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When do you call it quits on friends who are Q?
- Thread starter Fonst
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We're talking a SUPER close friend or family member, otherwise I'd choose to not associate with them and their beliefs.
I would, however, reach out to their families and check to see if they're OK. Q being a cult and all.
I would, however, reach out to their families and check to see if they're OK. Q being a cult and all.
If they were a true Q believer, I'd cut them out immediately. I don't need to have people in my life who willingly avoid facts and peddle dangerous bullshit.
This thread made me think, if my best bud who I've known since 5th grade, starts to dabble in Q how I would react...like cutting him off is not a solution. He's a hardcore dem, he would never fall into this abyss, but just a thought experiment for myself. I honestly wouldn't know what to do. I feel OP.
I think the real question is how good of a friend are they? If my best friend (which I never really had one) who was reasonable and who I thought I knew for a long time got into this line of thinking, I would have to stop hanging around them. If they were just acquaintances somewhat, it doesn't really matter.
I haven't got time in my life to deal with shit like that. When I was younger I probably would have put some effort into trying to 'save' them but now I have too many worries of my own, a mortgage, debts etc as well as three kids, so I would probably just cut them loose.
I don't really do facebook but I have seen some of this shit floating around with some former high school acquaintances.
I feel like I;m a fairly decent judge of character and usually before I get a sense of whether they are crazy or not before I decide to be actual freinds with these people.
I feel like I;m a fairly decent judge of character and usually before I get a sense of whether they are crazy or not before I decide to be actual freinds with these people.
I think the only thing that can snap these people out is realizing their family and friends are gone.
I guess it depends on how long I've been friends with the person. One of the guys in my friend group who I'm not incredibly close with, but has been part of that group since middle school (we are in our early 30's) is going down the Q path right now. He has always been a bit of a dummy, but a decent person at heart. I'm trying to keep him on the right track, and it is a struggle sometimes, but I think it is worth it in the long run. Some people you give up on, sure. But friends and family, if they mean a damn to you, you have to keep fighting for. Cut your losses eventually, but don't bail at the first sign of trouble.
Here are some articles that explain victims of Q:
https://www.scientificamerican.com/...es-share-a-cluster-of-psychological-features/
https://psychcentral.com/blog/conspiracy-theory-disorder-understanding-why-people-believe/
https://www.scientificamerican.com/...es-share-a-cluster-of-psychological-features/
https://psychcentral.com/blog/conspiracy-theory-disorder-understanding-why-people-believe/
Yeah. I think being physically there with someone rather than online helps. When they can see the growing concern as your face as they detail Hillary's child smuggling ring, it makes them realize how far gone they are.
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These are some good reads! I especially liked the quote...
My wife's cousin is like this. Doesn't mention qanon but posts all the same talking points via memes.
Like, one post was this supposed "passenger list" or "flight log" to Epstein's Island. It was just a white page with a couple hundred names types on it. No source, no dates, no flight #s, no other info, just names.
Of course it had a bunch a famous Hollywood types on it, and the most recognizable/famous names were highlighted.
And this lady is unemployed, so just sits at home, bored, getting radicalized by Facebook.
Oh and her husband is a cop, so I'm sure they're hardcore blue liners too. And supposedly he had covid earlier in the year but was asymptomatic, so that didn't help things I'm sure.
Like, one post was this supposed "passenger list" or "flight log" to Epstein's Island. It was just a white page with a couple hundred names types on it. No source, no dates, no flight #s, no other info, just names.
Of course it had a bunch a famous Hollywood types on it, and the most recognizable/famous names were highlighted.
And this lady is unemployed, so just sits at home, bored, getting radicalized by Facebook.
Oh and her husband is a cop, so I'm sure they're hardcore blue liners too. And supposedly he had covid earlier in the year but was asymptomatic, so that didn't help things I'm sure.
Honestly can't imagine an actual close friend being susceptible to that bullshit. I think if it theoretically did happen I'd at least try to reason with them, especially since it'd be a recent transformation. If it continued for too long though I'd probably end up distancing myself, just sounds so fucking exhausting.
If it's someone I care about, I'd try to stick a few fact checking discussions into the conversation, but I've had one recently who is full on crazy. Covid denier, Soros hating, you name it. Job depends on EU/govt help that's being pulled, still voted for Brexit and the Tories. Beyond help.
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I am curious if someone told everyone/everyone decided not to use Q/Qanon specifically in posts anymore because websites are beginning to block it so they can't "spread the message."
But there's so much to learn with conspiracy theories that you may as well just read up on what's actually going on.
