There's such a thing as too much experimenting in the bedroom though. A girl inserting a metal rod in my dick falls in that category.
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What are your red flags during a first date
- Thread starter Cryptosporidium
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There's such a thing as too much experimenting in the bedroom though. A girl inserting a metal rod in my dick falls in that category.
Consider that if you expect a kiss, they can sense it and it's a bit of a turn off. Try not expecting things to happen and see what happens. I'm pretty confident that you are missing out.
Did they say that?
More like "if there isn't enough chemistry to lead to a kiss there's no point in a 2nd"
I've never thought of it that way but it's true, if both of us don't want a kiss by the end there's no reason to waste time on a second because at least one of the two have no real interest.
Yeah, totally walked out on a date due to that shit years ago. Took her another like 15 min to realize I had bounced and send about 18 mile long pissed off texts that showed me I dodged a bullet. So glad I'm married now lol.
My ex was like this and she tried to force it on me too. She was also so dumb compared to me that it wasn't even funny anymore. I've no idea how we survived with each other for 1,5 years now that I'm thinking about it.
yeah, if he flipped the statement around then it would make more sense
"if i don't want to kiss them on a first date"
but he didn't say that. since he didn't, it makes it seem like an expectation or that it's owed.
None of those have anything to do with being left, or even being "too far left" - they have everything to do with being ignorant and buying into conspiracy theories.
You're the one reading too much subtext of an owed anything here.
An expectation for a successful date. He doesn't owe anyone a second date either, does he? I honestly don't see the problem. I get why one might think that his approach is overly picky and limiting. I certainly do.
But it's not "being owed a kiss", it's clearly that a kiss (which both participate in) is what signifies a positive end to the date to the poster
- Revealing that she has kids
- Asking if I want to have kids
- Saying she doesn't believe in sex before marriage
- Bringing up any religion or religious beliefs
- Saying she dislikes people who play video games
- Showing signs of racism and/or elitism
- Bringing a parent or any form of guardian/wing(wo-)man
- Asking if I want to have kids
- Saying she doesn't believe in sex before marriage
- Bringing up any religion or religious beliefs
- Saying she dislikes people who play video games
- Showing signs of racism and/or elitism
- Bringing a parent or any form of guardian/wing(wo-)man
"how much do you make"
Bringing up Ex more than once
"I love football"
"All my friends are guys, girls are skanks"
The above, has a history of never working out for me. I gave them the benefit of the doubt. It just never works out. So I now consider those phrases red flags.
Bringing up Ex more than once
"I love football"
"All my friends are guys, girls are skanks"
The above, has a history of never working out for me. I gave them the benefit of the doubt. It just never works out. So I now consider those phrases red flags.
Talking about their ex. With the experience I currently have, I'd probably just walk away.
Also, if they ever mention crying watching Hitler's speeches maybe you should run.
"I have never met a girl like you!"/"All my exes are whores."/"You're sooo not like the other girls." Just call the police.
I do have a bad experience with people who have foot fetiches so I'd run in that case too, but hey, if you're into that, that's fine.
Also, if they ever mention crying watching Hitler's speeches maybe you should run.
"I have never met a girl like you!"/"All my exes are whores."/"You're sooo not like the other girls." Just call the police.
I do have a bad experience with people who have foot fetiches so I'd run in that case too, but hey, if you're into that, that's fine.
If she's rude to the wait staff, etc, the relationship will proceed no further than that date.
If she shows a hint of racism, that's a "no" as well.
Speaking in memes won't do it for me.
Yeah, not being able to tear yourself away from your phone is a big one. I've said before that if I was on a first date, and she just pulls out her phone and starts texting or Facebooking mid-conversation, I would just get up and leave, and I'm dead serious about that. I am too old for that crap.
And indeed, luckily I'm married, so I don't have to bother.
If she shows a hint of racism, that's a "no" as well.
Speaking in memes won't do it for me.
Yeah, not being able to tear yourself away from your phone is a big one. I've said before that if I was on a first date, and she just pulls out her phone and starts texting or Facebooking mid-conversation, I would just get up and leave, and I'm dead serious about that. I am too old for that crap.
And indeed, luckily I'm married, so I don't have to bother.
"i love metal"
its just, yeah i love metal too. but i can count on my one hand the amount of people who were major metal fans who's company i actually enjoyed, sexual or friendship-wise.
edit: then you know all the regular generic red flags, racism, sexism, being mean towards the service if you're out.
also if you're stanning south park iunno if we can be friends
pls dont be a brony either ty
its just, yeah i love metal too. but i can count on my one hand the amount of people who were major metal fans who's company i actually enjoyed, sexual or friendship-wise.
edit: then you know all the regular generic red flags, racism, sexism, being mean towards the service if you're out.
also if you're stanning south park iunno if we can be friends
pls dont be a brony either ty
Nope. I'm clear of those.
The two diners I had with her were not only expensive but tasted...not very 'optimal' for what it was. Good lord, gluten free bread is so DRY! :(
We didn't really connect in the end anyways, it's not like we didn't try. I'm with the girl I met 3 years ago now anyways, so I look back at this story with a smile.
Lot of folk avoid gluten because it's the cool thing to do, not because they are allergic to it
Basically, I was going out with this dude for a while (maybe a month or so?) and we were out on our typical date: Eating burgers and chatting when he brought that up.
He attends to basically the same classes that me on college and I have never ever looked him in the face again. And I obviously told everyone that he is a Nazi. Fucking freak.
My apoligies if I did it it at home for you, that wasn't the intention, really.
