When a man gets raped it messes with their head even more because the arousal is visible with an erection and being aroused by rape brings that association of sex being rape.
When a man gets raped it messes with their head even more because the arousal is visible with an erection and being aroused by rape brings that association of sex being rape.
Man this thread died and fell down a few pages fast. Kinda speaks to the point of the video about how the issue isn't taken seriously....
Happens every time, unfortunately.Man this thread died and fell down a few pages fast. Kinda speaks to the point of the video about how the issue isn't taken seriously....
I think I remember a thread about male suicides being so much more promenant and it died really fast too.Man this thread died and fell down a few pages fast. Kinda speaks to the point of the video about how the issue isn't taken seriously....
It was a fantastic video and a great second part to the first one.
I really enjoyed the segment where he talks about some of the role reversal being based on a need to feed into people's desire for "revenge". To frame the men as though they deserved what they got, etc. Some people have this desire to see reversal situations as some sort of catharsis and it's incredibly dangerous.
It was also great how he explained the harms to both men AND women by making male rape a joke.
And of course the most obvious trope involving revenge and rape "dont drop the soap har har you sold some pot so I hope you get raped and abused in jail lol"
Probably enough for it's own video.
Man this thread died and fell down a few pages fast. Kinda speaks to the point of the video about how the issue isn't taken seriously....
Yea, a lot of the time I hold my tongue on these types of issues, simply because I don't think people really care, or that my views would be seen as somewhat unimportant within the sea of other human related issues.I think I remember a thread about male suicides being so much more promenant and it died really fast too.
Omg you weren't kidding.I remember seeing the MST3K episode "The Violent Years" and 4 women force a man at gunpoint into the woods where they rape him (one woman ends up pregnant). And the guys are riffing like this is something great for the guy. And even back then I thought this guy just got raped. How is this something to cheer? I'd like to think they'd do this differently today but I'm not so sure.
You're a good person. I appreciate you.Thanks for the reminder! I saw it pop up and forgot about it; I'm getting to it now. Should be excellent.
And, um, if this sort of thing has happened to you, whether or not you've posted in the thread, two things:
- I know this probably doesn't mean much from me, but I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
- I care, and I hope you're doing better now. 💜💜💜
The physiological response of an erection can be used by the perpetrator to humiliate and take advantage of the male while for a woman there isn't as obvious an indicator externally for sexual arousal. Body betrayal can happen to all where someone can be brought to a forced orgasm though, and the victim (along with outsiders) can confuse that for consent and pleasure which leads to disruption of biopsychosocial functioning.
The physiological response of an erection can be used by the perpetrator to humiliate and take advantage of the male while for a woman there isn't as obvious an indicator externally for sexual arousal. Body betrayal can happen to all where someone can be brought to a forced orgasm though, and the victim (along with outsiders) can confuse that for consent and pleasure which leads to disruption of biopsychosocial functioning.
Yeah, and sadly it happens to people no matter their sex too regularly. Rape often ends relationships for the victims even if their partner wasn't the perpetrator... And to play that for laughs is just depressing.I saw that movie when I was pretty young and ... GOD the aftermath of that scene was so ridiculously unfair, horrible and toxic.
Dude literally got raped in his sleep by his ex who literally did it because she actively knew for a fact he wasn't interested, yet he got treated as somehow unfaithful?
That's kind of you to say, and you're more than welcome. :)
The one that bothers me most is the episode of The Simpsons from 2000's. Not the panda scene. This one is 10x worse. Marge starts working out and if memory serves, starts taking supplements and getting muscular. Homer tells her he's not in the mood, she pins him down in the bed and tells him that's up to her to decide.
Of course the risk of impregnation is a huge trauma, and like you said I don't want to imply men have it worse on trauma or there is equal suffering, but acknowledge there is a slight difference in elements involved and having different forms of trauma.While that sounds terrible, I would still think that rape is almost always worse for females though because of the evolutionary hard-wired trauma of being potentially impregnated by the assaulter. Humiliation due to an unwanted erection and the psychological trauma that results can't possibly measure up to the feeling that somebody is forcing you to potentially carry their baby for the next 9 months, in the event that you actually survive the rape.
edit: Obviously, the point here is not to start a "pissing match" about who experiences more trauma, but this is a situation where I do think men can't realistically claim equal suffering, even while acknowledging the suffering is still traumatic and terrible.
