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Have you ever gone clubbing alone?
- Thread starter Saya
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I have, it's tough but if you're a friendly person you can meet people easily and hang with them all night. I usually end up hanging out with women (I'm a man), but not in a "smash later" kind of way but just having fun now kind of way.
I recommend alcohol to loosen up but not too much that you become that annoying drunk person.
I recommend alcohol to loosen up but not too much that you become that annoying drunk person.
Hmmm one time went in, had some drinks got on the floor and since it was largely EDM it's easy to dance it alone. College people arrived within an hour or two.
I'd just say if you're going 100% by yourself just be careful with what people offer you. Went to a tiesto concert a few years back and friends and I got separated early on. Immediately two girls came to offer me acid strips or some shit and I was like hell to the naw.
I'd just say if you're going 100% by yourself just be careful with what people offer you. Went to a tiesto concert a few years back and friends and I got separated early on. Immediately two girls came to offer me acid strips or some shit and I was like hell to the naw.
Yep, nothing wrong with it. I usually went to clubs where people were more actively dancing, and I don't drink, so that helps.
Yep.
Yep.
When I was younger, but only when abroad. Main reason was to get a hook-up for the night.
I don't do dancing, but the accent got the job done.
I don't do dancing, but the accent got the job done.
Okay, important question: how TF do you initiate conversations in a club, lol
Not only is the music too loud, but most people are dancing
Not clubbing but back in the 90's when I was in my teens I went to raves on my own sometimes, as I always used to manage to make friends whilst I was at them. Of course, E helped a great deal :)
I'm sure your input is valuable to someone that's not posting in response to the OPs question.
I go to bars alone pretty frequently lately but clubbing is not something I'll ever be interested in tbh
You talk to, most clubs at least the ones I've been to aren't too loud for that.
Ive never gone clubbing period
The closest is playing video games with 5 other people and drinking soda, which was pretty intense
The closest is playing video games with 5 other people and drinking soda, which was pretty intense
Actually most people aren't dancing but rather standing in the middle of the dance floor holding their drinks and chearing at each others (or in the case of a group of women, standing around their purses laying on the floor in the middle:p)
So few people dance that it's actually quite annoying when you're there do, you know, dance! :D
Havent been in a VERY long time, but when I did I was the kind of person that went so often that all of the club regulars knew me anyway, so it was never "alone" per se. Not a big deal, go out, dance, meet some new people. That's what those places are for.
Just once cuz a friend flaked on me. It was much less fun, although there were always at least a few friends to hang with at the club.
Agreed. Damn wallflowers need to stay on the wall and let the rest of us dance! Haha
See, my experience was the exact opposite. If you're not dancing, you're sitting in VIP. Or getting a drink at the bar.
So I guess I'd have to find a different club lmao
Yup.. going alone made it easier for me to pick up girls. back in the days
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are all top secret communication techniques i've used to initiate conversations in the club.
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are all top secret communication techniques i've used to initiate conversations in the club.
I just explained - people are either dancing or the music is too loud.
Bars are more or less the same (type I go to). Main difference is you might find a pocket of people... But they came as friends & they're in a circle talking to each other.
Where do you people find these places where you can actually hear words, find people who aren't dancing, and find people who actually care about talking to a stranger?
Well it depends are you trying to pick up a girl or something?
If you want to "start" a conversation, you aren't going to start in the deep end trying to debate Niche or some philosophical crap. You will most likely start with the small talk.
If you start with small talk and the person you are talking to decides its worth continuing the convo, then either the person will relocate to hear you better, or will come in closer to talk to you.
If they do not think its worth it, they will not make an effort to hear you better.
So my advice to you is... if the person isn't like in the middle of a dance off or something, if they are just standing around drinking... go ahead and start the convo and see where it goes.
I first went clubbing alone when two friends both let me down and I went out anyway. And it was one of the most amazing nights of my life.
I almost exclusively go clubbing alone, every weekend, unless it's a special occasion like a birthday or something.
The freedom to do, move, and meet who you want is liberating. Though you do sometimes need a thick skin and a little proactiveness as some clubs can be very isolating.
I almost exclusively go clubbing alone, every weekend, unless it's a special occasion like a birthday or something.
The freedom to do, move, and meet who you want is liberating. Though you do sometimes need a thick skin and a little proactiveness as some clubs can be very isolating.
A braver man than me. I've only gone clubbing when I already had a date coming in with me.
Got a go-go beat in my head just reading this.
Got a go-go beat in my head just reading this.
I've done that before. It's usually guys standing alone (for obvious reasons), but for any gender, people are usually in groups with friends or dancing.
I can figure out how to start/hold a conversation if the opportunity presents itself. My point is it rarely does. Shit, *I* probably wouldn't try to relocate for basic conversation unless I was really attracted to the person.
Been to bars alone I guess but never clubs. I'm way too introverted and would just make myself miserable watching every one else have fun.
You can do it but I feel you gotta be a pretty outgoing person to have a good time.
You can do it but I feel you gotta be a pretty outgoing person to have a good time.
dance clubs / edm / electronic festivals with psychedelic people?... yes
regular clubs with trap/rap music and drunk people? nah
regular clubs with trap/rap music and drunk people? nah
I'm with you on this one. I didn't even want to attempt verbal communication in them loud clubs and usually waved off people that made attempts at verbal communication cause I couldn't hear shit honestly.
The only form of communication I'm looking for in that environment is body to body, through dance.
Exactly. Though that always puts me in a strange position, because I think I'm better at talking to people instead of trying to find someone to dance with.
Also it can backfire like crazy. Can't tell you how many times I've seen some poor bastard who came by himself expecting to have a great time but instead spends the whole night sitting at the bar by himself. Looks sad, pathetic and even a little creepy to everyone else in the bar. Don't be that dude OP.
Yes but I've been going to the same club for 15 years now and know quite a few people and the staff. It's local, the prices are cheap and the music is good. Last time I went out I got recognised from posting/modding in local Vegan groups and made a ton of new friends.
Saying that it's rare I have to and I'd often rather stay in on a Saturday if no one's out (but after a stressful week sometimes you need to get tipsy and listen to good music around people).
Saying that it's rare I have to and I'd often rather stay in on a Saturday if no one's out (but after a stressful week sometimes you need to get tipsy and listen to good music around people).
I hear ya on that. This might sound like some hippie shit but it's my truth. When I was a lot younger, I used to try finding people to dance with in clubs/concerts. As I got older, I found out that simply dancing by yourself and true to yourself will bring in whomever you were looking for and then some. There is definitely a tangible magnetic force when you are having a great time by yourself. Bit of confidence and thick skin is required though since there will always be a few asshats here an there.
Well the thing about conversations is, it isnt really the content of a conversation that makes people interested or curious to continue the convo.
You aren't going to convince anyone to relocate based on your knowledge of fourier transforms or something. You are never ever gonna initiate and have a deep meaningful conversation with a stranger in a club. Its never gonna happen. Best you can hope for is to make each other laugh or smile, or swoon but not many of us can make the opposite sex swoon so lets stick with laugh or smile.
You should just try it. Go to a club one day, make eye contact with someone, approach, say hello, if they say hello back? HUZZAAHHH!! Initiation successful.
You're not wrong at all.
Oh, I've talked to people in the rare moments where the opportunity presented itself. My point is less that and more "the opportunity fails to present itself 96% of the time."