Where were y'all when I was saying I think Tifa's design is trash and I was only getting hounded on for thatFF7R fans 🤝 XBC2 fans
caring more about a fictional character's "feelings" than the real person criticising the design
Where were y'all when I was saying I think Tifa's design is trash and I was only getting hounded on for thatFF7R fans 🤝 XBC2 fans
caring more about a fictional character's "feelings" than the real person criticising the design
Not to take away from the conversation happening, but I wanted to shout out some of the new cards added to Legends of Runeterra (from a new desert region).
The card game's got great art and most cards generally have good designs.
Reminds me of Kassandra from AC Odyssey.
Bayonetta's perpetual male gaze seems inevitable when you remember that the man in charge of all cutscenes & cinematics at Platinum got his start with PN03
I completely disagree.. Bayonetta is straight up sexualized, fetishisized portrayal of women. I mean, sexy librarian lady (don't forget glasses too) in leather tights making suggestive poses, and the camera is just all up in her business. I find it quite easily one of the worst offenders out there. Being confident is one thing, but substituting hyper sexualized male fantasy of what confident women look like is bad cringe in my opinion.
fwiw that Twitter user and person who runs the site is a white guy living in America. Not all articles are written by him, as the one linked to isn't. And it's not to say articles can't be well researched or provide its own perspective. Or that it can't be well intentioned. But it does kinda run up against a similar issue of a white westerners dictating conversations about another culture. I dunno. Whether that's a good thing or bad thing or just a thing is up to the audience. Can only speak for myself, but I try to listen to a variety of voices and perspectives so I'm fine with it. If there's disappointment, it's that some voices tend to be louder than others. That's a larger systemic issue I can't even begin to touch on.
I haven't played fortnite but some of the artwork and cutscenes look like the women are confident, sexy, smart and know their stuff. It also feels like I wont feel like I'm a pervert watching a peepshow while playing it.That's super interesting. For the longest time, Bayo was held up as a good example of a sexualized char every where I turned (specifically among women; don't care what other guys think regarding that).
With that no longer being the case, is it possible at all to have a good char that is also sexualized? Does one currently exist?
That's the tricky thing right, about a sexual character like Bayonetta which should be fine but then the sexualisation is unfortunately also attached which can at times undermine that. If James Bond, Kratos, Leisure Suit Larry, Geralt, and other male sexual characters can exist without sexualisation or objectification, why not female sexual characters? Surprisingly there are very few female sexual protagonists outside of RPGs like Bioware games, Assassin's Creed, or Cyberpunk 2077. There is just Cate Archer who can be sexual but isn't objectified, which is why I'm still wishing Monolith or some developer buys the rights back and makes a new NOLF game.I probably won't have the best words to say what I want to say about this matter, so I'll do the best I can. *GULPS & SIGH* Here we go!
As a lady, I highly look up to Bayonetta with all of her high levels of confidence, and self esteem. I love the way she owns who she is/herself. The way she flaunts not just her looks, but her personality is completely stellar to me in that she's become a role model to me in how I can/should/am/will embrace myself, and try to carry myself out the way she does, or at least similarly to her. I have a very... sisterly? bond with Bayonetta personally, it's like I see her in the lens of a older sister/bigger sister for me while simultaneously seeing her as a best/close/kindred friend. Whenever I play Bayonetta games, I always say to myself "Ladies day/night only! Where we do girly things and kick butt!". I love that she has dark hair like me and she wears glasses like me too! Also the double edge sword of irony here is that she is mostly covered up (well in her default outfit, and similar outfits to her default), even though all her outfits (that are funnily enough, her own hair somehow made into her own clothing) are skin tight/vacuumed sealed onto her skin. Meanwhile I feel a kind of connection to Bayonetta, it was very suffocating to see all the male gazey things going on in her games with the camera angles (when she would do those obscene poses/attack poses that the camera blatantly pans over to focus on such times, and among other things), and certain cut scenes (like the one where she and Luka were in the helicopter there was a rain drop going into her boob window cleavage for Luka to ogle who is suppose to mirror/reflect the male audience, and among other things), and of course outfitting her in questionable fetish costumes. I've grown to get use to what she does and what her powers do that take into factor of what she does, so I'm just at a weird acceptance of it since it really just adds up to who she is, however I wish the male gaze non sense would stop. I just wish that Bayonetta was moreorless the "one and done" sexual/sexualized female character, and that all other female characters from all other video games can stop with the sexualization/objectification/waifuization.
