ParentERA |OT| What To Expect When You’re Not Sleeping

Skelepuzzle said:

PBS is legitimately great, but Daniel Tiger sucks ass.

I had to say it here since I can't say it to my toddler.

Peg + Cat 4 life.

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Haha, my son loves Daniel Tiger and, yeah I get the sentiment, but I've found the little songs to be very helpful at reinforcing certain behaviors. They're easy to remember (too easy, honestly) and are useful for quick reminders.

And, yes, Peg+Cat is fantastic. Great lessons and concepts not taught in other shows (things like advanced pattern recognition and musical meter) make it stand out already but it's the humor aimed at the parents that I personally enjoy.

EDIT: I'm glad a community page I read finally made it to spotlight status!

Jive Turkey said:

Haha, my son loves Daniel Tiger and, yeah I get the sentiment, but I've found the little songs to be very helpful at reinforcing certain behaviors. They're easy to remember (too easy, honestly) and are useful for quick reminders.

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Mine recently aged out of Daniel Tiger but there was a sweet few months where I could just ask her what does Daniel do and hum a song. She would wash her hands better, hold hands, and the anger song was super helpful. However the moment she didn't want to watch the show anymore all that went out the window.

I showed her afew episodes of Mr. Rodgers and it was really neat to watch her get really into it. She lost her mind when Trolly showed up.

Skelepuzzle said:

PBS is legitimately great, but Daniel Tiger sucks ass.

I had to say it here since I can't say it to my toddler.

Peg + Cat 4 life.

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Daniel Tiger and Peg + Cat are the two best shows, but they target different forms of learning (emotional learning and behavior with Dan, math and analytical skills with Peg) and different age ranges.

Peg + Cat isn't going to help your toddler learn to poop in the potty or deal with a friend who wants some alone time.

emag said:

Daniel Tiger and Peg + Cat are the two best shows, but they target different forms of learning (emotional learning and behavior with Dan, math and analytical skills with Peg) and different age ranges.

Peg + Cat isn't going to help your toddler learn to poop in the potty or deal with a friend who wants some alone time.

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Who are you, my daughter? Lol.

Yeah, I let her watch it and obviously don't complain. Something about it just rubs me the wrong way, though I recognize that I am the furthest thing from its target audience.

Skelepuzzle said:

Who are you, my daughter? Lol.

Yeah, I let her watch it and obviously don't complain. Something about it just rubs me the wrong way, though I recognize that I am the furthest thing from its target audience.

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You're not alone. Fuck Daniel Tiger.

Also hello! Proud father of a six year old and two year old daughters! My six year old loves playing Skylanders and Disney Infinity with me and opening up on targets in the Overwatch target range. The two year old just desperately wants to be doing whatever her older sister is doing.

My 2.5 year old daughter loves Badanamu videos. Save me lol

Mine likes Simon and Super Why. He also used to watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse until we cancelled live TV on our Hulu.

Septimus Prime said:

Mine likes Simon and Super Why. He also used to watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse until we cancelled live TV on our Hulu.

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My daughter loves Super Why too, watching that plus drawing letters for her definitely helped her learn the alphabet.

Plus I get to pull out my worst Michael McDonald impression during it. "INTO THE BOOKS WE FLA-HA-HEY-HYYYY!"

Y'all need to get some Sarah and Duck in your lives. It's amazing.

Browny said:

Y'all need to get some Sarah and Duck in your lives. It's amazing.

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I may have asked this before, but is it on Netflix or Hulu?

Browny said:

Y'all need to get some Sarah and Duck in your lives. It's amazing.

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Yes!

Browny said:

Y'all need to get some Sarah and Duck in your lives. It's amazing.

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It's one of the few shows my daughter binges that I can watch with her. I love that everything around her is alive, even though these random things have the brains of a birthday cake.

But honestly, I'd watch anything short of Caillou to get her off PJ Masks right now. I'm losing my mind.

m0therzer0 said:

It's one of the few shows my daughter binges that I can watch with her. I love that everything around her is alive, even though these random things have the brains of a birthday cake.

