You mean TV shows try to make the lives of their cast entertaining and eventful so the audience keeps watching?
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Does anyone actually have social lives that are similar to what's depicted on most sitcoms/TV shows?
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In my 20s, especially 20-26ish, I had a very active social life with a core group of friends. During the week we hung out at least once or twice and spent the whole weekend together usually going to parties or bars. Some of us were attractive, some were average. We all had low-paying jobs. We had adventures and fun stories. Some of us had active dating lives, most had decent sex lives. Oh, and we had a pretty good balance of sexes(2 girls, 5 guys).
Once we all got real jobs and found long-term partners in our late 20s/early 30s, we had way less time for such things and all but 2 of us moved away for work. Now we hang out once a year if we're lucky.
Once we all got real jobs and found long-term partners in our late 20s/early 30s, we had way less time for such things and all but 2 of us moved away for work. Now we hang out once a year if we're lucky.
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Somewhat, yeah, in my 20's. Managed a store where a lot of my friends would come and hang out during the day as we had a social and gaming area, we went out to the pub afterwards at least a few nights a week with at least one where we'd get way too intoxicated and end up doing something interesting (or stupid), like skinny dipping in the lake, climbing on the rooftops of the downtown area, or take some LSD and go sit in a park and chat until the sun came up.
Immediately after college all my friends moved back to the city we were all from and I moved into a house with a few of them. It became the go to spot and we had a regular stable of friends who would come through all the time. We also had a bar about a mile away that we'd always go to or we'd always get a group to go to clubs downtown.
We'd also do sitcom shit like all climb up onto the roof drinking beer, or get stoned and play darts while we talk about life.
Eventually after a year or two everyone started getting jobs and moving away. Those of us that lived in the house also ended up having a falling out with our friend who owned it so we had to move out. Those of us that still stayed in the city all moved to different sides of town and rarely hang out anymore outside of a Facebook group chat and a team speak server
I miss those days :(
We'd also do sitcom shit like all climb up onto the roof drinking beer, or get stoned and play darts while we talk about life.
Eventually after a year or two everyone started getting jobs and moving away. Those of us that lived in the house also ended up having a falling out with our friend who owned it so we had to move out. Those of us that still stayed in the city all moved to different sides of town and rarely hang out anymore outside of a Facebook group chat and a team speak server
I miss those days :(
As a 27 year old, surprisingly very close! We are a group of 8 fairly different individuals, we have our bar, some of us are living together, date eachother, go out, etc. The only stark difference in my case is that I don't date as much, but I got out of a years long relationship fairly recently.
Not like a sitcom but when a good friend was dating a chick that was essentially out of his league and they bought a house together in late high school, early college that meant they always wanted people over to do quirky and fun shit. That involved myself who in that period I was in decent shape, and her friends who all ranged from like 7s to 9s out of 10. But they broke up and that group fell apart slowly.
Then in mid college I found a similar group only now they were my friends. We also hung out a lot.
But the main girl in the group confessed she liked me when we were just friends, we tried going for it and it immediately soured the relationship to the point we couldn't hang anymore. I only recently barely found her again in Facebook and we tried to patch things up as friends and it didn't work.
So no. Never all attractive people hanging out and doing quirky shit with a 50/50 perfect male female ratio but close enough I guess. They were never my best friends though, considering how fast those groups fell apart when one bad thing happened.
Even if I'm getting in better and better shape, I'm already past my mid 20s so the chances I meet another group like that are fairly slim when my job has me going from city to city every few months.
Then in mid college I found a similar group only now they were my friends. We also hung out a lot.
But the main girl in the group confessed she liked me when we were just friends, we tried going for it and it immediately soured the relationship to the point we couldn't hang anymore. I only recently barely found her again in Facebook and we tried to patch things up as friends and it didn't work.
So no. Never all attractive people hanging out and doing quirky shit with a 50/50 perfect male female ratio but close enough I guess. They were never my best friends though, considering how fast those groups fell apart when one bad thing happened.
Even if I'm getting in better and better shape, I'm already past my mid 20s so the chances I meet another group like that are fairly slim when my job has me going from city to city every few months.
I lived in a fraternity house in college and it workaholics basically captured what that was like pretty perfectly.
Incidentally, that kind of life gets old so, so fast.
Incidentally, that kind of life gets old so, so fast.
Check out the series Peepshow... I think it is quite comparable to a lot of people in their late 20's - 30's (living in the UK at least.)
But those US sitcoms like Friends and Big Bang Theory? No... That's some weird plastic shit.
But those US sitcoms like Friends and Big Bang Theory? No... That's some weird plastic shit.
Well, in my 20s I used to hang out A LOT with my friends, but now I'm 30 and I just stay home and play games these days. We still talk all the time via messenger and I have tons of great online friends.
I like it this way.
I like it this way.
