While spanking happens universally the op is right that it's much more of a culturally black thing. Just look at any of the surveys out there https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/12/17/parenting-in-america/st_2015-12-17_parenting-09/
The problem with labeling it conservative is that black culture is both really conservative and really progressive at the same time.Every Black thread here gets alllivesmattered within page 1.
And Black culture is disproportionately highly conservative and religious. Black people know what we're talking about when we make these threads.
are you black and your family is? Just kind of confusing story because you say "black people" in your title, but the only thing you say in your post is about a white woman beating her kid.
Every Black thread here gets alllivesmattered within page 1.
And Black culture is disproportionately highly conservative and religious. Black people know what we're talking about when we make these threads.
I was spanked, wife was spanked. We turned out ok. We don't hit our children.
Why? If you both turned out 'ok', why did you decide not beat your kids as well?
I always find it weird when people claim they turned out fine after being beaten but don't do the same to their kids.
It's not a black people thing at all. Talk to some East/South East Asian people, some of them will be grinning ear to ear while telling you about hitting their kids.
The one thing I have noticed is that some black people record their beating and post them to social media. Some also seems to take pleasure from giving their kids a weird haircut.
Why? If you both turned out 'ok', why did you decide not beat your kids as well?
I always find it weird when people claim they turned out fine after being beaten but don't do the same to their kids.
I see a ton of wives who walk all over their husbands so, I dunno, maybe it's a fair form of discipline.
I always find it weird when people claim they turned out fine after being beaten but don't do the same to their kids.
The difference is not hitting them. Hitting your kid is abuse.There's a difference between disciplining your kids and abusing them. I can't tell you the amount of times I've seen children just walk all over their parents.
You should see something wrong with it, it's abuse.Nah it's not a black thing. I'm in the south and a lot of white people reminisce on days they got spankings from catholic school or they moms/dads as well.
I personally don't see anything wrong with popping/ spanking as a last resort but that's just me.
Beating kids is a common thing in any conservative/highly religious culture
I personally don't see anything wrong with popping/ spanking as a last resort but that's just me.
Don't you know that's completely different? Children are property, like dogs or punching bags /s
Would you say so to any other group of people?
"I didn't want to beat my wife/father/employee, but I had no other options"
There are other ways to discipline kids that have actually proven to be effective and not harmful, whereas physical punishment has never been conclusively linked to ANY positive outcomes by studies, and that includes increased compliance with the rulesAdults aren't kids, the Dynamics are worlds apart. I'd never hit my girlfriend, I can reason with her.
Adults aren't kids, the Dynamics are worlds apart. I'd never hit my girlfriend, I can reason with her.
every single time this comes up we get the child abuse defense force over here talking about how a practice that has been proven to have a ton of negative consequences and literally no proven positives or even proof that it actually works at all is actually good and acceptable
You can't reason with a dog either, would you hit your dog if it misbehaved?
Wow, you're actually going there. Amazing.Adults aren't kids, the Dynamics are worlds apart. I'd never hit my girlfriend, I can reason with her.
Saying "I'm not broken" does not mean there were no adverse effects on you from being spanked. You don't have to begrudge your parents, but clearly you learned better than to hit your own children. My mother was beaten regularly by her father, she did not continue that behavior (only spanked me once in my entire life and immediately regretted it). I'm not gonna say my mom is 'broken' from the abuse but she certainly learned from it and was affected by it (and has a horrible relationship with her parents because they are shit parents).I don't agree with physical discipline, but i was spanked as a child.
I am not broken. I recognize that is not how i want to show discipline. I don't begrudge my parents, but i know i will do things differently from them.
There's a difference between disciplining your kids and abusing them. I can't tell you the amount of times I've seen children just walk all over their parents.