Wat? 20mins? Lol, no it doesn't.
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I've just been told she faked most of her orgasms
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I'm surprised this is still a thing. Every girl i've dated have been pretty upfront bout not getting off. See what she likes and do it good. It's not rocket science.
Probably for the same reason they often slut shame while complaining about not getting laid.
this is highly variable
for me and the women i've been with (not that many, admittedly) it's more like the other way around
around 10 minutes for her most of the time, and 20 or more minutes for me
Bingo.
Sex is play. Like video games or a board game. It can be mental or physical or both. Orgasm isn't the end game and every body you play with is different. Some are capable of orgasm and some are not. For those that are, unlike men, it is not the end goal, especially since those that can can do it multiple times.
Just have fun out there and listen to their body, learn their rhythm and what makes them respond.
I say this as someone who has seduced hundreds and hundreds of women.
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Not my first. Gonna be 29 in short order. I get really focused on maintaining rhythm and feeling whether she was contracting or spasming could get kinda difficult. There were some times that she contracted so much I was forced out, I'm guessing they were genuine.
Starting off with an incorrect statistic is not a great way to get this thing rolling, haha.
I can tell the difference between real and fake, with experience I would think most could. Fortunately I've not had to deal with someone needing to fake it...and I've always told my SO that I'd prefer they never faked anything. If you're not up to it, just let me know..won't hurt my feelings one bit :).
This isn't really that hard people, some of the posts in here really give me a good laugh.
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Women are more complicated and usually do take longer than men but 20 minutes is categorically untrue. It depends on the mood and the person but to say 20min as a general rule is bull.
I don't think that that is how it works ...
If you felt her spasming, then yes, I'd say that those were real.
10-20 minutes, maybe 20 minutes is too much but I've heard that number from some sources. Here's one source saying on average 12 minutes (The Guardian). The exact number isn't the point, just that there is a disparity between male and female TTO.
Now that that's out of the way you can start working together on ways to make her come. Don't feel bad. Try some positions that allow her to pleasure herself while you're having sex. But most importantly, talk to her about her and figure it out together and have fun doing it.
True dis
Banged a girl recently who said 'im coming' from penetration alone
I was so shocked i nearly fell out of her
I know. Though I didn't mind and always had to reassure her that she shouldn't feel bad about my neck and back bleeding. But was a good spot to know that you keep trusting and playing with her clit while her clawing and biting intensifies and orgasm after orgasm washes over her.
I knew a girl that liked that as well, underwear, belt, hands, rope, whatever, she loved that. Though this is really fringe play and you need to be knowledgeable.
Come on, read the thread and not just throw shade on OP. =.=
But one must at least try. Leave no stone unturned, no butthole un-tonguefucked.
Gotta work on those finger and tongue skills, talk to each other, find out what she likes and experiment with different things.
In my, albeit limited compared to some of the studs on Era, experience, that is the exception rather than the norm.
Or simple psychological pressure, at least for me. Has its upsides but can suck a lot when she wants to stop and you didn't have an orgasm yet. =(
Find out what kind of porn she enjoys. She might like things things to be a bit more romantic, you know with name-calling and rough stuff. Something as simple as a buttplug might do the trick. This is an opportunity to really learn about her.
It does suck, but there's a good chance she'll want it from you again if she got hers
when this happens for us, we usually let her finish me off by hand and mouth
frankly, it sounds like you deserve each other. you both sound awful lol.
Isn't romance the thing that leads up to the buttplug
Also whats a buttplug
This is just as much her failure as it is yours -- if it can be considered a failure. Ill never understand why someone would fake orgasms instead of communicating with their partner what they like and what would stimulate them more. It's just simple instruction and every person is differernt. It shouldn't be uncomfortable or ego bruising.
That conversation would be far less damaging than telling someone that you were acting while you were engaged in sex time after time after time. When you fake an orgasm you give your partner no reason to try and improve. You leave them with a false impression that they are getting the job done.
It's unfair to both parties.
That conversation would be far less damaging than telling someone that you were acting while you were engaged in sex time after time after time. When you fake an orgasm you give your partner no reason to try and improve. You leave them with a false impression that they are getting the job done.
It's unfair to both parties.
Lol yep. 75% of women will never orgasm from sex alone.
And some will orgasm easily, multiple times during sex, so it all depends
Oh I agree. This already happens if a man has trouble getting erect with a new partner, for example. The woman might take it personally when it's usually just stage fright or too much jerking off.
Wish I could get that lucky. xD
Sure, but that doesn't matter much if you are dating. It is not like she or I would cheat.
Especially when she is like "we need to stop it starts to hurt" after a longer time having sex.
Not nearly as good, I can masturbate alone, don't need a woman for that. =/
Doesn't help that I never had a girl that is good at it.
Well, positive side is that you last for eternity, even if it is just kinda performance pressure.
But it fucking hurts if you have to stop, especially right before. Had some situations back in the day because of parents or other stuff, the pain is insane.
Just stop. He tried his best, she didn't say anything and they broke up. Don't try to pile onto OP here, he was simply shock to hear that.
I must be old fashioned, it used to be a candlelit meal, now it's jamming things up exit holes!
If I read it correctly then she said it after the break up. Both situations are negative or evil from her.
I've done this OP.
I faked it for five years with an ex once. Only reason I did, though, was because a) I can't come from penetration alone, but b) he was so goddamn persistent and wouldn't STOP doing me and would INSIST he could make me, that I just faked it super early on so he'd fucking finish. It's pretty easy for me to contract quickly (like kegels!), so I just did that.
There is a KinkyERA, fyi. But, we're pretty dead.
This thread does make me LOL with people thinking choking is "fringe." Oh honey.
I faked it for five years with an ex once. Only reason I did, though, was because a) I can't come from penetration alone, but b) he was so goddamn persistent and wouldn't STOP doing me and would INSIST he could make me, that I just faked it super early on so he'd fucking finish. It's pretty easy for me to contract quickly (like kegels!), so I just did that.
There is a KinkyERA, fyi. But, we're pretty dead.
This thread does make me LOL with people thinking choking is "fringe." Oh honey.