It was my first time with gluten free food, and I really disliked it...I didn't want to spend my life eating this food and/or always having to buy twice and split groceries.That's pretty much all there is to it, tastes, right?
It's ok man, many gluten free products taste bland.
And way more people avoid it because they are sensitive to it and hence live happier lives :)
I went on a date with someone who said he was a "vagitarian" once.
I ghosted him and I don't regret my decision one bit.
Talking about sex e.g. how good you are at sex things. Being generally creepy or awkward in a bad way. Not cute bumbly or stumbley shy awkward but cringe awkward. Seeming like an angry person.
I'd say the number one turn of for me and big red flag I was always on the look out for was anger issues. It's not talked about enough how many men are dealing with anger.
I went on a date with a guy once where we met somewhere and then he picked me up so we could drive down town. I (thought) I felt comfortable enough around him to do that since I knew him from work. When we hit traffic and were going to be late for the thing we were going to I could tell he was seething and it made me super uncomfortable. I don't want to be scared of the person I'm going out with. He's a nice enough person but that sent red flags careening into the atmosphere.
And I'm getting married to the most chill man I've ever met.
I ghosted him and I don't regret my decision one bit.
Talking about sex e.g. how good you are at sex things. Being generally creepy or awkward in a bad way. Not cute bumbly or stumbley shy awkward but cringe awkward. Seeming like an angry person.
I'd say the number one turn of for me and big red flag I was always on the look out for was anger issues. It's not talked about enough how many men are dealing with anger.
I went on a date with a guy once where we met somewhere and then he picked me up so we could drive down town. I (thought) I felt comfortable enough around him to do that since I knew him from work. When we hit traffic and were going to be late for the thing we were going to I could tell he was seething and it made me super uncomfortable. I don't want to be scared of the person I'm going out with. He's a nice enough person but that sent red flags careening into the atmosphere.
And I'm getting married to the most chill man I've ever met.
Agreed, Jeanne is so overrated. St. Martha makes a better ruler.
Eh, I wouldn't say that's 100%. Some people don't like to kiss on the first date. You can miss out on a potentially great partners by refusing to date people who don't kiss on the first date.
they cant afford to pay for their own meals
they don't like coffee
any/all forms of bigotry/racism/misogyny
they wear cargo pants
they don't like coffee
any/all forms of bigotry/racism/misogyny
they wear cargo pants
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The horse thing is so funny to me because its true.
I dated online for a few years back in 2000-2003ish. Back when online dating was considered weird to virtually everyone. It was awesome. The biggest and surprisingly common red flag was the being rude to wait staff. Some were very aware of what they were saying and doing, but somehow worse were the ones who didn't even realize they were talking down to others. Empathy is a really important trait for me to have in a serious partner.
Near the end of my online dating, I figured out my formula for my perfect mate and then proceeded to date only those women that matched my criteria.
Live independently in your own home/apartment.
Have your own vehicle.
Have a job.
Have your own friends/hobbies/life.
No smokers.
That's it. If a woman met those 5 criteria, I was taking them out on a date. Fat, skinny, old, young, black, white, whatever. Nothing else really mattered to me. Once I set those standards, the chaff fell aside and I met a much higher class of potential partners.
I dated online for a few years back in 2000-2003ish. Back when online dating was considered weird to virtually everyone. It was awesome. The biggest and surprisingly common red flag was the being rude to wait staff. Some were very aware of what they were saying and doing, but somehow worse were the ones who didn't even realize they were talking down to others. Empathy is a really important trait for me to have in a serious partner.
Near the end of my online dating, I figured out my formula for my perfect mate and then proceeded to date only those women that matched my criteria.
Live independently in your own home/apartment.
Have your own vehicle.
Have a job.
Have your own friends/hobbies/life.
No smokers.
That's it. If a woman met those 5 criteria, I was taking them out on a date. Fat, skinny, old, young, black, white, whatever. Nothing else really mattered to me. Once I set those standards, the chaff fell aside and I met a much higher class of potential partners.
The biggest red flag I've had is when my date insisted on taking a short cut through a graveyard on the walk home, then popped a squat and took a piss on a grave because the name 'sounded black'.
That's literally the last I saw of her, hunkered down taking a horrifically racist slash.
That's literally the last I saw of her, hunkered down taking a horrifically racist slash.
also this, except for disliking coffee my partner can't have it because it triggers her anxiety. Sometimes there's health reasons. But yea cargo pants make me nope out fast
Right, fuck people with celiac disease, amirite?
Come on, son. That shit ain't no joke.
What about people who give you weird looks for saying you play videogames as an adult? I remember back in the day there was a stereotype that if you played videogames as an adult you were a guy who just sat home all day living with your parents.
But I think nowadays that "stereotype" against us has died down. But I still remember times when saying you play videogames gets you weird looks, has anyone ever successfully brought up they play videogames on a date, or am I still stuck in early 2000's mindset?
But I think nowadays that "stereotype" against us has died down. But I still remember times when saying you play videogames gets you weird looks, has anyone ever successfully brought up they play videogames on a date, or am I still stuck in early 2000's mindset?
Yes, it is. It's considered rude by most people.
It's 1998, I am just reading the newspaper during dinner. It's 2005, I am just playing with my laptop during dinner or paying attention to the TV when you are trying to have a conversation.
Now, I am not saying I never look at my phone when out with friends, just not during dinner. And when I do look at my phone, is because when out with friends, we are usually hanging out in our yard or the pub for 4-5 hours... so there are lulls when everyone is silent just enjoying their beer, or having a one on one conversation with someone else about something that does not involved you, etc.