I also think it's worth noting that there was this particular cut scene where she mentions she's not interested in having children but she is rather into "the process of making children". The quote goes as: "Come now Cheshire. Look at me. Do I look like I have any interest in children? Now making them... Well, that's another story."... It would be really nice and cool to see her bed with characters in her game. I mean, back when I heard about Bayonetta and her sexuality, I was really hoping she would actually be in bed with characters, but it turns out she's having this endless waltz with herself as her sexuality, which I mean is okay and all, but I was just wishing for that to happen. I say this because I'm tired of the double standards/hypocrisy that characters like old school Kratos from od of War, and Geralt from Witcher can do these exact things in their games, but Bayonetta cannot??? All so she can be shown available for explicitly the male audience for the sake of waifuism/waifu baiting??? That's just bull to me. This would have been a tactful way of showcasing Bayonetta of who she is in her own game as part of her sexuality owning, but nope.
I want a new NOLF game, I love this series! Plus having more female leads in FPS games would be a plus.That's the tricky thing right, about a sexual character like Bayonetta which should be fine but then the sexualisation is unfortunately also attached which can at times undermine that. If James Bond, Kratos, Leisure Suit Larry, Geralt, and other male sexual characters can exist without sexualisation or objectification, why not female sexual characters? Surprisingly there are very few female sexual protagonists outside of RPGs like Bioware games, Assassin's Creed, or Cyberpunk 2077. There is just Cate Archer who can be sexual but isn't objectified, which is why I'm still wishing Monolith or some developer buys the rights back and makes a new NOLF game.
That's super interesting. For the longest time, Bayo was held up as a good example of a sexualized char every where I turned (specifically among women; don't care what other guys think regarding that).
With that no longer being the case, is it possible at all to have a good char that is also sexualized? Does one currently exist?
Love this series and the protagonist.That's the tricky thing right, about a sexual character like Bayonetta which should be fine but then the sexualisation is unfortunately also attached which can at times undermine that. If James Bond, Kratos, Leisure Suit Larry, Geralt, and other male sexual characters can exist without sexualisation or objectification, why not female sexual characters? Surprisingly there are very few female sexual protagonists outside of RPGs like Bioware games, Assassin's Creed, or Cyberpunk 2077. There is just Cate Archer who can be sexual but isn't objectified, which is why I'm still wishing Monolith or some developer buys the rights back and makes a new NOLF game.
And now we got a new Perfect Dark coming on XSX so I wonder how her design will be. Going by the concept art it seems fine.Love this series and the protagonist.
Also conversation reminds me of Perfect Dark. They had a pretty badass character in Joanna Dark but the sequel tried to make her more sexualized.
I mean it doesn't seem like there is really a consensus about her either way.That's super interesting. For the longest time, Bayo was held up as a good example of a sexualized char every where I turned (specifically among women; don't care what other guys think regarding that).
With that no longer being the case, is it possible at all to have a good char that is also sexualized? Does one currently exist?
I'm looking at some of the earlier promo pics from Perfect Dark Zero and...yikes.And now we got a new Perfect Dark coming on XSX so I wonder how her design will be. Going by the concept art it seems fine.
Yeah, it seems Rare didn't mind trying to sex her up for some reason. I bet it won't really be there in the new game mostly likely.I'm looking at some of the earlier promo pics from Perfect Dark Zero and...yikes.
