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What are your red flags during a first date
- Thread starter Cryptosporidium
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No need to hide anything. You need to find a partner who also likes games or doesn't mind your hobby.
Lol...what do you think coffee is?!
Am I able to stop eating altogether or drinking water?
Yeah, she had Celiac disease. You could have asked her or at least researched what it meant.
I don't want to keep hammering the point and I obviously don't know the circumstances of your relationship.
But what I do know is that suffering from Celiac disease is a burden that damn few people actually know about in everyday life. It's a big hit to someone's social life.
They could be the brightest, most wonderful people in the world but they get rejected over something they literally have zero control over. I heavily symphathise with these folks.
So my bad if I came across a bit flippant. Ofcourse not all dates work out, but I feel that immediately saying 'pass' because someone has a body that simply doesn't tolerate gluten without bending over in pain and diarrhea is not something I could do personally.
-I live in DC and there are a lot of people who end up having transplanted here for career reasons. It's a red flag for me when on a first date the person shit talks the city, or talks about how X city they moved from is way better.
-Trying to show me any kind of meme or fandom related content on their phone.
-TERFs
-Trying to show me any kind of meme or fandom related content on their phone.
-TERFs
What's weirder is when you're black and their racism comes out like that and they go, oh, not you.
what's wrong with girls having guy friends and loving horses?
I could go 3-4 if she takes good care and cleans out litter. 5+ is creeping into full time job status
So I spent my 20's with my now ex-wife so re-entering the dating scene in my early 30s was...interesting. Some of the more interesting red flags:
--Asking if I was willing to donate to a sperm bank "in case things didn't work out between us"
--Disney obsession as in fanatical to the point where "it's the only place I'm ever happy" said without the slightest hint of irony
--Starting the date with "I'm a foodie!" then literally hovered over my plate and pushed my fork out of the way to eat my dinner
--Leaving their wedding ring in the cup holder in their car
If nothing else, it was all entertaining.
--Asking if I was willing to donate to a sperm bank "in case things didn't work out between us"
--Disney obsession as in fanatical to the point where "it's the only place I'm ever happy" said without the slightest hint of irony
--Starting the date with "I'm a foodie!" then literally hovered over my plate and pushed my fork out of the way to eat my dinner
--Leaving their wedding ring in the cup holder in their car
If nothing else, it was all entertaining.
dudes on internet: I wouldn't date anyone who still judges an adult who plays videogames
also dudes on internet: IF SHE HAS 2 OR MORE CATS SHES A PSYCHO
Also I don't date but whatever my red flags would be:
- Poor communication in making plans (eg: not saying when ur running late)
- Constantly telling me what to do (eg: ordering for me, constantly making alternative suggestions to my choices)
- Trying to 'tease' me but not being able to take as good as you dish out, in other words do not whack frau "hornets nest" gakidou
- "I'm not a sexist myself but Political Correctness SJW culture is the most pressing problem in society today"
- "Sex? Haha just kidding. Or am i? You decide ;-|"
- "You're one of the good ones/A real woman/other bizarre backhanded qualifiers"
- When your idea of playing videogames together is you playing a game you're already into and me watching. This is actually crazy common just with friends of mine. I'M LITERALLY CUTTING INTO MY VIDEO GAMING TIME IF WE AREN'T HERE TO SMASH BROS WE AREN'T HERE TO SMASH ANYTHING ELSE YA DIG
also dudes on internet: IF SHE HAS 2 OR MORE CATS SHES A PSYCHO
Also I don't date but whatever my red flags would be:
- Poor communication in making plans (eg: not saying when ur running late)
- Constantly telling me what to do (eg: ordering for me, constantly making alternative suggestions to my choices)
- Trying to 'tease' me but not being able to take as good as you dish out, in other words do not whack frau "hornets nest" gakidou
- "I'm not a sexist myself but Political Correctness SJW culture is the most pressing problem in society today"
- "Sex? Haha just kidding. Or am i? You decide ;-|"
- "You're one of the good ones/A real woman/other bizarre backhanded qualifiers"
- When your idea of playing videogames together is you playing a game you're already into and me watching. This is actually crazy common just with friends of mine. I'M LITERALLY CUTTING INTO MY VIDEO GAMING TIME IF WE AREN'T HERE TO SMASH BROS WE AREN'T HERE TO SMASH ANYTHING ELSE YA DIG
"I only have guy friends" is huge one for me. Also, mentioning her Ex more than twice or so.
