Look man I don't think anyone denys that some type of men (short or whatever flimsy preferences are 'in') have trouble in casual hook up apps. But like... That's the point of those apps, to find some meaningless sex and if you're average looking or short or whatever then of course you ain't gonna get many. Most people are vapid and surface level on these hook up apps, even women.
But I'm interested now in these custom shirts. Do you have some examples? Don't have any custom shirts myself.
"Always broke"
There's probably some of the really angry girls on Twitter in there who spend all day saying they absolutely hate men who... then don't get laid either when trying to find a man. People who use their social media to make themselves utterly unattractive. And whether or not they are like they are online, offline (because yes, many people tell lies online and act like hyperbolic nutters for attention).
As much as you can talk about issues you may have with society/opposite sex, if you yourself become a very bitter, resentful and hateful person, you're just not going to attract people to you. Even if you are decent looking.
There comes a point where personality becomes soo toxic, most people will avoid you like a ship avoiding an iceberg.
Whatever side you are on here, your own looks, your own personality and your own actions are the major factors that steer the ship for your sex and relationships.
If he's confident and has found someone who likes that, that's fine.
But for most nerds struggling for sex, going for that look isn't going to increase their opportunity window.
That's just not going to get you laid often.
Or if your beard is really patchy and looks like someone has randomly stuck lint on your face, just shave it.
What does that have to do with feminism?Between this and that Tinder height verification thread there's this subcurrent of feminist schadenfraude around here that's kind of icky.
"Man, height verification is basically body shaming so that would suck."
"Yeah well women have been objectified forever sooooo...."
"There's a sharp drop sexual activity, especially for men. That could be problematic."
"Step your game up, mediocre oppressor!"
Who are you even quoting?I like how in almost everywhere its
"You're a virgin? Wow you're a loser."
and on ResetEra its
"You're a virgin? Wow you're an incel."
Can't fucking win in this world huh? Thought this site was better than that.
Yeah I get you. From my perspective, a lot of socializing can come off as so fake. There's all these rituals and rules, it often feels like posturing. Not to mention the headache of actually navigating the actual meat of the conversation. But you understand your current friend status. Just gotta put in the grinding to get the results lol. FWIW, I have a friend who's in a similar spot and I wish he had as much of a grasp on the situation as you. He's still preferring to ignore the situation and we're not sure how to help him. :(I used to be worse. A high functioning Autistic who hid in the Special Ed classrooms for all of high school, barely socializing with neurotypicals. I changed shortly before I left HS, got some great friends who I still have. But one thing I've had to come to terms with recently, is that I simply don't enjoy socializing as much as others. I don't want to go out and get more friends. I simply hate having to socialize with most people, and that of course means I have high standards for who I would date as well, I wouldn't have good chemistry with most girls.
But my freinds are drifting, and I don't want to be entirely alone, so I'm in this weird lonely limbo having to consider my next move. I may have to find more freinds, or at least a girlfriend. I need to put in the effort.
Between this and that Tinder height verification thread there's this subcurrent of feminist schadenfraude around here that's kind of icky.
"Man, height verification is basically body shaming so that would suck."
"Yeah well women have been objectified forever sooooo...."
"There's a sharp drop sexual activity, especially for men. That could be problematic."
"Step your game up, mediocre oppressor!"
People have to remember that sexlessness doesn't only affect the basement dwellers, but also the extremely beautiful.
They apparently get fewer dates.
But 1 in 5 though? It's a trend that is affecting both men and women and I don't think it's because people are getting collectively shittier.
I was rocking this for a while (when I had my long hair) a few years ago. But man it is can be excruciatingly difficult to maintain a shapely beard and worse still if one suffers from dandruff related issue. In the end, my job told me "Nocapesbeard".
