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I had the non-alcoholic version a few times. Basically a fancy slushie. I still liked it though, but not for £3.
Also, Pride is happening here in 2 days time, and I'm excited, as it's the first one I can actually attend with friends. If the weather's good, I plan on wearing very little, though it'll probably just feel weird and I'll put more clothes on. :c
Hi LGTBQ-Era,
I'm a pansexual cis male. I'm not out in my life except to a few select few people. I know most of my friends would be perfectly cool with me being openly pan but I'm still scared of coming out. Does that make sense? I know my family wouldn't approve but I don't much worry about that.
Anyway, I figured it would be nice to talk with you all openly.
I'm a pansexual cis male. I'm not out in my life except to a few select few people. I know most of my friends would be perfectly cool with me being openly pan but I'm still scared of coming out. Does that make sense? I know my family wouldn't approve but I don't much worry about that.
Anyway, I figured it would be nice to talk with you all openly.
About coming out, don't rush it. Do it when it feels right for you. That being said, do you depend on your parents?
That's what people keep telling me but I would prefer to be open and honest with everyone. But I'm giving it time. I'm still discovering more about my sexuality as I go along .
I do depend on them but my family wouldn't be cruel to me or anything. My father wouldn't approve but he would still support me. My mother would be cool with it. Not sure about my siblings though.
I do depend on them but my family wouldn't be cruel to me or anything. My father wouldn't approve but he would still support me. My mother would be cool with it. Not sure about my siblings though.
It's a balance act between knowing what makes you feel better vs. what makes your life better (which is why it's harder when you depend on others).
True. I really should wait until I'm completely comfortable with myself before attempting to be comfortable with everyone.
Edit: I should note that I do worry about being with men in public though. While I do live in a large Liberal city, I live in Texas. Many parts of the state aren't very receptive to that sort of thing.
Edit: I should note that I do worry about being with men in public though. While I do live in a large Liberal city, I live in Texas. Many parts of the state aren't very receptive to that sort of thing.
Take the time to figure out who you are, but the fact that some of your best friends already know and accept you for who you are is a good start!
Sounds like you've already got some sound advice Thor and that you're on the right track. Coming out can be super duper tough, but golly when it goes well it can be the most cathartic thing. I remember feeling like such a burden had been lifted in the beginning. The irritating thing at least in my experience is how we are never truly entirely out and there comes a time when having these conversations with people become exhausting.
Coming out the first time is always the hardest, in my opinion. After that, everything else is a breeze.
Yeah. I can see how that would be mentally taxing. I think I'm just gonna continue opening up to those close to me and once I become truly comfortable then I'll come out to everyone. No reason to rush.
I'm very new here so uhh, I guess I'l answer the questions to break the ice.
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?) Male, gay, he/him.
- Your sexual orientation? Gay.
- Where Are You From? SF Bay Area
- Where Do You Live? SF Bay Area for now, but will move to Texas by year's end (bf lives out there).
- How Old Are you? 26
- Favorite Type of Music? Soundtracks usually. Lyrics are generally a no-go for, complicated reasons I'd rather not get into--but simply stated, it's easier for me to 'follow' a song when it's just melody and no lyrics and it's like soundtracks and uhh... classical music I guess?
- Profession or Career interest? Photonics--i.e. how, devices affect movement of light through devices and how we can use that to transmit and understand optical signals.
- Favorite video game(s)? Too many. FE Awakening, Horizon ZD, Final Fantasy 9, Trails in the Sky SC, Mario Kart, Animal Crossing NL, and Pokemon (<3) come to mind. Lots of Nintendo and JRPGs.
