Genuinely think a lot of people who've posted haven't read the article or thread and have just seen the words 'male curfew' and responded to that.
Pretty much. Immediately jumping into defense mode and missing the point entirely.
Genuinely think a lot of people who've posted haven't read the article or thread and have just seen the words 'male curfew' and responded to that.
They aren't actually suggesting a curfew.Yeah, I'm terrified walking around at night having been mugged before.
But fuck curfews, this isn't equality.
Listen.
Ask any minority what they want, and they will tell you the same. Listen. Then use what you've learned to use whatever power you may have to change things. That means voting, that means taking allegations of all kinds seriously and it means not taking things personally when someone vents about their mistreatment.
Nice so I'll be allowed in nowhere. What about solving the actual problems like poverty, backward cultural ideas and education. Which I think is what the point is of attracting attention with such a title.
As a minority who scares people for simply existing Im rather glad people are afraid to go out at night. Makes me feel more comfortable knowing there are less people I trigger when I don't do shit but try to get on with my life just being me.
I am like... super not down with any talks that involves limiting my rights to cater to anyones feelings right now. The country already feels like its designed against me and this talk is just asinine to me. Hypothetical or not.
Read my 2nd post.They aren't actually suggesting a curfew.
This is one of those threads I'm gonna want to point to whenever Era pats itself on the back for being progressive.
It's a hypothetical to raise awareness of certain issues. No need to get so defensive.
I think this important to acknowledge. These fears are understandable but the unspoken part of these fears in many cases (which is borne out by many studies) is that this fear is amplified against PoC. There are lots of reasons for this (media sensationalizing crimes committed by black or hispanic people over white people, socio-economic divides and systems of oppression which make resorting to crime more likely for certain groups).As a minority who scares people for simply existing Im rather glad people are afraid to go out at night. Makes me feel more comfortable knowing there are less people I trigger when I don't do shit but try to get on with my life just being me.
I am like... super not down with any talks that involves limiting my rights to cater to anyones feelings right now. The country already feels like its designed against me and this talk is just asinine to me. Hypothetical or not.
And the problem a lot of people are having with it is that most men actually don't take it for granted.
It just seems like a bunch of upper-middle class white dudes who don't realize the whole world isn't like their suburban neighborhood. Take a walk around a US city at 2AM and tell us how secure you feel.
I don't think it's a bad thing. In this case it highlights how women feel and shows the extra precautions we have to take at night, which is eye opening for many.
Yup. It would have been better to say something alone the lines of, how women's experiences would be is predatory men weren't a concern. Or even the same title as the article, "Women explain how their lives would improve if men had curfews", because this would side more on the women's side of the story.I don't think people (here) are missing that. The reason people (here) are giving these responses, is because people (here) understand this concept already.
While it's important and the news article is great to get a message out to people not from this forum/that may not understand, the thread title being the title of the article doesn't lead to discussion of the article, but to discussion of what the article proposes in it's title.
The article says only cis-men would be affected in the hypothetical curfew.
Can't speak on the Mongol Empire but the notion that Rome was a police state is ridiculous. This is from a Roman poet in 100 ADI always found it fascinating the idea that hundreds+ of years ago in the Roman or Mongol or other empires that their empire was so safe, the myth was perpetuated that a woman could walk naked carrying a sack of gold from one end of the empire to the other and never get attacked.
Obviously not literal but that is one end of the safety mark, your police state is so overwhelming and strong that anyone who violates any rule feels the full brunt of the state as a lesson to would be criminals. The other end is pure anarchy, where warlords and power is everything.
"And now think of the different and diverse perils of the night. See what a height it is to that towering roof from which a pot comes crack upon my head every time that some broken or leaky vessel is pitched out of the window! See with what a smash it strikes and dints the pavement! There's death in every open window as you pass along at night; you may well be deemed a fool, improvident of sudden accident, if you go out to dinner without having made your will… Yet however reckless the fellow may be, however hot with wine and young blood, he gives a wide berth to one whose scarlet cloak and long retinue of attendants, with torches and brass lamps in their hands, bid him keep his distance. But to me, who am wont to be escorted home by the moon, or by the scant light of a candle he pays no respect."