But honestly, I'd watch anything short of Caillou to get her off PJ Masks right now. I'm losing my mind.

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My eldest has just discovered PJ Masks. The nicest thing I can say about that show is at least it's not Paw Patrol.

My daughters (2.5 and 5.5) love PP, PJ Masks and Noddy. Oh how I wish for the days of Pigeon Street, King Rolo and Knightmare...

My 2.5 year old is obsessed with Baby Shark.

Browny said:

My daughters (2.5 and 5.5) love PP, PJ Masks and Noddy. Oh how I wish for the days of Pigeon Street, King Rolo and Knightmare...

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King Rolo! Now that's a show!

My 9 month old son. He just started the beginning stages of crawling. He gets his looks from his mom.

Hamrub said:

My 2.5 year old is obsessed with Baby Shark.

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Baby shark! Yeah mine was all about it for several months. Our car rides were almost purely baby shark and I may have slowly been going insane but she was so cute doing the dance moves that it mitigated the repetition.

johnny_park said:

My 9 month old son. He just started the beginning stages of crawling. He gets his looks from his mom.

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He is super cute :)

Browny said:

Y'all need to get some Sarah and Duck in your lives. It's amazing.

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One of my favorite shows to watch with my daughter. Along with Simon.

Thanks to everyone who recommended Sarah and Duck, you're good people.

Meet my son, Lincoln. He was born on the 4/8/18 and weighed 4.095kg (9.02 pounds)

It's been a really tough couple of days. Everything that we wanted to happen with the birth didn't happen the way we wanted. My wife ended up needing an emergency cesarean and some complications came up during surgery. They had to put her to sleep and I wasn't allowed in the room so both of us didn't get to see his first moments. She was in surgery for 3 hours and then has been in ICU since last night. My son came out fine though, after they got him out they brought him to me and took me to the nursery where I was able to hold him. He has been staying in the special care nursery since the birth, but they were able to take him to meet his mother for a few minutes when she was in recovery before they moved her to ICU.

The doctors say she is very stable and should make a full recovery, it's just going to take some time. Hopefully she is well enough today that they can move her to a normal ward and have our son be with his mother. It's really not how we imagined it would go, but they are both alive and that's what matters. The staff at the hospital are really great. They are taking good care of my son and my wife. It makes me feel a bit guilty leaving my son in the care of someone else but I understand it's what is best for him at the moment.

eZipsis said:

Meet my son, Lincoln. He was born on the 4/8/18 and weighed 4.095kg (9.02 pounds)

It's been a really tough couple of days. Everything that we wanted to happen with the birth didn't happen the way we wanted. My wife ended up needing an emergency cesarean and some complications came up during surgery. They had to put her to sleep and I wasn't allowed in the room so both of us didn't get to see his first moments. She was in surgery for 3 hours and then has been in ICU since last night. My son came out fine though, after they got him out they brought him to me and took me to the nursery where I was able to hold him. He has been staying in the special care nursery since the birth, but they were able to take him to meet his mother for a few minutes when she was in recovery before they moved her to ICU.

The doctors say she is very stable and should make a full recovery, it's just going to take some time. Hopefully she is well enough today that they can move her to a normal ward and have our son be with his mother. It's really not how we imagined it would go, but they are both alive and that's what matters. The staff at the hospital are really great. They are taking good care of my son and my wife. It makes me feel a bit guilty leaving my son in the care of someone else but I understand it's what is best for him at the moment.

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That's really rough, I'm glad your son and wife are okay.

Best wishes, ezipsis, sorry that you had to go through that. But I take some comfort in the quality of care it seems you're receiving.

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Wonderful to hear everything is well. Our birth had a visit to the ICU, it was a tough journey and she had to spend three days in there. We had a brand new hospital and the ICU wasn't open so we had to take an ambulance ride and my wife couldn't see her since she was stuck at the hospital. It's a scary situation all around but I you have the best all around you

I just found this thread too! Father of 3 here(25, 22 & 18). You guys are in for the most rewarding time of your lives.

McBradders said:

My eldest has just discovered PJ Masks. The nicest thing I can say about that show is at least it's not Paw Patrol.

