Happy Birthday Oni! Glad you had such a good time, sucks to hear what happened with the Pride tho wtfToday was our 24th birthday. It was also the first time we were able to properly go to pride. Shame our local pride kicked out all the local queer organizations in favor of big corporations that just slap rainbows on their logos once a year, but hey, whoever has the most money is the most prideful, yes? Rainbow Capitalism at its finest...
On the bright side, we got to hang out with a ton of friends and march in the trans march. Overall a good day. Going back tomorrow for the parade and to contribute to the trans clothing exchange they were doing outside the pride festival grounds.
Yeah they didn't even let Planned Parenthood have a booth even though they do a ton of work to support the trans community and get people transitioning here. Instead we got... The cops had a booth even though they've been actively targeting TWoC, Intel, a couple University recruiters, and Autodesk of all companies??? That was the really baffling one. They seemed to be there to advertise 3D printers.Happy Birthday Oni! Glad you had such a good time, sucks to hear what happened with the Pride tho wtf
Guess who got their Estradiol Patch today! This gal!!!
I'm so happy right now 🤗🤗🤗
And I am finally through my name change court procedure.
I am legally Nadine and female now.
And I am finally through my name change court procedure.
I am legally Nadine and female now.
Whoooo! Grats, huge step!
Golly I love my job but the worst thing about working in a call center is customers misgendering me. I've never heard a he/him from my coworkers in the year I've been here but every single call always starts with "did you say your name was Robert?" "No, Robin, R-o-b-i-n" "oh.... Well ok Rob I have a problem with..."
I think I need some advice.
I've been on HRT for 4 months, and I've been part-time living as a woman (at home and out to my partner, family, friends, etc) but not out yet at work, where i still live as a man. But I'm quitting that job in 2 months.
In 2 months, I'll be starting a 6-month university course to become an English teacher (I already have my BA in English). For whatever reason I didn't come out to them, and now I got an email about the school I'll be interning at once the course starts. I have to contact them within the next 3 days to set up an interview for my internship, basically.
I want to come out, but I'm scared of a lot of things. For obvious reasons, facing a class full of junior high kids when I barely pass visually with makeup and not at all with my voice is terrifying. And also neither my uni nor the school I'm interning at know I'm trans. Part of me wants to just not come out, ride out the internship (it's only 6-8 hours a week), and deal with it later. But I also feel that that's weakness, and it wouldn't make me terribly happy.
The other options re: coming out are emailing the person at the school and coming out in the email, or doing it in the interview, and I'm not sure what's better. Either way I also have to inform the uni (I'm not worried about that, I already came out casually during my BA to classmates and professors, but not legally or whatever). I should probably do that before the interview if I do decide to come out.
I'm just not sure how to approach this. It's scary! I'm considering just getting the legal name/gender change over and done with so that I can't use not having that as an excuse anymore. I talked with my partner about this and she thinks I should come out, and I don't disagree, but I just want to hear from some fellow trans folks who've maybe dealt with similar situations.
What do??
There is a chance I missing something here but personally from your description I don't get trans vibes from that at all.Hi TransEra!
First time posting here, but as a mere old straight white guy, I do all I can every day to be an ally and a friend :)
I am asking my question here instead of creating a full thread on Resetera because I'm not sure I'm not out of my rocker, and reading way too much into things (I haven't found the issue being discussed online much if at all) ...
This is about Toy Story 4 which I just saw yesterday with my kids.
Given the spoilery nature of the question, I will hide it.
Here goes...
Again, it's probably just me way over-reading things... But I couldn't help seeing a very regressive anti-Trans message the whole time.Forky is the new character in TS4, annd he has a rather conflicted origin.
He is literally made from pieces that come from the trash bin, and a little girl then creates her little puppet from those pieces.
For most of the movie's first half, we see Forky identifying as Trash and trying to get back where he feels right (trashcans), but Woody constantly getting him back from bins and eventually getting him through a whole guilt trip that he is supposed to be there for "his kid/ family".
Now, maybe I am being "over-woke" and sensitive, but the whole time it screamed an anti-trans message to me.