I've lived things eerily similar to Silicon Valley's first season. I'm not sure if that counts as a sticom though
I'm my mid-twenties, somewhat. There was a lot of "mundane" though since I live in NYC and anything other than just mundane could get expensive.
In my mid-thirties a lot of it holds true but now I'm the only single friend in my group so things have changed a bit. But I'm currently in a situation where my friend is dating a girl I slept with once a few years ago and I kind of like her sister but we both feel weird about hooking up since we know she'd be pissed.
Most sitcom shit ever.
In my mid-thirties a lot of it holds true but now I'm the only single friend in my group so things have changed a bit. But I'm currently in a situation where my friend is dating a girl I slept with once a few years ago and I kind of like her sister but we both feel weird about hooking up since we know she'd be pissed.
Most sitcom shit ever.
Oh, well then I wish I lived in an apartment that my friend's grandma owns.
I think I did in college. I went to a private university and most of my friends were well off. We would just get drinks or go out to new restaurants and talk about the crazy things happening in our lives/ people we were dating. I got to go to formals every year and got invited to a lot of afterparties. It kinda felt like a giant friend group because most people knew each other.
In my 20s yeah, in my 30's and married, no. Now my wife and i just enjoy each other's company and that's more than enough enjoyment for me.
Na, if I'd listened to you I'd still be working in a dead end admin position and hating my life.
I still struggle with depression and anxiety, but after teaching myself web development and taking some active control in my life's direction I realised I didn't have to accept those things being in control.
Ditto. We definitely had a good multiple years in our 20s of just that. Then everyone started marrying and having kids and now it's a bit like other sitcoms where kids do the darnest things.
I'd imagine people who live in big cities who don't have to worry about money could live that type of lifestyle.
Tv shows obviously cut out most of the more mundane day to day and exaggerate the dating to some extent.
Tv shows obviously cut out most of the more mundane day to day and exaggerate the dating to some extent.
In my late 20s yeah.
I had money. I had friends. I like to go out.
Back home in LA, I could go out 6 days a week.
Now in a new city, it's a bit harder, because I don't have that circle of friends and the energy is so low here.
However, if I had a few more friends . . .
I had money. I had friends. I like to go out.
Back home in LA, I could go out 6 days a week.
Now in a new city, it's a bit harder, because I don't have that circle of friends and the energy is so low here.
However, if I had a few more friends . . .
In my mid-20s, yes. I don't think we were particularly attractive tho if that part is a sticking point.
I'm 35 now and I honestly don't even want to see people on weekdays at all.
I'm 35 now and I honestly don't even want to see people on weekdays at all.
no.
i'm early 20's, work a retail job, still in university, and i barely have any IRL friends.
i probably hangout with them like 1-2 times a month max.
i spend most of my time making beats in my room, playing guitar, cooking or playing videogames, watching netflix, alone.
i'm pretty talented/skilled at music/art but i've always been so introverted making friends is hard for me (since most people i meet are into sports, cars, mainstream rap music, the latest smartphone trends... and nothing else). i'm such a loser lol i have thousands of followers on social media yet i can't get even 2-4 REAL people to hit me up to hangout with on the weekends.
seems like "social butterflies" like you see on TV are career driven people who only care about shallow things like money, fast cars, high status and sex. It's like the show Mad Men ... most of those people in the tv shows are actually very boring - they don't have real hobbies other than their job... they just have similar friends. i'm not like that at all. I'm very passionate about my hobbies and i have no interest in working a 9-5 job just so i can fit in.
i'm early 20's, work a retail job, still in university, and i barely have any IRL friends.
i probably hangout with them like 1-2 times a month max.
i spend most of my time making beats in my room, playing guitar, cooking or playing videogames, watching netflix, alone.
i'm pretty talented/skilled at music/art but i've always been so introverted making friends is hard for me (since most people i meet are into sports, cars, mainstream rap music, the latest smartphone trends... and nothing else). i'm such a loser lol i have thousands of followers on social media yet i can't get even 2-4 REAL people to hit me up to hangout with on the weekends.
seems like "social butterflies" like you see on TV are career driven people who only care about shallow things like money, fast cars, high status and sex. It's like the show Mad Men ... most of those people in the tv shows are actually very boring - they don't have real hobbies other than their job... they just have similar friends. i'm not like that at all. I'm very passionate about my hobbies and i have no interest in working a 9-5 job just so i can fit in.
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I've never had any friends in my life. Before I got married, my brother was my best friend. Now my wife and my pets all I have and need. So... It's something between Mad About You and Everybody Loves Raymond for me.
It's really tough job to find loyal friends. Places I've been, cities I lived in, they were all filled with people without the need of socializing. It's hard to connect with people who enjoy simple conversations. I always wonder if there are cities and countries in the world where people open to meet with new people.
It's really tough job to find loyal friends. Places I've been, cities I lived in, they were all filled with people without the need of socializing. It's hard to connect with people who enjoy simple conversations. I always wonder if there are cities and countries in the world where people open to meet with new people.
