Lmao honestly I should have been shot into a condomPeople having kids is the only reason you're even alive right now. You should go thank your parents instead of making this thread. It makes no sense.
Lmao honestly I should have been shot into a condomPeople having kids is the only reason you're even alive right now. You should go thank your parents instead of making this thread. It makes no sense.
This would be awesome if by having some part of you, some name on a ship, or a continued effect on people I'd actually be living on somehow (ghost? This would probably suck), but in reality I'd still be dead as a rock. It's like if teleportation is eventually created and when you use it you die but your copy is you living on. I'd never teleport unless I was done living because the copy won't be me. (Recently watched the Breaking Bad line reading where they talk about teleportation and copies. Trippy).For the vast majority of people (that won't make an impact on art or industry), it's an opportunity to learn and teach as well as to pass on and be remembered.
Unless you make the history books, it's the only part of you that lives on aside from some cool deals at an estate sale.
My daughter is 7, we've taken her to Japan, Morocco, Spain, Belgium and the Netherlands. She's been to Kauai twice and Maui once. Disneyland once and Disneyworld once. We're taking her to Slovakia, Poland and Hungary in November.
Shit, since she was born my wife and I have gone to Japan once without her, Mexico without her and we did a long weekend to San Francisco last month.
How do you prevent your kids from throwing tantrums?
I worked at one of the disney parks in the past and that experience made me want to castrate myself.
not literally obviously
This would be awesome if by having some part of you, some name on a ship, or a continued effect on people I'd actually be living on somehow (ghost? This would probably suck), but in reality I'd still be dead as a rock. It's like if teleportation is eventually created and when you use it you die but your copy is you living on. I'd never teleport unless I was done living because the copy won't be me. (Recently watched the Breaking Bad line reading where they talk about teleportation and copies. Trippy).
I enjoy being able to do whatever the hell I want whenever I want. I'm not willing to make those concessions, and I don't think that's selfish given I get one life and should get to choose how to live it.
Is that OP serious when it describes kids 'being cute' as the only benefit to having them?
Friends and and a spouse are equals rather complete dependants who need near constant care and cause significant financial burden.
as a father of a 15 weeks old boy I can subscribe to this. Sure I have not as much time to game as before, but I don't care. I love (and this word doesn't fully describe how much I love my son) him so much. He is everything for me. Keep in mind that I needed to get 30 to develop any kind of interest in children at all. And I live on a continent where healthcare and education are part of the social system so I don't have to empty my savings. In a year we will even get money from the state for the child to help with the expenses.The opportunity to guide and love your child through life and watch them grow up is big. Being able to experience things with your child, and seeing their eyes light up with wonder. Seeing their smiles, getting sweet hugs and kisses. Nothing beats the love between a child and a parent, imho.
Edit: also if we wanted just something 'cute' we would have just gotten a dog.
So this is something that I don't talk about much because I've met several couples who can't have children.
( Also, let's take climate change out of the conversation for just a moment. )
If you are emotionally, physically, and financially capable of continuing the human race, you owe it to us to do so.
They're already born, they're gonna deal with it with or without you. what would you like to do with all those children needing adoption that would lessen the ecological stress? Kill them?It's not worth it imo, especially with the ongoing climate crisis that makes me never want to adopt and raise a kid that will deal with all that
They're already born, they're gonna deal with it with or without you. what would you like to do with all those children needing adoption that would lessen the ecological stress? Kill them?
It's very simple. Most people instinctively want to have children and also it gives purpose to people's lives.
Basically. Rational reasons are secondary to these drives.At its core it's animal instinct. All organisms strive to reproduce and multiply.
there's no greater obstacle to playing games than posting on a video game message board.It's a video game message board. It's going to lean heavier on people who see kids as an obstacle to their gaming freedom.
Of course, but it's not a given which is what the person I was responding to was suggesting.I know people that did not want kids their entire life and now are in their 40's or about to be 40 and have regrets, but are too scared to try now due to possible complications from pregnancy. People can change their minds.
I don't know if I'd want to have a kid out of boredom and I also feel like it's not good to have a kid out of the pressure of turning 30. I hate the idea that once you're 30, people expect you to be getting married and having kids.Life is pretty damn boring if youre childless in your 30s. I had my first kid at 34 and prior to that my life consisted of work, starbucks and my friends cancelling on weekend plans due to family obligations.
I'm childless and in my late 20s and your daughter has been to more countries than I have. I think you might have to consider that most people are not as fortunate to have the money and time to do what you do. That's simply not realistic for most people.My daughter is 7, we've taken her to Japan, Morocco, Spain, Belgium and the Netherlands. She's been to Kauai twice and Maui once. Disneyland once and Disneyworld once. We're taking her to Slovakia, Poland and Hungary in November.
Shit, since she was born my wife and I have gone to Japan once without her, Mexico without her and we did a long weekend to San Francisco last month.
You can still do those things.
If your life is boring in your 30s without kids, that's entirely on you.Life is pretty damn boring if youre childless in your 30s. I had my first kid at 34 and prior to that my life consisted of work, starbucks and my friends cancelling on weekend plans due to family obligations.
Call me shallow, but my idea of "more to life" does not include poop, piss, and vomit.
Yes to this. I get that many here and elsewhere choose not to have kids. For all kinds of reasons and that's totally fine. But to be oblivious to the reasons why people have kids it amazing to me. Some people really seem to have checked out of society.Let's face it, a non-insignificant swathe of era has some form of mental or learning incapacity which limits their ability to be empathetic or use logic/reason to understand why something as socially and behaviourally common as having kids is a thing.
This isn't me being hostile in any way, but at this point it's pretty blatant. There's a fair population here who just don't understand societal norms or how the vast majority of humans think. It's frustrating but also kinda sad.
I get that dogs can be cute sometimes, but that seems to be the only pro versus a long list of cons on having a dog as a pet. The 2 biggest negatives are definitely the financial burden and the inconveniences to your life. I mean why is it worth it?
Mostly kidding with the above but it might help give some perspective to the OP and others who can't understand why people have kids.
I also need to remind myself whenever this comes up on Resetera that most of the posters that don't want kids are still rather young. I remember having conversations exactly like the OP with friends of mine when we were teenagers. We all said we would never have kids and I know I for sure didn't want them. Guess what - we all have kids now and I think we are happier for it. People change as they mature and the things that matter to the OP become less important.