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Why do people lie about their height so much?
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I'm 6'5" (195 cm) in a country where the average height isn't that high (Basque Country), so I stand out in the crowd quite a bit.
If women are actually more attracted to tall men, guess I'm the exception to the rule.
If women are actually more attracted to tall men, guess I'm the exception to the rule.
I think I made out lucky to be exactly 6 feet tall. My mother is 5'4 and my father is 6'4, so I feel lucky to be closer to him than her.
Had a few occasions where people wouldn't believe me about my height because they thought they were around the same but were clearly shorter. People can get weird if they think they're being called out on their height.
I admit I'm not sure I grasp what this thread is about. In what circumstances does your height come up that isn't immediately obvious by simply looking at you? I'm pretty tiny for a guy (1m70cm, or 5'6") but I've never even considering lying about it, what would be the point?
Enlighten me, Era.
Enlighten me, Era.
While I've never felt the need to lie about how obviously short I am, I can understand why some might, what with the shallow cuntishness of the online dating scene and the whole "manlet" thing (it's just a joke, guy, I'm implying you're somehow deficient, flawed and inferior due to a generic trait you have no control over HAHAHA).
That was my guess, but one would assume the ruse would be obvious once they meet in person?
(I'm just now picturing a romantic comedy scene where they couple agree to meet at a restaurant, the guy is already seated, and comes with increasingly wacky excuses not to stand up).
I have a cousin who is close to 6' and I know she's had trouble getting dates in the past.
Depends on the height difference between the man and a woman. If she's 5' tall, she probably can't tell the difference between someone 5'10 and 6' tall. But if she's 6' tall I'm sure she would notice.
Insecurities, from both men and women.
As tallness is considered attractive, many men lie about their height (within a range) so they can be perceived as taller and more masculine. This is specially true for average sized men, who are 'close' to being tall but not really there.
Really short men don't really need to lie because they're still short after the fact (I'm 164cm tall, I could lie and say I'm 166 or 167 and most people wouldn't notice, but the gain is minimal because I'm still very short)
In case of women, it is true that most prefer taller partners. That's ok when it's just a preference.
But there's a subset of very short women who actually want/need a VERY tall partner, not just taller. Also, due to personal insecurities. They compensate their perceived lack of height with that of their partner's.
As tallness is considered attractive, many men lie about their height (within a range) so they can be perceived as taller and more masculine. This is specially true for average sized men, who are 'close' to being tall but not really there.
Really short men don't really need to lie because they're still short after the fact (I'm 164cm tall, I could lie and say I'm 166 or 167 and most people wouldn't notice, but the gain is minimal because I'm still very short)
In case of women, it is true that most prefer taller partners. That's ok when it's just a preference.
But there's a subset of very short women who actually want/need a VERY tall partner, not just taller. Also, due to personal insecurities. They compensate their perceived lack of height with that of their partner's.
I'm 6'3 and I can't say there have ever been any downsides. In high school people would say "oh my god you're so tall!" or ask "how's the weather up there?" way to much because I was this tall quite young. I never had an issue with flying economy (AU to US), I make it work. I have more issues with the back seats in cars.
The only time I really feel tall is when little old ladies ask me to reach things in the supermarket.
The only time I really feel tall is when little old ladies ask me to reach things in the supermarket.
I'm 5'6"... My current GF is taller then me by an inch. You should see some of the looks when shes wearing heels HAHA
I don't get it, but whatever. I know that there's people who are absolutely stuck on height and that's a real shame.
I don't get it, but whatever. I know that there's people who are absolutely stuck on height and that's a real shame.
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Insecurity because of the way height is perceived. I used to lie about being a couple inches taller so I wasn't perceived to be some kind of ''manlet''.
I'm 5'8.3, it's all good lol, the internet shit just messes with you. If you were online all the time, one would think that if you aren't 6 foot you're doomed.
I don't think that's the case irl at all.
The fact that I used to worry about this shit was stupid af. No one should.
I'm 5'8.3, it's all good lol, the internet shit just messes with you. If you were online all the time, one would think that if you aren't 6 foot you're doomed.
I don't think that's the case irl at all.
The fact that I used to worry about this shit was stupid af. No one should.
Because otherwise you'd get swiped away.
Saves the bother with people who are weird about specific numbers, though. It also seems more of a dealbreaker to get someone interested online than IRL, where my 173cm ass gets hit on by women as tall or taller. On Tinder most girls who say they are >170 also say that they demand 180 dudes 🤷♀️
Saves the bother with people who are weird about specific numbers, though. It also seems more of a dealbreaker to get someone interested online than IRL, where my 173cm ass gets hit on by women as tall or taller. On Tinder most girls who say they are >170 also say that they demand 180 dudes 🤷♀️
I'm 6'5" so I've never had to lie about my height and so my perspective on this is from a outsider.
I think part of it is because people idealize us tall folks when it isn't all roses for us. Shopping for clothes and just things revolving around comfort are a bitch for us. The world is a much more expensive place for us sometimes.
I think part of it is because people idealize us tall folks when it isn't all roses for us. Shopping for clothes and just things revolving around comfort are a bitch for us. The world is a much more expensive place for us sometimes.
If I let everyone that's 5'10 or 5'9" have their way and lie about their height then I'd be bumped up to 6' or a little taller because we can't all be 5'11". I'm actually 5'11" as measured bare foot year after year at the doctor's office. In their defense though I am likely over 6' when I wear some boots.
why does it matter?
i can't think of a situation where someone's ability to grab things off the top shelf have been a true factor.