In my 20s my life was actually eerily similar to HIMYM. Core group of about 10-12 people, mixed genders. Living in Manhattan. One married couple, one long term relationship, the rest of us were single. Went out 3-4 nights a week, and the other nights would regularly grab a beer or dinner. with a subset of the main group Married couple had a garden apartment so we'd BBQ and have epic nights in the backyard. All of us made pretty good money too, so we didn't have to worry about costs for going out. Random hookups, drunken hilarity, travel together, unexpected crazy nights - tons of stories. Dating within the group that never ruined the group dynamic. It all fell apart when the married couple moved to London for work, and the long term relationship couple married and moved out of the city. The rest of the group slowly disbanded. But we had a good 7 or 8 years of fun there, and it was shockingly similar to HIMYM. We joke about it today.
Are you talking about Monica's place or when she got her own place? In the 90's that was probably possible, she worked for Ralph Lauren as a senior level buyer and apparel retail was booming back then.
Nah, sitcoms should emulate real life and have friends catch up doing boring shit and complaining. One friend disappears halfway through a season, they ask why they haven't seen him in a while. The next time you see him he has racked up gambling debts. A few episodes later they go to his funeral, he killed himself. Cue laugh track
I don't know, but if you think your friends are unattractive and boring then maybe you're just kind of a miserable cunt?
Those shows are always just fantasies of what life could be like if you were in college with white collar professional money.
I spend as much time socializing as I humanly can with my wacky schedule. My life is, regrettably, one of the more interesting of my group of friends. Although most of them are fairly attractive with unique and interesting identities and hobbies. I just tend to get in the most relationship trouble or have the most... "Sitcom" moments occur in my life.
A couple weeks ago I accidentally shit my pants before a date. Said date left hickies on my neck which ruined the next planned outing with a different person. Which coincidentally landed me nearby an old friend of mine who decided to claim me as part of a wacky polyamorous thing she's got going on despite us having no real intimacy between us. Yesterday said girl who left hickies kind of emotionally employed so I'm shying away from interacting with her further for a while. Before that I briefly helped a lesbian friend of mine confirm that she is in fact totally gay... Before that I recently broke up with a girl who forced me to get continual permission from her dom husband, meanwhile he was helping her with self harm by cutting her... Anyway I'm an asshole to that particular polycule now because I won't tolerate that absurd situation.
My life has the consistency of scrambled eggs and I'm usually at the center of some mischief or another while my friends are busy with photography, kickboxing, Wiccan gatherings, local art projects, or construction and programming.
I'm pretty unhappy with where I'm at in life but... At least I fight damn hard to enjoy what I've got and that sometimes looks like an episode of Seinfeld I guess. Lol.
Anyway, here's to hoping my date on Monday is a little less of a rollercoaster. (hint: pretty sure it's another weird ride. Also: don't date two people at the same time that have almost exactly the same name. That... Becomes confusing FAST)
If nothing else I'm grateful to have such a diverse support network of friends with such varied interests and skillsets.
A couple weeks ago I accidentally shit my pants before a date. Said date left hickies on my neck which ruined the next planned outing with a different person. Which coincidentally landed me nearby an old friend of mine who decided to claim me as part of a wacky polyamorous thing she's got going on despite us having no real intimacy between us. Yesterday said girl who left hickies kind of emotionally employed so I'm shying away from interacting with her further for a while. Before that I briefly helped a lesbian friend of mine confirm that she is in fact totally gay... Before that I recently broke up with a girl who forced me to get continual permission from her dom husband, meanwhile he was helping her with self harm by cutting her... Anyway I'm an asshole to that particular polycule now because I won't tolerate that absurd situation.
My life has the consistency of scrambled eggs and I'm usually at the center of some mischief or another while my friends are busy with photography, kickboxing, Wiccan gatherings, local art projects, or construction and programming.
I'm pretty unhappy with where I'm at in life but... At least I fight damn hard to enjoy what I've got and that sometimes looks like an episode of Seinfeld I guess. Lol.
Anyway, here's to hoping my date on Monday is a little less of a rollercoaster. (hint: pretty sure it's another weird ride. Also: don't date two people at the same time that have almost exactly the same name. That... Becomes confusing FAST)
If nothing else I'm grateful to have such a diverse support network of friends with such varied interests and skillsets.
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10-15 years ago? Apart from the money and jobs bit, yeah I guess. Big city, big and diverse social circle, wild parties, a ridiculously tangled "fucknet" (although I was pretty much an edge node of the graph :D), all sorts of tales to tell. Not so much the financial stability. Also not so much the stable mental health across the board. There are some people from those days who are no longer with us, literally or figuratively speaking. You don't see much of that in sitcoms.
Sometimes I think only some of the most shut in GAF members made it over in the switch.
Someone these "life" threads, chrisakes.
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