Ask any minority what they want, and they will tell you the same. Listen. Then use what you've learned to use whatever power you may have to change things. That means voting, that means taking allegations of all kinds seriously and it means not taking things personally when someone vents about their mistreatment.
It's only polarizing to the people who just read the title and don't read the tweets. It's pretty obvious to tell who is a minority and who isn't with comments like this.The premise is no less or more convincing than proposing the question "What if men didn't exist". Rape can happen at any time of the day, the risk of all crime increases at night, especially if you're part of an at-risk group. This sort of hyperbole in article titles seeks to polarize, it doesn't inform people who actually need to see it.
Back when I used to be out late in the city, as a male, I would make a conscious effort to like, cross to the other side, sit far apart as I can during empty public transit, or walk further head so that there was no fear or awkwardness about some random ass dude trailing behind you. I obviously know that I wouldn't do anything, but I get that these are actually problems and it's just something small that I can do to make someone's night a little less stressful.
I don't think women who are worried and take precautions to feel safer at night are doing it for no reason. While I'm sure some of that might be racially motivated if they were to avoid you on the street or things like that, a lot of places are seriously unsafe for women to walk around alone in, especially at night. Coming into a thread like this and talking about how you're glad that women feel unsafe when we can just take like 5 seconds to stop and look at statistics on the reasons why is pretty tasteless. Or you could look at the article and see where some women actually mention their fear of being kidnapped and raped specifically.
There's nothing ridiculous or clickbaity about the headline. The headline (which the OP should have used, imo) is 100% descriptive of what the article is about:I get what the article is saying but if they wanted it to be taken seriously then they wouldn't have given that ridiculous clickbaity, and reactionary headline.
Jesus. I am amazed that some of y'all are missing the point so much.
There is no such distinction. All fear is "imagined". You're probably talking about risk.Actual fear vs imagined fear. It's actually more likely for a woman to be assaulted by a member of the family than by a stranger . The opposite to en.
You're assuming I'm not a minority? You'd be wrong.It's only polarizing to the people who just read the title and don't read the tweets. It's pretty obvious to tell who is a minority and who isn't with comments like this.
There's nothing ridiculous or clickbaity about the headline. The headline (which the OP should have used, imo) is 100% descriptive of what the article is about:
"Women explain how their lives would improve if men had curfews"
There's nothing ridiculous or clickbaity about the headline. The headline (which the OP should have used, imo) is 100% descriptive of what the article is about:
"Women explain how their lives would improve if men had curfews"
There is no such thing. All fear is "imagined". You're probably talking about risk.
This I hate that I have to feel this way.Sounds like something I have to do as a black man everyday morning and night
Gotta say it sucks
Good thing nobody's actually demanding that and it's just a hypothetical then, a though exercise designed to provoke empathy and that's all.I don't really like flying, particularly, in small planes. They're scary, I convince myself it's going to crash and I'm going to die every damn time... It's not entirely an irrational fear, planes do crash, but it's quite rare.
But nobody demands that all planes be grounded the moment one crashes killing 200 people... Because it's utterly ridiculous, much like this suggestion.
I've been assaulted by a drunk women dressed as a pirate with a wooden sword before late at night once.Did anyone read? Its just people discussing certain situations that they've feel fear/plan in advance to protect themselves and how they would feel safer if they didn't have to worry about men being around to possibly commit violence. It isn't about some law being advanced, it isn't about anyone really being in support of it, just a kind of "perfect world" thought exercise.
It's an unjust hypothetical that wouldn't happen in this version of America. Too much discrimination. In that hypothetical world, how would night/overnight jobs work? Would men have to get passes to go around at night? Stupid hypothetical all around in my opinion.
So am I the only guy who doesn't go out at night for fear of being attacked by dudes?
I've been assaulted by a drunk women dressed as a pirate with a wooden sword before late at night once.Not even joking.
Resetera is a website comprised of many people from many different backgrounds who share relatively similar values. We are not one person call out those people who do this so the mods can handle them.Its's amazing that ResetEra demands empathy for the selfish and bigoted Trump/Brexit supporter. But God forbid we even humor women with a hypothetical thought exercise so we can be empathetic towards them.
I've been assaulted by a drunk women dressed as a pirate with a wooden sword before late at night once.Not even joking.