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There is a list of shows my wife knows I want to avoid. And you just mentioned the top two.

eZipsis said:

Meet my son, Lincoln. He was born on the 4/8/18 and weighed 4.095kg (9.02 pounds)

It's been a really tough couple of days. Everything that we wanted to happen with the birth didn't happen the way we wanted. My wife ended up needing an emergency cesarean and some complications came up during surgery. They had to put her to sleep and I wasn't allowed in the room so both of us didn't get to see his first moments. She was in surgery for 3 hours and then has been in ICU since last night. My son came out fine though, after they got him out they brought him to me and took me to the nursery where I was able to hold him. He has been staying in the special care nursery since the birth, but they were able to take him to meet his mother for a few minutes when she was in recovery before they moved her to ICU.

The doctors say she is very stable and should make a full recovery, it's just going to take some time. Hopefully she is well enough today that they can move her to a normal ward and have our son be with his mother. It's really not how we imagined it would go, but they are both alive and that's what matters. The staff at the hospital are really great. They are taking good care of my son and my wife. It makes me feel a bit guilty leaving my son in the care of someone else but I understand it's what is best for him at the moment.

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Wishing you guys the best and a speedy recovery.

Thanks everyone. My wife is still in a bit of pain but she has been moved to a normal ward and our son has been discharged to us so I'll be spending a few days in the hospital with them. My wife will be in here for atleast another four days, but atleast we are all together.

Hey Ya'll, just joined ParentEra last Sunday. Baby Girl is 1 week old today. Mom is doing pretty well all things considered, she had a kick-ass labor... Pushed for only 40 mins and it was pretty amazing. She's had some complications after, scratched urethra which is bumming her out and the stitches are dissolving now and it's painful, so she's doing well all things considered, but she's sick of feeling hurt.

Baby was 8lbs 4oz on the way out, 21". She's doing really well a week later.

We've kind of gotten into a good schedule with sleep and the last 2 nights have actually been pretty decent. It's a 2.5hr cycle of Feed -> Swaddle -> Sleep -> Diaper -> Feed [repeat], and while obviously it's not like we're getting a beauty rest, we're crashing to bed by 10pm and I'm getting up at 7am so my wife can take the final couple hours and I'm on baby duty, and it's actually been fine. Yesterday I was able to get up early and had my infant asleep on my chest, my dog asleep in between my legs, and I was playing Madden '19 on X1X while my wife was passed the hell out getting beauty rest, and besides Madden '19 being kinda shitty, I realized I was living my best life at that moment.

LAst night..... at like 2am, of course, baby's got a soiled diaper... just pee which is great, so I take if off, and I make the crritical rookie mistake of throwing the dirty diaper into the Diaper Genie before putting th eother one down. This was the first time I'd done this in the last 7 days of changing diapers. Every other time I'd laid her little butt in the new diaper before throwing away the old, this was THE FIRST TIME. And naturally, Little Baby has a blow out mustard fart poop all over the damn changing table. Normally, I'd let my wife sleep but I was like "MRS ALBATROSS I NEED HELP ... GET PAPER TOWELS AND A PLASTIC BAG!!" It seriously looked like when you're making pancakes, and you first pour the pancake batter onto the skillet, this like perfectly round 2mm tall circle of brown, lumpy, stringy baby-waste.

First night home was one of the roughest nights of my life. Literally one of those "... what the fuck did we do..." moments. But night 2 was easier, night 3 was bad, and then nights 4, 5, and 6 have actually been pretty decent.

One of the things to really get used to as a new parent, which has been annoying, is friends and family overstaying their welcome, and now your house is like ... open season to whoever wants to come by to see the baby.

My wife has a hard time turning people away and telling them when to leave, but Friday was when I hit my limit. One of her friends from high school came by, and it was nice she brought gifts and it was good to see her... but she was here from like 2PM to 4... and then she heard another friend was coming so she was like "Oh I'll wait to see him!" and so then she's there till 5... and then the other friend shows up and they're both there... and it's 6PM... and We were having some other friends over later, 7:30ish, and those were the friends I actually *wanted* to see.

