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Bride cancels wedding after guests refused to pay $1500 attendance fee
- Thread starter CrankyJay
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"My cake is as white as all my friends" LMAO.
Now I'm like:So much this. My fiancee was finishing her doctorate while we planned our wedding. As such, I did almost all of the planning. It turned out really well as I know my wife pretty well. :)
Also designed my first cake, which was way more stressful than I thought it could be.
The internet hasn't tracked this woman down and figured out whether this is real or not yet? I'm shocked.
I had a destination wedding. All I asked for was for people to make it to Vegas, and pay for their own food (minus the meals we provided, wedding day, etc.). We rented a house, which wasn't too bad.. I think $1200-$1400 for the whole week.
The only other rule was no kids. Which was fine, except my one friend had a kid between the time I had made plans for the wedding and the actual date. So, he ended up staying in a hotel. I just didn't want it to be too loud for the kid, or adults have to be quiet for babies or someone or couple have to get stuck behind while everyone else did something fun.
All in all it was 13 people.
The only other rule was no kids. Which was fine, except my one friend had a kid between the time I had made plans for the wedding and the actual date. So, he ended up staying in a hotel. I just didn't want it to be too loud for the kid, or adults have to be quiet for babies or someone or couple have to get stuck behind while everyone else did something fun.
All in all it was 13 people.
$46,000 for the wedding and they are asking for $1500 per person? Thats about 30 people and about 15 per side of the family. Thats a pretty small wedding. Its almost as if she doesn't have very many friends.
Are you really friends with more than ten ppl? I mean hanging out and etc not just ppl you talk to out of convenience
I have far more than 15 people that i would invite to a wedding. This story seems fishy. Either its fake, or she invited way more than 30 people and was trying to cash out and make money off of it.
Lol it's literally what the bride in the OP did and he hopped in here stating the same thing unironically.
I now know what happens when someone is completely lacking in self-awareness.
I agree there shouldn't be a minimum dollar amount to attend a wedding, but I also had a guest give us a card with $5 in it. If your monetary gift costs less than the card it came in, you can probably just give me the card rather than draw attention to it. I appreciated the thought, but it was just a bit awkward (and no this wasn't a situation where this was all they could afford or something).
Or maybe she invited thirty people. Just because you would invite more doesn't mean everyone would. Just a few posts above yours someone mentions they had thirteen people at their wedding.
Just get her a moderately priced engagement ring and do a trip to Vegas. Rest of the money you saved can go towards your new life together.
Oh my god I just read about this.
It gets crazy after this.
This doesn't add up? How was she getting money from an ex's family when she said she met her love at 14 and they've been "working on their dream" ever since?
I want the full story here because this sounds like some wild ass shit.
Still seems like allot for what sounds like a really small wedding. It must have been somewhere extravagant. Also it says $7000 was paid by the maid of honor and her ex's parents lol. Which tightens the attendance list even more. Yeah this lady seems like she was pulling one over on friends and family. She seems like a real catch.
Yeah I mean it would make sense for it to be extravagant since she was saying how it was supposed to be her dream wedding and all. Either that or like you say she was pulling a fast one.
Do you live there like a lot of us or are just talking as a someone who only has visited the "nice" part of here?
2, And i wouldn't charge them a dime for my wedding.
Just the idea that she thought that she (And i'm assuming the groom. Lets not count him out) was going to break even on her wedding cracks me up. Even if it was a cheap wedding you should always expect to pay for it, not come out on top lol.
Crazy shit.
My friend had an expensive wedding because it had always been her dream but except for travel-costs and the gift (50 €) I didn't have to pay anything. 3 course-dinner, cake und midnight-soup, unlimited Moet and great fireworks, she even paid the hotel for everyone.
Because of hollywood some German brides want to have bridesmaids, but I don't think this will take hold because noone would want to pay hundreds of Euros for a certain dress only because it's what the bride want.
If she wants it, she needs to pay for it.