I've been in a relationship since before the rise of dating apps so I don't know if this is an universal experience, but a close friend once told me that he has to lie about his height in there to get matches, even though he's perfectly comfortable with his height.
He's 5'8", but apparently since everyone on Tinder lies about that crap, putting 5'8" in your Tinder profile must mean you're 4'9" or something.
He's 5'8", but apparently since everyone on Tinder lies about that crap, putting 5'8" in your Tinder profile must mean you're 4'9" or something.
there's a point of diminishing returns. Most people are not EXTREMELY tall which is what I consider 6'5ish. But being a short person has detrimental effects not only in relationships these days, which is why so many lie about it, but google the numerous studies done that show that taller men are richer and more successful. Taller men in higher positions in a lot of corporations, demand more "executive presence" naturally, and so on and so forth. The perception of the taller male is that they are stronger, smarter, more confident, etc.
So yes being REALLY tall has discomfort implications but being short is a goddamn problem for a man in todays society in just about every aspect other than comfort. Also short slim dudes probably have an impossible time finding clothes as well.
This being a thing is why
"That? Oh, he's just much much more closer to the camera than I am. Like, WAYYYYY closer.....really yeah..."
I'm actually 5 feet and 9.5 inches but I always tell people I'm 5'9. I'm sure with shoes on it's 5'10, but I really feel icky about lying about my height for some reason so I always say it's 5'9.
It's funny I'm 6'2 1/2 and nowadays I really don't feel all that tall, especialy compared to when I was younger. I get to see many people about the same height as I am, and quite a bit that are actually taller than I am.
That said, I feel like I am in the right spot. I can drive my ND miata comfortably with the seat backed all the way out lol
That said, I feel like I am in the right spot. I can drive my ND miata comfortably with the seat backed all the way out lol
Likewise, and whilst I do enjoy looming at people I'd trade it in happily to not hit my head on quite so many things!
Funny tall-person story - there's a light fitting in the kitchen of my new flat that just doesn't work. You flip the switch, and the other light comes on, but no matter what you do to the bulbs this one fitting just doesn't come on.
My dad visited last week, and he's a fair bit shorter than me - imagine my surprise when I enter the kitchen to find that light working!
Turns out it's on a separate switch, that's directly in the overhang of a wall-mounted cabinet and completely invisible to me from every standing angle in the entire room.
People don't build things for tall people.
I am a 167cm woman, and the two men that I have/have had a serious relationship with are both around 175/179cm tall. That has never bothered me, it actually makes it more practical for kissing sessions, than if they had been taller than that. Also taller men have never ever made me feel safe in anyway. And I'd date Elijah Wood or Daniel Radcliffe in a fucking heartbeat. Anyway, height is not a huge component in my choice of partners, is what I'm saying. It's rather trivial, I have many other criteria to fill that are much more important, like: Are they an asshole? Do they have empathy? Do we have similar moral/ethics/political/social worldviews? And so on.
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Yeeeeah, needing a little more leg room is worse than reading or being told you aren't a real man cause some arbitrary height line you didn't pass due to no fault on your part.
This went from short people trying to explain why one might like about heigh to tall people in here and saying how life is a little inconvenient for them. This is always the issue with height threads.
Tall women are hella rad though. We love & appreciate tall women in this house.
I think because it's hard to tell how tall someone is just by looking at them? You would just think six feet as long as they are close. I am 5'5 which is not short compared to a lot of girls I know.
I see, that makes sense I guess. The whole thing about ruling out people from arbitrary numbers (rather than, say, eyeballing, which may still be shallow but at least makes intuitive sense) is weird to me, hahah.
My SO is about my height or perhaps a few mm taller (she's tall for a Spanish woman and I'm short for a guy), so I guess we get those looks too. It's kind of nice not having to fetch things in tall shelves for her, though. :)
I think you have it quite backwards; attraction doesn't have anything to do with "thinking". You can't really fault anyone for what they're attracted to; it's especially fruitless to try to model what their reasoning may be, because there's no "reasoning" to begin with.
No matter what everyones says but excluding people for dating because race is racist (race is not a preference, fuck that).
Excluding people for height is being a shitty person.
In general, if someone excludes you for whatever thing you can't control, that person is dumb.
Excluding people for height is being a shitty person.
In general, if someone excludes you for whatever thing you can't control, that person is dumb.
From my experience, some girls are really not into short guys. That's probably the situation i can imagine people might lie about it
yeah i'm 6'2" and airplane travel is a nightmare.
I visit China around once a year (wife is half chinese and has lots of relatives there) and while there are tons of gwailo (foreigners) there now and natives have gotten taller due to diets, 20+ years ago it was always hilarious. I was literally the giant in the land of the Lilliputians, people would just stop me to take pictures or touch me, you could find me instantly in any crowd, etc. I'm not even that tall, like in Netherlands I feel like the short one. There were tons of facilities and buildings and stuff in China 20+ years ago that were a nightmare for anyone over 5'8" though, like literally having to duck all the time or seats everywhere not designed for anyone that tall and never finding clothes that fit anywhere.
and yeah dating in the west is crazy, when I was young so many women would tell me they only date guys 6' or higher. Women frequently lie about their height too, never really understood why I don't know a single guy who really cared about it. I don't really understand why women wear heels though either, shit looks uncomfortable as hell but my wife loves her shoes like the way I love video games. She's tried to explain to me it makes her feel more feminine and attractive but to me heels always are "stripper work shoes", she hits me when I say that though. I figure it must be one of those things women look at each other about, I never look at what a woman is wearing on her feet but I've been told women judge men a LOT on their shoes.