. It'll save you both from potential disappointment or misunderstandings. I was somewhat late to the party as well and it worked out for me.
I feel you on that, I personally don't care but it can be hard to answer truthfully.
I mean, everyone is different but I had an evening where for about an hour and a half we just went at it.
Of course we swapped positions frequently, did a lot of foreplay, and took a break or two here and there in between our orgasms so we didn't get too sore or tired.
But, sometimes it happens.
Are you clean? Have you been tested recently? Are you going to focus on your current partner and not force them to conform to a previous partner's expectations?
Then it don't matter.
But some people will make a big deal of it.
I remember when people at parties would like to brag about their "number" and I'd reply with mine and everyone would be amazed but it's really no big deal. Bunch of nerds.
Not that poster but take some Zoloft and feel for yourself he frustration of requiring 1+ hours. It's not a good thing
Depends on what the woman is after, and how she feels about you. I wouldn't say that it's your first time beforehand unless she's likely to be a regular thing, and you're wanting to trust her a lot/be friends/more than friends with her. One-night-stand, I'd mention it the morning after, and ask if there's anything you could improve on. Expectations with one-offs are variable, so I think it'd do more harm than good and set the evening up to fail if you mentioned it before. Plus, really you want to get the first time over with so that there's no mental/physical block, so anything that lowers the chance of that first time is bad.
Only my opinion, though. :)
Whoa! At the gross generalisation here. I've had women be curious about it and find it fun, though not the funnest thing ever. I think maybe how much men think women enjoy it is skewed by porn, but it's very much something that's variable depending upon the woman.
i've never had it myself, but there are a lot of historical depictions of anal sex, without the misogynistic and domination overtones of today's pornography
oh, and many trans women love anal sex
Is this a shitpost or?
Birthing isn't really a pleasurable experience, in comparison to sex.
In theory you can fit a lot in a vagina but that doesn't mean it'll be fun.
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Communication! Some women might think it's not a good thing, but the side will be extremely turned on by it.
I very much doubt there will be someone you get to that point with that will nope out because of virginity. I know a lot women that like the thought of being someone's first. Communicate, so she can better guide you through the process if she's not a virgin as well.
For me, that could never be a turn off. It's not some specific turn-on either. It's just a lovely, intimate detail they'd have shared, and I'd be glad/appreciative that they told me.
And if your partner's more experienced, she might bring a little bit more initiative in terms of guiding how things go. Like, at some point, placing your hands where she wants them to be.
When it happens, be open. Resist the urge to pre-script whatever's about to go down. Really try to be in each moment as it happens. Be sensitive to what you're feeling, what she's feeling, and play.
I mean... there is a reason if you watch those crazy squirting cam girls, they are downing water like mother fuckers.
I'm not saying they are just peeing, clearly it is a natural orgasm reaction that happens to some ladies, but its pulling from the same reservoir. I don't know where people think it comes from otherwise, only so many places your body is storing liquid so it can be expelled.
I mean I know all this, doesn't mean you're not going to get a judgmental reaction. I've been there, even with some of the most liberal and sex positive of girls.