Rare released these 15 artworks and images of Perfect Dark Zero. Some have already been seen before, but I'm quite sure at least a few of them are brand new.
Rare released these 15 artworks and images of Perfect Dark Zero. Some have already been seen before, but I'm quite sure at least a few of them are brand new.www.gamersyde.com
I haven't played fortnite but some of the artwork and cutscenes look like the women are confident, sexy, smart and know their stuff. It also feels like I wont feel like I'm a pervert watching a peepshow while playing it.
That's a difficult question to answer because while it's "easy" to define what constitutes being sexualized, once it's agreed on that a character is a sexualized one to then come to an agreement over how much sexualization is acceptable, which kind of sexualization is empowering, what were the intentions of the creators and most importantly how women feel about said sexualization is much more difficult since it's a subjective thing at the end of the day.
It makes sense that whenever you asked for a character that was sexualized in the "correct" way many answered Bayonetta, since I too believe she is a good attempt at it.
It doesn't mean everyone is gonna agree with it, as others already demonstrated.
To answer your question, I do believe it's possible to have a good char that is also sexualized, and one may very well exist. What is impossible IMHO is having everyone agree on it. You could ask 1000 women to divide the 100 most popular female characters in gaming in two folders: the ones that they find sexist, and the ones that they do not and it would be an half-miracle if two women came up with the same list.
It's the fun thing with not being a hivemind, everyone has different ideas. Bayonetta is widely regarded as "less bad" than others and you will find people calling her the most sexist character they ever saw.
On the other hand Pyra is widely regarded as one of the worst examples and yet you are sure to find women who will defend her to the bitter end in good faith, while also finding other characters (like Bayonetta) to be problematic.
Do you remember in the previous thread people linked the article about that woman who bonded with freaking Ivy Valentine and found her empowering and will now always love the character?
She is bound to answer that Ivy is the good kind of sexualized character you are asking for, but many would disagree. And you know what? VALID!
The only answer is that there is a different answer fore every person on the planet.
I mean it doesn't seem like there is really a consensus about her either way.
I mean, like I said I haven't played the games and it sounds like the camera is crazy awful with her--and I am certainly in no way trying to say she isn't without problem, but the question was why Bayonetta's design wasn't seen as problematic as Mythra's and Prya's. Bayo's been brought up in these threads several times over the years--most of my osmosis about her is actually through here, and just the impression I get is yeah she is sexualized but it's a lot easier to accept because her character seems to take that sexualization by the horns and directs it (camera angles aside, apparently). And if you feel like her design alone is just as bad as Mythra's/Pyra's then.. idk, guess it's just a matter of opinion. I look at Mythra and Pyra and notice 840324930 different compounded little details of stereotypical sexualization that make my lips curl and I feel disgusted and just devalued as a woman by their designs alone, vs I look at some of the crazily posed official renders of Bayonetta on google and I think she looks stupid but also kinda cool and I don't feel bad by it. Instead, I actually kinda wanna know more, and I can tell you literally no other sexualized female character from a video game I can think of has ever made me feel like that--like I wanna know more about them based on how they look instead of running away screaming. There's just something about her design and the personality she exudes that hits different.I completely disagree.. Bayonetta is straight up sexualized, fetishisized portrayal of women. I mean, sexy librarian lady (don't forget glasses too) in leather tights making suggestive poses, and the camera is just all up in her business. I find it quite easily one of the worst offenders out there. Being confident is one thing, but substituting hyper sexualized male fantasy of what confident women look like is bad cringe in my opinion.
Where were y'all when I was saying I think Tifa's design is trash and I was only getting hounded on for that
Vermillion With Bayonetta, there are a lot of women who do find her empowering and liberating, even if many like myself also acknowledge the skeeviness of the camera and other issues. So I don't think Bayonetta is a character/design that simply sucks and has no redeeming qualities and is rather more nuanced. That's not to say someone can't disagree, especially other women, but as a man weighing in I think that's something at least worth bearing in mind.
