My kids are 3 and 4.5.
We haven't divorced because she gave up because the paper work, etc, were too complicated for her...she just wants a paper to sign. So she essentially puts that responsibility on me alone.
She more uses it as a threat than to actually divorce...but she may want it for real though. I am not questioning it. She wants to be together because of our kids and fianancial reasons.
lol, I had the same problem. Bought a King instead of a Queen blanket and with more years I find myself not caring if I wake her up pulling it out from under her.My wife and I don't share blankets. She kept stealing them.. so I got my own. :|
You dont help with housework and kids because you want your wife to like you. You do it because it's your responsibility.To now, I have been doing adjustments to improve myself for her to feel for me sgain (like helping with house work, helping with kids).
Oh man. There's a lot to unpack here.We haven't divorced because she gave up because the paper work, etc, were too complicated for her...she just wants a paper to sign. So she essentially puts that responsibility on me alone.
Yeah sure, totally look like it.So, we have been married for 8 years. We have not been close physically once we started having kids and it got worse over the years to a point where we fight constantly and like 5 years ago she has not shared the same blanket with me, she gave me my own. She talked about divorce and separation, she wants me to sleep in a different room, I rejected all those options...I know separation would just do more damage to us.
Nah dude spend the money on a house instead it'll totally pay offYea, not like there are literally lawyers you pay to do this stuff
She more uses it as a threat than to actually divorce...but she may want it for real though. I am not questioning it. She wants to be together because of our kids and fianancial reasons.
she invited the maintenance guy to dinner with us. She acted flirty to him during dinner and him a little to her
W.T.F. ain't no maintenance guy coming over for dinner. Wtf. Seriously, that shit just opens doors for shit like this to happen.
That dude needs to get out of the picture asap and if she's not having that then you already know. It seems as if she's wanting to seek new adventure. The fact that you guys haven't been intimate for quite a while doesn't help. I know what that can be like. But typically, when it gets to that point it's difficult to bounce back. It's awkward during sex. It doesn't happen naturally and feels as if it's a chore and something you HAVE to do.
Firstly, I'd say that you guys must fix your sex life before anything else. Based on what you've said, this alone is a big contributing factor as to why she's doing what she's doing. Speaking from experience.
That maintenance guy and any other guy she's been flirting/chatting with is a big red fucking flag. Imagine if you did that shit, ask her how'd she react if you did that. It's infuriatingly because I've been through similar shit.
You know you're a terrible person when so little people are responding to your aggro posts that you have to scream into the ether repeatedly, getting more and more outrageous towards the OP, until you gain the attention that you came here for.Like read folks.
OP basically admits he didn't help with the house or kids until his wife said she wanted to break up.
Nah dude spend the money on a house instead it'll totally pay off
I also want to point out to everyone who keeps saying its her fault for not leaving, signing the divorce papers requires 2 people.
She more uses it as a threat than to actually divorce...but she may want it for real though. I am not questioning it. She wants to be together because of our kids and fianancial reasons.
If anything this guy getting involved should be considered a blessing. At some point you need to admit that things aren't okay or healthy and move on and separate. Something to kick them in the ass."The maintenance guy" isn't even in the top 10 of problems with this relationship, and that's just based on what OP is telling us, which is likely skewed anyway.
I see people suggesting "fix your sex life" and "take her out to dinner" and am like are we reading the same fuckin thing?
Look he's just trying to make her happyNa it sounds really resonable that OP is describing his wife as lazy and stupid cause she apparently is the one responsible in writing out all the paper work, cause you know thats how divorces work.
Not at all that OP is an unreliable narrator, nope
Ok so let me get this straight.My kids are 3 and 4.5.
We haven't divorced because she gave up because the paper work, etc, were too complicated for her...she just wants a paper to sign. So she essentially puts that responsibility on me alone.
She more uses it as a threat than to actually divorce...but she may want it for real though. I am not questioning it. She wants to be together because of our kids and fianancial reasons.
OK, thread just went from bad to worse.Oh man, I now remember the OP from his thread about selling his sketches, buying cars/scooters to impress his wife, and sending his kids to live in China with the wife's family.
She's not from the US, so just help her out and get the divorce settled.
You'll both be happier for it.
I know OP said there are financial troubles but every courthouse has a public attorney to help fill out paper work like this.Yea, not like there are literally lawyers you pay to do this stuff
My kids are 3 and 4.5.
We haven't divorced because she gave up because the paper work, etc, were too complicated for her...she just wants a paper to sign. So she essentially puts that responsibility on me alone.
She more uses it as a threat than to actually divorce...but she may want it for real though. I am not questioning it. She wants to be together because of our kids and fianancial reasons.
The more I re-read the OP and see the comments in this thread the more I think the OP comes across as super controlling in kind of a creepy way. The wife needs out.