op bring different homies 7 days a weekso if OP was bringing over a girl 7 nights a week but it was a different girl each time, that would be okay?
We've been dating 4 months. She was practically staying 3 nights before and he was fine with it.
I'm with the roommate on this.
If ya'll never discussed potential girlfriends/spouses staying over several nights a week or more when you first signed the lease together, then he's absolutely in the right to be annoyed by your girlfriend being there 4 nights a week. It's weird how relationships/psychology works, but I would feel uncomfortable if there was another person constantly sleeping over in the room besides me even if I never really saw them.
so if OP was bringing over a girl 7 nights a week but it was a different girl each time, that would be okay?
honestly surprised the pandemic angle hadn't been brought up till nowAlso, could he be concerned with someone visiting irregularly due to it being a pandemic?
Such a good pointhonestly surprised the pandemic angle hadn't been brought up till now
Does it never cross your mind to help with the rent if you're there half the time?I literally live with my boyfriend every other week and his roommate doesn't care or seem bothered by the fact that I don't pay rent. I don't see the problem as long as she is pulling her weight around the place, doing dishes/cleaning, etc.
I literally live with my boyfriend every other week and his roommate doesn't care or seem bothered by the fact that I don't pay rent. I don't see the problem as long as she is pulling her weight around the place, doing dishes/cleaning, etc.
We've been dating 4 months. She was practically staying 3 nights before and he was fine with it.
Come October, he randomly texted me he didn't want her over and thought she was using me and called me a simp and all zi do is drink. He later apologized cuz he thought I was going down a dark path cuz one of my friends told him I was. That binge drinking and bar life every night was a phase. I no longer do that.
As of last week, he hung out with that friend and that's when this started happening. I might be thinking delusional. I stopped hanging out with him, cuz he was too negative and always stirring drama.
Could be coincidence, idk
How is it not true? I specified that I was just talking about my experiences (I'd only split rent with close friends) Might not be true for you, but 100% has been for me when I've split rent lol. Someone's girlfriends being over every weekend isn't a bother to me unless they were taking over the living room and eating everything. Our bedrooms aren't gonna be next to each other, I'd never move somewhere with that type of floorplan. As long as their guest isnt crazy I can't really think of a reason they'd bother me.
Yeah that makes alot of sense, no way to know what the other person is doing in that situation.Also, could he be concerned with someone visiting irregularly due to it being a pandemic?
Explain that he can have his girl friend over and that she doesn't have to pay anything.
I literally live with my boyfriend every other week and his roommate doesn't care or seem bothered by the fact that I don't pay rent. I don't see the problem as long as she is pulling her weight around the place, doing dishes/cleaning, etc.
How is it not true? I specified that I was just talking about my experiences (I'd only split rent with close friends) Might not be true for you, but 100% has been for me when I've split rent lol. Someone's girlfriends being over every weekend isn't a bother to me unless they were taking over the living room and eating everything. Our bedrooms aren't gonna be next to each other, I'd never move somewhere with that type of floorplan. As long as their guest isnt crazy I can't really think of a reason they'd bother me.
Haha yeah if they were moving in as a couple we'd def have to split 3 ways . I might be dumb but im not that dumb lol. I just meant It's alright for them to be coming over every weekend or something as long as they're not a drain on our food and stuff.Sorry i missed that you meant just your experience
I'd say though if you had a couple as roommates but you were only splitting rent in half you got jobbed out hard
Haha yeah if they were moving in as a couple we'd def have to split 3 ways . I might be dumb but im not that dumb lol. I just meant It's alright for them to be coming over every weekend or something as long as they're not a drain on our food and stuff.
That would have been more fun for a bit I bet.I thought this would be about having a relationship with a roommate and was so ready for the drama.
Four nights a week is too much. Three non-consecutive nights probably fine, but not all the time. It's hard to feel like you've got your own space in most flatmate arrangements, and when you're introducing a third person that makes an already undesirable situation worse.
Also, if people start taking the piss and encroaching on boundaries and changing an agreed arrangement, they often don't stop. Like with my last housemate, her boyfriend went from coming over 3/4 times a week to being there 6 or even 7 days a week, contributing nothing, occupying living areas, etc. etc. until eventually his mother came to stay for like three weeks in this very small house with both of them + me and my girlfriend and it was horrible and weird as fuck. I'm not saying that's what's gonna happen here OP, I'm sure you're entirely reasonable, but these things can escalate very easily.
This could still happen and would be an interesting twist! Maybe that's the real reason for all this tension?I thought this would be about having a relationship with a roommate and was so ready for the drama.
OPs roommate probably annoyed (rightfully so) that he can't feel comfortable and walk around topless anymore.
lol the audacity of your roommate to even mention itI had a roomate whose GF was over all time told him that she was uncomfortable that I walked around the house without a shirt on (I'm a dude, if that matters). He brought this up to me and I basically told him to fuck off, that it was not her place and she doesn't get to dictate those kind of terms as a guest.
I don't feel I was being unreasonable as she was over all the fucking time and not chipping in for anything.
He got really angry at me too, like I was being disrespectful of both of them haha.
honestly surprised the pandemic angle hadn't been brought up till now
Wow, fuck the both of them.
Not really related, but I once lived in a house with 6 people where guests were literally always over, and when interviewing to get my room, the owner made sure I was okay with people potentially walking around naked, lol.
4/7 nights isn't living there, until the person lives in the space, they shouldn't pay rent.