My friend had an expensive wedding because it had always been her dream but except for travel-costs and the gift (50 €) I didn't have to pay anything. 3 course-dinner, cake und midnight-soup, unlimited Moet and great fireworks, she even paid the hotel for everyone.
Because of hollywood some German brides want to have bridesmaids, but I don't think this will take hold because noone would want to pay hundreds of Euros for a certain dress only because it's what the bride want.
If she wants it, she needs to pay for it.
Yea thats my point tho on why 15 to 30 pol ain't bad most ppl just invite ppl to make the day even bigger but me personally old rather much close friends be there anyone extra is whatever on my side and whomever my wife wants on hers
Totally, which makes charging your close friends even sillier. Then only to have them not take you up on your offer makes for some real awkward relationships going forward. I think the groom dodged a bullet on this one.
These weddings always seemed so bizarre to me, but so is the idea of the wedding day being "the best day of my life". that very idea seems foolish to me - why would you want every future day to be worse? And why is "best day" something that mostly translates to "waste lots of money for lots of stuff that has no lasting value"? it's weird.
Ph I agree with you I wonder what drove her to this tho overly obsessing? Very crazy if this is real and dude tried to give her a vegan(Vegas but ima leave this) wedding he tried lol
Never heard the term "Bridezilla"?
This is a bit extreme but hardly impossible to me .
What a selfish bitch. Fuck off with this. You can have a dream wedding without it costing a freaking fortune.
Yeah, this part always kills me. It's a dress (usually hideous and is unmistakable as a bridesmaid's dress so you can never use it again) that you wear once, almost always need to be fitted, and they cost a fortune. I was really, really annoyed with my sister for her wedding because I had to wear a strapless bright teal get-up that cost $130 off the rack, another $60 to be fitted, and special shoes that had to be dyed at extra cost to match. All for one night on top of all the other stuff. For another friend I was dressed like a pink barbie in 6inch heels. Bless her for making it herself, though. For my own wedding I told my bridesmaids that they weren't expected to buy anything, just wear their favorite black dress (as almost every woman has one of these). It's such a racket.
Leaving your "McDonalds wedding" exaggeration straw-man aside, for people who can't reasonably afford them and go into significant debt or have to save exorbitant amounts of money to have them, such weddings are supremely impractical. So it's not exactly out of turn to call out that impracticality for what it is. Especially in a thread that details that impracticality at its greatest extreme.
The only reason people tend to want these larger opulent weddings in the first place is because of a combination of modern societal convention and the desire to give themselves/their significant other the pageant that Hollywood, the wealthy and a subsection of women's media have told them is the standard or the ideal.
But even I have to admit that it can border on being a bit hypocritical when you consider that some who rag on the opulence of the average wedding are also likely to have bought an engagement ring that costs several thousands of dollars, which is a practice even more motivated by invidious consumption than the wedding itself is. And make no mistake, a wedding is heavily motivated by conspicuous and/or invidious consumption more frequently than some will readily admit to.
SHHHHHHHHH! You don't want to be accused of being annoying simply for being prudent, do you?
Well, I think he/she does have a point. You do tend to get a fair number of people going to the other extreme and seemingly implying that anyone who spends a dime on a wedding is a fool. I do think the wedding 'machine' is a racket and that you're better off bucking some (or all) of the conventions, but I spent ~$10k on our wedding which would be obscene to many here. I got a second hand wedding dress, had my aunt do the cake, the ceremony was 3 minutes, I did all the decorations, had no flowers except for the bouquets which I did myself, etc., but I wanted a nice venue, good food, and an open bar for all the people flying overseas. So, it's a balance, IMO.
I've got a better one for you. I was the best man in my brothers wedding last year. I am really weirdly shaped, VERY short inseam (25 1/2) but I'm also quite a fat guy, so 46 waist. The specific outfits that my brother chose were Vera Wang outfits. We rented them from Mens Warehouse. They weren't tuxes, just nice suits.
Now get this. I wanted to BUY the suit because hey, a suit and I don't have one. They told me I couldn't buy it because they didn't sell those in my size. But they tailored it to my size. LET ME BUY THE FUCKING SUIT AFTER YOU'VE TAILORED IT!
