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[Geirskogul]

After much thought and reflection the past couple of days I've come to the conclusion that transitioning is not a solution for me.

I will never be able to repair the damage done by 25 years of testosterone and male socialization. Passing is an impossibility given my bone structure and I will never be able to see myself as more than some crude embarrassing facsimile of a woman.

I'm going to see my family one last time next week for thanksgiving and after that im eating a bullet.

Thanks for the advice, but I don't think I will be hanging around this thread any more.

 

[Ketkat]

After much thought and reflection the past couple of days I've come to the conclusion that transitioning is not a solution for me.

I will never be able to repair the damage done by 25 years of testosterone and male socialization. Passing is an impossibility given my bone structure and I will never be able to see myself as more than some crude embarrassing facsimile of a woman.

I'm going to see my family one last time next week for thanksgiving and after that im eating a bullet.

Thanks for the advice, but I don't think I will be hanging around this thread any more.

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Most trans people felt the same was as you do. We all had the same insecurities that nothing we do will make us pass. But the reality is, you really don't know until you try. There are people out there who are very manly pre-transition and they end up passing flawlessly afterwards. And there's a lot more involved in passing than just your bone structure, there are plenty of cis women out there with manly bone structures, yet they still pass as women.

If you've truly resigned yourself to suicide, why not give it a try? What do you have to lose by transitioning?

 

[SweetNicole]

After much thought and reflection the past couple of days I've come to the conclusion that transitioning is not a solution for me.

I will never be able to repair the damage done by 25 years of testosterone and male socialization. Passing is an impossibility given my bone structure and I will never be able to see myself as more than some crude embarrassing facsimile of a woman.

I'm going to see my family one last time next week for thanksgiving and after that im eating a bullet.

Thanks for the advice, but I don't think I will be hanging around this thread any more.

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You have nothing to lose by transitioning. Trust me. I have a friend who is only just now transitioning at the age of twenty-eight, and she has the same fears. Everyone does. It is possible. If you're already resigned to suicide, then I would encourage you to take a full consequences-be-damned approach to transitioning. If you're going to die anyway, what do you have to lose?

I would also strongly encourage you to call the following. They can and will help you.

• USA Crisis Text Line 741741
• US National Suicide Hotlines 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433) or 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
• Trevor Project (LGBTQIA hotline) 1-866-488-7386
• Trans Lifeline 1-877-565-8860

Please be safe, and keep us updated on your decisions.

 

[Android Sophia]

After much thought and reflection the past couple of days I've come to the conclusion that transitioning is not a solution for me.

I will never be able to repair the damage done by 25 years of testosterone and male socialization. Passing is an impossibility given my bone structure and I will never be able to see myself as more than some crude embarrassing facsimile of a woman.

I'm going to see my family one last time next week for thanksgiving and after that im eating a bullet.

Thanks for the advice, but I don't think I will be hanging around this thread any more.

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I used to think like this back before I started transitioning. That I'd never be able to pass, because I'm too manly, too tall, and getting too old to do it.

But after a year on hormones I now pass pretty much even without trying. The difference in my appearance is incredibly striking, and it made a world of difference to my mood.

It sounds like you're even younger than I am when I started too, so please don't give up. You can definitely do this, and age is on your side. As the other have noted, you have nothing to lose. Keep on the hormones, and let them play out so you see the full effect. You may end up surprising yourself.

In addition to what Nicole has said above, if you ever need someone to talk to about this, my PM box is open and I'm always up for a conversation.

 

[Blairbat]

I have a question that I hope someone here will be able to answer.

So, at the beginning of this year I weighed 175 pounds, but within the span of 4 to 5 months I lost a ton of weight as I now only weigh 136 pounds.

I did not do any exercise to cause this and so I thought maybe it was muscle loss caused by HRT. However, I was never bulky to begin with so I just don't know what to think. I have definitely gotten weaker as I now struggle to even lift a 2.5 gallon of water.

I am not sure if I am considered anorexic for my height as I am only 5'7.

My doctor, who specifically works with transgender patients told me that I should get this stomach test thing, and I was scheduled to got it but I have been feeling fine and I honestly don't really want to go.

Sorry for the long post. What should I do? Is this normal,

 

[Geirskogul]

136 is in the middle of the healthy BMI for someone your height.

Also, there's no way you lost 40 lbs of pure muscle unless you were a bodybuilder or something. Its probably just a change in eating habits.

I wouldn't worry about the weight loss unless it continues. 120 is about the floor for a healthy weight for someone of your height.

 

[Blairbat]

Thanks for the information Geirskogul!

