This is a progressive forum that tries to make it safe for users that would otherwise be unwelcome to the general gaming community, which has proven to be toxic and bizarrely out of control. Moderators have a hard job in choosing how to best keep the forum a safe and healthy environment for everybody, so yeah some topics will result in warnings and the occasional ban. If you're worried about some of the ban decisions, you can PM a moderator and ask them about it.
Topics that expose shitty behaviour will, more often than not, result in negative discussion of said person being shitty. I don't really see what's wrong with the Jaffe example. Particularly now when celebrities and voices of influence are being exposed for the pieces of shit they are, you have to expect there will be dramatic threads about it.
Are there a lot of things that we, as a community, could do better? Of course! There's always room for improvement, why not start some positive and fun threads about stuff you like? We need less dark topics.