Being rude/inconsiderate to wait staff. Generally having a "I'm hot. So I usually get my way" type of attitude.
Not having some type of career, or a path to one.
Taking way too many pictures/selfies.
Being rude/inconsiderate to wait staff. Generally having a "I'm hot. So I usually get my way" type of attitude.
Not having some type of career, or a path to one.
Taking way too many pictures/selfies.
On a first date? Aside from the usual ones:
- Cash splashing
- Touching me constantly for no reason
- Talking at me, not to me
- Not being ready/no grooming
- Taking me shopping for garbage cans
- Cash splashing
- Touching me constantly for no reason
- Talking at me, not to me
- Not being ready/no grooming
- Taking me shopping for garbage cans
It's hard to explain unless you experience it yourself. I suppose it's like the horse example from the OP. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with liking Disney, it's just that in my experience girls who are really into Disney don't tend to be really into me. My past girlfriends have enjoyed Disney at a healthy, moderate amount, but once you get to "I have the season pass to Disney Land" territory my hopes have vanished.
Yeah. As a PC gamer, I'll admit that the community does lean right.
Being super picky - in terms of what they like to eat etc. is usually a red flag to me.
Being unkind or selfish for no reason.
Being unkind or selfish for no reason.
Not everyone of course, but at least where I live, the two seem to be at least somewhat correlated. I'm not trying to say that all Disney fans are secretly conservative, but I've encountered enough to notice a trend.
Just broadly, if people are basically introducing themselves to you by what media they consume versus their values, that's not a good sign. I don't think I'd be very interested in a person who immediately gushes about how much of a gamer they are, and that's with me talking about this on a damn videogame forum. Hopefully you as a person are more than an assembly of media preferences, and can hold a conversation without relying on what you saw on Netflix last.
I thought gluten sensitivity didn't really exist. Either you're full on allergic or you're not
A stellar 'date' I had with a guy who asked me out on the bus. It wasn't the first date exactly (we split an izakaya for the first one), but it was the next meeting where he said he was taking me out. He made a big deal of it, but when I met him at his place to walk there he wasn't even dressed or showered, the place he'd picked out was Tex-Mex which I'd told him I hated the date before, and instead of eating he dragged me along to go garbage can shopping first... It only got worse from there, but I think I should have just bailed when he dithered over a 240L blue plastic bin.
Dont wear hiking boots with your dress and tell me how you examined rhino dung at the zoo that day you weirdo
Haha, now that's a lame second date. It sounds like he went straight to the two years together I'm not really trying regular night after work couples dinner.
I'm really starting to like Era's "I met them on or waiting for the bus" stories.
Maybe you just live in a conservative area? But yeah, wife is a Disney super fan so by that token, I ended up becoming one. And in my experience, Disney attracts people from all walks of life, but Disney as a company itself is very openly inclusive and diverse, celebrates Pride in the parks. And my experience with Disney fans has been the same. But I mean, conservatives and liberals at the end of the day are just people and any hobby is going to have liberals and conservatives. But there is a difference between being conservative and being far right shit head of course.
Smoking is the biggest red flag for me. I'd rather die alone than date a smoker.
I remember I was on a date with this super hot girl back in college. Half way through the date she takes out a cigarette and says something like "Nothing like the high off a cigarette". I remember cringing so hard. I used all my willpower to stay polite and continue talking to her until we finished eating. I walked her to her apartment and ended up rejecting a kiss attempt from her; I said something like "sorry" and walked away. Never heard from her again.
I remember I was on a date with this super hot girl back in college. Half way through the date she takes out a cigarette and says something like "Nothing like the high off a cigarette". I remember cringing so hard. I used all my willpower to stay polite and continue talking to her until we finished eating. I walked her to her apartment and ended up rejecting a kiss attempt from her; I said something like "sorry" and walked away. Never heard from her again.
I haven't been on a date in like... 2 years
But lack of ambition is probably the biggest thing to me. I'm not interested in just sitting around watching TV.
Oh man. Went on a few dates with a smoker and just couldn't handle it. Like making out with a soggy ashtray.
But lack of ambition is probably the biggest thing to me. I'm not interested in just sitting around watching TV.
Oh man. Went on a few dates with a smoker and just couldn't handle it. Like making out with a soggy ashtray.
WEED SMOKING - that is a huge red flag for me, I don't want to date a stoner or kiss someone with that smell
BROKEN HOME - If the girl you are talking to hates her mother/father to death, then something is not right.
