when I was like 11 someone tried to scam me in Phantasy Star Online by asking for credit card info so I could run around as Sonic the Hedgehog, that fiend
Metal Gear Online 2 wasn't at all welcoming to rookies, to the extent I got friendly fired upon because I made a simple mistake in my first match ever
FFXIV's community is mostly nice but some people get real petty and impatient later on, people who say it's a 100% friendly experience are either extremely lucky or roll with a very chill, understanding guild.
But yeah there are plenty of racist and sexist communities out there, if being caught in an occasional argument about something as mundane as a video game's mechanics makes Resetera the worst community you've ever experienced, you've lived a pretty blessed online life