Even if she's swimming in debt and no job gives a livable wage?
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US Adults in their mid-20s are now more likely to live with a parent than a spouse
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Even if she's swimming in debt and no job gives a livable wage?
But why? Not everyone can finish college with a living wage, even if there's no debt.
Depends on her job. She could become a public school teacher.
I mean, it's either take out a grand a month for rent from your shit paying job or somehow come up with the down payment for a $350,000-400,000 house built in the 70s.
I moved out for Uni when I was 18, came back for summers, then spent a year in my Mum's house after Uni, left again when I was 22 and then never looked back.
Those would be scenarios we'd have to look into at the time if and when they occur. I wouldn't have a problem with her living here for a short period and getting her footing for a bit until she can wrangle up some friends to live with but I would do so with that implicit stipulation that this is temporary and in no way permanent.
As someone from Asia, this opinion is so out there for me, like it sounds like legitimate science-fiction stuff. Real questions: do you just dislike living with her or something? How do you plan to be cared for in your old age?
Thank the rentier class (mostly baby boomers and older gen x) in this rentier economy.
When it is more profitable to buy capital and rent access to it, why would you actually do productive work that creates new value and resources?
Boomers have played the economy and their own children's futures into the ground.
When it is more profitable to buy capital and rent access to it, why would you actually do productive work that creates new value and resources?
Boomers have played the economy and their own children's futures into the ground.
That would be an amazing outcome to be honest and set her up right out of the gate. I've pushed that as an idea but she has no interest. My wife will be making close to 6 figures soon teaching public school, with a pension to boot.
In Taiwan this has been a long-standing thing, btw. As well as in nearby countries. Gotta have the kids at home because family is the most important thing and someone has to take care of Mom and Dad when they get old. A daughter or first-born son leaving home before marriage is especially weird here. And yes the dating scene is hard because of this.
I got student loans, I can't afford to marry
Half the people I know who were in the same boat and tried are somehow more fucked than I am currently
Half the people I know who were in the same boat and tried are somehow more fucked than I am currently
Its easy when you're use to be alone besides your family lol.
Saving up money is nice too but boy does the commute suck.
Saving up money is nice too but boy does the commute suck.
I don't DISLIKE living with her, but I also feel like her just falling into old habits isn't going to help her grow. She definitely needs to get out there and handle the world on her own. Which college will definitely help with via small steps, I always tell people the most important thing I learned at college was just being independant and taking care of shit on my own.
As for who takes care of me? I'd like to think my kids would have SOME notion to do stuff for me but I also have had to put my own parents in a nursing home after trying to take care of them myself and finding out just how difficult that is. So I wouldn't begrudge them for that, I plan on having the means in place at least so they don't have to pay for it and put a burden on them.
33, live with parents. I pay a good portion of the rent and help the family. No love life, the most affection I get is from online people. I have multiple sclerosis and my MS doctor prefers I live with people.
It's not so bad but I'll probably never get married because I'm undateable. I feel like I could totally be roomies with a significant other though. That'd be the only way to get me out of here, I think. Good luck with that though. There are plenty of guys out there who have their shit together and live on their own my age. I'm not even close to being a catch!
It's not so bad but I'll probably never get married because I'm undateable. I feel like I could totally be roomies with a significant other though. That'd be the only way to get me out of here, I think. Good luck with that though. There are plenty of guys out there who have their shit together and live on their own my age. I'm not even close to being a catch!
That Orlando statistic is too fucking true
Jobs down here pay shit and rents are consistently $1300+ for a 2 or 3 bedroom
As a single dad it's a fucking disaster down here. I live in a place with 6 of us.
Jobs down here pay shit and rents are consistently $1300+ for a 2 or 3 bedroom
As a single dad it's a fucking disaster down here. I live in a place with 6 of us.
i am not living with my parents ever again if i can help it - moved out at 23 which was already pretty late feeling to me
Rent is a fucking scam and people move out for no reason other then societal pressure to get reamed with debt for the rest of their life.
In other countries historically it's been seen as more normal to live in a family house or with family for a very long time.