DOES NOT SLEEP AT NIGHT - unless she has a night job, for me - sleep is crucial - there is no excuse why she should not be getting enough sleep - sleep deprivation = emotional instability
NO JOB - unless she is in college full-time, there is no reason why she should not have income coming her way - hell, even EOF at least
JUMPS INTO SEX ON 1st DATE - unless you want it to happen (terrible idea, btw), there is no reason why this should be happening unless you want a booty-call (bad idea, never ends well)
25 MISSED CALLS - we just met, there is no reason she should be calling you THAT much
KIDS - yep, unless you want them - run for the hills - a lot of guys claim they can separate the two - IMPOSSIBLE - her kids will always be part of her life, and it will be yours as well - if you want...
EX - constantly cries about it - the more she talks about = the more you will find yourself in a re-bound situation
NO GOALS - no career, no goals set in life, no children, family, goals - if she doesn't have them - you are wasting your time - may be related to AGE
ATTN: 32 years of experience has taught me this - you have been warned
BROKEN HOME - If the girl you are talking to hates her mother/father to death, then something is not right.
DOES NOT SLEEP AT NIGHT - unless she has a night job, for me - sleep is crucial - there is no excuse why she should not be getting enough sleep - sleep deprivation = emotional instability
NO JOB - unless she is in college full-time, there is no reason why she should not have income coming her way - hell, even EOF at least
JUMPS INTO SEX ON 1st DATE - unless you want it to happen (terrible idea, btw), there is no reason why this should be happening unless you want a booty-call (bad idea, never ends well)
25 MISSED CALLS - we just met, there is no reason she should be calling you THAT much
KIDS - yep, unless you want them - run for the hills - a lot of guys claim they can separate the two - IMPOSSIBLE - her kids will always be part of her life, and it will be yours as well - if you want...
EX - constantly cries about it - the more she talks about = the more you will find yourself in a re-bound situation
NO GOALS - no career, no goals set in life, no children, family, goals - if she doesn't have them - you are wasting your time - may be related to AGE
ATTN: 32 years of experience has taught me this - you have been warned
look at this red flag
lmao this clown, sex on the first date doesn't always just mean booty call, plenty of long term relationships start this way
Nah. Not far right by any means, but religious and very socially conservative.
And I'll freely admit, this could just be suburban/urban Indiana.
This is correct. I know some conservatives who hate Disney for their inclusiveness.
is your area a bit more socially conservative? I mean, that would explain it. Because Disney covers such a broad demographic.
You know, when I declined to take him up on a third date he demanded to know why, so I told him and it was something like that. Weird to feel like an old girlfriend or an afterthought on a second date. He proceeded to curse me out and harass me, even so far as loitering around my block where I lived. A year later I got a random drunk(?) text from him begging me to go on another date so he could make it up to me. He even had cocaine he said. Oh, LA. So, yes. Let this be an example to guys of why many women don't give guys direct rejections or ghost the next time one of those threads pop up. :P
Everyone did tell me that was my first mistake, but I always take public transportation, so I tend to see other commuters as like-minded people. I think it was just his age, tbh. He was immature and yet overconfident. Oh well. Makes a good story.
I am so afraid to google the references that may have gotten the OP banned involving horses.
But really though, being rude to wait staff (happened more times that you would think to me) and smoking really.
Not to shit on smokers in this thread or in general, but every smoker I've known Friend or Love interest wise has just been not quality people
But really though, being rude to wait staff (happened more times that you would think to me) and smoking really.
Not to shit on smokers in this thread or in general, but every smoker I've known Friend or Love interest wise has just been not quality people
Hah. Did that with my best partner. Did it all night and the morning after. We had to split because of distance and job opportunities, still on good terms and who knows what the future holds.
Yeah, I'll freely admit it could just be my experience with suburban/urban Indiana.
-talking about exes
-talking about therapy sessions
-talking about what other people have told them "would be good for them"
-talking about previous trauma from boyfriends, family, friends, etc.
-talking about 'our future'
-talking about kids (as in, having them with me)
-talking about therapy sessions
-talking about what other people have told them "would be good for them"
-talking about previous trauma from boyfriends, family, friends, etc.
-talking about 'our future'
-talking about kids (as in, having them with me)
I'll agree. Though most of my first "dates" were after a decent bit of texting or video chatting.
Told ya, lol - I know, I know - people will be peple - but to me, and from what I seen - its just never a good idea to start dating based on a sex-on-1st-date basis, lol