Dee literally rapes men and raped Charlie in Sunny
Has Dennis actually raped someone or was it always something just implied? He's creepy and manipulative but I dont recall him ever raping anyone
I imagine dennis raping someone would be too dark for even Sunny, so they used dee which they got away with it. Maybe my memory is bad
that said, Sunny gets a pass because the characters are meant to be horrific and they acknowledge that Dee did in fact rape men, even though she disagrees
I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope more videos like this and people discussing these things can make the world a place where you might feel more comfortable talking about it in the future.I was raped by one woman and sexually assaulted by another that would have led to a rape if their brother and sister didn't come home when they did. Both were people I trusted. I have horrible trust issues as a result. Never told anyone because of this whole mentality of "lol men can't be sexually assaulted/raped". I've had someone tell me if the man got erect they really wanted it.
I don't know if death by snu snu is applicable here. They wanted sex. They just didn't want to die. Except for Kip, and they don't really belittle Kip for not wanting sex.The show had long since jumped the shark by that point, but they keep finding new ways to do it, and boy that's a real low point.
Also similarly bad is the "death by snu snu" episode in Futurama.
Dennis has never crossed that line though his behavior makes it seem like he's constantly on the verge of doing it. He was also raped way back in ep 1 and that was played for laughs.Dee literally rapes men and raped Charlie in Sunny
Has Dennis actually raped someone or was it always something just implied? He's creepy and manipulative but I dont recall him ever raping anyone
I imagine dennis raping someone would be too dark for even Sunny, so they used dee which they got away with it. Maybe my memory is bad
that said, Sunny gets a pass because the characters are meant to be horrific and they acknowledge that Dee did in fact rape men, even though she disagrees
It's not explicitly stated but it's clear Dennis is a serial rapist.Dee literally rapes men and raped Charlie in Sunny
Has Dennis actually raped someone or was it always something just implied? He's creepy and manipulative but I dont recall him ever raping anyone
I imagine dennis raping someone would be too dark for even Sunny, so they used dee which they got away with it. Maybe my memory is bad
that said, Sunny gets a pass because the characters are meant to be horrific and they acknowledge that Dee did in fact rape men, even though she disagrees
They showed that episode in the video in the OP. Pretty crazy... never saw that.Omg you weren't kidding.
Episode is from 1994, the movie itself was written by Ed Wood.
The one that bothers me most is the episode of The Simpsons from 2000's. Not the panda scene. This one is 10x worse. Marge starts working out and if memory serves, starts taking supplements and getting muscular. Homer tells her he's not in the mood, she pins him down in the bed and tells him that's up to her to decide.
I had erased it from my memory until a coworker mentioned seeing the episode recently.
Disgusting.
You're a good person. I appreciate you.
I don't know if death by snu snu is applicable here. They wanted sex. They just didn't want to die. Except for Kip, and they don't really belittle Kip for not wanting sex.
Guess I need to rewatch it. I only remember the line like "the will is yearning but the body is breaking."I mean, it reaches a point where they get exhausted and want to stop, "can't we just cuddle?" but get forced into continuing. That's pretty cleanly non-consensual.
because well..people don't care.at least that's how I feel as soon as that topic comes up. they either don't care or have worse thoughts.Man this thread died and fell down a few pages fast. Kinda speaks to the point of the video about how the issue isn't taken seriously....
First point, this is really dismissive of the sort of trauma women can go through and is a pretty shitty comment.When a man gets raped it messes with their head even more because the arousal is visible with an erection and being aroused by rape brings that association of sex being rape.
Furthermore, the article goes into detail about women being assaulted/abused by other women, and how all victims of female perpetrators (both men and woman) are almost entirely ignored by society, even by organizations and support systems whose sole purpose is to help victims.The results were surprising. For example, the CDC's nationally representative data revealed that over one year, men and women were equally likely to experience nonconsensual sex, and most male victims reported female perpetrators. Over their lifetime, 79 percent of men who were "made to penetrate" someone else (a form of rape, in the view of most researchers) reported female perpetrators. Likewise, most men who experienced sexual coercion and unwanted sexual contact had female perpetrators.
