That's mean.
That's mean.
a lot to unpack here. never did what, exactly?My ex-wife never did that, and I appreciated it and got used to it. A few weeks ago I slept with a girl and she kept making these porn noises all the time, and I mean all the time, like even whe she was going down on me, and it was freaking annoying. If she'd become a regular I would tell her to stop that crap, it's a turn off.
Fake moans and orgasms.
not a lot to unpack here. i read into this a bit too much
No problem, it's all good.
To be fair it's mostly on her for not being open about it earlier.
If this is true, it really lowers my desire to have sex. Like, what's the point if both sides aren't enjoying it?
This.
To me, the best part of sex is watching the girl orgasm. If she's faking and not trying to help you get there, it's her fault then.
This is about penetration. Learn how to properly do oral, and you'll be fine
I usually only finish after sex. Takes a while and it only happens with really specific touches. Doesn't means that the sex itself isn't good too.
There are lots of tools at your disposal.
My wife enjoys using a bullet during sex to help her climax. She can get close to orgasm through penetration, but she can't get over the peak (so to speak), so she uses a bullet vibrator on her clit and it's worked great so far.
Be thankful that your partner is telling you and not slowly becoming more resentful and frustrated that she isn't orgasming, that shit destroys relationships.
The reason a lot of older women have told me they don't want to sleep with younger guys "Their whole technique is to just to it as hard, fast and as long as they can and that just hurts".There is a bit of a masochistic thing of "man I can crush puss and make her cum just by railing her dude", real life just ain't like that.
omg dead lolI always find topics like this fascinating 'cause no matter how progressive the people are giving advice it always still sounds like it's the guy's fault. And I mean, it certainly can be. But only if you ignore what your partner's saying. But if your partner's saying jack-shit, then I don't know what you're supposed to do about it. When woman orgasm it isn't as "obvious" as a man (most of the time, at least lol), so it's not like you're going to automatically know. But regardless, this comes about from a failure to communicate. Now, if the dude fails to listen, then it's 110 percent his fault. You have to get over your ego and accept that sex is not like porn, and smacking away at the vagina with your penis like it's a PS2 era DBZ game and you're trying to win the beam spam contest ain't gonna do it.
If she can't make herself - its her problem. It's not your fault by any means. All normal people should be able to orgasm after some time of intercourse. An hour of the old "in-out in-out" action should be plenty for any normal person, man or a woman, to cum. So if she's having problems, that's her problem. So i wouldn't worry about myself much if i were you. Try giving her ques next time. Perhaps, a signal like, tell her "i'm going to soon baby or some shit like that" Slap her ass or something, or let her play with her clit while your tapping it. My fucking girlfriend comes like crazy, and i couldn't care less if she's faking it or not, as long as im not being selfish, i try to pleasure her as much as i can, and pleasure myself as well.. just be decent like.
EDIT: all in all, the older i get the more i start to hate women in general. Every time you meet someone new you think, OH we have something special here, she's different etc etc. Some time later you realize that she is just another woman. They're all the fucking same.
Jesus christ...........If she can't make herself - its her problem. It's not your fault by any means. All normal people should be able to orgasm after some time of intercourse. An hour of the old "in-out in-out" action should be plenty for any normal person, man or a woman, to cum. So if she's having problems, that's her problem. So i wouldn't worry about myself much if i were you. Try giving her ques next time. Perhaps, a signal like, tell her "i'm going to soon baby or some shit like that" Slap her ass or something, or let her play with her clit while your tapping it. My fucking girlfriend comes like crazy, and i couldn't care less if she's faking it or not, as long as im not being selfish, i try to pleasure her as much as i can, and pleasure myself as well.. just be decent like.
EDIT: all in all, the older i get the more i start to hate women in general. Every time you meet someone new you think, OH we have something special here, she's different etc etc. Some time later you realize that she is just another woman. They're all the fucking same.
If she can't make herself - its her problem. It's not your fault by any means. All normal people should be able to orgasm after some time of intercourse. An hour of the old "in-out in-out" action should be plenty for any normal person, man or a woman, to cum. So if she's having problems, that's her problem. So i wouldn't worry about myself much if i were you. Try giving her ques next time. Perhaps, a signal like, tell her "i'm going to soon baby or some shit like that" Slap her ass or something, or let her play with her clit while your tapping it. My fucking girlfriend comes like crazy, and i couldn't care less if she's faking it or not, as long as im not being selfish, i try to pleasure her as much as i can, and pleasure myself as well.. just be decent like.
EDIT: NVM
omg dead lol
Part of the problem that because of culture being what it is (especially in really religious communities), women are taught from a young age they'e not supposed to really enjoy sex because if they do that makes them a slut or something. It totally is on her if she's never communicates, but sometimes you really have to pry that shit out of a woman and let her know a hundred times over it's ok to communicate and it's ok to feel pleasure and find out what your body needs. Some of it is absolutely a mental block where they don't even allow themselves to relax enough to feel an orgasm.
So on that note, buying your partner toys and encouraging her to masturbate if she doesn't do it regularly will also help.