It might be caused by a change in eating habits. I am vegan and for the most part all I ever eat is soup and salad. I did cut candy and soda out before I lost weight, so maybe is what caused it.

Thank you for replying!

Also, I hope you are feeling better. I didn't notice the conversation that was going on because I just pressed the new reply button the second I entered the thread.

There is a transgender forum called Susan's place. A lot of women on that forum started their transition well into their 40s and 50s. A lot of them definitely look like women. I don't think you should worry about age.

I am not sure if this is a well known thing, but Kaiser permanente offers free transgender services in the state of California. They offer everything from hair removal, medication, and facial surgery for free. You do have to have Kaiser though.

I am not saying you need any of this, but if you wanted to you could. You would have to live in California though.

This is all assuming if you live in the United States or are near California. Hopefully you will find some of this information helpful.

Sorry for the long post

 

[Deleted member 1570]

So, anyone else here experience a change in sexuality as they transitioned? I once saw someone bring that up in the old thread back before I started, and I remember thinking of it as an interesting side effect. I felt that I was more attracted to women at the time, but the possibility of preferring men later didn't deter me from my desire to be physically female. A year after starting HRT, I could definitely say that I started preferring men from that point onwards. I can't imagine myself ever being with a woman anymore.

 

[Boddy]

So, anyone else here experience a change in sexuality as they transitioned? I once saw someone bring that up in the old thread back before I started, and I remember thinking of it as an interesting side effect. I felt that I was more attracted to women at the time, but the possibility of preferring men later didn't deter me from my desire to be physically female. A year after starting HRT, I could definitely say that I started preferring men from that point onwards. I can't imagine myself ever being with a woman anymore.

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From what I heard, that is pretty common, although a total shift is pretty rare.
I'm a bit worried that I might not be attracted to my gf anymore after I start HRT, but so far guys do absolutlely nothing for me.
I wouldn't mind being bi, but I don't want to lose her, espically afte her reaction to my coming-out was basically "Whatever, I still love you".

Anyway, when searching for new clothes, I realsied that I know next to nothing about fashion.
Not that I care what's popular at any give time, but I don't wear ugly outfits either.
I guess that's another thing I need to learn now.

 

[pigeon_interrupted]

So, anyone else here experience a change in sexuality as they transitioned? I once saw someone bring that up in the old thread back before I started, and I remember thinking of it as an interesting side effect. I felt that I was more attracted to women at the time, but the possibility of preferring men later didn't deter me from my desire to be physically female. A year after starting HRT, I could definitely say that I started preferring men from that point onwards. I can't imagine myself ever being with a woman anymore.

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I have always liked men but the attraction was more... diffuse. Now, that attraction runs through me like an electric shock making me tingle in places and my chest heave with excitement. Sorry if that's too graphic :s

So that - as a cursory reaction - became more pronounced and sytemic than my reaction to women who I find attractive. That happened around the year mark for me. I like it very much ;)

But given the time and circumstance I can get equally enthusiastic about being with any gender. I don't really have a preference. Not on gender, anyway.

 

[Etain]

I figure it's more that it awakens or properly activates your sexuality rather than really changing it. Your brain was on the wrong hormonal balance afterall.

 

[zetsubou]

even though we are all internet names and avatars, it is still a bit uncomfortable for me writing this. i dont know if it is just knowing things about myself might make me feel like the 31 years i've been alive seem like a lie or if is that it is kind of uncomfortable for me to actually talk about myself.

i'm starting to wonder if i am transgender or not. there are times when i have the strongest desire and wish i was a woman. i like dresses and skirts, and would like to doll myself up (but i suck at the makeup thing). i have a set of breast forms and when i wear them i feel happy. i would like it if i could go outside and dress cute. when i go to a department store i pass the women's aisle to look at the clothes and i see the mannequins and think "why can't that be me?"

however, i don't always feel this way. the feelings come and go. sometimes i go long stretches of time without feeling one way or the other. if anyone reads the anonymous confessions thread, that was me. someone mentioned i could be genderfluid, which would make sense more to me because i don't have a problem with my body, physically (aside from being overweight, which i am working on). i like my junk. so if i am cool with my stuff, am i really transgender?

it honestly kind of scares me. i don't have anyone i could really talk to. my dad, while he would probably accept me, isn't exactly friendly when it comes to LBGT people and some of the shit he says at times makes me ashamed that he is my dad. my friends are either the same or just completely ignorant.

even know after i've typed all this, i'm still scared to hit send.

