Need help, Roommate groomed into a scam, won't listen to reason.

Deleted member 3815 · Jul 24, 2018

SaberVS7 said:
Mid-50's, won't be more specific for privacy reasons. Her age really makes her Instagram "career" even more of an Eyerolling cringe since it comes across as "How do you do Fellow Kids?" at best.

You know when I was reading the OP I was under the impression that the person was young around 18-25 years, not someone in her mid 50s. She's clearly deluded and think that she can get rich quick via Instagram.

I am sorry to say but other than taking away access to her account, she's determined to ruin herself which in turn is going to ruin you and she's clearly not listening to reason.

You have four option;

Bail out,
pretend to be the scammer and take the money and show her that she was being scammed,
find a way to take control of the rent money.
do nothing,

crimzonflame said:
...why does someone with an anime avatar have a 50 year old roommate?

Because the animé character is 50 years old but just looks young.

Rayne · Jul 24, 2018

Wait this is about a 50 year old? Jesus.

Unless you can get the rent money before she gives it to the scammer somehow?

SaberVS7 · Jul 24, 2018

crimzonflame said:
...why does someone with an anime avatar have a 50 year old roommate?

1. You say a grown ass adult can't like anime?

2. It was my bruv's/other roommate's idea. She was some recently-divorced MILF he got into a Fw/B relationship with via Facebook hookup and invited her to go in on a new apartment with us two since our previous apartment was really shit and we needed a less-depressing backdrop.

Deleted member 9100 · Jul 24, 2018

SaberVS7 said:
1. You say a grown ass adult can't like anime?

2. It was my bruv's/other roommate's idea. She was some recently-divorced MILF he got into a Fw/B relationship with via Facebook hookup and invited her to go in on a new apartment with us two since our previous apartment was really shit and we needed a less-depressing backdrop.

Wow. That sounds like the worst way in the world to find a roommate.

Feral · Jul 24, 2018

crimzonflame said:
...why does someone with an anime avatar have a 50 year old roommate?

well, she only looks like she's a teenager *rimshot*

Mr_F_Snowman · Jul 24, 2018

SaberVS7 said:
1. You say a grown ass adult can't like anime?

2. It was my bruv's/other roommate's idea. She was some recently-divorced MILF he got into a Fw/B relationship with via Facebook hookup and invited her to go in on a new apartment with us two since our previous apartment was really shit and we needed a less-depressing backdrop.

This sounds like the plot for a pilot episode of a really shit 2000's sitcom

SaberVS7 · Jul 24, 2018

TAH3145 said:
Wow. That sounds like the worst way in the world to find a roommate.

Your honor, at the time two years ago it really seemed like he was not sticking his dick in crazy.

Mr_F_Snowman said:
This sounds like the plot for a pilot episode of a really shit 2000's sitcom

Record Scratch, Freeze Frame

Yep, that's me. You're probably wondering how I ended up in this situation.

mintzilla · Jul 24, 2018

Please god OP find a new roommate.

When she Enevitably gets scammed there's no way she is gonna be able to pay the rent. Boot her ass out and let her do whatever she wants after.

Deleted member 4367 · Jul 24, 2018

SaberVS7 said:
1. You say a grown ass adult can't like anime?

2. It was my bruv's/other roommate's idea. She was some recently-divorced MILF he got into a Fw/B relationship with via Facebook hookup and invited her to go in on a new apartment with us two since our previous apartment was really shit and we needed a less-depressing backdrop.

She's not the only one with poor decision making skills.

papermoon · Jul 24, 2018

SaberVS7 said:
Mid-50's, won't be more specific for privacy reasons. Her age really makes her Instagram "career" even more of an Eyerolling cringe since it comes across as "How do you do Fellow Kids?" at best.

Does she have family you can call for help?

Mid-50s. Not uncommon for symptoms of age-related neurological disorders to present themselves at that point in life. Obviously, not saying definitively that's what's going on. But something to consider.

And I get that you're trying to safeguard the rent and your actions have probably saved her from financial ruin, but cancelling her debit card and being enmeshed in this struggle with her. And her yelling at you from another room to give her ride. It's all so messy and sticky. Like a dysfunctional sitcom family.

