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What's the meanest thing someone has said to you?
- Thread starter Kino
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I teach in a high school and was a substitute for a few years... You'd be amazed the things kids can come up with that they think will get under your skin.
That said, the meanest thing that someone said to me that actually had an effect was when I was back in middle school and a kid in my class told me to kill myself while we were having an argument. I hit him, we got in a real brief fight, both got suspended, and I got to spend the weekend thinking over what it would actually mean to kill myself; a thought that had never occurred to me prior to that interaction. But you move past these things and eventually it gets harder and harder for words of any kind to really do much of anything to you after the first time you hear them.
That said, the meanest thing that someone said to me that actually had an effect was when I was back in middle school and a kid in my class told me to kill myself while we were having an argument. I hit him, we got in a real brief fight, both got suspended, and I got to spend the weekend thinking over what it would actually mean to kill myself; a thought that had never occurred to me prior to that interaction. But you move past these things and eventually it gets harder and harder for words of any kind to really do much of anything to you after the first time you hear them.
"I don't want to be with you. I want to be with a guy I can be proud of"
A girl I was in love with during high school. Never wanted to look at another girl after that. Thankfully I got over it eventually.
A girl I was in love with during high school. Never wanted to look at another girl after that. Thankfully I got over it eventually.
I don't know if it was the meanest, but definitely mean.
I was sitting across a girl all night and we flirted the whole time. I had to go, so I got up and left the bar.
We met again later at a party and she basically said to my face that she thought I would be taller and in that case she would have been interested.
Like... What the fuck? If that was her opinion, okay.. But why tell me? She really hit a sensible point there and I'm still kinda angry I didn't react more harshly back then. Should've asked her what her fucking problem was and if she really thought this was acceptable behavior.
I was sitting across a girl all night and we flirted the whole time. I had to go, so I got up and left the bar.
We met again later at a party and she basically said to my face that she thought I would be taller and in that case she would have been interested.
Like... What the fuck? If that was her opinion, okay.. But why tell me? She really hit a sensible point there and I'm still kinda angry I didn't react more harshly back then. Should've asked her what her fucking problem was and if she really thought this was acceptable behavior.
"You are Satan"
"You are the reason I drink"
"I wish I never had you"
Repeatedly throughout my life from my mother. There are other worst things I could share but they are the kind of psychological forms of being mean and I don't know how to word it properly.
One in particular was my brother when I was suicidal yelling at me for asking one of his friends to come pick me up to save me essentially from my drunk mom that was terrorizing me and slamming stuff all over the apartment and him getting mad I even asked which lead him to drive off with his friend leaving me there to my own devices. Luckily I didn't jump off the bridge that night, just barely.
"You are the reason I drink"
"I wish I never had you"
Repeatedly throughout my life from my mother. There are other worst things I could share but they are the kind of psychological forms of being mean and I don't know how to word it properly.
One in particular was my brother when I was suicidal yelling at me for asking one of his friends to come pick me up to save me essentially from my drunk mom that was terrorizing me and slamming stuff all over the apartment and him getting mad I even asked which lead him to drive off with his friend leaving me there to my own devices. Luckily I didn't jump off the bridge that night, just barely.
Are some of you okay? Some of you have heard some truly fucked up things.
(As for me, I have some relatives with some problems, so I have heard some truly mean and vile things thrown my way. I've had to learn to not let it get to me. But when you hear someone repeatedly say that they fantasize about some fictional character like Kratos killing you violently, well, it's sort of surreal.)
(As for me, I have some relatives with some problems, so I have heard some truly mean and vile things thrown my way. I've had to learn to not let it get to me. But when you hear someone repeatedly say that they fantasize about some fictional character like Kratos killing you violently, well, it's sort of surreal.)
Remember being in school about 14 or so and someone casually said to me something along the lines of 'you know none of your group like you, they don't want you hanging around anymore'
It was devastating I can still remember the gut punch, all of a sudden feeling rejected and alone
I remember feeling the same again a few years later, a mate in the pub dropped into conversation that some of the guys I played 5 a side football with were going to quit if I didn't, I was shocked, I wasn't the best but wasn't exactly an issue. And FFS your in your twenties just talk to me if you have an issue! The same feelings came back!
It was devastating I can still remember the gut punch, all of a sudden feeling rejected and alone
I remember feeling the same again a few years later, a mate in the pub dropped into conversation that some of the guys I played 5 a side football with were going to quit if I didn't, I was shocked, I wasn't the best but wasn't exactly an issue. And FFS your in your twenties just talk to me if you have an issue! The same feelings came back!
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"You don't really have cancer, you're just fishing for sympathy/money" - submitted anonymously to me online, but, would have had to have been from one of my online friends, as they were the only ones I had told at that point. The anonymity was the worst, I didn't know who to feel comfortable around any more, and the thought that everyone felt that way just ate me alive.
too many to list, so many memories flooding back from high school.
