The key to this is going where the open and playful people hang out (once the vaccine is out ofc)The whole "close couple friends we can be completely open and playful with" is my greatest fantasy. Gaddamn.
No, I don't think so. I don't really know yet what this will turn into. I'm guessing probably initially it would be boning in the same room with our own partners and then see what everyone is into.Op, are there any bisexual vibes somewhere there?
Is it is just partner swapping and/or sharing?
Only the ladies are sharing photos though? You guys don't share sexy pics?No, I don't think so. I don't really know yet what this will turn into. I'm guessing probably initially it would be boning in the same room with our own partners and then see what everyone is into.
as a very active swinger for many years now, this all sounds like the absolute best way this could be playing out. Initially at the start of this thread i was thinking that this is a disaster in the making (not sure if i could swing with close friends), but the way it sounds to be playing out sounds very natural and being so open talkative about it is a big plus as all the swining i have done, openness and communication is paramount. The biggest worry is always if someone stops feeling it, noone else can get offfended. It sounds like you are all open and honest with eachother that this doesnt sound like it will be a issue.So some interesting things have happened since this trip we took with our friends in August.
We had kind of left it as is after the trip with them aware now that we were swingers and having much more open lines of communication about sex things we were into. That said, over the past few months, some of those conversations were starting to get a bit more interesting. They would send us pics of their latest sex toy purchases. My friends partner even gave one of her toys to my wife to try (we've never been into sex toys that much) to see how she liked it. It inspired us to make a few purchases of our own which has been fun to try a few new things, but I think they were pretty excited that they've been the ones to inspire us to try some of the same stuff they're into.
Anyway, we have a group chat going on our phones that we all talk to each other almost every day. My friend and I have still been dropping photos of our partner's butts (clothed) every once in awhile to this chat, but over time, these photos have been getting more and more sexualized. They went from being sneak shots we would take randomly to our partners actually posing for them, and some of them being pretty revealing.
Then a few days ago, after another round of sharing pics like this, my friend says they're interested in swapping even sexier pics and asking if we were ok with that. They get 2 thumbs up from both me and my wife, and now we're starting to share posed pics in underwear. Everyone is obviously very much into this and excited. His partner also says this is a good first step to feel things out and start conversations about exploring further.
So it appears this story is not over.....the next day i had a long private conversation with my friend to see where his head was at and make sure they're both comfortable with whats happening. He's apparently been very turned on and intrigued about what we've been doing with sharing pics and all the little things that have been happening step wise as they've progressed further and is interested in continuing and seeing where it goes. So we're all on the same page and I've discussed that I want to be sure that whatever we get into to be sure that we communicate totally transparently and don't do anything that would sacrifice the friendship or the dynamic that we all have hanging out together.
I knew I'd find an appropriate use for this gif sooner or later
Sting....somehow lol
We're all sharing pics but so far the subjects of the pics have only been the ladies.Only the ladies are sharing photos though? You guys don't share sexy pics?
You should facetime each other but focus on the ladies giving head.We're all sharing pics but so far the subjects of the pics have only been the ladies.
and yes the guys are part of the sexy pic sharing now too.Only the ladies are sharing photos though? You guys don't share sexy pics?
When you four are going to bang, will it be you having sex with your friends wife, or it will it be you with yours, and him with his?Its been about a month and a half I think since I last posted in this thread and a lot has happened since then.
We've gone from sharing underwear/lingerie pics to sending each other some all out hardcore pics and videos of ourselves. Everyone seems to be pretty excited about all of it. I can tell they're both getting pretty into this whole thing and I love watching the little smiles on my wife's face after we send them some of our pics and they comment on them.
I've had some side conversations with my friend periodically throughout all of this just to check in and make sure everyone's still comfortable and they've definitely been into it. We've still been going pretty slow making sure not to overstep any bounds, but I think that also part of what's causing it to continually be so intriguing.
So last night we were continuing the upping the ante thing with the photo sharing and my friend brings up in our group chat taking a next step and banging together in the same room (not swapping at this point). We're doing another one of our airbnb trips in the latter half of next week so i think we're planning on doing it then on whatever night all 4 of us are feeling into it. I'm pretty excited about it. In my swinging experience, surprisingly, we've never actually done same-room sex without swapping. The being in the same room and watching aspect of it should be pretty interesting/hot.
I'll report back after the trip next week.
and yes the guys are part of the sexy pic sharing now too.
