How did you become cool and popular?

I didn't lol.

I honestly have no idea. Everyone loved me in school and basically everyone loves me at work. There's nothing particular about me at all, either. Not very charismatic, nor outspoken. Ive always just been the guy everyone liked. Like seriously even my brother broke down and begged me to give him tips on how to get people to like him when he was in college and we have like mirror personalities. It just blows my mind sometimes people just naturally seem to like me.

I've always tried to be humble and treat people with respect, and give them a fair shake no matter who they are. Apparently that's all it takes I guess.

I will say I've always been an insanely hard worker, and I know how that sounds...but yeah. Too much so, honestly. I never got to play sports much in HS because I always got hurt pushing myself further than I should have. It got so bad I was at the point I was not doing too well (vol for extra work and OT whenever offered , routinely working 80+ hour weeks, etc) and had to get some help to get me to relax a bit. I guess people tend to like that, but idk probably faulty correlation there I suppose.

I don't know about cool and popular but I am well liked and have no problems making new friends because I am thoughtful and interested in other people, am eager to lend a helping hand and I don't argue with people.

That's all it takes. I read the book "How to win friends and influence people" in college and it made clear how easy it can be to get along with people as long as you aren't wrapped up in your own ego.

Cause they know I post on ResetEra.

Solid advice right here.

I was born cool and popular. The dr asked for my autograph after he spanked my little butt.

In middle school I almost got into a fight in the cafeteria and it seems like everybody knew me from then on. Its always weird when someone seemingly knows about you and you have no clue about them.

ColdSun said:

Not caring about becoming cool and popular makes you cool and popular. True story.

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This too. People are nosy as fuck. The less they know about you the more they think and talk about you.

I only care what I think. I think I'm the best therefor I am.

By staying weird and awkward.

I just stopped caring and suddenly i was deemed "cool".

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Go on no fap and no sex for over 2 weeks or moremore yo be a cool god basically

I am highly competent and also funny. I also just don't give a fuck about what people think overall.

By being extremely socially awkward and laughing at inappropriate times.

Just the simple things. By being my own spectacular self.

I was sent from Heaven. Made to please men and women.

What?

- Stop assuming everyone dislikes you by default and expecting them to prove they like you in order to feel validated. You'll probably treat people worse and find difficulty maintaining friends if you expect them to be the one reaching out every single time.

- Attention in -> attention out. Get the social stimulation you need by offering others the social stimulation they need. Ask someone how their day was. Organise events. Invite someone to do something you always wanted to do but you didn't want to do alone.

- Take rejection properly. Let plans and ideas fall through with grace. Lots of people won't want to hang out or chat, they're busy with their lives. They have anxieties and things to sort out. Maybe they already have too many friendships to manage, maybe they really want to get home and eat pizza in their pyjamas alone. Give them a break. I know people who are like "i organised a party once... nobody showed up, never again!!!" Meanwhile friends I know who are the epicentre of a social group are the ones who keep making plans and like 1/3 times someone actually shows up.

- Are you trying to be your own ideal of "cool" or someone vague, contradictory idea of "cool" you've picked up from pop culture? Figure out the difference.

I act indifferent and aloof but people still flock to me. Kind of annoying really. Must be my good looks.

Going on gaming forum and being anti social

I was born that way.

I smuggled the blueprint of the Death Star to Tatooine.

Check my file, player. I'm that dude.

I would assume most cool people have no idea how they became popular and don't really care or think about it so they would be unable to tell you about it.

Well, it doesn't hurt that I look that sexy muthafucker Bunk from The Wire.

I also make a vicous grilled burger stuffed with gouda cheese on a toasted onion bun with a light aioli sauce. One bite, and I gotcha.

That and I am not all that hot in 1st person shooters. Bitches love it when they can beat you in a videogame, and they KNOW you're not letting them win.

Smoke lots of cigarettes and wear leather jackets only.

Being placed in the same class of 20-ish students (sort of an advanced placement program) in high school for 2 years and connecting through them. Even then I wouldn't say I was "popular", just that I moved through a bunch of different cliques and circles and had a lot of friends.

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Genetics.

Being nice, dressing well and making them laugh. That's how I won over my coworkers.

I'm the same (mostly) socially awkward nerd who loves videogames from my youth, the only difference is I learned how to dress and I work out.

In adulthood colleagues and friends describe me as "esoteric", I guess that's the polite way of saying socially awkward nerd.

You fail at socializing a lot and remember what works and what doesn't. What jokes are good, body language, convo topics, etc. Eventually you'll have internalized what people are looking for in a social encounter and it comes naturally.

If you want a shortcut, get good at self-deprecating humor that is actually funny and not depressing. #1 winner for getting people to like you.

In school, I was a big nerd, but I stood up to bullies (thanks to having suffer the biggest bully of all, my father, on a daily basis), and it won me some respect. They thought because I brought comic books, EGM/Gamepro magazines, and DnD manuals to school that I was someone they could torment to earn brownie points from other bullies and the girls they wanted to impress. Rather be suspended a day or two and miss assignments than being harassed all school year to detriment of my mental health.

These days, I'm an even bigger nerd but I try not to judge people and that gets me on everyone's good side.

I started wearing sunglasses indoors and drinking martinis. Everybody realized I must be cool if I did that.

By dressing well, being outgoing and compassionate, and speaking intelligently with conviction about the things that I care about. Good natured enthusiasm is attractive.

It was a struggle and took until high school to fit in.

I was bullied for a long time and fell on the side of asshole because, you know people treating me like shit. But then I got a grip with myself, finally realized I didn't believe in god (a huge struggle that affected me for a long time) and just became nice. Being a nice person gets you far in school, at least for me. People like nice people. Be caring and understanding, and go do things. Also shower. Don't be smelly.

I look really handsome. lol

I was for a time in college then i noticed i Had a bunch of fake friends, i was class president and part of the direction of the students union, then i stopped being popular and cool because i ended "friendships" started to get out only with people that liked me for real, and also i noticed a bunch of prejudice and elitism in some people and that become unacceptable to me.
Thats my brief story of being popular.

self deprecation and severe depression became "cool" and suddenly people found me captivating

I still hate everyone regardless

Wearing my emotions on my sleeve and my resting bitch face