My condolences about what happened in your family. That is definitely rough.
To clarify for you what the others are trying to say: The idea is that we should listen when a woman accuses a person in a position of power, since they are putting themselves at risk to do so. For example, RelaxAlax could sic his followers on his accuser, harassing her endlessly (doxxing, death threats, etc), so it takes great courage for her to raise such an accusation. Now, yes, obviously women can still lie about these things --
history has some horrifying examples -- but usually they really are victims, and their claims should be heard. We don't want to create a chilling effect where victims feel like they can't come forward, and if the accused person is under scrutiny, it might prevent them from abusing other people in the future, as well.