He said they won't be sharing partners yet.When you four are going to bang, will it be you having sex with your friends wife, or it will it be you with yours, and him with his?
I somehow missed that
We'll be banging our respective partners, just in the same room/bed or wherever we end upWhen you four are going to bang, will it be you having sex with your friends wife, or it will it be you with yours, and him with his?
What's the craziest thing that ever happenned to you guys when you were out swingin.We'll be banging our respective partners, just in the same room/bed or wherever we end up
I mean, just swinging in general for the first time is pretty wild. Nothing really stands out to me as being all that crazy while swapping with people. I think one of the weirder encounters was with a couple where we met them for dinner at a mexican restaurant and the girl from the other couple lead off the conversation by talking about how much she loved fisting. My wife and I looked at eachother and were like "....yeahhh. Haven't had much experience with that before...." . Such a weird thing to start with. They were a cool couple but we didn't end up playing with them.What's the craziest thing that ever happenned to you guys when you were out swingin.
If I can ask, how do you go about finding other couples to mess around with?I mean, just swinging in general for the first time is pretty wild. Nothing really stands out to me as being all that crazy while swapping with people. I think one of the weirder encounters was with a couple where we met them for dinner at a mexican restaurant and the girl from the other couple lead off the conversation by talking about how much she loved fisting. My wife and I looked at eachother and were like "....yeahhh. Haven't had much experience with that before...." . Such a weird thing to start with. They were a cool couple but we didn't end up playing with them.
We have accounts on a few different sites specific to swinging dating (Kasidie, Swinglifestyle, etc.) just cause theres less risk of someone single we know finding us on something like Tinder. At least if someone we know finds us on the swinging sites, we know they're there for the same thing that we are. We're on the Feeld app too, but its a pretty clunky app.If I can ask, how do you go about finding other couples to mess around with?
We've talked about making a Tinder account before, and I don't think this is something I'd bring up in the lunch room at work.
We've definitely considered this and we've all talked about it together a lot too. This past year we've all grown really close to each other being in our little covid bubble. Like even more so than we were pre-pandemic by a pretty big degree. That said, I don't feel like anything up to this point has done any damage to the foundation of our friendship. We've been going really slow with this whole thing to make sure of that and haven't encountered any issues yet. We're still all able to talk to each other the same way we always have, just now we're much more open discussing things and there's sex sprinkled into our conversations. It actually all feels really healthy to me in a way, being able to be open with them about things.
wow, yeah the latter part of that all does sound really similar to what's going on with us. I also feel a little weird about categorizing what's going on with us as swinging since we're such close friends, but its really not all that different from what we do with swinger friends. I think there's a lot of different flavors of swinging....even the website we're on you can pic if you're interested in full swapping, soft swapping, just being in the same room/watching.Just found this thread and am fascinated that me and my wife have a similar slow-burn thing with a close friend over several years. My wife is bi, and two of our closest friends were a girl-girl couple that we've occasionally had some flirty close-calls with over the 8 years that we've known them. There's been many jokes about the 4 of us doing something together many times, with the closest call being this Halloween party a few years ago where (for whatever reason) we all kept putting gummy worms halfway in our mouths and holding them there, and then one of the others would grab the other side with their mouth, ending in a kiss. But it didn't go further than that...
...Until a few months ago, when our friend couple broke up. It was a situation where we had to choose a side, and our closer friend of the two hadn't been single for nearly a decade.A bit after the breakup she told us that she and her former partner had previously discussed a foursome (she didn't specify with us, but it felt implied given past events), but her former partner is 100% only into girls, and so I would've been the problem, and also was afraid of getting too jealous. Our closer friend also identifies as a lesbian, and has never been with a man, but has expressed interest in testing the waters.
My wife and I have no experience in threesomes other than this one time in college where my wife (at the time girlfriend) and one of her friends made out in front of me spontaneously, which hardly counts.
Back in September our close friend started visiting us more often, she had just moved about an hour from us, after previously living about 3 hours away for the past couple years with her partner. On September 26th, she came down to spend the day with us, nothing out of the ordinary, but as soon as she got here, she asked if she could take a shower. Didn't think much of it, and while she was in the shower I finished getting our guest bedroom situated for her. While I was finishing up, she came into the room wearing nothing but a towel, and it wasn't covering her super well, so I got all shy and she thought it was hilarious and pretended like she was going to drop the towel but I left the room because I felt embarrassed, but also turned on.