I mean, REALLY? I thought about just keeping it and they could charge my card, but whatever.
I imagine that the 10K mostly went to a large guest list, which isn't necessarily a good play, either, depending on who you've invited. When I hear about weddings with 150 guests (120 is the average)... well, to be quite blunt, I have fewer Facebook friends than that! (I'm gonna stop any of you who think about making the obvious joke about that, the low number of friends is by choice)
Depending on how many people you invited, I will agree that $10K is a steal of a deal, when the average is $30K.
I also agree that swinging all the way to the other extreme of courthouse wedding/elopement isn't exactly something to brag about. There is a balance to be had and I think most people in this thread believe that, but there is a lot of leeway there which allows for a great wedding below the five-figure mark but above the three-figure nuptials that people are alleged to be annoyingly smug about.
Yeah, I think given the amount of people that would have been involved in some way in this story and seeing that no one has spoke up, it has to be a well executed troll.
There was a lot of questionable things that made you go "ehhh" but still buy in. It's looking more and more like a troll at this point in my opinion. The internet tracks people down fast. This person put a lot of into out there, name, country upcoming wedding date. Someone even at the venue could have spoke up by now. No way.
Iirc, there was an anime called Aggretsuko – not the Netflix version – and there was a scene of wedding when Retsuko was simply donated $100 (Dunno about the currency for Yen dollars though) to Bride, and then the next thing when she was left, she got a call from her friend and told that the wedding was called off because Bride just broke up with his Groom for no reason. Retsuko, then realized Bride was just wasted of her $100 for wedding and enters in "rage" mode.
That cute anime may be funny, but it's also impact in real life, especially at wedding like this.
That cute anime may be funny, but it's also impact in real life, especially at wedding like this.
If we don't get collaborating stories from her friends, I am pretty sure its a hoax at this point.
Greedy clown.
If you can't afford a certain class of wedding, then downgrade it to something affordable.
The math didn't even make sense. She needs $60,000 and asked for $1,500 per person. The bridesmaid gave $5,000 and the ex's family gave $3,000. That leaves her needing $52,000. Divide that by $1,500 needed from everyone else and you get around 35 other people.
So add it all up and she's wants all the family and guests to foot a $60,000 bill for about a 40 person wedding. LOL
It can be hinted...... no wedding registries, wish lists or anything like that. So people can get the drift. But to be lectured it has to be cash, WTF.
If you can't afford a certain class of wedding, then downgrade it to something affordable.
The math didn't even make sense. She needs $60,000 and asked for $1,500 per person. The bridesmaid gave $5,000 and the ex's family gave $3,000. That leaves her needing $52,000. Divide that by $1,500 needed from everyone else and you get around 35 other people.
So add it all up and she's wants all the family and guests to foot a $60,000 bill for about a 40 person wedding. LOL
I don't know about you guys, but I have never been to a wedding where someone directly told everyone to give money.
It can be hinted...... no wedding registries, wish lists or anything like that. So people can get the drift. But to be lectured it has to be cash, WTF.
Funny this topic comes today, I just had the conversation with my SO that we are just going to elope because we'd feel bad even making some of our friends think they need to get a wedding gift or whatnot.
Surprised no one updated that a family member of the lady posted on this as well.
https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBe...ate_on_ultimate_wedding_choosing_beggar_from/
I remember seeing this post with the actual facebook icon of the family member but not sure if it was taken down
https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBe...ate_on_ultimate_wedding_choosing_beggar_from/
I remember seeing this post with the actual facebook icon of the family member but not sure if it was taken down
My wedding was around 5k and nice as hell. I would have been fine with a courthouse wedding and a small party but my mother-in-law insisted (and paid for it). Spending that kind of money on a wedding is stupid. Put a down payment on a house, buy things you actually need, or, if you're that f-ing wealthy, donate to charity. Sweet Jebus.
Further on to your point, isn't it the best day because you are marrying your spouse, not because of the decorations, the band or the venue/meal....