I'm sure you'll last long here!
Edit: Dammit, I couldn't even finish my post. ><
Oh for certain. I'm not saying the conversation will be easy, and it'll probably be awkward at first, but it's necessary for a guy to try if they actually care. Granted, I never thought the term "slut" was a bad word to begin with, but that's neither here nor there.
And the bolded is 100 percent true. If she's uncomfortable or ashamed getting there on her own then that's the first block you have to work through. Guys start messing around down there so quick after puberty they should all be told to lock the door to their room from their thirteenth birthday on 'cause you never know what you might walk in to, lol. But I've spoken to so many women who find the very idea of masturbation gross and that's a problem, because no one should know your body as well as you do. Not even for the sake of your partner, but for yourself.
I never thought slut was much of a bad word either. I'm lucky enough that my mom and aunt's created a pretty open, sex positive environment for me growing up; so I'm kind of an anomaly in that I started messing around down there at like 10. So I'm constantly shocked through my life meeting women in their 20's who've never masturbated or even had an orgasm. Learning how to give yourself an orgasm is definitely the first step; you can't really expect someone to know how to do something you yourself don't even know how to do.
You know that kid in school who would bullshit about all those girls he's been with?...If she can't make herself - its her problem. It's not your fault by any means. All normal people should be able to orgasm after some time of intercourse. An hour of the old "in-out in-out" action should be plenty for any normal person, man or a woman, to cum. So if she's having problems, that's her problem. So i wouldn't worry about myself much if i were you. Try giving her ques next time. Perhaps, a signal like, tell her "i'm going to soon baby or some shit like that" Slap her ass or something, or let her play with her clit while your tapping it. My fucking girlfriend comes like crazy, and i couldn't care less if she's faking it or not, as long as im not being selfish, i try to pleasure her as much as i can, and pleasure myself as well.. just be decent like.
EDIT: all in all, the older i get the more i start to hate women in general. Every time you meet someone new you think, OH we have something special here, she's different etc etc. Some time later you realize that she is just another woman. They're all the fucking same.
what is 'different' about the lucky few that can get off from penetrative sex? are they more sensitive/receptive, or have they been fortunate enough to run into some master swordsmanship? both, neither?
I can't read the link unfortunately because the Tronc group aren't complying with GDPR, guess I need to find a free and safe proxy. But I appreciate the rest of your post, it was educational and I'll bear it all in mind
Good on you or helping her to get some orgasmic indepence! :) It is unhealthy to not be able to orgasm without a partner, I couldn't even imagine how hard that life would be.Yeah, a fair amount of women that I've dated have never masturbated which I always found kinda shocking. The only problem with that is that a few of them had a reliance on men for this reason. One specifically always had to have a boyfriend because she couldn't get off without one. I tried to help her on that front, but she wasn't too interested. It seemed a little unhealthy to me to rely on having a significant other, because I believe having your independence is super important but in the end that was her decision.
Also "slut" is totally a good word if used right. Depends on the person, though... some can find it incredibly offensive, others can find it incredibly hot in a dom/sub environment.
I posted the article in reply to your post, but then I got carried away elaborating. The elaborating part, I was talking to the thread in general. I didn't mean it as an exclusive reply to you, as in: Bobson Dugnutt, this is opinion/info for you in specific and in particular. I didn't mean to make it like that. I should've made it clearer that I was speaking generally. Thanks for being gracious in your reply.
My technique involves eating her ass while using two fingers in her vagina. You haven't live until you felt a pulsating butthole on your tongue.
See, romance isn't dead.My technique involves eating her ass while using two fingers in her vagina. You haven't live until you felt a pulsating butthole on your tongue.
If she can't make herself - its her problem. It's not your fault by any means. All normal people should be able to orgasm after some time of intercourse. An hour of the old "in-out in-out" action should be plenty for any normal person, man or a woman, to cum. So if she's having problems, that's her problem. So i wouldn't worry about myself much if i were you. Try giving her ques next time. Perhaps, a signal like, tell her "i'm going to soon baby or some shit like that" Slap her ass or something, or let her play with her clit while your tapping it. My fucking girlfriend comes like crazy, and i couldn't care less if she's faking it or not, as long as im not being selfish, i try to pleasure her as much as i can, and pleasure myself as well.. just be decent like.
EDIT: all in all, the older i get the more i start to hate women in general. Every time you meet someone new you think, OH we have something special here, she's different etc etc. Some time later you realize that she is just another woman. They're all the fucking same.
I have done it a few times and I always have trouble balancing my thrusts with the movement of my fingers. Like the lateral momentum of my hips doesn't jive with the circular motion of my smaller appendages. I end up moving my fingers the same direction as I'm thrusting. And my fingers tend to cramp after a few minutes of itThis should be standard practice IMO. This is how my girlfriend orgasms.
She doesn't need the penetration at all in order to orgasm - she just prefers it at this point.This should be standard practice IMO. This is how my girlfriend orgasms.
This guy knows what's upMy technique involves eating her ass while using two fingers in her vagina. You haven't live until you felt a pulsating butthole on your tongue.