Is there a reason you can't just get a replacement roommate? Is it because your brother and her are/were sex partners?

Easy_D · Jul 24, 2018

BreezyLimbo said:
You should set up an account

Message her posing as a fake celebrity

Scam her

Then depending on her reaction give back her money

She'll be pissed off but she wont be out her money. And you cap it off with "and thats why you dont take 'too good to be true' offers."

Just need someone losing an arm and it's perfect

SapientWolf · Jul 24, 2018

Mr_F_Snowman said:
This sounds like the plot for a pilot episode of a really shit 2000's sitcom

InstaGrammy.

FUME5 · Jul 24, 2018

Can we get a link to her insta (if it doesn't have any private details etc) so we can judge the quality of her food blogging?

Carn · Jul 24, 2018

Is this this the opening scene from the new Black Mirror season? Before it all goes horribly wrong?

lacer · Jul 24, 2018

SaberVS7 said:
2. It was my bruv's/other roommate's idea. She was some recently-divorced MILF he got into a Fw/B relationship with via Facebook hookup and invited her to go in on a new apartment with us two since our previous apartment was really shit and we needed a less-depressing backdrop.

i'm not sure i want to know what happened before this where your current scenario is actually less depressing than your previous one :o

ResetEraIsTheBestEra · Jul 24, 2018

Fool her yourself OP, get the money for the next payment

Cuburger · Jul 24, 2018

What about trying to transition her to starting a YouTube channel?

She sounds set on being internet famous but at least YouTube has monetization methods built in unlike Instagram. She probably still won't make it big, but at least she'll stop trying to find sponsors for her Instagram page, which just sounds to me like just a step up from trying to monetize your Twitter account for all the insightful and hilarious tweets you think you make.

corasaur · Jul 24, 2018

i feel like even if you convince her that this is a scam, if you keep her as a roommate,you'll be 6 months away from hearing about her new greatest business opportunity, Amway. this really seems like the kind of relentless optimism that would lead someone to try and convince themselves that MLMs aren't pyramid schemes.

Notaskwid · Jul 24, 2018

Is this part of the scam.
How can you cancel other persons debit card

Raonak · Jul 24, 2018

Failure is the best way to learn.

EDIT: On second thought, this scenario is so bizarre that you might be better off starting a youtube show with the 3 of you.
I'd watch it

SaberVS7 · Jul 24, 2018

Notaskwid said:
Is this part of the scam.
How can you cancel other persons debit card

I didn't, we (and a banker) convinced her to after she called to check her Balance (Thinking that the other "Country Singer" who had "sponsored" her had put $1,000 in - When he was probably more looking to just drain her account and run) and had her mention she had given her Debit card info to someone else.

Now, thankfully I found out now that she accidentally (best accident ever) gave the scammers the wrong name on the card by using her maiden-name instead of her current name she actually has on the card. That at least bought us an extra hour or two before they wised up.

Threekola Miroswish · Jul 24, 2018

Walter White Walker said:
Hit the gym, eat better

This isn't one of your 'I just got dumped' threads

sph3re · Jul 24, 2018

SaberVS7 said:
Mid-50's, won't be more specific for privacy reasons. Her age really makes her Instagram "career" even more of an Eyerolling cringe since it comes across as "How do you do Fellow Kids?" at best.

Mid fift... dude, find another roommate and kick her ass to the curb, how is she 50 years old and falling for shit like that?

Kirblar · Jul 24, 2018

sph3re said:
Mid fift... dude, find another roommate and kick her ass to the curb, how is she 50 years old and falling for shit like that?

I am convinced people's brains start going downhill way earlier than we publicly acknowledge.

uncredited male mk2 · Jul 24, 2018

I know people like this. It rarely ends well.

rstzkpf · Jul 24, 2018

people want to believe something so much that they throw away their common sense

sph3re · Jul 24, 2018

Kirblar said:
I am convinced people's brains start going downhill way earlier than we publicly acknowledge.

That's probably true. I think tech plays a big role in this. My dad almost got fooled by people "calling from Microsoft" telling him that there was a virus on his computer. Some people are gullible when it comes to technology.

platocplx · Jul 24, 2018

Scam her each month for rent money. Do the western union and I sure she will finally learn.