While it lasted, it was fun listening to people who didn't know that brown folks could also have reddish beard. Now that my I trim my hair to shortest length possible, perhaps I will pursue this again to look like a (smol) biker. Of course, I'd be immediately unemployed :(
I like how in almost everywhere its
"You're a virgin? Wow you're a loser."
and on ResetEra its
"You're a virgin? Wow you're an incel."
Can't fucking win in this world huh? Thought this site was better than that.
Yeah, dry skin through a beard is killer. I can grow a decent full beard, but I have sensitive skin that needs looked after or it can become quite dry and itchy.
But then I also get bad shave rash, so it's a bitch all round. Still, less complaining, more finding ways to deal with things.
This. I also want to rebut that this is a game of their own making. The problem isn't that they CAN'T get sex. The problem is that they cant get sex with 10/10 babes. I'm an average woman. I'm a nerd (duh I'm on this board.), I practice skin care but don't do makeup. My experience growing up was only getting hit on as a bullying tactic because I'm considered an 'uggo'. Plenty of dudes would proclaim I'm dating someone to get 'Ew!' Response because I'm not a walking Kardashian. I'm lucky that I was self confident enough to bear through it. However all those Insta models were/are women and girls like me who faced utter ridicule and humiliation from the very guys crying about fucking tinder being a Chad's and Stacy's fest and stepped up their game meet their unrealistic expectations.Yep, this is it. The funny part to me is seeing the posts talking about how women are only going for attractive men... and remembering about how clearly that kind of inherently misogynistic stench comes off some people's profiles on dating sites back in the day. There's subtle clues about who is worth talking to and who isn't, but guys don't want to hear about it, heh.
This. I also want to rebut that this is a game of their own making. The problem isn't that they CAN'T get sex. The problem is that they cant get sex with 10/10 babes.
Yeah I was gonna post this too. Goes with my earlier post. Political polarization is one of the biggest factors that lines up with the timeline and could be pretty reasonable reason why there's a massive spike rather than a gradual change.
OOOoOooof fuck that. As someone who can empathize on having sensitive skin, I essentially gave up shaving except for special occasions since a few years ago. I simply trim to the shortest length possible.
As a guy that is single and is his mid 30s, I can't complain as I'm doing just fine in that department. It seems alot of women in their early to mid 20s have no problem dating me and prefer the fact I'm older and have my shit together.
Ha, I wanted to post this the other day but I already had a sex-themed thread, I'm glad it got posted. I don't think this is healthy for society ultimately, especially with the prevalence of really toxic echo chambers among young men, but I also don't know any way to fix it. .
Well actually! It's Mary Jane and Spider-Man with a hyphen, perhaps if you got your references right you would have been seen as more attractive.
Don't give up. Don't overthink it either. Just talking to someone in some kinda romantic or sexual way is awesome.
The only thing you need to spend energy on is making sure you look somewhat attractive and not saying anything bizarre to women.
Since when do you need money for dating when you're young? I mean I was meeting women with less than 5 bucks in my pocket when I was around 18 to 20. Just bought a few beer and went to the park.yeah I've had to cancel more than a few dates I had planned because I was too broke to afford train fare or dinner. I think it's more economic than anything.
Sorry to the folks not having sex. My wife and I had some mind blowing, hip numbing, stinky, sweaty, neighbours call the cops type sex last night.
Glad I put down the fucking controller, stop giving a shit about my post count and stopped feeling sorry for myself years ago.
Depression and anxiety and general "disconnection" are a huge part of this, no doubt.
I feel for the people going through this kind of thing, and do my best to spend time in places like reddit helping young men shift their attitudes away from bad conclusions and towards self-improvement and open connection with people and all that. But there's only so much you can do, and there does seem to be some systemic shifts, especially with internet-savvy young men, where radicalization and other influences are making them... let's say "unappealing" to many women.
I use an electric shaver most of the time. It's quite decent and is smooth when leaving the house.
I've tried to master safety razor shaving but because my skin is soo sensitive AND dry, it usually just ends badly.