I understand it sounds that easy, but my situation is difficult because my grandfather, with whom I'm very close, has terminal cancer and won't live to see 2021. He wants me there. What would you do?
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So, are you avoiding gatherings for Thanksgiving?
- Thread starter Xaszatm
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I'm avoiding gatherings, but also going to someones place. lol
Just a 2/3 household gathering which i've already been visiting the past few months.
The videos from the airports and other places are triggering me hard. I can't grasp how someone can fly at a time like this.
Just a 2/3 household gathering which i've already been visiting the past few months.
The videos from the airports and other places are triggering me hard. I can't grasp how someone can fly at a time like this.
I'm going to my parents' house where it'll just be me, my parents, and my grandparents, so just the 5 of us. I work from home. My mom works from her home. My dad doesn't work with people and if he does, he wears a mask, and my grandparents just sit at home all day and watch Fox News. Plus, I've visited them periodically throughout the year anyway (they're a half-hour drive from me).
Lost my Uncle and Aunt to convid and my father is in a nursing home and his grandkids might never see him again due to covid.
Stay home and keep it under control.
edit: not looking for sympathy, but wanted to point out that lives have been affected regardless if they are in your circle or not.
Stay home and keep it under control.
edit: not looking for sympathy, but wanted to point out that lives have been affected regardless if they are in your circle or not.
Yeah, no gatherings. I would like to see my loved ones at future Thanksgivings. I truly do not think there is a single reasonable excuse to take the slightest chance this week. So many people thinking they're above it, their group or pod or whatever is special, while doctors are begging people to stay home, pointing to small gatherings just like these as a huge contributor to spread, and hospitals are already maxing out. Really sad to think about where we are going to be by Christmas.
Wild to see people rationalize it, too. "Well we are being careful by doing this or that." Like...come on. Listen to the doctors, heed the data.
Wild to see people rationalize it, too. "Well we are being careful by doing this or that." Like...come on. Listen to the doctors, heed the data.
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Still undecided; I've been sequestered for awhile and so have my parents, but I still live a 4 hour drive away so a stay for thanksgiving is still staying over there for several days.
My mom's having a 20 person gathering at our house against my wishes & seemingly believes that the only way you can get COVID is from being an idiot (which is hilarious coming from a nurse).
Will I leave my room at all that day? Probably not. Will I get some desert and just stuff my face after everyone leaves? Probably.
Will I leave my room at all that day? Probably not. Will I get some desert and just stuff my face after everyone leaves? Probably.
I'm considering driving 8 hours to my parent's place to have dinner with them and my sisters outdoors. It would just be 6 people, socially distanced and tested.
Before the claws start to fly out here...after seeing all the airport footage, its clear people are going to be doing things. :(
Hope everyone REALLY stays safe if you are.
Practice mask wearing when not eating
limit talking while eating
be/eat with social distancing or outdoors
PLEASE.
Also understand this:
Yup. Testing NEGATIVE isn't any sort of safeguard. Don't act like a Trumpy.
Hope everyone REALLY stays safe if you are.
Practice mask wearing when not eating
limit talking while eating
be/eat with social distancing or outdoors
PLEASE.
Also understand this:
Yup. Testing NEGATIVE isn't any sort of safeguard. Don't act like a Trumpy.
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My grandma lives with us, and so I'm setting up a Zoom call with the rest of the 30+ members of the family, but I just found out last night that my grandma invited one of my uncles and his son over. At this point, plan is to grab my food and hibernate in my room.
Extra mad because another cousin has been posting bullshit COVID stuff on Instagram lately, and I'm sure she'll try and make her way over at some point too (the night before the 10pm curfew went into place here in California, she and a bunch of her friends went out and partied specifically to do one last "get together" before the curfew...). Already pissed off half the family due to election stuff, may just tell her to fuck off if she tries to come by.
Extra mad because another cousin has been posting bullshit COVID stuff on Instagram lately, and I'm sure she'll try and make her way over at some point too (the night before the 10pm curfew went into place here in California, she and a bunch of her friends went out and partied specifically to do one last "get together" before the curfew...). Already pissed off half the family due to election stuff, may just tell her to fuck off if she tries to come by.
I'm by myself this year, but if my Father still needed a heart transplant I absolutely would have gone to visit them.
Probably not. If we do it will just be immediate family, but since the weather is shitty we likely won't because we can't be outside and distanced while eating. At most my sister and her husband will come over for a little and then just go home with some food to eat at their place.
