What I'm proposing is that it's not on the hurt communities to educate you on why it's bad. You've been told, you can do your own research just like I did (I'm not american btw). I'm proposing that institutions at every level need to do more in protecting people but when the first reaction is "it's tradition" or "it's not offensive to ME, white person whom this doesn't affect" it becomes really difficult to achieve. In the current political climate, which extends worldwide, it is even harder and people defensiveness over even acknowledging it is a problem is counterproductive.
I didn't come to this thread to call her or anyone a racist and I never actually did, I made my point on ignorance as a defense but as I told you over several posts, it's not about her hurt feelings, it's not about yours either. It's about all the people it hurts, it's about the history and the context. It's just, you know, you can't expect people historically harmed by this situation to take in all in stride and put the onus on them to educate others when it happens every other day in their lives. At some point it's too much for them. You keep quoting me wondering what I can do for you for some reason...