- being born as something else than what you identify with
- trying to get back to what you identify with
- society and your family guilting/ forcing you into conforming to what they want you to be
- a big session of guilt trip/ mind fuck eventually making you "see the light" that you have to conform for your family (a fucking conversion therapy in a Pixar movie?).
- Here is a "girl" trash at the end, just to make sure you know who you are for your child/ family.
And I'm not even going to go in analyzing that Forky's "true" nature is "Trash"... I'm going to assume it was played for laughs instead of being a malicious intent.
What say you? Am I crazy?
Hi TransEra!
First time posting here, but as a mere old straight white guy, I do all I can every day to be an ally and a friend :)
I am asking my question here instead of creating a full thread on Resetera because I'm not sure I'm not out of my rocker, and reading way too much into things (I haven't found the issue being discussed online much if at all) ...
This is about Toy Story 4 which I just saw yesterday with my kids.
Given the spoilery nature of the question, I will hide it.
Here goes...
Again, it's probably just me way over-reading things... But I couldn't help seeing a very regressive anti-Trans message the whole time.Forky is the new character in TS4, annd he has a rather conflicted origin.
He is literally made from pieces that come from the trash bin, and a little girl then creates her little puppet from those pieces.
For most of the movie's first half, we see Forky identifying as Trash and trying to get back where he feels right (trashcans), but Woody constantly getting him back from bins and eventually getting him through a whole guilt trip that he is supposed to be there for "his kid/ family".
Now, maybe I am being "over-woke" and sensitive, but the whole time it screamed an anti-trans message to me.
- being born as something else than what you identify with
- trying to get back to what you identify with
- society and your family guilting/ forcing you into conforming to what they want you to be
- a big session of guilt trip/ mind fuck eventually making you "see the light" that you have to conform for your family (a fucking conversion therapy in a Pixar movie?).
- Here is a "girl" trash at the end, just to make sure you know who you are for your child/ family.
And I'm not even going to go in analyzing that Forky's "true" nature is "Trash"... I'm going to assume it was played for laughs instead of being a malicious intent.
What say you? Am I crazy?
Sup y'all! I didn't realize we had an OT.
I've been out as trans since 2016 and I haven't regretted it at all. I deal with stress a lot though because I'm not used to people staring at me obviously all the time so that affects me. I also lost some friends along the way but zero regrets on any of that. Even though I have a full time IT job, I took a second job at Starbucks for their health insurance. I'm waiting to hear back soon regarding the dates for my facial feminization and breast augmentation surgeries. I work too dang much but it's going to be so worth it in the end. Nice to meet y'all!
That's rough, I hope your next therapist works out. I really think it can help. If you need someone to talk to or just vent at just PM me.Hi there. It's been a few months since my last post, but sadly, not much has changed.
- I'm still totally insecure about my gender identity. I can't really say how I identify, but two things have been constant in the last few months: 1) I feel pretty comfortable as a man since I changed my style, and 2) I wish I was a woman.
- My lack of hair is still depressing me so much. I tried something new: I visited two parties dressed up but without a wig, i.e. with a shaved head. It looked good and people loved it. The first time, I felt great, the second time I felt like a fetishist. Despite my makeup and my outfit, I did not feel feminine at all the second time.
- When I see cis/trans women with beautiful hair, I get depressed and teary-eyed all the time. It hurts so much. Sometimes, I'm actively avoiding sites like FetLife or some subreddits because I just can't handle seeing beautiful (trans) women. Seeing them usually ruins my day.
- I still hate my fucking therapist. She's on vacation for three weeks now, and I'm so happy about it. Someone recommended me another therapist who happens to be trans, so I'm gonna make an appointment with her.
- My depressions got worse. I'm on antidepressants now. The first one I got prescribed didn't do anything, apart from reducing my sex drive to a bare minimum and completely eliminating the ability to have an orgasm. (When I came for the first time a week after quitting them, I started to cry out of relieve.)
The second antidepressant, which I've been taking since ~5 weeks, hasn't had any noticeable effect yet.- I had more interactions on OKC/Tinder than ever, but nothing came out of it. Some people cancelled the date on short notice and never wrote again, some people I met told me either directly or indirectly that they're not interested in meeting again, some people said they were gonna text me soon when I asked them about meeting again but they never did, and one was approached by a guy in the club we visited together and spent the rest of the night with him. Yeah. There's one where I have the feeling that she would like to meet me again, but she's trans and cute and I can't stop being jealous of her..