Speaking more generally I have always seen this thread as a safe space for women first and foremost so I think male members listening more than taking charge of conversations is best.
I mostly lurk and make the odd post in here but just want to say I agree with a lot of what you've been saying.It's not out of nowhere, I've been ruminating on this for several months, so if you're uncomfortable for 1 day it doesn't compare. As evidenced by the defensiveness, anything more passionate than walking on eggshells is characterised as thread assassination. It's a simplistic view of the situation to say people are being attacked. People are being asked to consider the weight of their words, both intentional and unintentional.
That's the tricky thing right, about a sexual character like Bayonetta which should be fine but then the sexualisation is unfortunately also attached which can at times undermine that. If James Bond, Kratos, Leisure Suit Larry, Geralt, and other male sexual characters can exist without sexualisation or objectification, why not female sexual characters? Surprisingly there are very few female sexual protagonists outside of RPGs like Bioware games, Assassin's Creed, or Cyberpunk 2077. There is just Cate Archer who can be sexual but isn't objectified, which is why I'm still wishing Monolith or some developer buys the rights back and makes a new NOLF game.
But, I suppose the goal is ultimately to diversify designs - not to remove sexualized designs entirely. Though we have a lot of designs to go before we have made up for the current designs of women in games, I suppose.
Personally I've always found myself really uncomfortable with the takes of 2omg look how feminist Bayonetta is". The male gaze-ness throughout the games and videos I've seen make me really uncomfortable, same as with the design. I like her personality and her as a character but.. yeah.
Personally I've always found myself really uncomfortable with the takes of 2omg look how feminist Bayonetta is". The male gaze-ness throughout the games and videos I've seen make me really uncomfortable, same as with the design. I like her personality and her as a character but.. yeah.
bayonetta only 'works' if she was a real person choosing to act the way she does. As it is, the game knows and acknowledges the male gaze and just makes a character that totally provides and people fill in the rest to sugar coat it.
Oh ho ho ho, I mean, at the current rate and ratio of female characters and their severe poorly portrayal/representation/etc, I would like a complete removal of sexualized/objectified/waifuized character designs and narratives. Oh and, I won't be meeting no man/guy consumerist in some middle grounds "compromise" of my own gender/sex, as it's suppose to be for me, and all my fellow lady sisters to feel happy with, good with, empowering with, etc.
Yeah.I mean, like I said I haven't played the games and it sounds like the camera is crazy awful with her--and I am certainly in no way trying to say she isn't without problem, but the question was why Bayonetta's design wasn't seen as problematic as Mythra's and Prya's. Bayo's been brought up in these threads several times over the years--most of my osmosis about her is actually through here, and just the impression I get is yeah she is sexualized but it's a lot easier to accept because her character seems to take that sexualization by the horns and directs it (camera angles aside, apparently). And if you feel like her design alone is just as bad as Mythra's/Pyra's then.. idk, guess it's just a matter of opinion. I look at Mythra and Pyra and notice 840324930 different compounded little details of stereotypical sexualization that make my lips curl and I feel disgusted and just devalued as a woman by their designs alone, vs I look at some of the crazily posed official renders of Bayonetta on google and I think she looks stupid but also kinda cool and I don't feel bad by it. Instead, I actually kinda wanna know more, and I can tell you literally no other sexualized female character from a video game I can think of has ever made me feel like that--like I wanna know more about them based on how they look instead of running away screaming. There's just something about her design and the personality she exudes that hits different.
Of course, maybe if/when I finally get around to playing the games I'll walk away from them completely hating it and her. But at the very least she reads super different to something like Mythra/Pyra from an outside perspective. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I'm just quoting you because I'm on the same page here. I mostly lurk (actually, I don't think I've posted in this thread at all yet, but I did make a few posts in the first OT), and as I was catching up with the last 10 or so pages (whenever the Pyra discussion started), it was getting more and more uncomfortable. Although kaebie is right that the thread in both iterations has always had a problem with the way people discuss Japan especially in regards to "progressivism", and she was 100% absolutely correct to call it out. It makes me feel sad that she basically got run out of this thread for actually speaking out about it.I mostly lurk and make the odd post in here but just want to say I agree with a lot of what you've been saying.