One that always sticks out to me was when we had to partner up in history class for some project. I went right to the guy that I worked with last time cus I thought it went really well. He saw me approaching and in the most loud voice possible said "NO BRO, DONT EVEN COME OVER HERE. YOU ARE THE WORST YOU FAT FUCK." Everyone around laughed their ass off and I just went back to my seat till there was 1 other person left without a partner and got matched by the teacher.
One that always sticks out to me was when we had to partner up in history class for some project. I went right to the guy that I worked with last time cus I thought it went really well. He saw me approaching and in the most loud voice possible said "NO BRO, DONT EVEN COME OVER HERE. YOU ARE THE WORST YOU FAT FUCK." Everyone around laughed their ass off and I just went back to my seat till there was 1 other person left without a partner and got matched by the teacher.
From my father, who said I was an embarrassment.
He'll die before he ever hearing my voice again.
He'll die before he ever hearing my voice again.
Probably my ex girlfriend calling me a failure etc while she was the one with most issues going on its quite funny.
Glad i blocked that lil...... everywhere.
She dumped me cuz we had a few rough days because i spend more time on my horribly ill dad than her and was stressed out that he could die. Like bitch he is deadly ill, she never understood thst and roasted me and ended the relationship.
Honestly after that i was like fuck it i am done forever with this girl. She also made fun of the sexual abuse i had as a child. By jokingly saying bet you will end up with a guy since you did it with one before. Tbh after that i almost wanted to fly to england and have a fight lol but dw i didnt do that. Seriously tho making fun of me being sexual abused as a kid by a teenage guy is not fuckin funny. She is so pathetic and selfish its insane.
Also sucks this was my first relationship but tbh stuff like this can happen and it wont taint me. Its been 5 months now and my dad got a new kidney and is recovering and i am doing well irl :) i remember that she dmed me awhile ago and wanted to be friends LOL i was like nah bye and blocked her ass everywhere.
Glad i blocked that lil...... everywhere.
She dumped me cuz we had a few rough days because i spend more time on my horribly ill dad than her and was stressed out that he could die. Like bitch he is deadly ill, she never understood thst and roasted me and ended the relationship.
Honestly after that i was like fuck it i am done forever with this girl. She also made fun of the sexual abuse i had as a child. By jokingly saying bet you will end up with a guy since you did it with one before. Tbh after that i almost wanted to fly to england and have a fight lol but dw i didnt do that. Seriously tho making fun of me being sexual abused as a kid by a teenage guy is not fuckin funny. She is so pathetic and selfish its insane.
Also sucks this was my first relationship but tbh stuff like this can happen and it wont taint me. Its been 5 months now and my dad got a new kidney and is recovering and i am doing well irl :) i remember that she dmed me awhile ago and wanted to be friends LOL i was like nah bye and blocked her ass everywhere.
I honestly can't remember. Never had anyone really hurt me by words, they never had the reason to, I guess. Maybe they're mean behind my back but I don't really give a shit. I don't concern myself with the words of someone who doesn't matter to me in the slightest. Life is too short for that shit.
"Some people are just not meant to be happy"
From my best friend at the time during a very emotional breakup.
From my best friend at the time during a very emotional breakup.
I used to work for the DWP here in the UK, so I heard variations on "I hope you get cancer and die" every day for a year
My mother (who i love dearly) has bi-polar and other issues. She would tell me as a little kid she wants to commit suicide but she feels too guilty about leaving us behind. In a resentful angry way like it's my fault. Imagine being a kid having to hear that shit!
People have said some pretty heinous shit to me trying to hurt me. Some pretty vile and hateful shit. But the two things that stick out the most were "you were a mistake" from my parents and "you have no passion" from an ex.
While extremely mild language compared to other things that have been said to me, they cut the deepest.
While extremely mild language compared to other things that have been said to me, they cut the deepest.
All my love for you Era, sweet baby Jeezus, some of you went through some serious shit.
My contribution to this thread is peanuts in comparison, about 2 weeks ago, I had a short but heated discussion with one of the engineer guys over here.
It pretty much came down to a right idea, wrong execution type of deal. My manager called me to clarify the issue and, while busy, I took the time to meet this guy, but right out of the gate he already popped off, claiming the job he did was ok etc, some back and forth and a few interruptions later it all comes to a head. Culminating in him brushing my shoulder in a really dismissive way and saying "I didn't understand it."
Holy shit. I nearly grabbed his hand and escalated the situation, but ended just glancing at my manager and walking away >:[
It wasn't exactly mean, as much as it was disrespectful. Really rustled my jimmies, never been so disrespected and I was right.
My contribution to this thread is peanuts in comparison, about 2 weeks ago, I had a short but heated discussion with one of the engineer guys over here.
