Thanks for the motivation ♡OP, I just turned 38 and have been single most of my life. I wouldn't give up at your age, though I have given up at mine.
Thanks for the motivation ♡OP, I just turned 38 and have been single most of my life. I wouldn't give up at your age, though I have given up at mine.
Things can happen when you don't expect them. People have always told me that, and I am here to echo that.
The pressure of being 24 and slowly closing onto 25 and not being in a relationship seems like a downer but shouldn't. I'm young but not, it's a weird stage.
Just indulge in anime, it's far easier and fills the need wonderfully.
I'm not qualified to give advice on such matters, and it would be irresponsible of me to speak falsehoods that may not apply to one in your situation. As such I would encourage seeking professional advice, possibly calling a hotline, specifically reaching out to someone who is professionally trained to help and talk through these concerns. There are people out there, and they have taken on these roles as they do care and want to help.What if you're on the spectrum, have severe mental illness and are basically paid by the govt to stay alive? I was only ever bullied or betrayed by anyone I was interested in to the point where I dream about being betrayed or screwed over many nights.
Im sure the average person who has a future has a probability of these things eventually happening. My situation is such that even without chronic depression I think any human being would be contemplating suicide.
My dad met my mom at 40. Don't give up.OP, I just turned 38 and have been single most of my life. I wouldn't give up at your age, though I have given up at mine.
So I feel like every few months I make a thread along these lines but it's quite true! Social media is shit for the self esteem. Even these dating apps is shit. If you don't have good photos, (sadly i'm not good at posing) it's hard to meet new people. With covid-19 it's really dampered things. Take for example, I work full time for a school (Canada) and also doing university online part-time. I would love to go on a date or even a one nighter but i'm barely getting anything. The pressure of being 24 and slowly closing onto 25 and not being in a relationship seems like a downer but shouldn't. I'm young but not, it's a weird stage.
When did all of you find your significant other? Am I doomed to be forever alone. (Over dramatic music)
Love Live, Bunny Girl Senpai, Rent-a-GF, Toradora, Asteroid in Love, Blend S
I'm not qualified to give advice on such matters, and it would be irresponsible of me to speak falsehoods that may not apply to one in your situation. As such I would encourage seeking professional advice, possibly calling a hotline, specifically reaching out to someone who is professionally trained to help and talk through these concerns. There are people out there, and they have taken on these roles as they do care and want to help.
It's ultimately a place of mental privilege, no denying that. I've worked with people on the spectrum with severe mental illness, on benefits, history of trauma, physical health problems, and being actively suicidal who still managed to find a partner but that came down to support where they could focus past survival and work on their self-worth and have future goals. So a lot of that might not apply in your case at this stage and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I can only hope things get better for you eventually and just keep going even if it doesn't look possible at this moment.What if you're on the spectrum, have severe mental illness and are basically paid by the govt to stay alive? I was only ever bullied or betrayed by anyone I was interested in to the point where I dream about being betrayed or screwed over many nights.
Im sure the average person who has a future has a probability of these things eventually happening. My situation is such that even without chronic depression I think any human being would be contemplating suicide.
You look fine! And I'm not talking to the dog, who is gorgeous by the way :) That is a good photo, in my opinion.
Remember that not everyone wants endless conversation.Social anxiety is a bitch. Tinder also sucks anyway, it drains your mental health like nothing else. All the matches I get are frontloaded from the point of acc creation and then it just... dies. I get nothing more.
I pretty much never message to begin with.You get used to the loneliness.
Remember that not everyone wants endless conversation.
Someone new will come in and swoop right in.
I think the whole purpose of those sayings is so you won't obsess over being alone. It's like the saying "a watched pot never boils" just do your thing, sure try to make connections, but don't obsess about it. I was there, then I stopped caring and tried to enjoy myself a bit more. It made the dating process much better.My advice is: don't pay attention to those saying "love will find you" "love comes when you least expect it" and so on.That's simply not true. I mean, it can happen, but it's like with winning the lotto.
Love takes effort and dedication. And above all else, you must learn to love and accept yourself first, and always aim to keep improving yourself, in a positive, pro-active way. Don't hold grudges (they're a waste of time), don't blame others when things don't work out, but also don't blame yourself. Shit happens.
If you keep waiting for love to fall to you like an apple from a tree, like I did, you'll end like me: a bitter, almost 34-year old loser who will someday die alone in a very cold and dark place.
Why not just have sex with people? You seem charismatic enough to start plenty of relationships.Ive had a bad pattern of relationships and this year has really thrown me out of things.
My junior year of high school i dated a girl and that continued for 3 years. I then broke up with her and dated another girl for 2 years. We broke up mutually and i dated a girl for 1 year. We had to end things cause i moved to savannah. Then i dated a girl for 6 months and we broke up. In june i moved to seattle and to be honest i dont know how to be single. Ive been in a relationship most of my life and being single this year in particular has been so difficult. I cant even meet anyone right now. I know most people would say enjoy being single, but idk im just not good at it lol. Im too extroverted and its so lonely.
To be honest im not really looking for that! Everyone close to me is getting married. Ive been the best man in 3 of my close friends weddings in recent times and I really want to just have that sort of love.Why not just have sex with people? You seem charismatic enough to start plenty of relationships.
Ah, sounds like a tough spot to be in. I can't really offer much advice there. Do you feel like you have a sense of self identity being single? Or do you feel like you know yourself when you're in a relationship?To be honest im not really looking for that! Everyone close to me is getting married. Ive been the best man in 3 of my close friends weddings in recent times and I really want to just have that sort of love.
Hmmm. I feel like i have a solid self identity. I also feel like ive sat on a lot of missed opportunities in past relationships because of how often I've moved. :/Ah, sounds like a tough spot to be in. I can't really offer much advice there. Do you feel like you have a sense of self identity being single? Or do you feel like you know yourself when you're in a relationship?