If I get married we'll have a nice cookout in the backyard with all of our friends, hell, anyone that wants to show up.
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Bride cancels wedding after guests refused to pay $1500 attendance fee
- Thread starter CrankyJay
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The fuck. I got legitimately mad reading her deranged post, what the fuck is wrong with her? Such a huge piece of shit, wow. She deserves to be alone that's for sure
20k really isn't that much to be honest. My wife and I were pretty cost conscientious when we were planning our wedding and it still cost just over 20k. If you are just doing a ceremony then it can be cheap, but a reception at any decent venue with food+drinks+music is going to run you 10k+. Beyond that you're probably going to want basic stuff like a photographer, florist, etc., which are not cheap either. It could have easily been more expensive for us if my wife hadn't done some of the things herself, or if we had hired a full wedding planner. Our wedding+reception was fairly small too, like 60 people total.
This isn't counting the cost of the dress, engagement ring, or wedding bands of course.
Is your reading comprehension seriously this bad? You stated that you hate people at weddings who give $20 but eat a lot - that's judging people for how much they eat, which is exactly what my post says. Whether you stood around at the wedding or are just casting judgment after the fact, you come off as spoiled and bitter.
And I don't care if it's hypothetical or anecdotal. It's still an entitled as fuck attitude. Like I said in my first post on this: get some perspective man.
Tried to warn you about him. And apparently, no good deed goes unpunished bc I got a bullshit warning about "attacking another user" when I did no such thing.
lol
I lost it at "backpacking in South America exploring my soul".
But then I got to the "a psychic told us to go for the more expensive option" and I was like...
I lost it at "backpacking in South America exploring my soul".
But then I got to the "a psychic told us to go for the more expensive option" and I was like...
Yeah, I hate folks who cheap out at a nice wedding. What type of hate is it, though? Do you like my hyperbolic words? Or do you truly believe I hate them like hate hate them? You're misreading a lot here and assuming the worst, which is incorrect. You keep throwing out entitled or get some perspective but that's just a crutch for your weak argument. Like, you only write those as a way to slowly shift the argument to entitlement and perspective overall than keeping to my position of if you go to a wedding you should donate some money, just don't cheap out on it (unless they specifically say zero gifts).
But this will yield zero results. To you, I'll always be entitled with no perspective because you assumed the worst, and I'll disagree.
I need the rest please.
A distant relative of hers chipped in
I need it.
My wife and I did just fine with $75 and a courthouse. If we did a ceremony it would have been cheap as hell, we both strongly disagree with such egotistical and nonsensical flushing of cash down the toilet. Its enough that ceremonies mean $1500 for your guests in attire and travel, but this person had the enormous arrogance of asking $1500 per guest to fund the ceremony, what the fuck.
Sounds like you could use a soul-searching hike through South America.
Similar experience with ours. We picked an easy as hell location to get to with good food and an open bar. No expectation of gifts or money, just show up, enjoy the hall, play some Rock Band and call it a night. $10k total, 30 minute ceremony and the rest of the night was either drinking or rocking out to Ziggy Stardust on Rock Band. Been almost 10 years together and I'd do it again in a heartbeat,
wait
you're supposed to finance your ex's wedding too now? Is this what the world has come to
That person is clearly not arguing in good faith. "I didn't say X", claims person who literally just said X. Another one bites the ignore list.
I think expensive weddings are a thing everywere in the world, and people go their way to pay more, I am a photographer whose field is more in advertising and fashion, but occasionally I've taken a few wedding gigs and let me tell you, even when people were already convinced that the quality of my work was what they were looking for, I had to up my prices because and I quote according to one bride "maybe if he is cheap he won't do a good job" so that time I had to tell them I will add this and this, and use more than one comera, and flashes, etc so I could charge them more. Things I would've do/use anyway lol
Yep. And somehow I got the warning. Not the guy arguing in bad faith.
Her expectations must've been enabled by some of her circle, there is no other reason apart from her perhaps having mental health problems to believe others ''owe" it to her to pay for her enjoyment. What type of warped perspective must she have where she's not responsible for her own wedding? There is no joy for anyone to hand over 1.5k, just to be in your presence.
$1500?!