Fast-forward to later in the evening, we had a movie marathon in our living room. Me on our couch. Her and my wife on our loveseat. I'm spacing on the first movie we watched, but it would've been Halloween themed. (It's actually really bugging me that I can't remember what it was...) After it was over she asked if we wanted to smoke weed with her. Me and my wife almost never smoke, the only times we do is when she's offered it to us in the past.
The second movie was Hocus Pocus. But pretty quick into the movie, she started bringing up this time before we knew her, when she was like 19, where she and 2 friends, a M and F couple, had messed around, and that she was thinking about it a lot lately. She regretted that she didn't interact with the guy at all, and as we kept watching the movie, she explained what all they did do in increasingly graphic detail. There was this incredible vibe at the time, the room was completely dark, except for a warm light in our living room, and the TV itself.
She then asked my wife is she ever reminisced about kissing girls or regretting not going further with it, and if she still identified as being bi. My wife confirmed she overall finds women more attractive than men, like I'm more the exception than the rule. And then our friend started asking me questions about what kind of porn I liked, and the atmosphere just got heavier and heavier with implication as the conversation went on. It seriously felt like I was in a late-night Cinemax movie. I'm normally a very shy, anxious person, but I think the weed helped me keep my cool, and my poker face.
Finally, she just cut the tension and asked if we've ever wanted to have a threesome with her. My wife and I looked at each other, as though we wanted to hear the other's response so we wouldn't be the odd man out. But we both agreed that we did, but that we always ruled it out because we were such close friends, and we are both so neurotic that we'd never be able to plan such a thing, and the odds of it happening spontaneously was so unlikely. We ended up messing around a bit right there in the living room, but we agreed it would just be brief touching with the three of us, and our friend just watching me and my wife for more than that. It was very brief, our friend decided we should stop after just a few minutes. But it was still super, super hot. We finished Hocus Pocus, went to sleep (separately), debriefed a bit the next morning, all feeling pretty good about it, and that was that.
We kept in close contact after that, mostly in our Snapchat group appropriately called Thrupple, thrupple, toil, and trouble. But we didn't discuss the encounter again for about a month, and we didn't hang out due to Covid.
In November, our friend explained to us that she had a lot of fun with us, but isn't sure if she wants to do anything physical with us again, as she's still struggling with her identity, and also dealing with her ex-partner who she was still stuck living with. But she still thinks of us a lot, sexually, and asked if we could sext regularly. We agreed that would be fine, and that the only rules are anything sexual must always be in the group chat, where it is always visible to all parties. Ever since then the three of us have had extremely hot conversations, and it's gotten to where we send very graphic photos and even video clips to each other.
Overall, I'm pleased where things are with the three of us. Although I realize it's a precarious position. I'm leaning toward discussing if we could make this a more "official" polyamorous relationship, as there's a lot of trust here, and we all go back so many years, but I don't think my wife is quite at that level. So I may just keep quiet.
I hopefully didn't hijack this thread, but at the same time it's so similar to the OP I felt weird about making my own. I don't know if I'd call us Swingers, since there's no partner swapping necessarily, and I could never imagine doing this with someone who wasn't a close friend, but that's my experience.
What an update, thanks for sharing!
Actually yeah, we've both been working out much more regularly.What an update, thanks for sharing!
You know this made me think since you're all sharing pictures maybe this is all inspiring you to look the best you can be, so maybe it's making you better, fitness wise.
I think you pretty much hit the nail on the head. This has been much more satisfying than jumping immediately to the end and skipping everything in between.I'd say the slow burn leading up to it is better than actual act. The trying to pick up on their cues and then the dirty talk and exchanging of photos eventually you get to the threshold where "ok then, it is definitely happening" or at the very least the sexting is as strong of an indicator than anything that there are sparks between the group.
It's hard to put into words, but I'm also typing this on a treadmill so that doesn't help lol.
Im not gonna lie this is sooo hot Lmao!Just found this thread and am fascinated that me and my wife have a similar slow-burn thing with a close friend over several years. My wife is bi, and two of our closest friends were a girl-girl couple that we've occasionally had some flirty close-calls with over the 8 years that we've known them. There's been many jokes about the 4 of us doing something together many times, with the closest call being this Halloween party a few years ago where (for whatever reason) we all kept putting gummy worms halfway in our mouths and holding them there, and then one of the others would grab the other side with their mouth, ending in a kiss. But it didn't go further than that...
