I do agree that if Kandy really wanted to call out Elliott's alleged microaggressions, saying "Read the room" multiple times and refusing to elaborate while Elliott stares around confused is
not a productive way to do it. It doesn't educate, it doesn't inform. All it does is make Elliott feel like an unwelcome outsider.
This, of course, doesn't excuse Elliott's deadnaming posts or her harmful word choice when talking about her black peers. Draq queens have a history of being shady, but they
also have a history of being the vanguard of social progress and champions for the persecuted. She needs a serious talking to about those issues, and I hope that her sisters have given it to her.
I do agree with
Jeremy: I don't think anything we've seen from Elliott has been full on hard-cancelling worthy. I think she is/was stupid and ignorant, particularly 5-8 years ago when she was making those posts (and apparently she's still dumb enough to not scrub her feed and think about what sort of messages she wants to carry forward when she becomes a public figure). I also totally believe that she could have some annoying, insensitive behaviors in person, and Kandy was clearly bothered by it.
I don't think she's malicious though. I think she's just awkward and dumb.
From my perspective, I think that Kandy knows that too. She knows Elliott was awkward, and that's why she told him to "Read the room" and not "Elliott, I'm not sure if you know this, but the way you described my drag is insensitive." Because Kandy thought Elliott was annoying and wanted to bully and shun her a bit, not help Elliott grow as a person or have a meaningful discussion about race.
But when Kandy started getting blowback for the fight with Tamisha, the narrative shifted. Elliott wasn't just annoying and ignorant with her word choice; she was an aggressor now. And Kandy, by her account, was just trying to reach out to her sister all along and pull him back from the pit of racism. In Kandy's own vague, aloof, hostile, othering sort of way. "Elliott, I think you need more self awareness.
wags finger"
TL;DR: Elliott's dumb, awkward, and needs her word choice around sensitive social topics updated to modern standards by her peers. Kandy's stoking the flames against Elliott to play the victim and take the heat off herself. imo ofc
Also, I think it was posted earlier, but Elliott had an apology message from a couple weeks back for the way she described Symone. I don't know if it's the best apology I've ever read, but I think it's emotionally sincere.