In addition to my human children we recently had two goat kids born:
You haven't lived until you've watched a goat eat her afterbirth on the security cam you installed in the goat shed...
Oh my god yes.
Then you get to a flipside where the kids are actually not just going to sit and be hugged and played with cuz they want to do their own shit and then nobody really wants to come by for more than 40 seconds and you're all "fuckin' please I just need 5 minutes peace" and then it's just fuckin' tumbleweeds.
We've gotten used to saying something like "okay, so we're going to do x with the baby now", and thankfully friends tend to recognize that's their cue to go.Like yesterday my wife's aunt and her adult adolescent cousin came over at 5:45 and stayed till 7PM last night... and I was just like "chrissstt.... do you not think we should eat dinner??" My wife is just too nice to say no to someone "stopping by." Drives me nuts when they're lingering, plus I'm on dog duty.
I'm sure it'll get better though.
My wife and I have been having a lot of fun with this today. Many thanks.We eventually found an app named Kinder, which is basically Tinder for naming your baby. It helped a lot just to have my wife and I spend a few days swiping through it and seeing where we matched.
My wife and I have been having a lot of fun with this today. Many thanks.
We've been trying to decide on a name for #2 for over 5 years. We sometimes agree on one, but then a year later we've gone cold on it.Awesome! Hope you can decide on something. We didn't settle on a name until the day before we went into the hospital to be induced, so it's not at all uncommon.
We've been trying to decide on a name for #2 for over 5 years. We sometimes agree on one, but then a year later we've gone cold on it.
Congrats! Try to get some sleep, even if you have to ship him off to the nursery for awhile. Take advantage of that offer while you can.
I don't think that's an offer here? Dunno, they never mentioned that or anything and I think prefer you to spend time and get to know your new little one.
I've slept about 4 hours in the last 64. I'm fucking dead. Couldn't get any sleep here. We tried a few times but a nurse or pediatrician or someone would always pop in within like 10 minutes. We even tried the "mom is sleeping" sign and that didn't work. My wife is completely broken. She couldn't move from the bed at all. She thinks there may be really torn ligaments or something they don't know about. She finally got a walker late tonight so she can get to the bathroom without me. So I've had to do all diaper things and soothing that needs walking around and getting things like her pills. I also have to make trips home to take out our dog and feed our cats. It's been pretty hell. I broke down into tears at one point but for the most part I'm doing alright mentally.
I've only got literally a few more hours of sleep since my last post. Maybe 12-13 hours total in the span of 6 days. I really don't know how to make this work. It's fucking impossible to raise a baby the right way it seems. Can't doze off with it in your arms or something. Obviously can't cosleep. Well then when the shit am I supposed to sleep? I realize I'm in a weird situation with a significant other than both can't walk and is on oxycodone so it's unsafe for her to be up with him alone during the night. Under normal circumstances I guess we'd take turns but with the injury we can't. Anyway, back to my little rant. My parents generation had it easier it seems. Bottles were scientifically fine, and dozing off with the baby was cool. My wife's mom was on the phone with her the other day and she mentioned that the baby was asleep so her mom was like "Oh, I should get off the phone so you can maybe get some sleep with him on your lap" and my wife's like "Holy shit no."
Does anyone have any tips whatsoever for getting a baby to sleep in a bassinet? This kid can be completely 110% passed out but the second he's placed in there he flails around like a goddamned madman and won't stop until he's worked himself up to a massive fit. We've tried swaddled and unswaddled. Middle of the day or middle of the night. It doesn't matter. He DOES NOT want to be on his back in the bassinet where it's safe and where we could get some fucking sleep.
This sounds like what I went through with my middle son. I barely remember that first year I swear he was hungry every 30 minutes.
Basically swaddling. You can also try the car seat method. Put him in the car seat and drive around for a bit, then take him in still in the car seat.
Does he use a binky? My doctor recommended those. Of course it's been nearly ten years since mine were babies so things might have changed.
Does anyone have any tips whatsoever for getting a baby to sleep in a bassinet? This kid can be completely 110% passed out but the second he's placed in there he flails around like a goddamned madman and won't stop until he's worked himself up to a massive fit. We've tried swaddled and unswaddled. Middle of the day or middle of the night. It doesn't matter. He DOES NOT want to be on his back in the bassinet where it's safe and where we could get some fucking sleep.
Can't doze off with it in your arms or something. Obviously can't cosleep.
Obviously your situation sounds way more complicated than my own, and you have my deepest sympathies. The best thing I can say is that... it will pass. He's now an amazing sleeper (I mean, he's four now so thank fuck for that) and has been that way for 3+ years. You're a god damned super hero, so stay strong - we're always here to listen.