It's crazy the amount of time people put into 'researching' this stuff. People lose their whole families over it.
I work with someone who is falling deeper and deeper into the Q hole thanks to Facebook. And it IS. FUCKING. EXHAUSTING.
And this was a guy who couldn't care less about politics 4-5 years ago. Talk radio, Fox News and Facebook fixed that.
The number of people in my life where that wouldn't be an immediate cutting them out of my life can probably be counted on one hand. Anyone far gone enough to fall into it in the first place probably isn't someone you can pull out.
If they were close friends or family I've known for years, I'd probably put the work in. I'm kinda curious about cult deprogramming stuff anyway.
If it's an acquaintance, "Facebook friend," coworker, or something? I'm not putting energy into that.
If it's an acquaintance, "Facebook friend," coworker, or something? I'm not putting energy into that.
"Have" to help is too strong, but I try to help where I can. Not at the risk of my own sanity/patience, though. I'll genuinely have open discourse with anyone that I'm friends with about this stuff until I get sick of it, but I don't generally unfriend them for it on social media unless it's egregious.
I'm not entirely sure I get what going "q" means. But right now I'm feeling way down.
One of my friends that I've known since third grade and me had an altercation. I just couldn't handle the bigoted views and they made me down right pissed. So pissed that I two days ago decided to fight him and put him in his place. Like pushing him and stuff. He refused to fight. I regretted this immediately after comig home and called him up to say I'm sorry. I've told him 10 times over I'm sorry.
But nevermind what he said because now everyone is cracking jokes about me without knowing what was said. Even when I explain what he's said I'm the crazy one. It's bad. His comments was so bad that I'd rather not repeat what he said.
I just, I don't know anymore. Who are my friends? Those protecting him, are they my friends?
One of my friends that I've known since third grade and me had an altercation. I just couldn't handle the bigoted views and they made me down right pissed. So pissed that I two days ago decided to fight him and put him in his place. Like pushing him and stuff. He refused to fight. I regretted this immediately after comig home and called him up to say I'm sorry. I've told him 10 times over I'm sorry.
But nevermind what he said because now everyone is cracking jokes about me without knowing what was said. Even when I explain what he's said I'm the crazy one. It's bad. His comments was so bad that I'd rather not repeat what he said.
I just, I don't know anymore. Who are my friends? Those protecting him, are they my friends?
I don't think anyone can give you advice on this without knowing what he said. You may have handled this poorly by trying to start a fight, yeah. Also did you like...push him in the heat of the moment or like plan ahead of time that you were going to try to goad him into a fight? Cause if your plan was to goad him into fighting you, then winning the fight to prove some kind of point, and then he refused to fight you...yeah you do come out looking kind of stupid.
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It's what he said. Like to random people. I won't have they in my life. I lost it, sure. But I've known him such a long time and he thinks that's just "humour". Nah.
Damn maybe you should've just clocked him for that. Your friends know he said this and don't care? They seem...kinda trash too tbh.
Either way, you should absolutely not be friends with this person.
I did choke him. I grabbed his throat for second or two and pushed him aside. He made me rabid.
Still, I'm the talk now. I'm the crazy one and everyone just want to talk how "I lost it". Sure, it's not my usual self to act like that but c'mon, what the hell? People be normalizing that kind of talk..
EDIT: My friends didn't know what he said because I'm the last to gossip. I always see an altercation between to people as personal, it stays between them. But I'm used to that talk spread fast where I live - and boy did they ever! I ratherbe the "violent trigger happy person" that an openly plain racist fuck. We'll see in time how many friends will agree with me. Just, it's.. I'm tired. I don't have much energy to prove or argue my point of view. It's plain to see. I'd rather be alone than with bigots.
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Clocked as in punched, not choked. I'm assuming your friends see it that way because they don't take issue with the racism.
Ah, sorry. I read wrong. I didn't punch him but I was well ready to do so, even coaxed him. My friends protect him because of past family tragedies but that doesn't excuse anything because the same behaviour existed well before that.
Yeah, I don't know what else to say. And I understand it's hard to give advice on these issues without knowing the whole history.
I just needed to vent, sorry. I'm just tired of trying to be a decent person.
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No problem, your reaction to his blatant racism was understandable
Pretty much, I've had some acquaintances that ended up being Q but cut them off pretty much as soon as I found out. If it's someone I've known for a long time I'd actually discuss why they think it and at least try and find out if there is something I can get through to them. That's what a good friend should do, if it ends up failing then eventually they'd get cut off.