I'm a little disappointed actually that people in this thread who post to gain equal terms for a group mistreated were in some cases so quick to get defensive/dismissive rather than give themselves self reflection.
I literally come here as a heterosexual white male for that reason to try and improve myself and gain better understanding of different groups and positions I may not have noticed before because of the side of the river I'm on.
Apologies if this is poorly worded. Though English is my first language I'm not as articulate in putting my thoughts into words as some posters here are.
I really hope you've had time to think about this response and how bad it comes across. Non-Asian members' feelings of discomfort for having to examine the way they speak about Asian countries are in no way equatable to the absolute shit AsianEra sees on a daily basis on this site. And if you really want this thread to be a place for all of us to come together, you should be happy to examine yourself and course correct to make it a more welcoming place for everyone and not just a comfortable place for anyone to spout whatever they want as long as they are a woman.I don't have a problem with you pointing out that people should be considerate with their words. What I do have problem with is your combative tone when you came talking about this. Even right now (intentional or not) you're responding with me kind of like = tough luck, DEAL WITH IT. And how it doesn't compare to you. The only reason that I am focusing on this is that I thought we were in this together. If there were members going out of line here, why did you hold back all this time? I'm sure we could have discussed this with every respect that we all deserve. I feel that you are treating the women and other minority here as if we are like the white males who don't care about you. And that hurts me more personally.
That's all. I just want you to understand my perspective. Anyway, it's really not my intention to single you out. I'm really sorry if I went too far.
This one from a game I'm super excited about. I see some people in the comments suggesting the armors for women haven't always been this way - but I wouldn't know as I don't play as a woman in MH.
Still, they're loving that thigh window this time around
I hear you.I mean, like I said I haven't played the games and it sounds like the camera is crazy awful with her--and I am certainly in no way trying to say she isn't without problem, but the question was why Bayonetta's design wasn't seen as problematic as Mythra's and Prya's. Bayo's been brought up in these threads several times over the years--most of my osmosis about her is actually through here, and just the impression I get is yeah she is sexualized but it's a lot easier to accept because her character seems to take that sexualization by the horns and directs it (camera angles aside, apparently). And if you feel like her design alone is just as bad as Mythra's/Pyra's then.. idk, guess it's just a matter of opinion. I look at Mythra and Pyra and notice 840324930 different compounded little details of stereotypical sexualization that make my lips curl and I feel disgusted and just devalued as a woman by their designs alone, vs I look at some of the crazily posed official renders of Bayonetta on google and I think she looks stupid but also kinda cool and I don't feel bad by it. Instead, I actually kinda wanna know more, and I can tell you literally no other sexualized female character from a video game I can think of has ever made me feel like that--like I wanna know more about them based on how they look instead of running away screaming. There's just something about her design and the personality she exudes that hits different.
Of course, maybe if/when I finally get around to playing the games I'll walk away from them completely hating it and her. But at the very least she reads super different to something like Mythra/Pyra from an outside perspective. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Let's take a look at the most popular mobile games, then. I will talk about the ones from China. I am ignoring PUBG mobile because it is a port of a Korean game.
Top 5 Chinese mobile games
First place is Knives Out (荒野行动). You've probably never heard of it because it is a Fortnite-like game that draws most of its revenue from Japan. If you search for images of its costumes, you will find a lot of impractical and fetish outfits for women. But the costumes and hairstyles are gender neutral, so you can put a buff dude in a maid costume and twintails, or put everyone in street clothes.
