Nice one friend. You'll get through it soon. It's natural and inevtiable to feel down some days, just recognise it and let it be what it is.
Don't ever feel bad for feeling bad.
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How do you guys deal with sadness?
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Don't ever feel bad for feeling bad.
This may sound like strange advice but try helping someone else. Force yourself to. It works miracles.
I just open the floodgates and really feel it in my body. Then notice how that exact feeling in my body changes my thoughts, which makes me easily be able to change my thoughts and thus my feelings.
I think someone else posted something like that on one of those videos of being a superconductor earlier this week. It really works in my opinion.
I think someone else posted something like that on one of those videos of being a superconductor earlier this week. It really works in my opinion.
Mental Health and Care is an important aspect of life.
You gotta do those little things to remind yourself that you enjoy things in life.
Gotta distract yourself sometimes.
For me it's usally music, movies, games, or other hobbies. Or it's cooking myself a nice meal and realizing I can make and create and even something as simple as eating reminds me I'm taking care of myself.
You gotta do those little things to remind yourself that you enjoy things in life.
Gotta distract yourself sometimes.
For me it's usally music, movies, games, or other hobbies. Or it's cooking myself a nice meal and realizing I can make and create and even something as simple as eating reminds me I'm taking care of myself.
I find it's good to find something to dedicate some time towards or invest in in a small way. It depends on the person, but personally I find the easiest things to help are getting into a new TV show or book and just pour some time into making your way through it and investing in what's going on. It lets you sort of work back towards having moments of happiness, surprise, intrigue, ect, in a way that doesn't demand too much from ya. It's worth noting not to fall into a hole of doing stuff like that non-stop, but try giving yourself a season of show or a novel or two and see how ya feel on the other end.
I figure out why I'm sad and then do what I can to prevent it from making me sad by changing something I'm doing that could be making me sad or by just looking at the positives in a sad situation.
I'm extremely privileged so my lows aren't nearly as low as most other people I know. That being said, I use a lot of comedy to contextualize sad situations and I try to use it in such a way to diffuse difficult conversations and debates.
As far as sadness from personal shortcomings go, I try to view them as instances where I have the potential to make small, measurable changes in my life to affect positive change. When faced with a difficult situation, I think most people (myself included) are instinctively inclined to reach for the nearest, simplest solutions to return to the "status quo". Long term, I've personally found it far more productive to establish short term mini-goals to achieve those bigger picture accomplishments. Everyone stumbles at some point and questions their plan A. Mini goals give solid incentive and feedback to counter the daily struggles and moments of acute frustration. It always gives you something to be proud of, even if it's small in the grand scheme of things.
As far as sadness from personal shortcomings go, I try to view them as instances where I have the potential to make small, measurable changes in my life to affect positive change. When faced with a difficult situation, I think most people (myself included) are instinctively inclined to reach for the nearest, simplest solutions to return to the "status quo". Long term, I've personally found it far more productive to establish short term mini-goals to achieve those bigger picture accomplishments. Everyone stumbles at some point and questions their plan A. Mini goals give solid incentive and feedback to counter the daily struggles and moments of acute frustration. It always gives you something to be proud of, even if it's small in the grand scheme of things.
Good question. After a break up I still feel sadness every day. I don't know. Just hope it goes away.
I may not be the best one, but what I do is listen to some sad music (I have a specific Album (Everyday Robots, by Damon Albarn) and I usually play it with a guitar/piano. The album's sad, but it ends on a hopeful note, so it helps to channel the sadness instead of ignoring it
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If I'm feeling sad and can't quite shift it, I put on a really really super sad film and have a really good cry. I usually feel better afterwards.
Taking the sad opportunity to vent cause it I lost a paper I spent all night on, now I gotta do it over and turn it in late tonight. Already have too much to do, despite not being committed to very much. Makes me feel like a fuck up
actually its more mad
I get emotional with no sleep
Anyway when I'm sad I do passive activities and let myself be sad. I can't work up the energy to do anything active and if I do it makes me feel frustrated to fight my sadness and force myself to feel to act okay.
I also can't understand watching sad movies and listening to sad songs and stuff like that. Heartbreaking stuff is a different feeling. That stuff is for when I'm just melancholy (which can be a kinda pleasurable feeling to indulge in honestly). Sad for me is doom and gloom and a bit of anger and throwing myself into fits of depressive crying over my life. I can't think about anyone else's life story when I'm sad about my life.
I'm the type to use comedy and even nervous laughter to diffuse everything, except when I'm the one that feels bad. Then I can't work up a single bit of positive mental energy. I've learned to reinforce some positive mantras though, which push me through sadness some. It's that dialectic between being naively optimistic and hopeful when I feel right, and horribly pessimistic and hollow when I feel bad. Learning to channel each into each other helps keep some emotional and mental balance.
actually its more mad
I get emotional with no sleep
Anyway when I'm sad I do passive activities and let myself be sad. I can't work up the energy to do anything active and if I do it makes me feel frustrated to fight my sadness and force myself to feel to act okay.
I also can't understand watching sad movies and listening to sad songs and stuff like that. Heartbreaking stuff is a different feeling. That stuff is for when I'm just melancholy (which can be a kinda pleasurable feeling to indulge in honestly). Sad for me is doom and gloom and a bit of anger and throwing myself into fits of depressive crying over my life. I can't think about anyone else's life story when I'm sad about my life.
I'm the type to use comedy and even nervous laughter to diffuse everything, except when I'm the one that feels bad. Then I can't work up a single bit of positive mental energy. I've learned to reinforce some positive mantras though, which push me through sadness some. It's that dialectic between being naively optimistic and hopeful when I feel right, and horribly pessimistic and hollow when I feel bad. Learning to channel each into each other helps keep some emotional and mental balance.
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DONT let it linger. Find something to do that you enjoy and that is relaxing. I personally recommend fishing. Just so damn relaxing being out on the water.
Read a fantasy book. Play video games. Workout. Listen to music. Watch a movie. Wash my dreads. Watch football. Fuck.
Same stuff I generally just like to do.
Sometimes the stuff I like to do isn't very healthy (namely any of the above in excessive amounts, to the detriment of other tasks I need to do, like eat or go to work). It's hard to balance for me sometimes.
That said, I have clinical depression and am extremely anxious, so maybe just being ordinarily sad is much different.
Same stuff I generally just like to do.
Sometimes the stuff I like to do isn't very healthy (namely any of the above in excessive amounts, to the detriment of other tasks I need to do, like eat or go to work). It's hard to balance for me sometimes.
That said, I have clinical depression and am extremely anxious, so maybe just being ordinarily sad is much different.
This rings true in so many ways.
Sometimes I'll listen to a sad song, watch a heartbreaking movie, or think of a friend of mine who is no longer here because sometimes I just need to feel like that. it's an odd thing to say but it makes sense when you feel it in a way.
To answer OP's question, if I'm feeling a little too down for too long, I always go back to a comfort game (Animal Crossing, open world racers) and listen to songs that make me happy and that usually does that trick. Also, sometimes just thinking of how lucky and fortunate I am to have the family and friends I do picks me up. A little cheesy but that's how feelings work a lot of times I feel. At least for me.
Ignore it, let it build up, then have an emotional breakdown at 3 am that typically clears it all out so I can start all over again... I don't suggest it.