And in general, my mood is just.. not good. I'm in a bad place at the moment.
That's rough, I hope your next therapist works out. I really think it can help. If you need someone to talk to or just vent at just PM me.
Hi there. It's been a few months since my last post, but sadly, not much has changed.
- I'm still totally insecure about my gender identity. I can't really say how I identify, but two things have been constant in the last few months: 1) I feel pretty comfortable as a man since I changed my style, and 2) I wish I was a woman.
- My lack of hair is still depressing me so much. I tried something new: I visited two parties dressed up but without a wig, i.e. with a shaved head. It looked good and people loved it. The first time, I felt great, the second time I felt like a fetishist. Despite my makeup and my outfit, I did not feel feminine at all the second time.
- When I see cis/trans women with beautiful hair, I get depressed and teary-eyed all the time. It hurts so much. Sometimes, I'm actively avoiding sites like FetLife or some subreddits because I just can't handle seeing beautiful (trans) women. Seeing them usually ruins my day.
- I still hate my fucking therapist. She's on vacation for three weeks now, and I'm so happy about it. Someone recommended me another therapist who happens to be trans, so I'm gonna make an appointment with her.
- My depressions got worse. I'm on antidepressants now. The first one I got prescribed didn't do anything, apart from reducing my sex drive to a bare minimum and completely eliminating the ability to have an orgasm. (When I came for the first time a week after quitting them, I started to cry out of relieve.)
The second antidepressant, which I've been taking since ~5 weeks, hasn't had any noticeable effect yet.- I had more interactions on OKC/Tinder than ever, but nothing came out of it. Some people cancelled the date on short notice and never wrote again, some people I met told me either directly or indirectly that they're not interested in meeting again, some people said they were gonna text me soon when I asked them about meeting again but they never did, and one was approached by a guy in the club we visited together and spent the rest of the night with him. Yeah. There's one where I have the feeling that she would like to meet me again, but she's trans and cute and I can't stop being jealous of her..
And in general, my mood is just.. not good. I'm in a bad place at the moment.
Not gonna make you come to any conclusions but that sounds like me from a little over a year ago uehehehe >:]I went girls clothes shopping today and I think when I put on women's jeans and a girl shirt my egg might have lowkey cracked. Maybe. I'm still unsure. But looking at myself in the mirror felt so good. Omg I've never felt that happy looking at myself in the mirror.
I'm still figuring myself out so maybe this whole thing is just in my head idk. I still identify as a questioning cis man for the moment. But. Omg.
That sounds a lot like gender euphoria. And at the very least a good reason to explore your gender identity.
To clarify, I've been questioning for three years now but been too scared to do anything about it until now. I've spoken to a lot of trans people, online and offline, and decided that this was the only way I was going to move forward.
And yeah it's pretty much what I expected gender euphoria to feel like. It's weird because recently I've been thinking it's all some BS I made up in my head and whatnot. And I always thought that putting on clothes would be the moment when everything would come crashing down and I'd realize I'm a cis man because I'd look and feel ridiculous and uncomfortable in them. But instead the opposite happened. I just became a blushy happy mess, and I could see the girl that (might) exist inside of me. To be clear I looked non-passing and they weren't super comfy, but I picked out clothes that looked androgynous enough to the point where it didn't seem weird.
I was thinking about creating a GoFundMe campaign for my hair transplantation, even though I hate the thought of begging for money so much. Or getting into prostitution. Or selling porn vids.
Sorry for not being super active here. Life just got so full of everything. Working to get another degree, trying to get the funds to start my own Private Practice, a happy relationship with another transwoman, but the best and out of the blue I got a date for my gender affirming surgery. 24th of October. I'm still baffeld by that.
Oh and somehow I don't get notified of there is a new post in here... What am I doing wrong?
Thank you 💋
Thank you 💖I'm curious, are there any figures on how many trans women want (and end up getting) SRS, or gender confirmation surgery? Personally I have no interest, and while I suspect I'm a minority there, I don't know how much of a minority. 20%? 30%? 40%? Anyone have any idea?
Oh and of course congrats Lady Justice!