 

[Heart of Poumn]

zetsubou I'm in sort of a similar situation. If you're like me, you're going to have a lot of questions and a lot of doubts. I've received a lot of advice and what I've come out with is that you should take your time with it. Experiment here and there with however you want to express yourself, in public or privately. Don't get caught up in labels for right now.

You could be non-binary, which can makes things complicated because there's dozen of sub-categories, less information, and more diverse experiences and feelings that may or may not fit in with your own. This could be something that just helps me, but I've been reading, talking, and listening. Getting as much info and experiences as I can.

You might not feel "authentic" enough because you probably won't have the degree of body dysphoria as others, and only questioning yourself now and not at a young age that others do. Don't feel that way (but I know that the feeling will probably stay with you). If you can afford it, find a therapist who is a transgender specialist. I know it can be a lot of money, but it's a help.

Feel free to PM me. I definitely don't have the answers or experiences for a lot of things, but perhaps talking to someone in a similar situation can help.

 

[Ketkat]

even though we are all internet names and avatars, it is still a bit uncomfortable for me writing this. i dont know if it is just knowing things about myself might make me feel like the 31 years i've been alive seem like a lie or if is that it is kind of uncomfortable for me to actually talk about myself.

i'm starting to wonder if i am transgender or not. there are times when i have the strongest desire and wish i was a woman. i like dresses and skirts, and would like to doll myself up (but i suck at the makeup thing). i have a set of breast forms and when i wear them i feel happy. i would like it if i could go outside and dress cute. when i go to a department store i pass the women's aisle to look at the clothes and i see the mannequins and think "why can't that be me?"

however, i don't always feel this way. the feelings come and go. sometimes i go long stretches of time without feeling one way or the other. if anyone reads the anonymous confessions thread, that was me. someone mentioned i could be genderfluid, which would make sense more to me because i don't have a problem with my body, physically (aside from being overweight, which i am working on). i like my junk. so if i am cool with my stuff, am i really transgender?

it honestly kind of scares me. i don't have anyone i could really talk to. my dad, while he would probably accept me, isn't exactly friendly when it comes to LBGT people and some of the shit he says at times makes me ashamed that he is my dad. my friends are either the same or just completely ignorant.

even know after i've typed all this, i'm still scared to hit send.

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Certainly sounds trans to me if you wish you were a woman. Though, I don't really believe you when you say you don't have a problem with your body if I'm being honest. You want to be a woman and have the figures that you see mannequins have, those are two things that your body just aren't right now. The level of dysphoria that people face varies from person to person. Some of us get it really bad all the time, while for some people it just comes and goes in waves. That doesn't make you less trans just because you haven't suffered as much as others.

And speaking from personal experience, if you think they won't be okay with you telling them about it, they probably won't be. I lost a lot of family and most friends when I came out to them. But some family members do change when it's someone in their family.

 

[Kaywee]

even though we are all internet names and avatars, it is still a bit uncomfortable for me writing this. i dont know if it is just knowing things about myself might make me feel like the 31 years i've been alive seem like a lie or if is that it is kind of uncomfortable for me to actually talk about myself.

i'm starting to wonder if i am transgender or not. there are times when i have the strongest desire and wish i was a woman. i like dresses and skirts, and would like to doll myself up (but i suck at the makeup thing). i have a set of breast forms and when i wear them i feel happy. i would like it if i could go outside and dress cute. when i go to a department store i pass the women's aisle to look at the clothes and i see the mannequins and think "why can't that be me?"

however, i don't always feel this way. the feelings come and go. sometimes i go long stretches of time without feeling one way or the other. if anyone reads the anonymous confessions thread, that was me. someone mentioned i could be genderfluid, which would make sense more to me because i don't have a problem with my body, physically (aside from being overweight, which i am working on). i like my junk. so if i am cool with my stuff, am i really transgender?

it honestly kind of scares me. i don't have anyone i could really talk to. my dad, while he would probably accept me, isn't exactly friendly when it comes to LBGT people and some of the shit he says at times makes me ashamed that he is my dad. my friends are either the same or just completely ignorant.

even know after i've typed all this, i'm still scared to hit send.

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Hey Zetsubou

I had similar feelings and cross dressed most of my life. I didn't know what gender dysphoria was and tried to bury my thoughts and feelings in other activities like games, work and a relationship. I was filling every moment with something, so I wouldn't have to focus on those feelings and because of that I would go through stretches of what looked like normalcy.

That took a toll on me mentally and physically, and I was forced to get help at 28 because of depression. I went through counseling and ultimately started my transition at 30 and while I can't say it has been easy, I can say I feel whole.