Deleted member 18966 · Jul 24, 2018

Is it possible she has mental health issues?

TheAuldTriangle · Jul 24, 2018

She sounds unhinged. Like the kind of person who''ll eventually lose the plot and attack someone. Be vigilante my man.

corasaur · Jul 24, 2018

Kirblar said:
I am convinced people's brains start going downhill way earlier than we publicly acknowledge.

do we know the age spread on MLM victims? i feel like the stereotypes there are equally "naive youngster" and "stay at home parent." it kinda just feels like there's a portion of the population that's vulnerable to claims of "This is YOUR CHANCE to become fabulously wealthy."

Kirblar · Jul 24, 2018

sph3re said:
That's probably true. I think tech plays a big role in this. My dad almost got fooled by people "calling from Microsoft" telling him that there was a virus on his computer. Some people are gullible when it comes to technology.

I think those scams have had a mass uptick lately.

CrankyJay · Jul 24, 2018

BlueTsunami said:
How about you create a fake profile but scam her out of the portion of rent she owes each month? Lol

God dammit. Was just going to suggest this.

I Don't Like · Jul 24, 2018

MID-FUCKING-FIFTIES? LMAO.

No offense but is she just dumb, white trash?

henhowc · Jul 24, 2018

like others have said...just make sure she can pay rent or kick her out

FUME5 · Jul 24, 2018

I still want to check out her Instagram account.

For real.

NeonBlack · Jul 24, 2018

Find a new roommate and let her fail (in that order). You can't keep looking after a grown ass woman.

ScandiNavy · Jul 25, 2018

PlayALLTheGames said:
MID-FUCKING-FIFTIES? LMAO.

No offense but is she just dumb, white trash?

No offense but [insert offense here]?

Deleted member 4452 · Jul 25, 2018

Always looking at the silver lining. At least your other roommate won't accidently get her pregnant.

Cocolina · Jul 25, 2018

"I'll keep this brief"

Notaskwid · Jul 25, 2018

PlayALLTheGames said:
MID-FUCKING-FIFTIES? LMAO.

No offense but is she just dumb, white trash?

No offense, but what relevancy could her skin color possibly have.

devSin · Jul 25, 2018

It's her money. She can do whatever she wants with it.

Sorry your free ride is coming to an end. That's life.

FUME5 · Jul 25, 2018

devSin said:
It's her money. She can do whatever she wants with it.

Sorry your free ride is coming to an end. That's life.

What the fuck are you talking about?

joecanada · Jul 25, 2018

Op unfortunately normally Id say help her out but it's pretty clear at this point short of you following her around babysitting she will get scammed. I mean how is she not already in a gifting program/ Amway/ Mary Kay etc ??

Torpedo Vegas · Jul 25, 2018

You're a better person than I am. When I see someone doing something stupid I pull up a seat and watch.

devSin · Jul 25, 2018

FUME5 said:
What the fuck are you talking about?

Have you even read any of the posts?

Dude and his "bruv" just used this woman to get a better apartment than they could afford alone. It's clear that they've no interest whatsoever in this woman, only her money.

Spanic · Jul 25, 2018

Op, what do you predict will happen when she finally figures out she got scammed? Will she hide from the "I told you so" embarrassment or rely on you guys to cover rent and be a sad mess?

Sounds like she needs therapy.

Cocolina · Jul 25, 2018

Time to move back to that shitty apartment. Your gamble here has not paid off. Next time get a roommate you can trust or enter into separate agreements per room.

rckvla · Jul 25, 2018

Sometimes we need to learn by failing.

Resurgam · Jul 25, 2018

Yeah, this one may not end well. You're lucky the lease is only for a few more months and you can probably make it to the end of the end of it without too much hardship if things get too goofy. My advice is to get ready to move to a more affordable place or find a more reliable third roommate.

Not to generalize but if she's 50 and still falling for scams like this there may be no talking her out of this. Some people are just textbook cases of the type of folks who fall for these MLM get rich schemes and associated scams over and over again.

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