Our Mom is immunocompromised and my sister is in her first trimester so we've all been on major lockdown since this began and always have masks on and meet outside and stay distanced. So this would be no different. But even though none of us have come into contact with anyone besides us in weeks and months, we'll probably not risk it in the end if the weather isn't permitting.
Our Mom is immunocompromised and my sister is in her first trimester so we've all been on major lockdown since this began and always have masks on and meet outside and stay distanced. So this would be no different. But even though none of us have come into contact with anyone besides us in weeks and months, we'll probably not risk it in the end if the weather isn't permitting.
I am, but the folks downstairs in my duplex are going to a Thanksgiving with people flying in. So I'll be avoiding my own backyard for the next two weeks to be safe.
There are two acceptable answers in the poll:
- It should be yes, but people are coming over without my approval/consent
- Yes
Please don't be selfish this Thanksgiving or Christmas, Era. We can take a year off from family gatherings.
- It should be yes, but people are coming over without my approval/consent
- Yes
Please don't be selfish this Thanksgiving or Christmas, Era. We can take a year off from family gatherings.
My brother and sister are coming over. They both tested positive for COVID a month ago so they should not be able to get it again and/or carry it and spread it to me. My girlfriend and I live together so we should be able to avoid spreading the rona.
Good luck. We tried this when my SO's grandfather died a few weeks ago and her idiot family refused to mask and tried hugging everyone after swearing they wouldn't.
This is a horrible idea. Why the fuck do people think flying is ok right now?
Definitely not taking any chances with this. Just staying home and having a nice Thanksgiving dinner with the wife.
There's actually a family member who is judging us for avoiding family gatherings and thinking we take this way too seriously, but eff them.
There's actually a family member who is judging us for avoiding family gatherings and thinking we take this way too seriously, but eff them.
I know my family is going to hug. I don't know what I'm supposed to do here. My wife and I are discussing not going but I'd hate to disappoint my grandpa. Fuck this virus.
It'll just be me and my parents. I've never been one for big gatherings on Thanksgiving.
Just let me eat in peace so I can watch some football.
Just let me eat in peace so I can watch some football.
Just the wife and kids this year, no outside guests. Not even cooking lol, just ordered a bob evans thanksgiving special to heat up day of.
It's going to be difficult & uncomfortable, but the correct course of action is to disappoint your grandfather. The alternative is rolling the dice and potentially killing him, and I'm not saying that to sound dramatic. That's just reality.
staying inside and having a day long zoom chat open for all of my family scattered across the country. it'll be fun.
Thread title should specify - the essential element is not gathering indoors. People can safely visit with family outdoors providing its distanced. I've been doing it with my family and it's goddamn cold in our city right now - we just bundle the fuck up, have a heater/fire and a bunch of blankets. It's lovely. I feel like information about this strategy is being lost in the mix, and is probably leading more people to make bad decisions about visiting with family indoors in unsafe scenarios because they don't want to forgo altogether.
Really hope the 20% of the thread responses that don't think this applies to them can be convinced by this thread. The line of thinking that "yes but I'm going to be super careful" is driving the pandemic right now - people that have one set of rules for themselves and another for everyone else.
Really hope the 20% of the thread responses that don't think this applies to them can be convinced by this thread. The line of thinking that "yes but I'm going to be super careful" is driving the pandemic right now - people that have one set of rules for themselves and another for everyone else.
It actually does - reducing time definitely reduce transmission risk. BUT one hour still carries risk, and given we are at historic proportions, essentially no indoor visits should be considered safe right now to dramatically drop risk.
Contributing to the odds of his catching COVID and dying a sooner and likely worse death is wrong. You're right. I think we'll stay home this time and just give a call.
Also off-topic, but I'm sorry for insulting you the other day in the other thread. I've been regretting that.
I don't envy you. I would personally go see my grandfather if he had terminal cancer even if it is dangerous.
Yeah I'm staying home. Normally our family would be driving ~12 hours to my in-laws place but the whole COVID thing kinda killed that. I'm out as I'm essential so I'm a potential infection vector so there's really no way for me to safely travel.
We've got a couple facetime sessions set up with my folks and my in-laws so they can see the grandkids at least.
We've got a couple facetime sessions set up with my folks and my in-laws so they can see the grandkids at least.
What's on the playlist? I'm gonna need some entertainment while I'm cooking.
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