We also pooled four years of the National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS) data and found that 35 percent of male victims who experienced rape or sexual assault reported at least one female perpetrator. Among those who were raped or sexually assaulted by a woman, 58 percent of male victims and 41 percent of female victims reported that the incident involved a violent attack, meaning the female perpetrator hit, knocked down or otherwise attacked the victim, many of whom reported injuries.
This goes far beyond just fictional pop culture instances as well; modern methods of sexual victimization data gathering have revealed that female perpetrators are far more common than previously thought.
Here is an overview study which goes into depth about this issue. To quote a few relevant sections regarding the research on the subject:
Furthermore, the article goes into detail about women being assaulted/abused by other women, and how all victims of female perpetrators (both men and woman) are almost entirely ignored by society, even by organizations and support systems whose sole purpose is to help victims.
Midsommar is a glaring example I can think of recently. Theater was all laughing.
A lot of studies show underreporting is more significant for male victims than even female victims (for whom underreporting is already a massive problem). Part of why this happens is because men are significantly less likely to recognize the abuse they've suffered as abuse, despite still suffering the same physical and psychological impacts that any rape/abuse victim suffers.I figured it would run into the same issue of severe underreporting that happens when men assault women. I certainly never reported mine, and frankly as part of the whole stereotype/role expectations, as a teen kid I saw it as an ego boost, albeit an uncomfortable one. It was actually in watching the first part of this series that I even remembered those events and contextualized what they actually were.
Thanks for the link!
Oh my bad the sex scene at the end. From the director
Oh my bad the sex scene at the end. From the director
"It's designed to be funny and uncomfortable and beautiful and strange,"
Tbh I would expect the number of assaults by deeply closeted dudes on openly gay men is way higher than any of this? I'm sure women on male assault happens outside of pop culture but it's got to be rare.
Tbh I would expect the number of assaults by deeply closeted jerks on openly gay men is way higher than any of this? I'm sure women on male assault happens outside of pop culture but it's got to be rare. Look at the Catholic Church. This video series seems to be the height of whataboutism to me. Yes it happens but ladies and the LGBTQ community have it orders of magnitude worse.
Queer men are more at risk for sexual assault/abuse than straight men, but that's true of literally any queer person and gay men are an small subset of the male population. At least 20% of the entire Male population has been a victim of sexual abuse/rape, that's far more than the number of men that are queer by a significant margin.Tbh I would expect the number of assaults by deeply closeted jerks on openly gay men is way higher than any of this? I'm sure women on male assault happens outside of pop culture but it's got to be rare. Look at the Catholic Church. This video series seems to be the height of whataboutism to me. Yes it happens but ladies and the LGBTQ community have it orders of magnitude worse.
More than one thing can be bad, we don't need to rank the badness of bad things.Tbh I would expect the number of assaults by deeply closeted jerks on openly gay men is way higher than any of this? I'm sure women on male assault happens outside of pop culture but it's got to be rare. Look at the Catholic Church. This video series seems to be the height of whataboutism to me. Yes it happens but ladies and the LGBTQ community have it orders of magnitude worse.
That's incredibly coercive and unethical. A therapist can lose their license for that behavior. It's extremely predatory and you are justified in feeling weird about that happening to you. It's a clear abuse of power.From that article, the director says "And so there was something fun about dressing down this guy and kind of submitting him to this." That sounds kinda fucked up.
Changing gears, what is the classification of a counselor/therapist who reaches out/seduces/engages in sex shortly after the therapy relationship ended? Never been sure. I definitely consented, but it always felt really icky in hindsight, how it happened. Michigan, if that's relevant. The one guy I told back then gave me a high five.
Stating "it happens less" when we are talking about the high rates of sexual abuse for both men and women is kind of missing the point. Yes, women are abused at higher rates than men, but the abuse rates are so high for both (20% for men, 25-30% for women) that constantly pointing that out seems really disingenuous and gross. Also gay men are often assaulted by women specifically because of their orientation (this is called corrective rape) so bringing up gay men being abused as if that is some gotcha against the idea that women perpetrate rape and abuse is just bizarre.More than one thing can be bad, we don't need to rank the badness of bad things.
you are basically saying that because other people have it worse its ok for this suffering to happen because it happens less.