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Not sure what I'd call a hobby but I'll watch shows (currently watching Star Trek Voyager), watch/consume science-y stuff (I have read textbooks for fun :v), and sometimes read for fun (not too long ago I went through Harry Potter series for the first time since childhood). Also cats. Cat pictures are best pictures~
Er... heh. Also got married. Life moves fast, been a crazy few years with a lot of changes in a short amount of time. Kept most of my life stuff off the forum, switched to watching things from the sidelines and trying to become a better member of the LGBT community learning from all of you since I've been kinda shitty in the past. Having a member commit suicide left me to do a lot of self-reflection.
Whew, that got dark.
I could have sworn there was. Did I make that up? Lol I'm sorry.
I don't know how to link my IG profile (lol) but please like my cats y'all:
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Edit: figured it out
https://www.instagram.com/kevyt_49/
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Edit: figured it out
https://www.instagram.com/kevyt_49/
:3
Congrats on the marriage and the house! It's heartwarming to see so many of the old guard pairing off and finding true love :^]
I didn't even know Pamplemousse very well but I still think about him from time to time. Even though there was nothing anyone could have done, I'd like to think that everyone who was around during that period took a bit of time for some self-reflection. I know I did.
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I don't think we've interacted, but just as someone who recognizes you from LGBT threads from the last few years, congrats on the marriage.
I pretty much just post photos/videos from concerts and festivals I've gone to, so if you like that, check out my insta: https://www.instagram.com/sai_kun/
Yes! I could use more instagram accounts to follow. I've followed all of you. Mine is alice_malice_bathory
It's mostly selfies, admittedly but lots of cosplays and general geekiness. Plus cats.
It's mostly selfies, admittedly but lots of cosplays and general geekiness. Plus cats.
Same sex marriage has been approved (kind of) on Costa Rica!!
In 18 months at most the current law must be changed to allow it or the law forbidding it will be removed.
I'm so happy right now I thought this would happen after many years.
In 18 months at most the current law must be changed to allow it or the law forbidding it will be removed.
I'm so happy right now I thought this would happen after many years.
www.instagram.com/marko3563 incase anyone wants to follow me.
Congratulations to everyone in Costa Rica! What a great day for you all! <3
Congratulations to everyone in Costa Rica! What a great day for you all! <3
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I've been thinking about trying to put together some kind of official Queer Cinema of 2018 for the last couple of weeks.
Currently I only have 2 solid choices, which is "Call me by your Name" and "God's Own Country".
It seems like 2018 has been slim pickings for mainstream LGBTQ+ offerings.
The only other movie of note that I've seen this year was a documentary about a FTM person working out his thoughts about what sex actually means, and whether or not penetration is the goal of sex.
I've been searching for the title for the last 20 minutes, and if anyone is interested, I can try to locate it. It was a very limited release. But really good!
I saw the movie together with the main "actor" at a screening in my home-town, Malmoe, Sweden (with Q:A afterwards) and while it was very sweet, touching and interesting, it's also telling that I have to scramble for these kinds of extremely niche, edge-cases when I'm trying to make an LGBTQ+ film list for 2018.
Outside of a fairly mainstream movie, a british indie-darling, and the type of movie that you have to actively seek out, 2018 has been very meager in terms of on-screen LGBTQ+ visibility.
I would feel silly making a thread with so few examples, so I was wondering if you can tell me about LGBTQ+ cinema that you've encountered, and that I haven't already covered.
And if 2018 truly is a very slim cinema-year for us, that could - by itself - be something interesting to talk about.
...(rather than scrambling for any scrap of LGBTQ+ media in order to salvage the idea that we're still on an upward-trajectory in terms of representation. It could be that this has been a shit year, and that's ok.)
Cheers.
Currently I only have 2 solid choices, which is "Call me by your Name" and "God's Own Country".
It seems like 2018 has been slim pickings for mainstream LGBTQ+ offerings.
The only other movie of note that I've seen this year was a documentary about a FTM person working out his thoughts about what sex actually means, and whether or not penetration is the goal of sex.
I've been searching for the title for the last 20 minutes, and if anyone is interested, I can try to locate it. It was a very limited release. But really good!