Complicating things is we have a dog, and he's a wonderful dog, but he's still learning how to be around the baby (he's actually ben amazing with her), but with guests it makes it more complicated... It's not just the dog + baby, it's dog and friends and baby... and the dog wants to hug and kiss our guests like he alwayd did, but now I've got to get him in the training collar because he cant with the baby around...

Anyway eventually I had to come and be like "okay guys... gtfo"

But the thing is, is that all of a sudden you have a new baby in the house and suddenly you're entertaining people every day. I feel like anybody who has had kids knows how tough it is, but the people who don't have kids just don't get it. So like, my friends with kids are all like "hey we're here for you and we can just swing by... drop off a coffee but not come in we get how hard it is!" But the friends without kids want to "Come to see the baby" and then it's a major event of having to entertain and have guests over, and it's just tough to be like "I know this is your only day off from work this week... but we just can't have people over today."

That's been one of those hard unexpected things that I didn't anticipate. It's been a lot.

Skelepuzzle said:

Thanks to everyone who recommended Sarah and Duck, you're good people.

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I discovered it due to this thread, but it says it's leaving Netflix this month.

The Albatross said:

LAst night..... at like 2am, of course, baby's got a soiled diaper... just pee which is great, so I take if off, and I make the crritical rookie mistake of throwing the dirty diaper into the Diaper Genie before putting th eother one down. This was the first time I'd done this in the last 7 days of changing diapers. Every other time I'd laid her little butt in the new diaper before throwing away the old, this was THE FIRST TIME.

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I've found it best to start by putting down the new diaper before even taking off the one she has on. So like lay her in the changing table, put the new diaper under her, then take off the dirty one. That way if you get the surprise attack there will at least be a diaper kind of in place, and it's less time that she doesn't have a diaper on at all because it's already in place.

At what age did you guys start really disciplining your kids? Mine is only 10 months, and he's starting to understand the difference between us telling him yes or no. But sometimes I still get frustrated when he's doing things he's not supposed to.

My daughter is way too young for TV, but googled Sarah and Duck and it came up with YouTube episodes that... I think were just rips of an interactive iPad game. Are there proper episodes on a streaming service?

The Albatross said:

My daughter is way too young for TV, but googled Sarah and Duck and it came up with YouTube episodes that... I think were just rips of an interactive iPad game. Are there proper episodes on a streaming service?

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BBC iPlayer and Amazon Prime (UK) have them.

Also congrats to the new arrivals!

Hi ParentERA,

I became a dad five months ago tomorrow :) We're about to start food diversication and I was curious what others are doing or have done on that front.

My wife is Japanese, and babies here start with rice, whereas I'm French and we usually start with puréed fruits and vegetables. I know another baby born just a week before ours who's dad is an ethnic Indian, and she is already eating curry, so clearly there's not a one size fits all solution, but I just wanted to hear ideas.

Right now I'm thinking of just having her try one item of whatever we're eating adapted to her for a month, before going on to actual eating at 6 months (so if we're having steak frites, she'd try a bit of mashed potato, if saag curry, some puréed spinach, etc).

The Albatross said:

My daughter is way too young for TV, but googled Sarah and Duck and it came up with YouTube episodes that... I think were just rips of an interactive iPad game. Are there proper episodes on a streaming service?

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Netflix has it if you're in the US.

Sick babies are no fun:(

Poor wee man has a fever the past few nights. Went to hospital one of the days cuz we were worried about it. Basically got told to ride it out and give him calpol

Its kinda terrible not being able to actually do anything to help them.

The Albatross said:

One of the things to really get used to as a new parent, which has been annoying, is friends and family overstaying their welcome, and now your house is like ... open season to whoever wants to come by to see the baby.

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you'll get used to telling people it's not a good time. plus when everyone has meet the baby completed, you won't have as many visitors.

also, as the sleep deprivation piles up and your baby settles into a defined rythm, you'll be less willing to let people disrupt that. we've told several people last minute that it's not a good time, and it's been no big deal.

The Albatross said:

One of the things to really get used to as a new parent, which has been annoying, is friends and family overstaying their welcome, and now your house is like ... open season to whoever wants to come by to see the baby.