The fact that you had the courage to post here and ask for advice says that your ready for a change, whatever that change may be. You should start by seeing a professional that works with the LGBT community to figure out where you may fall on the spectrum. Your local pflag can probably set you up with the right resources.

Hope this was helpful

 

[zetsubou]

zetsubou I'm in sort of a similar situation. If you're like me, you're going to have a lot of questions and a lot of doubts. I've received a lot of advice and what I've come out with is that you should take your time with it. Experiment here and there with however you want to express yourself, in public or privately. Don't get caught up in labels for right now.

You could be non-binary, which can makes things complicated because there's dozen of sub-categories, less information, and more diverse experiences and feelings that may or may not fit in with your own. This could be something that just helps me, but I've been reading, talking, and listening. Getting as much info and experiences as I can.

You might not feel "authentic" enough because you probably won't have the degree of body dysphoria as others, and only questioning yourself now and not at a young age that others do. Don't feel that way (but I know that the feeling will probably stay with you). If you can afford it, find a therapist who is a transgender specialist. I know it can be a lot of money, but it's a help.

Feel free to PM me. I definitely don't have the answers or experiences for a lot of things, but perhaps talking to someone in a similar situation can help.

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Certainly sounds trans to me if you wish you were a woman. Though, I don't really believe you when you say you don't have a problem with your body if I'm being honest. You want to be a woman and have the figures that you see mannequins have, those are two things that your body just aren't right now. The level of dysphoria that people face varies from person to person. Some of us get it really bad all the time, while for some people it just comes and goes in waves. That doesn't make you less trans just because you haven't suffered as much as others.

And speaking from personal experience, if you think they won't be okay with you telling them about it, they probably won't be. I lost a lot of family and most friends when I came out to them. But some family members do change when it's someone in their family.

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Hey Zetsubou

I had similar feelings and cross dressed most of my life. I didn't know what gender dysphoria was and tried to bury my thoughts and feelings in other activities like games, work and a relationship. I was filling every moment with something, so I wouldn't have to focus on those feelings and because of that I would go through stretches of what looked like normalcy.

That took a toll on me mentally and physically, and I was forced to get help at 28 because of depression. I went through counseling and ultimately started my transition at 30 and while I can't say it has been easy, I can say I feel whole.

The fact that you had the courage to post here and ask for advice says that your ready for a change, whatever that change may be. You should start by seeing a professional that works with the LGBT community to figure out where you may fall on the spectrum. Your local pflag can probably set you up with the right resources.

Hope this was helpful

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Even though I know I'm not the only person to feel this way, this wasn't easy to get off my chest. Even to people that would have an inkling what I am feeling. After posting and reading your replies over and over, I feel more reassured and less scared, so thank you. I know I have a rough journey of understanding ahead before I know what the next step for me is, but I feel less alone [somewhat] while reading here.

Even though I said I feel less scared, it is still a bit difficult and uncomfortable to get my thoughts down [maybe because I'm not really comfortable confiding in people and asking advise]. As it is, I'm writing this in notepad. I appologize if I don't make sense, or am unclear, or whatnot. When I do or can get them down, I'd might like to PM any of you.

When thinking of my self, I've been realizing I feel nothing a lot. I might be happy, meh, or down but at the same time I just feel...here. But when I see girly/feminine things or clothes, I feel uplifted and happy. Thinking about maybe finally getting my ears pierced kind of excites me. If that makes sense. When reading Ketkat's response of not believing me about me saying I don't have a problem with my body got me thinking, a) I might've worded it wrong, but also might have to do with how I mentioned that sometimes I just feel "here" and b) one of the only few dreams I actually remember having as a child was that I took a pair of giant kitchen sheers we have and I casually cut my penis off and that I was panicking not because I did it, but because my parents were coming and I didn't want the to see what I did. I never told anyone about it [until now] and never really thought much about it again until now.

It'll probably be a while before I can talk to a therapist about this because of money. I have just enough money to pay my bills and maybe buy me a thing or two. Are there any books or sites or things you guys recommend to help me better understand things? Also, anywhere I should go to learn make up tips because I am terrible at it.

I guess this is all for now.

 

[Mikachu]

I wore a bra (sports bra so it was not obvious on purpose) in public for the first time today.

No-one said anything or gave me any looks and it felt so natural and lovely.

Every tiny little step is a joy my god.

And I echo what others have said to Geirskogul - It DOES get bettter, and even if it doesn't, what have you got to lose?