The main ones we use are wraps at the top and then kind of a sack at the bottom. He struggles until he gets his arms loose, which is understandable in a way. He spent most of his time in the womb with his hands by his face, so I think he probably wouldn't like that. We did try cloth wrapping like the hospital but I'm painfully fucking terrible at that to the point where it might honestly be dangerous for him to sleep with that on him (always gets bunched up near his chin). We haven't tried the fully bag style ones though.What type of swaddle(s) are you using? Just the wrap up type? My daughter hated those immediately and would struggle until she got her arms freed up. The bag-style swaddles that let her move her arms around she loved, though.
The main ones we use are wraps at the top and then kind of a sack at the bottom. He struggles until he gets his arms loose, which is understandable in a way. He spent most of his time in the womb with his hands by his face, so I think he probably wouldn't like that. We did try cloth wrapping like the hospital but I'm painfully fucking terrible at that to the point where it might honestly be dangerous for him to sleep with that on him (always gets bunched up near his chin). We haven't tried the fully bag style ones though.
My wife did order some other ones that should get here later today that we can try.
Most of the time he sleeps fine without the swaddle. When he's with us he doesn't wear it. We have these My Brest Friend nursing pillow things that I use with him, too. It acts as a nice flat shelf on my lap, so I let him sleep there on his back so at least he's getting some back sleeping in. He sleeps really well there without a swaddle. Currently he's pretty zonked out with one hand at his side and the other on his chin like he's thinking. Someone needs to invent a shelf like this that you can have a newborn fall asleep on near you and then transfer the entire thing to a bassinet somehow without having to physically take him off. Now that would get some fucking money from me.
have ya tried getting a bouncer thing? like https://www.smythstoys.com/ie/en-ie...cker-napper-baby-seat-grey-turquoise/p/162784
my kid hated the bassinet, LOVED the rock and play
wouldn't startle himself in there so he slept, and he was safe since he couldn't move out of it, plus no extra bedding etc
we set a hard limit of when he starts rolling to put him in a crib in a different room, arms out of his swaddle (he loved having his arms in)
the crib and arms out all at once was a big transition but we let him cry when we knew he wasn't hungry and he got used to it after a weekend.
Thing is that infants are not supposed to sleep in stuff like this. From everything we've seen/read/been told by experts gadgets like this are fine for an hour or so max in a day but absolutely should not be used for sleeping.
Granted, sleeping cuddled up to us also probably isn't great for development either.
I feel like there need to be consultants much like my wife is getting for breastfeeding. It'd be nice to talk to someone about in depth strategies like that. The hospital and stuff seem to just kind of push the safest options, (that they should always sleep on their back in a crib or bassinet) without any thought to the realistic scenarios that come up and strategies to even try to make that best scenario work.
I think anything where they sit up like that introduces a(n incredibly tiny)chance that they slouch down in such a way that they can't breathe.
As you said above, though, at some point you have to wrestle with the fact that the best thing for your baby is you to get some actual rest, however that needs done. Everyone cheats somewhere. Our baby fortunately never had a problem sleeping on her own but she needs her little (very thin) blanket with her to give her something to self-soothe with.
Thing is that infants are not supposed to sleep in stuff like this. From everything we've seen/read/been told by experts gadgets like this are fine for an hour or so max in a day but absolutely should not be used for sleeping.
I feel like there need to be consultants much like my wife is getting for breastfeeding. It'd be nice to talk to someone about in depth strategies like that.
As a pediatrician and parent consumer, I believe it irresponsible to promote the Rock n' Play™ Sleeper as an safe, overnight sleeping option for infants. By continuing to do so, you are putting babies at risk.
The Rock n' Play™ Sleeper should not be used for extended, unobserved infant sleep for the following reasons. First, design features of this product are known to increase the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). Second, I have personally seen infants with brachycephaly/plagiocephaly and torticollis as a direct result of using this product. Finally, infants are often left with poor sleep habits that continue long beyond the product's use.
1. The Rock n' Play™ Sleeper is not a safe place for overnight, unobserved infant sleep.
The Rock n' Play™ Sleeper puts infants in an inclined sitting position which can be accentuated by the included padded head supports. Researchhas suggested infants in inclined devices may be at an increased risk of upper airway obstruction and oxygen desaturation.
The current American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) guidelines for the prevention of SIDS includes placing baby on a firm sleep surface without extra padding, pillows, or loose items. The Rock and Play™ Sleeper does not adhere to these guidelines. Specifically, the bottom is not firm. And, some models include padded inserts that can move and shift during sleep.
In my opinion, this product is a portable infant seat with attached sides, and should be categorized and marketed as such. I am concerned that infants in the "sleeper" may be at risk of asphyxiation or suffocation if continued to be used as a place for overnight, unobserved infant sleep.
2. The Rock n' Play™ Sleeper puts infants at risk for deformities.
When an infant is placed in a sleep environment as suggested by the AAP, infants are allowed natural body movements during sleep. They are able to freely move their head from side to side, and move their arms and legs to achieve different comfort positions throughout the night.
