Now I'm like:So much this. My fiancee was finishing her doctorate while we planned our wedding. As such, I did almost all of the planning. It turned out really well as I know my wife pretty well. :)
Also designed my first cake, which was way more stressful than I thought it could be.
The article says she's Canadian.Her relative says she's never left the United States so how can she be Canadian?
Are you really friends with more than ten ppl? I mean hanging out and etc not just ppl you talk to out of convenience$46,000 for the wedding and they are asking for $1500 per person? Thats about 30 people and about 15 per side of the family. Thats a pretty small wedding. Its almost as if she doesn't have very many friends.
I have far more than 15 people that i would invite to a wedding. This story seems fishy. Either its fake, or she invited way more than 30 people and was trying to cash out and make money off of it.Are you really friends with more than ten ppl? I mean hanging out and etc not just ppl you talk to out of convenience
Lol it's literally what the bride in the OP did and he hopped in here stating the same thing unironically.Asking for money is pretty damn low imo. I just got married a few months ago and I wouldn't dare to ask anyone for money. People of course gifted us money but not once did I scoff at the amount anyone gave us. It's the couple's choice on how expensive they want the wedding to be, the guests shouldn't have to pay to attend.
Lol at setting a minimum dollar amount to attend a wedding.
Asking for money is pretty damn low imo. I just got married a few months ago and I wouldn't dare to ask anyone for money. People of course gifted us money but not once did I scoff at the amount anyone gave us. It's the couple's choice on how expensive they want the wedding to be, the guests shouldn't have to pay to attend.
Lol at setting a minimum dollar amount to attend a wedding.
Or maybe she invited thirty people. Just because you would invite more doesn't mean everyone would. Just a few posts above yours someone mentions they had thirteen people at their wedding.I have far more than 15 people that i would invite to a wedding. This story seems fishy. Either its fake, or she invited way more than 30 people and was trying to cash out and make money off of it.
This doesn't add up? How was she getting money from an ex's family when she said she met her love at 14 and they've been "working on their dream" ever since?
I want the full story here because this sounds like some wild ass shit.
Or maybe she invited thirty people. Just because you would invite more doesn't mean everyone would. Just a few posts above yours someone mentions they had thirteen people at their wedding.
Not invite I mean that you are genuinely close tooI have far more than 15 people that i would invite to a wedding. This story seems fishy. Either its fake, or she invited way more than 30 people and was trying to cash out and make money off of it.
Yeah I mean it would make sense for it to be extravagant since she was saying how it was supposed to be her dream wedding and all. Either that or like you say she was pulling a fast one.Still seems like allot for what sounds like a really small wedding. It must have been somewhere extravagant. Also it says $7000 was paid by the maid of honor and her ex's parents lol. Which tightens the attendance list even more. Yeah this lady seems like she was pulling one over on friends and family. She seems like a real catch.
Do you live there like a lot of us or are just talking as a someone who only has visited the "nice" part of here?
2, And i wouldn't charge them a dime for my wedding.
Yeah I mean it would make sense for it to be extravagant since she was saying how it was supposed to be her dream wedding and all. Either that or like you say she was pulling a fast one.
Yea thats my point tho on why 15 to 30 pol ain't bad most ppl just invite ppl to make the day even bigger but me personally old rather much close friends be there anyone extra is whatever on my side and whomever my wife wants on hers2, And i wouldn't charge them a dime for my wedding.
Just the idea that she thought that she (And i'm assuming the groom. Lets not count him out) was going to break even on her wedding cracks me up. Even if it was a cheap wedding you should always expect to pay for it, not come out on top lol.
Totally, which makes charging your close friends even sillier. Then only to have them not take you up on your offer makes for some real awkward relationships going forward. I think the groom dodged a bullet on this one.Yea thats my point tho on why 15 to 30 pol ain't bad most ppl just invite ppl to make the day even bigger but me personally old rather much close friends be there anyone extra is whatever on my side and whomever my wife wants on hers
Ph I agree with you I wonder what drove her to this tho overly obsessing? Very crazy if this is real and dude tried to give her a vegan(Vegas but ima leave this) wedding he tried lolTotally, which makes charging your close friends even sillier. Then only to have them not take you up on your offer makes for some real awkward relationships going forward. I think the groom dodged a bullet on this one.
Crazy shit.
My friend had an expensive wedding because it had always been her dream but except for travel-costs and the gift (50 €) I didn't have to pay anything. 3 course-dinner, cake und midnight-soup, unlimited Moet and great fireworks, she even paid the hotel for everyone.
Because of hollywood some German brides want to have bridesmaids, but I don't think this will take hold because noone would want to pay hundreds of Euros for a certain dress only because it's what the bride want.