 

[Ketkat]

Even though I know I'm not the only person to feel this way, this wasn't easy to get off my chest. Even to people that would have an inkling what I am feeling. After posting and reading your replies over and over, I feel more reassured and less scared, so thank you. I know I have a rough journey of understanding ahead before I know what the next step for me is, but I feel less alone [somewhat] while reading here.

Even though I said I feel less scared, it is still a bit difficult and uncomfortable to get my thoughts down [maybe because I'm not really comfortable confiding in people and asking advise]. As it is, I'm writing this in notepad. I appologize if I don't make sense, or am unclear, or whatnot. When I do or can get them down, I'd might like to PM any of you.

When thinking of my self, I've been realizing I feel nothing a lot. I might be happy, meh, or down but at the same time I just feel...here. But when I see girly/feminine things or clothes, I feel uplifted and happy. Thinking about maybe finally getting my ears pierced kind of excites me. If that makes sense. When reading Ketkat's response of not believing me about me saying I don't have a problem with my body got me thinking, a) I might've worded it wrong, but also might have to do with how I mentioned that sometimes I just feel "here" and b) one of the only few dreams I actually remember having as a child was that I took a pair of giant kitchen sheers we have and I casually cut my penis off and that I was panicking not because I did it, but because my parents were coming and I didn't want the to see what I did. I never told anyone about it [until now] and never really thought much about it again until now.

It'll probably be a while before I can talk to a therapist about this because of money. I have just enough money to pay my bills and maybe buy me a thing or two. Are there any books or sites or things you guys recommend to help me better understand things? Also, anywhere I should go to learn make up tips because I am terrible at it.

I guess this is all for now.

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Sorry I wasn't trying to say that you have to hate your body or anything. I'm not very good at wording what I mean, but what I was trying to say is that dysphoria can be subtle to the point that you don't always notice it. If you want to be a woman and have a woman's body, that's all it takes to be trans. I do recommend a gender therapist if you're not too distraught over yourself right now, just because transitioning in any way is a big step and its helpful to figure out what you want exactly out of it beforehand. But until you have the money for it, feel free to keep making posts here, or PM one of us, and we'll gladly help out in anyway we can. I don't really visit any other trans areas on the Internet anymore, so I don't really know of any that are good.

 

[Infcabbage]

It feels so good to finally be back on shots again. Estradiol tablets really don't cut it for me. Now to hope that they don't take me off to get me on the super low levels they want me on again. I really don't work well in that range.

 

[Boddy]

I will buy a few bras soon, hate the lack of a chest when I'm properly dressed.
It's time figure out what to do with my hair and face for the time being. I'm pretty sure I can't pass yet, but I want to know how well I'm doing.

Also, my insurance should cover everything but hair removal(or at least it won't be easy). I still need to figure out what I should do next in this regard.

 

[zetsubou]

Sorry I wasn't trying to say that you have to hate your body or anything. I'm not very good at wording what I mean, but what I was trying to say is that dysphoria can be subtle to the point that you don't always notice it. If you want to be a woman and have a woman's body, that's all it takes to be trans. I do recommend a gender therapist if you're not too distraught over yourself right now, just because transitioning in any way is a big step and its helpful to figure out what you want exactly out of it beforehand. But until you have the money for it, feel free to keep making posts here, or PM one of us, and we'll gladly help out in anyway we can. I don't really visit any other trans areas on the Internet anymore, so I don't really know of any that are good.

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Don't worry, that's not what I took away from it. :)

 

[Deleted member 20429]

Just thought I'd swing by and say hi to everyone. It's good to see there's a nice little community going on here.

I'm a trans woman based in the UK and would like to offer any support or answer any questions anyone has even though I'm a bit inexperienced :S (only came out 6 months ago, have been full time for 2)

But yeah I'm sure it will be awesome to hang out here :3

 

[Kaywee]

Even though I know I'm not the only person to feel this way, this wasn't easy to get off my chest. Even to people that would have an inkling what I am feeling. After posting and reading your replies over and over, I feel more reassured and less scared, so thank you. I know I have a rough journey of understanding ahead before I know what the next step for me is, but I feel less alone [somewhat] while reading here.

Even though I said I feel less scared, it is still a bit difficult and uncomfortable to get my thoughts down [maybe because I'm not really comfortable confiding in people and asking advise]. As it is, I'm writing this in notepad. I appologize if I don't make sense, or am unclear, or whatnot. When I do or can get them down, I'd might like to PM any of you.

