My older cousin is going through a divorce, husband of almost 10 years, they would always get into fight but COVID brought it to an end. They both have substance abuse problem (alcohol and weed) and there is a 4 year girl in the middle this.
She has moved back home with her parent since the divorce (almost 2 years now), they've been taking care of her and it's almost like she has regressed to being a child... she's still going to work but she's just been a mess, still drinking, smoking, got a DUI after an accident with her kid in the car a few months ago, nobody got hurt and we thought it would be the moment she cleans up her act... she cleaned up for a few weeks and then regressed.
She has deeper problem from her childhood, blames her parents for some confidence issues, thinks that her younger sister was more loved... her overall attitude and demeanor has become so toxic that it has progressively become harder to talk to her or be around her. I am kind of lost on what to do, I'm worried for her but also the kid who is in the middle of all this and my aunt and uncle who have become depressed because of how she behaves.
I use to talk to her more often and would bring up the need for her to go to rehab or therapy and that fell on deaf ears. Anyone have any experience or suggestions, I think my aunt and uncle are willing to do anything at this point to help her get better but it's very much a case of "how can you help someone who doesn't want to be helped / acknowledge they have a problem"
Any suggestions or recommendations?
She has moved back home with her parent since the divorce (almost 2 years now), they've been taking care of her and it's almost like she has regressed to being a child... she's still going to work but she's just been a mess, still drinking, smoking, got a DUI after an accident with her kid in the car a few months ago, nobody got hurt and we thought it would be the moment she cleans up her act... she cleaned up for a few weeks and then regressed.
She has deeper problem from her childhood, blames her parents for some confidence issues, thinks that her younger sister was more loved... her overall attitude and demeanor has become so toxic that it has progressively become harder to talk to her or be around her. I am kind of lost on what to do, I'm worried for her but also the kid who is in the middle of all this and my aunt and uncle who have become depressed because of how she behaves.
I use to talk to her more often and would bring up the need for her to go to rehab or therapy and that fell on deaf ears. Anyone have any experience or suggestions, I think my aunt and uncle are willing to do anything at this point to help her get better but it's very much a case of "how can you help someone who doesn't want to be helped / acknowledge they have a problem"
Any suggestions or recommendations?