If she wants it, she needs to pay for it.
Still seems like allot for what sounds like a really small wedding. It must have been somewhere extravagant. Also it says $7000 was paid by the maid of honor and her ex's parents lol. Which tightens the attendance list even more. Yeah this lady seems like she was pulling one over on friends and family. She seems like a real catch.
I'm pretty sure that at this point everyone on the internet knows that one can have a cheap and nice wedding. People can have whatever wedding their want, but those who go "so stupid to spend so much money, me and my partner were in McD's and it was magical" are just annoying (not that it's you, just in general)
We have a canvas print above our bed, but we eloped and got married on a beach so it's nice to look at in general.
Also waaaaay cheaper than a big wedding.
The concept of "paying for your plate" is absurdly stupid and I'm guessing was invented by people who paid too much for their wedding and feel entitled to it without going broke.
You gonna invite me to a party and then expect me to pay my way? GTFO.
These weddings always seemed so bizarre to me, but so is the idea of the wedding day being "the best day of my life". that very idea seems foolish to me - why would you want every future day to be worse? And why is "best day" something that mostly translates to "waste lots of money for lots of stuff that has no lasting value"? it's weird.
Yeah, this part always kills me. It's a dress (usually hideous and is unmistakable as a bridesmaid's dress so you can never use it again) that you wear once, almost always need to be fitted, and they cost a fortune. I was really, really annoyed with my sister for her wedding because I had to wear a strapless bright teal get-up that cost $130 off the rack, another $60 to be fitted, and special shoes that had to be dyed at extra cost to match. All for one night on top of all the other stuff. For another friend I was dressed like a pink barbie in 6inch heels. Bless her for making it herself, though. For my own wedding I told my bridesmaids that they weren't expected to buy anything, just wear their favorite black dress (as almost every woman has one of these). It's such a racket.
Leaving your "McDonalds wedding" exaggeration straw-man aside, for people who can't reasonably afford them and go into significant debt or have to save exorbitant amounts of money to have them, such weddings are supremely impractical. So it's not exactly out of turn to call out that impracticality for what it is. Especially in a thread that details that impracticality at its greatest extreme.
The only reason people tend to want these larger opulent weddings in the first place is because of a combination of modern societal convention and the desire to give themselves/their significant other the pageant that Hollywood, the wealthy and a subsection of women's media have told them is the standard or the ideal.
But even I have to admit that it can border on being a bit hypocritical when you consider that some who rag on the opulence of the average wedding are also likely to have bought an engagement ring that costs several thousands of dollars, which is a practice even more motivated by invidious consumption than the wedding itself is. And make no mistake, a wedding is heavily motivated by conspicuous and/or invidious consumption more frequently than some will readily admit to.
SHHHHHHHHH! You don't want to be accused of being annoying simply for being prudent, do you?
Yeah, this part always kills me. It's a dress (usually hideous and is unmistakable as a bridesmaid's dress so you can never use it again) that you wear once, almost always need to be fitted, and they cost a fortune. I was really, really annoyed with my sister for her wedding because I had to wear a strapless bright teal get-up that cost $130 off the rack, another $60 to be fitted, and special shoes that had to be dyed at extra cost to match. All for one night on top of all the other stuff. For another friend I was dressed like a pink barbie in 6inch heels. Bless her for making it herself, though. For my own wedding I told my bridesmaids that they weren't expected to buy anything, just wear their favorite black dress (as almost every woman has one of these). It's such a racket.
Well, I think he/she does have a point. You do tend to get a fair number of people going to the other extreme and seemingly implying that anyone who spends a dime on a wedding is a fool. I do think the wedding 'machine' is a racket and that you're better off bucking some (or all) of the conventions, but I spent ~$10k on our wedding which would be obscene to many here. I got a second hand wedding dress, had my aunt do the cake, the ceremony was 3 minutes, I did all the decorations, had no flowers except for the bouquets which I did myself, etc., but I wanted a nice venue, good food, and an open bar for all the people flying overseas. So, it's a balance, IMO.
Yeah, I think given the amount of people that would have been involved in some way in this story and seeing that no one has spoke up, it has to be a well executed troll.The internet hasn't tracked this woman down and figured out whether this is real or not yet? I'm shocked.
The internet hasn't tracked this woman down and figured out whether this is real or not yet? I'm shocked.
I don't know about you guys, but I have never been to a wedding where someone directly told everyone to give money.
These weddings always seemed so bizarre to me, but so is the idea of the wedding day being "the best day of my life". that very idea seems foolish to me - why would you want every future day to be worse? And why is "best day" something that mostly translates to "waste lots of money for lots of stuff that has no lasting value"? it's weird.