When thinking of my self, I've been realizing I feel nothing a lot. I might be happy, meh, or down but at the same time I just feel...here. But when I see girly/feminine things or clothes, I feel uplifted and happy. Thinking about maybe finally getting my ears pierced kind of excites me. If that makes sense. When reading Ketkat's response of not believing me about me saying I don't have a problem with my body got me thinking, a) I might've worded it wrong, but also might have to do with how I mentioned that sometimes I just feel "here" and b) one of the only few dreams I actually remember having as a child was that I took a pair of giant kitchen sheers we have and I casually cut my penis off and that I was panicking not because I did it, but because my parents were coming and I didn't want the to see what I did. I never told anyone about it [until now] and never really thought much about it again until now.

It'll probably be a while before I can talk to a therapist about this because of money. I have just enough money to pay my bills and maybe buy me a thing or two. Are there any books or sites or things you guys recommend to help me better understand things? Also, anywhere I should go to learn make up tips because I am terrible at it.

I guess this is all for now.

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If you have any questions feel free to pm me and I will try my best to answer them for you. Also depending on what country you live like Canada you can get therapy for free.

 

[PixelGengar]

Hi, I'm a UK trans woman, just thought I'd pop in and say a little hello :3

 

[zetsubou]

Also depending on what country you live like Canada you can get therapy for free.

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Anyone in Canada want to let me move in with them? :) Lol.

 

[Xan]

I came out to my boss yesterday. It went well! Though our conversation was a bit brief as he got called to a meeting after about five minutes.

The Good: He's very supportive. While I didn't expect outright rejection, my boss has a (somewhat deserved) reputation for being a huge asshole and a nightmare to deal with, so I wasn't sure how things were going to go. He says I can present however I want, and suggested, semi-jokingly, that he would decisively "deal with" anyone who had a problem with me.

The Bad: And now we wait for HR. I had questions about bathroom stuff and using a different name, as well as how best to communicate my transition to other employees, which are in HR's purview. My boss has talked to them, and they're "doing research", which is a strong indication that I'm the first openly trans employee at the company. Once they've figured that out, there will be a meeting to discuss everything. I don't expect any particularly bad outcomes: trans people are explicitly in the nondiscrimination policy, it's just likely never been acted on until now. But it's probably best to hold off on changing my presentation until then.

I'm fully out to two coworkers (one of whom is also trans, and closeted), so I've been keeping them updated on my progress. Now that I've taken (hopefully) the most difficult step, I'm impatient to just be able to wear my skirts to work already. Still, it's looking like it will be a few weeks at most until I can finally be myself at work.

 

[zetsubou]

Anyone in SoCal have Kaiser insurance and know if they have a gender therapist or if Kaiser's insurance covers one?

 

[How About No]

Hi all, I'm posting for an anonymous member (with their permission) because I think they could really use your help.

From what they told me they seem to be suffering from gender dysphoria and other body perception issues, and these are attributing to some major hurdles in their life.

However, they live with their parents and are on their insurance plan, and will not mention any of the dysphoria issues to their doctor because they are terrified their parents will find out. They relayed to be that their parents have punished them when they were younger for these sort of thoughts, so this fear may be somewhat justified in their mind.

I've been talking with this person since this summer, when we were still on the old site, and it's obvious they can't continue on this trajectory, and they need medical advice...intervention...something.

I want them to know if there are resources available for them, or any general advice you may have. They don't have a job or transportation, so options may be limited.

Thank you so much ahead of time.

 

[zetsubou]

Happy Thanksgiving, ya'll!

 

[Blairbat]

So, can taking spiro on top of a 3 month lupron shot harm you? I got on lupron 3 days ago, and unfortunately I noticed that negative male stuff started to return.

My doctor told me that it takes time to work, but I don't want to sit around while my testosterone goes up.

I decided to take the pills again, which are about 400 milligrams + this thing called finasteride?

Honestly, I think I would rather overdose and die in my sleep then letting my testosterone levels increase.

This is all quite distressing. I hope my doctor does not get mad at me.

 

[Blairbat]

Anyone in SoCal have Kaiser insurance and know if they have a gender therapist or if Kaiser's insurance covers one?

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Kaiser is not the insurance company, they are a provider. You need insurance Coverage in order to have Kaiser as a provider.

California is the greatest place to be in the US if you are transgender. They offer HRT, hair removal, and facial surgery, for free, but you need inurance that covers Kaiser.

 

[pigeon_interrupted]

Just thought I'd swing by and say hi to everyone. It's good to see there's a nice little community going on here.

