Yeah, this is very common for guys (making a generalization I know). Women seem to do better here (again, obvious generalization).
This is well documented:
Are Men Really Having A 'Friendship Crisis'?
It’s lonely being a dude, but it doesn't have to be.www.huffpost.com
It's also why every male friend I know took ages to get over their divorce. They neglected to their friends (mostly men in this case) and put all their social needs on the SO.
In my experience people don't value friendships as much as they value this ideal adulthood. Once any of my friends got into a serious relationship they invested all their time in that. Got married and had a kid or two. Got divorced and realized they had no friends anymore. Even the ones that got divorced only bounced back into friend groups before going into a second marriage. Even the times they could commit to hanging out, it was always, "Why don't you and (blank) come out to eat with me and (blank)." "(Blank)'s been wanting to try this place out. We can all go try it." Or worse, they try to cram every friend into one time session and you're hanging out with four other dudes (two who you don't care for).
They're in a more sound financial place, but it is nearing the time of questions about egg viability.
I do that too. Problem is when you end up with a roster of C tier friends in terms of their investment in seeing you and like maybe one A tier friend who occasionally dips into B.I get that.
One thing I do is that I don't cut people off completely (unless there's a harsh break). I just make them C level friends, instead A or B level friends.
So I invest less, but I still stay in touch. Sometimes they come around. Sometimes they don't. Sometimes they peel off completely.
But a key aspect with adult friendship is learning whom to invest in, specifically those with high interest and mutuality.
I had two friend groups in college but those fell apart after graduation when everyone relocated to far away places. Pretty much all my friends left the city one by one. I'll sometimes make a new friend who then moves a year or two later.I'm part of two friend groups that i see pretty regularly, but we are all 23-26 and nobody is in a committed relationship or has kids or anything. We also all live within like 20 minutes walking distance of each other which probably is the biggest reason we can all see each other pretty often.
This is a big one. The traditional 9-5 mon-sat work week is long gone, many people have to work lates or weekends even if it doesn't mean working more hours overall.Work. Hard to have fun on the weekends when everyone has different days off.
I literally started thinking about this last week. My wife is having a 40th birthday getaway with, like, a dozen friends, and I'm wondering how that's even possible. I don't think there's just one answer to the question. Shit just happens and it's bad.
Depends on the person but men often just disappear when they get into live-in LTRs. Like they're just happy w their SO and maybe a friend hangout once a month.I don't think there is a single answer either. Women do tend to be better at keeping friendships while married whereas men aren't as good.
I don't think there is a single answer either. Women do tend to be better at keeping friendships while married whereas men aren't as good.
Depends on the person but men often just disappear when they get into live-in LTRs. Like they're just happy w their SO and maybe a friend hangout once a month.
Now the article has gotten me worried I'm putting too much pressure on my wife because she's my main social outlet. Stupid article...
Same here. I also have timing issues die to my friends living in different states with different time zones.This is a big one. The traditional 9-5 mon-sat work week is long gone, many people have to work lates or weekends even if it doesn't mean working more hours overall.
Speaking of my friends group, it's really rare for us all to have our days off coincide and be free of familial obligations.
Yea there's some truth to this. But it's definitely something you can overcomeYeah, this is very common for guys (making a generalization I know). Women seem to do better here (again, obvious generalization).
This is well documented:
Are Men Really Having A 'Friendship Crisis'?
It’s lonely being a dude, but it doesn't have to be.www.huffpost.com
It's also why every male friend I know took ages to get over their divorce. They neglected to their friends (mostly men in this case) and put all their social needs on the SO.
I have a friend who basically cut himself off because he lost his job and was embarrassed. Once he got a new job, he got back in touch and I explained to him "our friendship is a judgment free zone. And his behavior was unnecessary."Kids. And for me personally my friends are successful and own houses. I know they would welcome me but I feel left behind and embarrassed.