Knowing this site's issues with women and misogyny I'm trying to avoid having those issues come up, but I think interesting convo can be had about this. When we was younger (like...elementary school) I assume we all tended to stay within groups divided by boys and girls. This is most likely due to expectations pushed upon boys at a young age that girls are gross and bad and we shouldn't like them for reasons. Dunno if girls grew up with that too, but I wanna say probably.
Middle school was the period that we were probably starting to grow out of that tribalism, but it still remained quite prevalent. It was common for me to get called "gay" or the f-word for just existing. I wasn't gay, but me simply being less masculine or more so less defined by my masculinity made me ostracized among other guys.
In high school, and now even in college I don't really even like being friends with dudes anymore, or rather I prefer being friends with women instead. They tend to be more empathetic (there was a thread about that a few days ago, wasn't there?) and there really isn't an expectation to exert your masculinity around them. When I did have dude friends in college, they were, more often than not, cool one-on-one, but in a group it basically devolved into me being disrespected for not being/doing what was expected of me as a guy.
How would you compare having male friends vs. having female friends? Which do you prefer? Are there differences? And if you believe there are differences, then how do you believe they manifest?
Middle school was the period that we were probably starting to grow out of that tribalism, but it still remained quite prevalent. It was common for me to get called "gay" or the f-word for just existing. I wasn't gay, but me simply being less masculine or more so less defined by my masculinity made me ostracized among other guys.
In high school, and now even in college I don't really even like being friends with dudes anymore, or rather I prefer being friends with women instead. They tend to be more empathetic (there was a thread about that a few days ago, wasn't there?) and there really isn't an expectation to exert your masculinity around them. When I did have dude friends in college, they were, more often than not, cool one-on-one, but in a group it basically devolved into me being disrespected for not being/doing what was expected of me as a guy.
How would you compare having male friends vs. having female friends? Which do you prefer? Are there differences? And if you believe there are differences, then how do you believe they manifest?