Out of her fucking mind. You can throw a wedding and a reception with that type of money
Out of her fucking mind. You can throw a wedding and a reception with that type of money
What was not good faith? Because I didn't cover all bases? I even stated in a later post that I wouldn't care if someone couldn't afford a donation, but, alas, that goes unnoticed because it doesn't jive with my initial post?
@ bolded, no it's not. An invitation to a wedding is not a contract that means you have to give gifts.
In regards to this crazy-ass lady, I kind of smell a fake but could see it being real too. Her 13-reasons-why-style letter is what makes me question whether it's real. Specifically:
"How did this all come crashing down? Well, I invite you all on Facebook - players, bystanders, and side characters of the people in my life - to take a seat and listen. You're all involved in this somehow, somehow everyone is wrapped into this mess". Girl, you didn't kill yourself, stop playing the victim.
No. Do a destination wedding with a hotel that will comp if enough people also book with them.
Or you know, get married at a courthouse like everyone else.
Or you know, get married at a courthouse like everyone else.
My wedding in two years will probably cost around $25,000 (Canadian). This is for a ceremony/reception for around 160 people, photographer, etc. We will ask for cash gifts only (very common here, I would say at least the last 5 weddings I've gone to have done this), and hope to recoup much of the cost this way. We will also have a toonie bar ($2/drink) to break even on the alcohol (also the standard here).
Weddings are expensive, and I know this as I am a wedding photographer on the side. But I also know that the amount of work that goes into a wedding is crazy, in terms of the labour costs. I have a huge family, but even capping it at 160 (no kids invited) it will still be around $25,000.
When all is said and done we will probably only be spending around $10,000 after the gifts and some help from our parents, but we are saving up for the whole amount just in case. I agree that it's all crazy, though.
Weddings are expensive, and I know this as I am a wedding photographer on the side. But I also know that the amount of work that goes into a wedding is crazy, in terms of the labour costs. I have a huge family, but even capping it at 160 (no kids invited) it will still be around $25,000.
When all is said and done we will probably only be spending around $10,000 after the gifts and some help from our parents, but we are saving up for the whole amount just in case. I agree that it's all crazy, though.
They were that happy to get rid of her? :P
Edit Just realized that means her (now ex) fiancé's family. Holy moly.
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Why are so many people having trouble comprehending this detail? The ex is the ex-fiance/ groom to be.
You gonna invite me to your preplanned party and then charge me $1500?
pfft, I don't even like my parents that much. The fuck outta here with that nonsense.
pfft, I don't even like my parents that much. The fuck outta here with that nonsense.
Just don't ask for the guests to foot the bill for you, and you're safe. Asking people for cash-only gifts is a good way to do this. Don't be that Susan.
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Usually, when you invite people to a wedding, they're titled "guests". "Guests" are usually people who are there on the person's dime who is inviting them.
User banned (1 day): trolling another user about being on their ignore list.
Yeah, I don't get how hard this is to understand.
The crazy part is though, his FAMILY contributed $3000 (so a family is usually more than two people, let's say it's his parents, a sibling, maybe a living grandparent, uncles, aunts, cousins), etc....so let's say they chipped in $300/pp...hell, let's say $500 and he only has 6 people in his entire family...and now they expect people who are less close than family, (one would assume), to kick in almost 3x what HIS family members were willing to contribute. Let's even go so far as to say his family is only a mom and dad...either way, everyone has to contribute as much to their wedding as the grooms parents. Fuuucck that.
All I know is my step-sister just got engaged and they are going to go to city hall and fill out a marriage license and then maybe get together for a dinner with her/our parents and his parents. It shouldn't have to get much more expensive or complicated than that.
Oh my god I just read about this.
It gets crazy after this.
Thank you for embedding these because the website was absolute trash.
Especially shitty because it seems he's allowed to troll, derail, and shit up multiple threads with his richie-rich shitposting without any sort of reprocussions. But nah you can't warn people about it.
This has nothing to do with millennials, entitled people come in all ages.
A distant relative of hers chipped in
How are you leaving us hanging like this?
That was a very sad story of a person that probably faces severe mental issues. I wish her to have all the luck in the world and hope she let the people that lave and care for her to help.
Oh my god I just read about this.
It gets crazy after this.
Glad she's not voting.
