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So my two friends are in bed together right now next to me and I am a little uncomfortable
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This an interesting situation and I am somehow way more invested than I anticipated.
On one hand, I do think platonic intimacy is a good and healthy thing, especially for people "going through it." As someone who grew up with a lot of close female friends and confidants, I realized that they definitely offered a certain sense of comfort my male friends (for the most) part could not. It was never anything sexual or romantic in nature at all - it just felt comforting to have those people to talk to or be close to when I was feeling rough. (idk, Freud probably has something to say about this or something)
On the other hand, I do think it's worth bringing up (even just casually) with Brad. Hell, even if you just mentioned it in a "it was really nice of her to be there for Jack when he was having a hard time." Nothing wrong with highlighting something that could be seen as mature and understanding and, if by chance it was "unsavory" in any way, he'd be aware and could tackle it with her directly.
On one hand, I do think platonic intimacy is a good and healthy thing, especially for people "going through it." As someone who grew up with a lot of close female friends and confidants, I realized that they definitely offered a certain sense of comfort my male friends (for the most) part could not. It was never anything sexual or romantic in nature at all - it just felt comforting to have those people to talk to or be close to when I was feeling rough. (idk, Freud probably has something to say about this or something)
On the other hand, I do think it's worth bringing up (even just casually) with Brad. Hell, even if you just mentioned it in a "it was really nice of her to be there for Jack when he was having a hard time." Nothing wrong with highlighting something that could be seen as mature and understanding and, if by chance it was "unsavory" in any way, he'd be aware and could tackle it with her directly.
That's Tammy, Trey's ex-girlfriend. This is classic Tammy. Trey broke up with Tammy because Maureen Kanallen said that she saw Tammy flirting with Walt Timny at a party, but she was only doing it to make Trey jealous because you know, she thought that Trey secretly liked Erin Henebry, but he doesn't like Erin Henebry, it was all a bunch of bull.
It's not meant to be antagonizing. I've just never found reason not to trust friends unless they give you one. She said she was comforting, so accept that until there's reason not to. Other than that it doesn't really have anything to do with OP.
I would usually mind my own business, but if they're doing it next to you they're making it very much your business, and if you have any friendly relationship with Brad I would also be very much not okay with it. Probably turn on the lights and stare at them until one of them gets out of the bed.
One time I stayed over at my friends house after a night of drinking, slept on his couch.
Early in the morning I woke up to his naked girlfriend standing over me, smiling.
She was hot but I wasn't about to fuck with my friends girl, so I rubbed my eyes turned over and went back to sleep.
Early in the morning I woke up to his naked girlfriend standing over me, smiling.
She was hot but I wasn't about to fuck with my friends girl, so I rubbed my eyes turned over and went back to sleep.
Maybe brad's gf asked brad if she can cuddle with Jack. In that case, if you ask brad, he will say so.
If you asked earlier you could have cleared this up and cuddled with Brad.
If you asked earlier you could have cleared this up and cuddled with Brad.
Great post, thanks for that.
Plus if they wanted to cheat why they would do that in front of everyone lol
Honestly if a sleepover or house party doesn't end up with everyone cuddling each other in the living room & people telling each other good night & that they love each other a million times before everyone falls asleep I don't want it lmao.
Yes this is weird (for me at least).
This has not only the potential to destroy the relationship, but also the friendship.
If that would happen, I really hope they will not play with you the "pick a side" game, OP.
But it might be that your two friends and B.'s girlfriend have a strong bond together and trust each other and don't really care about that
This has not only the potential to destroy the relationship, but also the friendship.
If that would happen, I really hope they will not play with you the "pick a side" game, OP.
But it might be that your two friends and B.'s girlfriend have a strong bond together and trust each other and don't really care about that
Wait. There are parties where everyone just passes out at the end in a big pile? I need photos. Something. This sound too impossible to be true. Or we just talking people finding a spot on the floor to sleep?Honestly if a sleepover or house party doesn't end up with everyone cuddling each other in the living room & people telling each other good night & that they love each other a million times before everyone falls asleep I don't want it lmao.
Where they all slowly concregate in one room and become a mass of people? Like, when you say pile I assume in my head a bunch of people laying on top of each other or like 20 people cramped in a corner asleep.
You sure this wasn't one of those Kickstarter Mass Cuddle sessions?
To be fair, usually no one knows what really happened because someone comes in with special Kool'aid to bless and rise to their Lord Zorb The Conqueror.
Yeah. Boundaries are not exclusive to hetero relationships. I'm not sure why other posters keep implying that.
OP supposedly knows these people well, so if s/he thinks it's unusual, it probably is.
I'd say most men aren't very good at separating close intimacy like cuddling with sexual arousal. I'm not a woman so I don't know how they're wired.
Even at my lowest point in life, if a random girl got into bed with me and started spooning me or doing the side cuddle thing, there'd be movement downstairs.
Even at my lowest point in life, if a random girl got into bed with me and started spooning me or doing the side cuddle thing, there'd be movement downstairs.
It's not a planned thing, it just kinda happens.
I have a big U shaped sectional. Last party there were about 10 people sleeping on that, with a bunch others on a pile of blankets in the crook of the U.
Aww no, thank you! ; v;
But lmao exactly, you'd think they'd go in a separate room for that? Wouldn't be surprised if they talked about it earlier & the boyfriend simply didn't mind. I dunno, I definitely have trust issues due to some relationships, but even then I wouldn't think twice about something like this if I truly trust my gf. There's a massive difference betwen dry humping etc. & cuddling that some people don't seem to understand haha
LMAO that's honestly what a lot of those men sound like. And then so often it's "I wouldn't be affectionate with my female friends because I'm straight & I don't want them to think I'm into them", but also "I wouldn't be affectionate with my male friends because I'm straight & don't want them to think I'm gay" like.. please for fuck's sake just take some hugs & cuddles, they're so healing.
Yeah!! Obviously this hasn't happened for a while for me due to the pandemic, but I've had quite a few birthday parties of friends where everyone knows each other & is usually friends with each other that ended with us watching some movies cuddling & then kinda just calling it a night at some point haha. It's fucking hell for the one who's house or flat you're in the next morning, but I always really enjoyed it! Just reminds me of sleepovers I used to have with friends & cousins while we were kids. :3
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