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Oh my god yes.

Then you get to a flipside where the kids are actually not just going to sit and be hugged and played with cuz they want to do their own shit and then nobody really wants to come by for more than 40 seconds and you're all "fuckin' please I just need 5 minutes peace" and then it's just fuckin' tumbleweeds.

Podge293 said:

Sick babies are no fun:(

Poor wee man has a fever the past few nights. Went to hospital one of the days cuz we were worried about it. Basically got told to ride it out and give him calpol

Its kinda terrible not being able to actually do anything to help them.

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Fevers are the body fighting whatever is there. Babies can actually go as high as 104 and have siezures with no brain damage. It is best to not take any fever medication because you are just prolonging it. Once the medicine wears off, it'll come right back.

I can't agree with what the above user is saying, I would give double doses of whatever the standard medicine you would give a baby for relief, like Tylenol before I go to the ER for a fever.

It's what they do any how.

I just realized I never post in here. Father of an 8 month old girl, btw.

Yeah I'll echo the "keep them dosed up on Calpol" crew. If it's not working to bring the fever down then take action.

Turns out it was a very short fever. Seems to have broken this morning.

We kept him dosed with calpol within the guidelines. Did the job. Would recommend again

One thing I did learn tho is he hates Nurofen. They tried give him some in the hospital but just had no taste for it. Nurse did say if they hate it now odds are they'll hate it forever so it'll be suppositories for him if he needs it in the future

skeptem said:

There is a list of shows my wife knows I want to avoid. And you just mentioned the top two.

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I was about to say we never let our kids watch children's shows because I can't stand them, but I just remembered we did go through a Yo Gabba Gabba phase. Although that was mostly something we thought was great ourselves and probably initially pushed on them (Mark Mothersbaugh!). Otherwise we just had a huge library of Attenborough documentaries and ballets, and they watched those. Similarly I never could tolerate "children's music", they just listened to whatever I had on the stereo, or again ballets. As a result my children know way too much about King Crimson...

Magni said:

I became a dad five months ago tomorrow :) We're about to start food diversication and I was curious what others are doing or have done on that front.

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We started rice cereal around six months or so I believe, and then gradually introduced pureed vegetables and other things (we're vegetarians), but continued to nurse up until around one year before my wife weened them, so the solids weren't really part of the nutritional expectation, just acclimation for weening.

Freakzilla said:

Fevers are the body fighting whatever is there. Babies can actually go as high as 104 and have siezures with no brain damage. It is best to not take any fever medication because you are just prolonging it. Once the medicine wears off, it'll come right back.

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kids can go higher to 105/106, it's not going to be a dangerous fever if it's the body generating it. it's dangerous if it's due to heat outside (like heat stroke)

fever reducer is totally fine to use though, it won't prolong an infection. it really just makes your kiddo more comfortable, so if there's a fever and your kid feels miserable, make em feel better with the medicine.

Magni said:

Right now I'm thinking of just having her try one item of whatever we're eating adapted to her for a month, before going on to actual eating at 6 months (so if we're having steak frites, she'd try a bit of mashed potato, if saag curry, some puréed spinach, etc).

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Started with a little peanut butter around 4-5 months, rice cereal around 5-6 months, and then various other baby cereals; 7 months— bananas, avocados, mushed carrots and sweet potato, and sometime before 9 months (? maybe) started giving her pieces of our supper (including spicy food like my partner ate while pregnant) cut into bite size pieces. Never pureed anything. Once she had a couple of teeth, whole apples and pears were on the menu. If she doesn't like something we just give it to her again another time and so far she's liked everything eventually— I'm told this will pass in favour of becoming a horrid picky eater.

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kids can go higher to 105/106, it's not going to be a dangerous fever if it's the body generating it. it's dangerous if it's due to heat outside (like heat stroke)

fever reducer is totally fine to use though, it won't prolong an infection. it really just makes your kiddo more comfortable, so if there's a fever and your kid feels miserable, make em feel better with the medicine.

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Yes that is correct. Most people would never let it get that high however lol. And I meant prolong the fever.