I imagine that the 10K mostly went to a large guest list, which isn't necessarily a good play, either, depending on who you've invited. When I hear about weddings with 150 guests (120 is the average)... well, to be quite blunt, I have fewer Facebook friends than that! (I'm gonna stop any of you who think about making the obvious joke about that, the low number of friends is by choice)
Depending on how many people you invited, I will agree that $10K is a steal of a deal, when the average is $30K.
I also agree that swinging all the way to the other extreme of courthouse wedding/elopement isn't exactly something to brag about. There is a balance to be had and I think most people in this thread believe that, but there is a lot of leeway there which allows for a great wedding below the five-figure mark but above the three-figure nuptials that people are alleged to be annoyingly smug about.
I think our guest list came to 44 in the end, so no, not a big guest list (I'm def with you on smaller #s). We had family and friends that had to fly from across the US, Australia, Japan, England, etc., so we weren't expecting a big turnout, but we'd only invited 50, so it was almost spot on in the end. But it was, like I mentioned, a premium venue with high tier food/bar options because everyone was coming so far. I did forget about the photographer, though. That's 2k of the total (final bill was just over 9k according to my records) right there. So venue, food, open bar, photographer, dress, hair, celebrant, decorations, DJ, gifts for bridal party, etc. for 9k+. I feel like I did pretty good overall, and we didn't actually end up paying for anything in the end, so it's not like we were put out.
For the courthouse/elopement thing, it IS a big saving, so I can't argue with people there. :D Agreed on the rest, of course. Now, what's the dumbest/craziest thing you've seen pushed as a 'necessity' for a wedding? Donut wall? Mashitini bar?
I've got a better one for you. I was the best man in my brothers wedding last year. I am really weirdly shaped, VERY short inseam (25 1/2) but I'm also quite a fat guy, so 46 waist. The specific outfits that my brother chose were Vera Wang outfits. We rented them from Mens Warehouse. They weren't tuxes, just nice suits.
Now get this. I wanted to BUY the suit because hey, a suit and I don't have one. They told me I couldn't buy it because they didn't sell those in my size. But they tailored it to my size. LET ME BUY THE FUCKING SUIT AFTER YOU'VE TAILORED IT!
I mean, REALLY? I thought about just keeping it and they could charge my card, but whatever.
...Wow. Really? And it was a Vera Wang, too? I mean, what are they going to do with after? I'm as boggled as you.