I got arrested in February for first-time marijuana possession (14g) but was offered non-adjudication in lieu of 30 days jail time and a $1000 fine. I'm currently on probation for six months and being drug/alcohol tested both monthly and randomly.
Even though I think it's complete bullshit this can still happen in the US, it kind of made me realize how reliant I was on alcohol to overcome social anxiety and weed to escape from the mundaneness of every day life. I was able to drop marijuana no problem but not so much with drinking. I've drank since I was 18; I'm 29 now. During college, I drank so frequently I ended up dropping out because I couldn't keep up with school. Once I got out of school and moved back in with my parents I did go through a phase for about a year during 2016-2017 where I would drink almost every night with friends because none of us had any real responsibilities or concerns. Those days ended.
Since I've gotten older, I only drink on Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays and never when alone. But when I do drink, I ~DRINK~. It has been my primary social crutch, which is the reason I started drinking in the first place. I feel like I'm able to be my real self when I drink. I've always had severe issues being able to let my walls down and socialize with other people and alcohol allowed me to do that. I really don't believe I would have come out of my shell without alcohol. Now, it scares me realizing I can't rely on it anymore. I still have fears I won't be able to overcome the anxiety of opening up and being myself around people in social situations. I always feel flawed, inadequate, boring, lame, unfunny... pretty much any derogatory term there is, I feel that about myself when I'm sober around people. People have always told me they don't see me as that but I do. There's definitely an issue there and while it's not complete alcohol dependency, it starts to ride the line.
My first drug/alcohol test was yesterday and the last day I drank was this past Saturday. Not very long at all and I'm already considering drinking again this weekend because I know I'll be with friends but I'm hoping I won't.
All in all, I'm pretty damn curious about finding out who I am and what I can be without alcohol at this point in my life. I've been talking to this girl for about two months now and I really really like her but most of our interactions have involved drinking, which is what allowed us to both open up and get to know each other. I really do want to get to a point where I can drink but not because I feel like I need it to survive socially.
I hope this is the proper place for this. I really want to be able to discuss my 'journey' with people because it's not something my friend group understands. Thanks in advance if you read all of this. ♥️