I'm a trans woman based in the UK and would like to offer any support or answer any questions anyone has even though I'm a bit inexperienced :S (only came out 6 months ago, have been full time for 2)

But yeah I'm sure it will be awesome to hang out here :3

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Hey o/

Hi, I'm a UK trans woman, just thought I'd pop in and say a little hello :3

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Hello o/

I'm here in the UK too. It's nice to see we are so well represented here.

Happy Thanksgiving, ya'll!

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Happy Thanksgiving to you and all American TransEra! I'm so jealous that you get to celebrate twice in two months. I start Christmas in November to make up for it - my decorations have already been up for a week.

And I have an early appointment at my gic next week, so rather than commute during rush hour I've booked an expensive hotel and am going pamper myself for a couple of days. I'm trying too eke out every drop of merriment I can out of winter ;)

 

[Blairbat]

Hi all, I'm posting for an anonymous member (with their permission) because I think they could really use your help.

From what they told me they seem to be suffering from gender dysphoria and other body perception issues, and these are attributing to some major hurdles in their life.

However, they live with their parents and are on their insurance plan, and will not mention any of the dysphoria issues to their doctor because they are terrified their parents will find out. They relayed to be that their parents have punished them when they were younger for these sort of thoughts, so this fear may be somewhat justified in their mind.

I've been talking with this person since this summer, when we were still on the old site, and it's obvious they can't continue on this trajectory, and they need medical advice...intervention...something.

I want them to know if there are resources available for them, or any general advice you may have. They don't have a job or transportation, so options may be limited.

Thank you so much ahead of time.

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Tell them to call planned parenthood, and find out what services they offer for transgender issues. They may be able to give advice on what to do. Their doctor should be able to keep anything they talk about under confidentiality. He or she could also try to talk to a therapist, to get advice.

I hope this helps.

 

[Etain]

Happy Thanksgiving to you and all American TransEra! I'm so jealous that you get to celebrate twice in two months. I start Christmas in November to make up for it - my decorations have already been up for a week.

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That's more reasonable than in America actually. My store was all dressed up for Christmas once Halloween passed.

Anyways, yes, happy Thanksgiving to everyone in the US, and a happy day period for anyone else!

 

[Kaywee]

So, can taking spiro on top of a 3 month lupron shot harm you? I got on lupron 3 days ago, and unfortunately I noticed that negative male stuff started to return.

My doctor told me that it takes time to work, but I don't want to sit around while my testosterone goes up.

I decided to take the pills again, which are about 400 milligrams + this thing called finasteride?

Honestly, I think I would rather overdose and die in my sleep then letting my testosterone levels increase.

This is all quite distressing. I hope my doctor does not get mad at me.

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ALWAYS take your meds as prescribed. As someone who is also on on Lupron, I can say it is really heavy duty stuff and you don't want to mess with it. It works by shutting down all hormone production but your body will need a little time to clear the testosterone that is there before the estrogen and progesterone can do their thing.

I know it sucks waiting but let me assure you Lupron works wonders, but it does take a toll on you eventually because it is so strong. Let it do its thing so you can get off of it once your systems balances out.

 

[zetsubou]

Kaiser is not the insurance company, they are a provider. You need insurance Coverage in order to have Kaiser as a provider.

California is the greatest place to be in the US if you are transgender. They offer HRT, hair removal, and facial surgery, for free, but you need inurance that covers Kaiser.

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Now I am confused. At work, we get offered 4 options for insurance. 2 HMO and 2 Kaiser. I have the lower Kaiser option and can go to a Kaiser facility.

Granted, I've only used it twice in like the 6 years I've been paying for it, so I don't know much about it.

That's more reasonable than in America actually. My store was all dressed up for Christmas once Halloween passed.

Anyways, yes, happy Thanksgiving to everyone in the US, and a happy day period for anyone else!

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Shit, the store I work for had Christmas stuff out before Halloween was even over

 

[Kaywee]

Hi all, I'm posting for an anonymous member (with their permission) because I think they could really use your help.

From what they told me they seem to be suffering from gender dysphoria and other body perception issues, and these are attributing to some major hurdles in their life.

However, they live with their parents and are on their insurance plan, and will not mention any of the dysphoria issues to their doctor because they are terrified their parents will find out. They relayed to be that their parents have punished them when they were younger for these sort of thoughts, so this fear may be somewhat justified in their mind.

I've been talking with this person since this summer, when we were still on the old site, and it's obvious they can't continue on this trajectory, and they need medical advice...intervention...something.

I want them to know if there are resources available for them, or any general advice you may have. They don't have a job or transportation, so options may be limited.

Thank you so much ahead of time.