...Until a few months ago, when our friend couple broke up. It was a situation where we had to choose a side, and our closer friend of the two hadn't been single for nearly a decade.A bit after the breakup she told us that she and her former partner had previously discussed a foursome (she didn't specify with us, but it felt implied given past events), but her former partner is 100% only into girls, and so I would've been the problem, and also was afraid of getting too jealous. Our closer friend also identifies as a lesbian, and has never been with a man, but has expressed interest in testing the waters.
My wife and I have no experience in threesomes other than this one time in college where my wife (at the time girlfriend) and one of her friends made out in front of me spontaneously, which hardly counts.
Back in September our close friend started visiting us more often, she had just moved about an hour from us, after previously living about 3 hours away for the past couple years with her partner. On September 26th, she came down to spend the day with us, nothing out of the ordinary, but as soon as she got here, she asked if she could take a shower. Didn't think much of it, and while she was in the shower I finished getting our guest bedroom situated for her. While I was finishing up, she came into the room wearing nothing but a towel, and it wasn't covering her super well, so I got all shy and she thought it was hilarious and pretended like she was going to drop the towel but I left the room because I felt embarrassed, but also turned on.
Fast-forward to later in the evening, we had a movie marathon in our living room. Me on our couch. Her and my wife on our loveseat. I'm spacing on the first movie we watched, but it would've been Halloween themed. (It's actually really bugging me that I can't remember what it was...) After it was over she asked if we wanted to smoke weed with her. Me and my wife almost never smoke, the only times we do is when she's offered it to us in the past.
The second movie was Hocus Pocus. But pretty quick into the movie, she started bringing up this time before we knew her, when she was like 19, where she and 2 friends, a M and F couple, had messed around, and that she was thinking about it a lot lately. She regretted that she didn't interact with the guy at all, and as we kept watching the movie, she explained what all they did do in increasingly graphic detail. There was this incredible vibe at the time, the room was completely dark, except for a warm light in our living room, and the TV itself.
She then asked my wife is she ever reminisced about kissing girls or regretting not going further with it, and if she still identified as being bi. My wife confirmed she overall finds women more attractive than men, like I'm more the exception than the rule. And then our friend started asking me questions about what kind of porn I liked, and the atmosphere just got heavier and heavier with implication as the conversation went on. It seriously felt like I was in a late-night Cinemax movie. I'm normally a very shy, anxious person, but I think the weed helped me keep my cool, and my poker face.
Finally, she just cut the tension and asked if we've ever wanted to have a threesome with her. My wife and I looked at each other, as though we wanted to hear the other's response so we wouldn't be the odd man out. But we both agreed that we did, but that we always ruled it out because we were such close friends, and we are both so neurotic that we'd never be able to plan such a thing, and the odds of it happening spontaneously was so unlikely. We ended up messing around a bit right there in the living room, but we agreed it would just be brief touching with the three of us, and our friend just watching me and my wife for more than that. It was very brief, our friend decided we should stop after just a few minutes. But it was still super, super hot. We finished Hocus Pocus, went to sleep (separately), debriefed a bit the next morning, all feeling pretty good about it, and that was that.
We kept in close contact after that, mostly in our Snapchat group appropriately called Thrupple, thrupple, toil, and trouble. But we didn't discuss the encounter again for about a month, and we didn't hang out due to Covid.
In November, our friend explained to us that she had a lot of fun with us, but isn't sure if she wants to do anything physical with us again, as she's still struggling with her identity, and also dealing with her ex-partner who she was still stuck living with. But she still thinks of us a lot, sexually, and asked if we could sext regularly. We agreed that would be fine, and that the only rules are anything sexual must always be in the group chat, where it is always visible to all parties. Ever since then the three of us have had extremely hot conversations, and it's gotten to where we send very graphic photos and even video clips to each other.
Overall, I'm pleased where things are with the three of us. Although I realize it's a precarious position. I'm leaning toward discussing if we could make this a more "official" polyamorous relationship, as there's a lot of trust here, and we all go back so many years, but I don't think my wife is quite at that level. So I may just keep quiet.
I hopefully didn't hijack this thread, but at the same time it's so similar to the OP I felt weird about making my own. I don't know if I'd call us Swingers, since there's no partner swapping necessarily, and I could never imagine doing this with someone who wasn't a close friend, but that's my experience.