I 100% believe the American beliefs about moving out, apartments and living on your own have just been reinforced for generations to make it seem like rent, landlords and the housing market are good and normal which they are absolutely not
In other countries historically it's been seen as more normal to live in a family house or with family for a very long time.
I 100% believe the American beliefs about moving out, apartments and living on your own have just been reinforced for generations to make it seem like rent, landlords and the housing market are good and normal which they are absolutely not
I miss the security blanket of living at home with my mother, but stepping out and being my own man was liberating. I was 24 when I moved out. Got a one bedroom apartment, one block from my job, so I saved a lot on gas.
That's not a pet theory and it is supported by a lot. Youre completely right and that's what happened.
I think it's good that people aren't rushing out of the house these days though. People are getting in committed relationships so young, and it never seems to work out.
Heh, Latin American here and I moved out at 27. Now 37 with my wife and two kids and it was fine.
Living with parents until you get married is pretty much ingrained in Asian culture, and even then there are adults who do get married but still live with whoever's parents have space in their house until the married couple can buy a house.
I'm one of the idiot outliers that lives all by myself, renting an apartment and not saving a damn cent because I like my privacy and freedom, and I have no long-term plan for my future!
I'm one of the idiot outliers that lives all by myself, renting an apartment and not saving a damn cent because I like my privacy and freedom, and I have no long-term plan for my future!
At the risk of sounding like a total loser I had to move back in with my folks at age 30. I have a full time job and can save a lot of money this way.
It sucks because rent in Japan was ridiculously affordable by comparison
It sucks because rent in Japan was ridiculously affordable by comparison
I want to live by myself, but I'm a student and still would need help from my parents, so not really "freedom".
I acknowledge that the world is a different place compared to when I lived on my own at that age around a decade ago (where I was able to rent a not nice but not slummy apartment in the general LA area for just under $1000 a month), but I'll maintain that living on my own was a valuable and cherished time of my life.
I learned a lot about taking care of myself during this time.
I learned a lot about taking care of myself during this time.
It's really frustrating. My GFs parents practically kicked her out and gave her a day to pack.
Gotta save that cash. If I could do it I would. Work commute would be awful. Miss moms cooking.
I mostly moved in with my mom because she's in her 70s and have no friends cause my dad was an abusive piece of shit who wouldn't allow her to socialize and she basically has nobody but me. With her arthritis, she's basically one misstep away from falling and dying a horrific and painful death if I don't check in on her everyday. One time, when I was living alone, I went to visit her and she was nearly dead from pneumonia.
I'd rather kids live with their parents than get married that early (or even get married altogether tbh).
That said, once my kids hit 23..
That said, once my kids hit 23..
Honestly, it's a smart decision. I commend my fellow young adults for sucking up their pride and making far better financial decisions than previous generations.
I'd rather kids live with their parents than get married that early (or even get married altogether tbh).
That said, once my kids hit 23..
And if they don't have a well paying job?
That's what I'm preparing them for now.
I lightly joke about how I want them to gtfo but I also show them how much better a life they will have if they can land a solid middle class job early.
They don't need to be rich, they just need a stable income and a solid understanding of budgeting and they'll be fine.
Also, your name is excellent.
-Weddings are expensive.
-Getting 10% for a DP is expensive.
-Paying a monthly mortgage/taxes/insurance/utilities is expensive.
-Having a baby is expensive.
-Daycare is expensive.
-Securing job that covers all that is difficult.
-There are few comfortable salary jobs available that don't require an expensive college degree.
-Student loans can follow you for a decade.
Life is too expensive to build a family around anymore. Certainly not in your 20s.
-Getting 10% for a DP is expensive.
-Paying a monthly mortgage/taxes/insurance/utilities is expensive.
-Having a baby is expensive.
-Daycare is expensive.
-Securing job that covers all that is difficult.
-There are few comfortable salary jobs available that don't require an expensive college degree.
-Student loans can follow you for a decade.
Life is too expensive to build a family around anymore. Certainly not in your 20s.
Wow, that outlook is interesting to me. Thank you for sharing.