It pretty much came down to a right idea, wrong execution type of deal. My manager called me to clarify the issue and, while busy, I took the time to meet this guy, but right out of the gate he already popped off, claiming the job he did was ok etc, some back and forth and a few interruptions later it all comes to a head. Culminating in him brushing my shoulder in a really dismissive way and saying "I didn't understand it."
Holy shit. I nearly grabbed his hand and escalated the situation, but ended just glancing at my manager and walking away >:[
It wasn't exactly mean, as much as it was disrespectful. Really rustled my jimmies, never been so disrespected and I was right.
In an argument with my husband, that I was just like my father ( who literally starved us and much more awful criminal things) because I forgot to vacuum
"Why can't you be more like (insert neighbor/classmate name here)?" - my Mom.
"Just because we have more pictures of your brother doesn't mean we love you less." - my Mom, who initiated the conversation. Pulled me aside and sat me down to tell me that out of nowhere. It's like...who are you trying to convince, here?
"Just because we have more pictures of your brother doesn't mean we love you less." - my Mom, who initiated the conversation. Pulled me aside and sat me down to tell me that out of nowhere. It's like...who are you trying to convince, here?
Eh, I can't really think of anything other than a few schoolyard insults when I was a kid. I guess the most recent thing is a co-worker telling me that my boss didn't like us when I worked at GameStop. I later found out that she was forced to hire some seasonal workers despite having full-time workers who'd have their hours cut due to us seasonals coming in, so I didn't take that as a personal insult.
Don't know about meanest, but the one I keep replaying in mind from time to time is from college. There was a honor student ceremony, and my chemistry lab partner got a special award. I saw her at the reception afterwards and gave her my congratulations, unbeknownst that her WASPy stereotype of a dad was with her. He inquired who I was, and when she told him I was her lab partner, he said "oh, this isn't the worthless one who doesn't do anything, is he?"
I think all I managed was a meek, "Gee, I hope not," and then some excuse for somewhere else I had to be. I don't even know where that came from because I made it a point to never be dead weight in anything I did. Maybe it wasn't even directed at me, it wasn't uncommon to have multiple lab courses at once after all. It still stuck with me for all these years though. But whatever. I have PhD and decent career in a STEM field, and despite all that guy's money and hoity-toity attitude, he's probably dead.
I think all I managed was a meek, "Gee, I hope not," and then some excuse for somewhere else I had to be. I don't even know where that came from because I made it a point to never be dead weight in anything I did. Maybe it wasn't even directed at me, it wasn't uncommon to have multiple lab courses at once after all. It still stuck with me for all these years though. But whatever. I have PhD and decent career in a STEM field, and despite all that guy's money and hoity-toity attitude, he's probably dead.
The worst thing a complete stranger told me was "You're a bad person."
I was working a dumb customer service job. This lady was having an entitled tantrum because she felt that she hadn't been helped quickly enough.
At the time, I was comforted by the idea that the hag's rotted personality was clearly the biggest obstacle to her own happiness. Like, who talks that way to someone they've just met? Pathetic.
I was working a dumb customer service job. This lady was having an entitled tantrum because she felt that she hadn't been helped quickly enough.
At the time, I was comforted by the idea that the hag's rotted personality was clearly the biggest obstacle to her own happiness. Like, who talks that way to someone they've just met? Pathetic.
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Basically somebody commented on a photo of me that I looked like a fat version of Sean Astin
I have been extremely self conscious about my size ever since I was a child and that comment was validation of my insecurities
I have been extremely self conscious about my size ever since I was a child and that comment was validation of my insecurities
I didn't take offense but an ex was cheating on me and told me her side piece had a bigger wenis.
That they hoped my home caught on fire and my family burnt to death inside.
Because I enjoyed No Man's Sky at launch and disagreed with a few comments on Reddit.
There's more harmful stuff in my past IRL but that was the most blunt from recent times.
Because I enjoyed No Man's Sky at launch and disagreed with a few comments on Reddit.
There's more harmful stuff in my past IRL but that was the most blunt from recent times.
"My Dad is going to shoot you dead because I don't like you" - Neighbours kid when I was 5 years old.
"I am going to fucking slash your throat you faggot lover, you better sleep with your eyes open" - person in my dormitory in high school, found to own a machete by the supervisor I reported him to.
"I am going to fucking slash your throat you faggot lover, you better sleep with your eyes open" - person in my dormitory in high school, found to own a machete by the supervisor I reported him to.
This is on par with "you're an unnecessary person" for max brutality imo
I've been called ugly, stupid, and was told to my face that I have shitty taste in everything
I should mention that I never said anything that mean to anyone in my life ever
What can you do
I should mention that I never said anything that mean to anyone in my life ever
What can you do