I saw the movie together with the main "actor" at a screening in my home-town, Malmoe, Sweden (with Q:A afterwards) and while it was very sweet, touching and interesting, it's also telling that I have to scramble for these kinds of extremely niche, edge-cases when I'm trying to make an LGBTQ+ film list for 2018.
Outside of a fairly mainstream movie, a british indie-darling, and the type of movie that you have to actively seek out, 2018 has been very meager in terms of on-screen LGBTQ+ visibility.
I would feel silly making a thread with so few examples, so I was wondering if you can tell me about LGBTQ+ cinema that you've encountered, and that I haven't already covered.
And if 2018 truly is a very slim cinema-year for us, that could - by itself - be something interesting to talk about.
...(rather than scrambling for any scrap of LGBTQ+ media in order to salvage the idea that we're still on an upward-trajectory in terms of representation. It could be that this has been a shit year, and that's ok.)
Cheers.
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There's also 120 BPM from France: https://www.theguardian.com/film/20...nate-and-defiant-account-of-80s-aids-activism
Ah, yes, that's true. Thank you for mentioning it.
I stopped watching it halfway into the movie; mostly because it dealt with such a heavy subject (and that I wasn't very receptive to at the time).
From the half of it I saw, I made note of how well it treated the grass-root political movement as they were working out their differences. It pretty faithfully documented the tedious back and forth of trying to address everyone's hurt, while also reminding them that were're all here for a common goal.
I don't think it's a particularly "heavy" movie. My reluctance to see it through was probably due to personal hangups.
I do remember feeling very happy about the way the early sex-scenes of the movie played out.
Other culture-outlets have already made a compare-and-contrast between Call be My your name and 120 BPM, in terms of how each movie deals with the mechanics of sex, so it feels a little hack for me to swine-clap a sentiment that has already been eloquently laid out in an already published article.
Still, it was very cool to see BPM dealing so frankly with gay sex, and - in particular - the way the movie made room for conversations about sex, as it was happening.
I still haven't revisited the movie, and might never do so. I think it's important to let other people know that any opinions I have of this movie is isolated to the first hour of the movie.
I normally wouldn't be so tippy-toed about a movie I've half-seen, but I've seen enough LGBTQ+ movies with a wonderful first hour, that then - inexplicably - veered into a car-crash of irredeemable garbage.
There's a couple, Orin_linwe. The Happy Prince is the one I watched. It had some great highs but got very depressing too of course since it is about the years of Oscar Wilde's life where he tried to escape from his old life (and fails). Rafiki is another, saw the trailer for that some time ago. Xavier Dolan played a part in one and directed another film as well.
There's more, look up "LGBT films in 2018". Here's one, just as an example:
https://www.out.com/movies/2018/6/01/17-best-lgbtq-films-2018-recent-upcoming#media-gallery-media-16
There's more, look up "LGBT films in 2018". Here's one, just as an example:
https://www.out.com/movies/2018/6/01/17-best-lgbtq-films-2018-recent-upcoming#media-gallery-media-16
How does it stack up to the 1997 movie "Wilde" with Stephen Fry and Jude Law?
I have some fondness for that movie, if, for no other reason, that it dealt with dysfunction and levels of power in a (gay) relationship.
This was the 90's, when gay movies were either about people gracefully dying from aids, tending to straight people's feelings, and endlessly coming out (with no follow-up as to what happened next in the character's life).
I haven't seen it in a few years, but I have revisited it several times, and my memory remains at least somewhat positive towards it.
Whether or not a movie is depressing or not is not a disqualifier for important LGBTQ+ 2018 cinema!
All I'm asking is that the films represent something interesting, and thoughtfully considered (as far as how they explore their subject-matter).
Cheers, and thank you for the link!
I've been a bit out of the film-loop as of late, and my impression that 2018 has been a very sparse LGBTQ+ cinema year might be an ignorant opinion.
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