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The best thing I can suggest is to find a local trans group and have them attend a session. The people who run the groups should be able to set up them up with local supports from housing, therapy and just someone to share their frustrations and concerns with. It really helps being able to talk with others who understand, because they have been there. You should be able to find a local group through https://www.pflag.org or a quick Google search for their area.

Services and resources will vary from country to country. I wish your friend the best of luck in their journey. While it can be hard it is worth it.

 

[How About No]

Tell them to call planned parenthood, and find out what services they offer for transgender issues. They may be able to give advice on what to do. Their doctor should be able to keep anything they talk about under confidentiality. He or she could also try to talk to a therapist, to get advice.

I hope this helps.

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The best thing I can suggest is to find a local trans group and have them attend a session. The people who run the groups should be able to set up them up with local supports from housing, therapy and just someone to share their frustrations and concerns with. It really helps being able to talk with others who understand, because they have been there. You should be able to find a local group through https://www.pflag.org or a quick Google search for their area.

Services and resources will vary from country to country. I wish your friend the best of luck in their journey. While it can be hard it is worth it.

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Thank you both for the help <3 <3

Hopefully they post in this thread soon, otherwise I'm happy to oblige posting on their behalf as well

 

[Blairbat]

Thank you both for the help <3 <3

Hopefully they post in this thread soon, otherwise I'm happy to oblige posting on their behalf as well

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No problem! Glad I could help!

 

[Blairbat]

If anyone here decides to go on lupron, make sure you get testosterone suppressant. Lupron will cause your testosterone levels to soar within the first day of taking it. I think the shot you would need is Casidex, but I am unsure.

Yeah, the testosterone flare can apparently last for quite a while. It can take up to 10 days, or 1 month for it to go away.

A bit of a random post, but I thought maybe this information could be helpful to anyone who is about to take lupron.

 

[PixelGengar]

Hey everyone, I hope your all doing okay.

I had my first assessment with my local GIC today and I feel like it went okay, I got told second assessment would probably be within the next 9 months so hopefully I'm on HRT by next year

 

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Hey everyone, I hope your all doing okay.

I had my first assessment with my local GIC today and I feel like it went okay, I got told second assessment would probably be within the next 9 months so hopefully I'm on HRT by next year

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Wow 9 months seems like such a long time ;-;. Fingers crossed it all goes smoothly for you

 

[PixelGengar]

Wow 9 months seems like such a long time ;-;. Fingers crossed it all goes smoothly for you

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Thanks ^_^ yup it's been a really long wait so far, I had to wait 13 months just for the appointment I had today, the UK's trans healthcare system is horrible but I can't afford to go private :/

 

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Thanks ^_^ yup it's been a really long wait so far, I had to wait 13 months just for the appointment I had today, the UK's trans healthcare system is horrible but I can't afford to go private :/

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Yeah it's an absolute joke. I've been on the waiting list for Nottingham for 5 months and still have 21 to go. Even the private places have 7+ month waiting lists for an initial appointment 0_0.

 

[PixelGengar]

Yeah it's an absolute joke. I've been on the waiting list for Nottingham for 5 months and still have 21 to go. Even the private places have 7+ month waiting lists for an initial appointment 0_0.

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Oh wow that's quite a wait, I hope it goes quickly for you, I wish they didn't make us wait forever for the care we need ;-;

 

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Oh wow that's quite a wait, I hope it goes quickly for you, I wish they didn't make us wait forever for the care we need ;-;

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I'm in the fortunate position of being able to afford going through GenderCare so it's not too bad (Should be starting HRT some point next year) but yeah I feel terrible for the people that can't. I wish there was something that could be done to make the whole experience better.

 

[PixelGengar]

I'm in the fortunate position of being able to afford going through GenderCare so it's not too bad (Should be starting HRT some point next year) but yeah I feel terrible for the people that can't. I wish there was something that could be done to make the whole experience better.

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Oh yay I'm glad you can afford to go through GenderCare and same I wish we had an informed consent model so we could get HRT via our permission and GP's

 

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Oh yay I'm glad you can afford to go through GenderCare and same I wish we had an informed consent model so we could get HRT via our permission and GP's

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That would be amazing. It's just a shame they I can't see it happening here for a long time :/

 

[PixelGengar]

That would be amazing. It's just a shame they I can't see it happening here for a long time :/

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I don't see it happening anytime soon either but a girl can dream

 

[Android Sophia]

Asking on behalf of a friend, but does anyone know of informed consent options in Michigan? She's called basically every Planned Parenthood in the area and they've all said they don't do informed consent, and she's not having very good luck through University of Michigan's Transgender Services Program.