#3 for me. I prefer it, but still enjoy plenty of games that aren't 60FPS, and if the developer thinks that 30fps is important to deliver a certain experience based on the hardware/time/cost triangle, then I think that's fine and I'll probably still enjoy the game.
The game I play the most right now, Red Dead Online, is 30fps, and I'm fine with it. I wish it was 60fps on consoles, I'd definitely prefer it, but the way I playt he game (boring, collecting, random PvE shit), 30fps is fine for me. Certainly hoping for a 60fps nextgen update one day. who knows.
If I have a choice between performance mode and graphics mode, I might *start* in graphics mode but then switch to performance mode. There's a funny thing that happens... When I started Control I started in graphics mode, and really liked it, then I tried performance mode and it was such an improvement, I switched over to performance mode and my brain kinda stitched in the details. I never really missed the ray tracing, and at times I'd go to settingss to make sure I was actually playing perf mode and not graphics mode.