Why do you need to bring so many friends? It's HIS wedding, do they at least know your brother?
Ask first and if you really need an extra spot pay for it yourself
Ask first and if you really need an extra spot pay for it yourself
Lmao it's his brother. And they're supposedly close. Nobody is saying ask him point blank in a huge gathering and put him on the spot. Just ask him casually if it's OK. This isn't asking your friend of a friends for their wedding.Nah, just don't invite extra people.
Sometimes even asking people for shit is rude and this is one of those cases.
+1 yup it's a brotherLmao it's his brother. And they're supposedly close. Nobody is saying ask him point blank in a huge gathering and put him on the spot. Just ask him casually if it's OK. This isn't asking your friend of a friends for their wedding.
Can't tell if sarcasm cause era is very awkward at timesNah, just don't invite extra people.
Sometimes even asking people for shit is rude and this is one of those cases.
This! It teaches you everything you'll need to know.
And here I am grumbling because my cousin is apparently having a "no kids" wedding and I'm debating bringing mine anyway.
Edit: real talk tho, I'm not gonna take him, we just won't go. We don't have much choice the list of people we trust with him is extremely short and they will all be at the wedding too.
Who are these people who are clamoring to be invited to a friend's brother's wedding?
Weddings genreally take a ton of planning (have had 2) and just inviting extra people is a dick move. That he even let you invite 5 people you wanted is whack as it is. My weddings invites were sent to specific people and if they were allowed to bring a partner it said +1 on it.
My second was a no kids wedding and everyone that had kids and made it loved it. But if you don't have an option then you don;t have an option. Telling your cousin that its that cut and dry might get you a pass. But just rocking up with them is not on.
Why do you need to bring so many friends? It's HIS wedding, do they at least know your brother?
Ask first and if you really need an extra spot pay for it yourself
This is where i am. You already get 5 guests and you wanna ask for more? Seems pretty ungrateful, but also who are all these people so set on going to your brother's wedding?You ungrateful son of a bitch. You already get to invite 5 fucking guests. Fucking hell man. Who the fuck do you think you are?
Everyone who has kids knows how great it is to have a night out away from the kids so it's not surprising that everyone had a great time. We don't get it often enough. IMO tho it's a bad look when your relatives who don't even have kids say "don't bring your kids" especially when they know the situation.
As far as it being "not on" I said I wasn't gonna didn't I? First post was an expression of frustration and I threw the edit in there so people didn't feel the need.
Wasn't having a pop, just tacking it on there.Everyone who has kids knows how great it is to have a night out away from the kids so it's not surprising that everyone had a great time. We don't get it often enough. IMO tho it's a bad look when your relatives who don't even have kids say "don't bring your kids" especially when they know the situation.
As far as it being "not on" I said I wasn't gonna didn't I? First post was an expression of frustration and I threw the edit in there so people didn't feel the need.
This is a good option too honestly. Tell one of your friends they can come after dinner service. There's still probably food around if it's a big wedding but this way you're not causing problems with headcount and seating arrangements.
And here I am grumbling because my cousin is apparently having a "no kids" wedding and I'm debating bringing mine anyway.
Edit: real talk tho, I'm not gonna take him, we just won't go. We don't have much choice the list of people we trust with him is extremely short and they will all be at the wedding too.
Ain't that the truth.Tell them it's a cash bar and I'm sure one of the current 5 will drop out.
How is it a bad look for childless people to tell people not to bring their kids? It's their wedding. If you can't get a sitter don't come. That's the idea.
I wouldn't invite anyone extra to the actual wedding, but usually the reception afterwards is open to anyone who wants to come. At that point it's just a party, everyone buys their owns drinks (usually) so having someone extra come along isn't a big deal.Sorry if this comes across as insensitive or whatever since I don't really know much about weddings and whatnot and I'm not sure if this is actually considered a big deal or super rude.
Anyways, my brother's wedding is coming up (and we have a pretty close relationship), and he told me to invite 5 friends. I really want to invite one more but I don't want to make it a hassle for my brother or his wife. I'm thinking it wouldn't be a big deal if she were to come to the after-church celebration stuff, like, I'm probably not even gonna be sitting much anyways, sooo....
is it possible? Has anyone ever crashed a wedding before?
And yes I'm literally asking for a friend I'm not secretly asking for myself
How can I explain this...
It can imply a number of things. Mainly I see "We don't like kids and can't have a good time with them around." Maybe a bit harsh but some people truly don't like kids and it's gonna make me wonder next time we're at a family gathering if we are annoying them just by our presence with our kid.
And from my perspective... my kid is autistic. I'm left wondering if this is connected in anyway. All the time people, especially children, with non-typical behaviors have issues in public with stares, eye-rolls, and even comments and now I'm left wondering if this is part of it.
I've seen this claim before of "we want our parent guests to have a nice night without the kids." Ok great you want to provide a nice night away from kids for the parents? You aren't providing anything except a venue and I'm certainly not lacking in venues for a night out. You're placing a demand on us not providing us anything because (and maybe your social circles are different) attending a family wedding is expected. I'm expected to go, and I'm expected to not take my kid. Don't use that excuse. If parents want to have a night out without kids to come to your wedding they can make that call on their own with what resources they have available.
And if you are ok with me not being there as a result... it pretty much says you care about my kids absence more than my presence. And if that's so... well I guess I know what you think about me. I'm disposable in your life. Cool.
So yeah. To me that's a bad look.
I've probably said enough on this topic and it's spreading into full on derail now so I'll leave it at that.
How is it a bad look for childless people to tell people not to bring their kids? It's their wedding. If you can't get a sitter don't come. That's the idea.
For a family member's wedding I definitely don't think it's a good 'look'. A family wedding excluding some of the family seems to really be missing the point to me. For childless friends, it's up to them of course, but having no close family nearby we just can't go, and others with situations like Faiz's are in their own kind of bind.
He said 5, that means 5! Don't even ask of you can bring one person more, that's fucking rude, he already lets you bring FIVE friends. Do you have the slightest idea how generous it is that you get to pick five guests for someone elses wedding? Usually people get one person as a date and that's it.
And? I never said they couldn't. I just said for family to exclude family is kind of missing the point of what is generally considered a family affair. They can do what they like. As you said, it's their wedding.
My thoughts exactly. OP have some self awareness and don't be a prick.Your friends shouldn't be a concern on that day and wording it as a "crashing of your brothers wedding" looks super selfish to me. Just one day that isn't focused on you, OP, let your brother focus on something else.
Family should go both ways. They're family, it's their wedding, if you love them and their demands are reasonable let them do what they want.
Don't like it or them? Please don't go!