Second place is Honor of Kings (皇者荣耀). You've probably never heard of it either because it was completely localized--character designs and all--as Arena of Valor outside of China. This is its character roster. It's very much like League of Legends in design philosophy, but the women's faces have more of a pretty CG women out of an Asian game look.
Third place is Speed Drifters (QQ飞车). It's a racing game that sells car parts and clothes for the driver avatar. The vast majority of those are modern street clothes.
(Fourth place is technically Tiao Yi Tao, but that's a stick figure + geometric shapes game, so I am not including it in the ranked list)
Fourth place is Junior Three Kingdoms (少年三国志). It's the first one on the list that has exploitative female character designs everywhere.
Fifth place is Love Nikki-Dress UP Queen (奇迹暖暖). Someone please fire the NA/EU localizer and replace them with the SEA localizer that named it Miracle Nikki. It is a costume crafting game. This is the first one on the list whose art style is distinctly patterned after Japanese animation. Its western fanbase is somewhere around 89% female and 6% nonbinary. The Chinese fanbase is about 74% female.
Top 3 Chinese retail RPGs
Here are the female protagonists of the 3 most popular retail RPGs from China, so we are not working with the Chinese = mobage/MMO stereotype.
This is a game that sold 1.36 million copies, basically in China alone, though it is available in English on Steam.
Here's some examples of robotic inspired armor from past games.
(The one on the right is the female set)
MH has never been great when it comes to female armor sets, but based on what they've shown Rise looks like one of the worst yet. Though at least the flagship's armor set isn't literal bikini armor like Nergigante in World?
Here's some examples of robotic inspired armor from past games.
(The one on the right is the female set)
MH has never been great when it comes to female armor sets, but based on what they've shown Rise looks like one of the worst yet. Though at least the flagship's armor set isn't literal bikini armor like Nergigante in World?
I really hope you've had time to think about this response and how bad it comes across. Non-Asian members' feelings of discomfort for having to examine the way they speak about Asian countries are in no way equatable to the absolute shit AsianEra sees on a daily basis on this site. And if you really want this thread to be a place for all of us to come together, you should be happy to examine yourself and course correct to make it a more welcoming place for everyone and not just a comfortable place for anyone to spout whatever they want as long as they are a woman.
I have no opinion on if Bayonetta is empowering or feminist or not as I haven't played the games. I'm not arguing against anything you're saying, I'm literally just trying to explain why I don't see her design as bad as Pyra/Mythra. I don't have enough context to say anything else. And tbh, I don't feel comfortable trying to argue or discuss this further cuz it's clearly something I don't know enough about since I haven't played it, and I feel like I'm getting a bit pinned into a corner here lol.I hear you.
I also wanted to point out that if anyone is feeling empowered by Bayo, more power to them. That is inherently a good thing. I also understand that lot of women and girls are body-conscious and Bayonetta being DGAF mode is very exciting and a strong role model to consider. Her personality is actually decent.
What I take issue with however is, as a guy, the overt-sexualization of the Bayonetta to me comes from not a place of feminism or empowerment. Her person and agency seems to have been substituted for a guy's idea of sexy witch librarian lady. Does Bayo kick ass and take names? He'll yes she does. But she could have done that without moves like this
Or this
There is...I shouldn't say "no need" for her dance moves, but rather I find the argument that she is not hyper sexualized for male fantasy NOT hold much weight. There are other sexy poses, some leaning into pole dancing. Which is fine in a specific context. But I dont see that context here. As an aside, Blaze Fielding from SoR4 is also very sexualized in her appearance: miniskirt, bra+crop top jacket. However, she works as a dance-instructor according to the lore, and her moves in the game do not evoke sexual imagery at all. But at the same time, her idle animation has her fluffing her hair back. That to me is a good example of strong character, who is also in tune with her sex appeal.
I also think that there is no right and wrong answer. Some who find Bayo empowering might find Blaze a male fantasy, or vice versa, or none at all or both. I think it's fine too! I apologize if I came off too strong.