The Rock n' Play™ Sleeper does not allow body movement to occur during sleep. The soft-bottomed "sleeper" cradles the infant during sleep and secures this position with an included restrictive safety harness. These design elements confine an infant in only one position for the entire duration of sleep (up to 16 hours a day).
As a consequence to babies being restricted to one sleep position for multiple hours per day, infants using the Rock n' Play™ Sleeper are developing plagiocephaly/brachycephaly ("flat head") and torticollis. These are significant diagnoses potentially requiring expensive head-molding helmets and physical therapy.
Lying on a flat, firm surface is a better option for healthy development of our infants; and should be preferred to the physically restrictive, overnight sleep in the Rock n' Play™ Sleeper.
3. The Rock n' Play™ Sleeper hinders the development of infant sleep habits.
Similar to infants allowed to sleep in car seats or swings, the Rock n' Play™ Sleeper sabotages a parent's effort to teach an infant the discipline of sleep. If used routinely through recommended age/weight limits, important developmental windows of healthy sleep patterns are missed. Meanwhile, an environment of artificial comfort - that is impossible to replicate for the long-term - has already been well-established.
Learning good nighttime habits, including the ability to self-soothe, is a significant part of a child's growth and development. Patterns surrounding the sleep environment begin at very early ages. Specifically, foundational patterns of sleep-initiation, environmental experience, and nighttime expectations often begin to be established by 4 months of age.
In my experience, parents who have used the Rock n' Play™ Sleeper face unexpected challenges once their baby outgrows this space. Families are suffering from many sleepless nights while their older infant re-learns how to sleep, on their backs, in their long-term sleep environment.
Due to the risk of injury and deformity when using the Rock n' Play™ Sleeper; I am encouraging my patient families who have an affected infant, as a result of using this product as marketed, to add to the existing complaints on the Consumer Product Safety Commission website.
Sleeping In A Rock 'n Play™ Goes Against SIDS Prevention Guidelines
The Semi-reclined Position Contributes To Flat Head Syndrome & Torticollis
The Semi-reclined Position Is Not Shown To Reduce Reflux
Restriction of Natural, Healthy Baby Development Through Movement
I wasn't talking about getting away in that particular musing. I was talking about getting expert opinions and strategy tailored to your child and how it's doing. I do know parents, but a lot of parents will use dangerous shortcuts possibly without even knowing. Real life support is good, but experts are experts for a reason.This is asking the obvious, but no parents nearby? Other friends with kids? I remember around start of week three when we finally ducked out for two hours to see a movie, it was the best movie I had ever seen in my life. Two hours alone, oh man.
Unfortunately pediatricians seem to almost unanimously say that Rock 'n Play is very bad for unattended sleep and increases risk for deformities and SIDS.
Doesn't fit the American Academy of Pediatrics Guidelines.
This pediatrician goes into some detail:
CanDoKiddo goes into it, too. She's a Pediatric Occupational Therapist. She's against it for these reasons:
I wasn't talking about getting away in that particular musing. I was talking about getting expert opinions and strategy tailored to your child and how it's doing. I do know parents, but a lot of parents will use dangerous shortcuts possibly without even knowing. Real life support is good, but experts are experts for a reason.
we're not suggesting putting the baby in it constantly but like an hour or 2 to catch up on your own sleep
Also look beyond the Rock 'n Play, there's so much more products out there that are better
Nations in which cosleeping is common practice have lower rates of SIDS than the US. The vast majority of cosleeping deaths in the US are tied to parents who are drunk, drugged, morbidly obese, or have other sleep-affecting disorders. Babies naturally want to sleep with/on their parents.
US pediatricians are going to provide the advice that's least likely to lead to a malpractice suit. Same deal with the Rock 'n' Play.
lol I am a pediatrician
I told my coworker that I had a dirty little secret and my kid was sleeping in a rock and play, and he said all 3 of his kids slept in rock and plays
I haven't heard or read anything particularly bad about it, any links to what you're talking about?
I didn't mean to have your parents or friends give you advice, but to hang out at your house and watch your kid so you can sleep.I wasn't talking about getting away in that particular musing. I was talking about getting expert opinions and strategy tailored to your child and how it's doing. I do know parents, but a lot of parents will use dangerous shortcuts possibly without even knowing. Real life support is good, but experts are experts for a reason
It does seem a bit weird how hard-lined it is. I was comparing it to breast feeding consultations and it's night and day. They talk about best practices but also give alternatives down the line so you can succeed. But with sleeping it seems to be crib/bassinet or gtfo.I know I'm not the only pediatrician who thinks that the AAP guidelines are overly heavy handed and unrealistic.
It does seem a bit weird how hard-lined it is. I was comparing it to breast feeding consultations and it's night and day. They talk about best practices but also give alternatives down the line so you can succeed. But with sleeping it seems to be crib/bassinet or gtfo.