She finally won my heart eluding the trap that almost no female hero in any medium manages to escape: maternal bondage. When Father Balder reveals that the little girl entrusted to Bayonetta is, in fact, herself as a child, all of the tumblers click into place. Protecting Cereza unlocks Bayonetta's capacity to care for herself, not her ability to ensure the futurity of the species by creating a new generation. Her growing affection for the girl is actually directed inward, her combat skills put to use for her own advancement and not that of another. While she does require assistance to survive the endgame, it comes in the form of another Umbra Witch, a female figure with whom she is much more evenly matched intellectually, sexually, and in terms of actual power.
I'd like to pause here for a moment and recognize that none of the above analysis is without problems. The black widow, the inaccessible woman, the oversexed tease, the kickass chick these are all representations that have been used to oppress and objectify. Sexism, racism, and homophobia in the video game industry are serious concerns, and I doubt that the designers of this game had many thoughts about women's lib while making the character models. I don't think this is cause enough to chastise the women who recognize something empowering in her. Bayonetta certainly defied all of my expectations and passed many of the tests I put in place for female game heroes: a brutal, multi-faceted warrior, she ended up on top, single, childless, and with only a female companion to thank for her victory.
It's only this and the normal skin tone as far as I know.Still looks good! Is it only the normal skin tone and this one, or does it go the full spectrum?
I'm looking at some of the earlier promo pics from Perfect Dark Zero and...yikes.
Rare released these 15 artworks and images of Perfect Dark Zero. Some have already been seen before, but I'm quite sure at least a few of them are brand new.
Rare released these 15 artworks and images of Perfect Dark Zero. Some have already been seen before, but I'm quite sure at least a few of them are brand new.www.gamersyde.com
I wanted to drop this discussion and leave it as it is. Everybody already said their piece and I already apologised to kaebie which she used as an opportunity to have a go at me again before she decided to leave. Despite that I accepted it and I still feel sorry for her. Now you're putting words in my mouth, and again making it about who has it worse. Before I talk more about this. Just to take all doubt away, which I have already mentioned multiply times already, I am happy to examine myself and make the place more welcoming for everyone. It is a good thing to be more specific to avoid unintentional racism. I don't even know why you're telling me this when it should be clear where I stand based on my comments.
Now to get back at this whole comparison between who has it worse, Asians vs non Asians as you mentioned. Do you know what's funny? I'm not even considered western. Heck, I'm not only Arabic but I'm also a Muslim who happens to be a woman! Based on this, I feel that I shouldn't be grouped as one with a western or ignorant perspective or however you want to call it. Secondly, I feel that this who has it worse card is really unnecessary and petty. Can you tell me who has it worse? Does that make me qualified to talk? Do you see how silly this sounds from my perspective?
I belong to one of the most worst treated groups and I am told that I am not accepting and that I don't understand how it feels. Not only do I belong to this group which is rife with racism against, I have also been treated with (physical) abuse by men/family. Also child physical abuse. I damn know well how it feels. I truly believed that anyone who participates in this thread has good intentions and wants what's best for all of us except for those (suicide) trolls that show themselves sometimes. Maybe that's being way too naive and maybe you have your reasons to behave this way (I mean in general whoever holds this opinion and not literally you). I stand by what I said earlier. I fully agree with the message of kaebie and I fully support it. But coming in this thread with the way she did was not the right way. She might have not only unintentionally hurt women who belong here but other minority groups who might have felt attacked or feeling like they are less important. We could have talked about Asian racism in this thread like how we talk about many things endlessly here. This attack with guns blazing attitude is not doing us any good. We make this thread more welcoming by being more mindful of our words AND giving the benefit of the doubt first before we start attacking. That is my point.
Do you now understand why I sound defensive or hurt? Don't make assumptions about me. Don't try to educate me about racism and tell me how I should have had the time to think about it. This sounds insulting and belittling with someone of my background.