Speaking of women of colour appreciation, someone shared this in the Black Culture thread the other day, and I thought I'd also share it here. ❤
Does it work to braid it tightly, like in cornrows, while damp, and then let it dry out overnight? That worked better for me than heat curling, in my life.My hair, while not as hard to manage as others is so straight I can't curl it at all. Every time I've tried with a curling iron I've burned my hair. It's a thing with native hair.
I've actually never tried that. I've braided it a lot of course but I don't think I've ever braided it that tightly.Does it work to braid it tightly, like in cornrows, while damp, and then let it dry out overnight? That worked better for me than heat curling, in my life.
It's hard to do on one's own head without the arms falling off, lolI've actually never tried that. I've braided it a lot of course but I don't think I've ever braided it that tightly.
Ha yeah I imagine! I suck at any sort of hair style other than loose braid and ponytail so...lolIt's hard to do on one's own head without the arms falling off, lol
My hair, while not as hard to manage as others is so straight I can't curl it at all. Every time I've tried with a curling iron I've burned my hair. It's a thing with native hair.
Thanks. One woman started a thread there about how she just found out Ariana Grande wasn't a poc. She actually tried to somehow blame it on the black community that she didn't know earlier?!? I just...and this woman is one of the woker posters there but that doesn't include race.Sorry that you are so down. I really feel you on the bolded part of the quotation. I am mixed and live in a predominantly white country. I was always grateful for online spaces for black women. Almost all of them have been overrun by woke white ladies who are consciously or not often dismissive about topics that solely concern black women. Even natural hair communities are full of white girls who don't understand that their curly hair is different from ours.
About the era as a boys club: It is. We have countless examples where the male users talk over women or mansplain away the moment a woman expresses discomfort with how men see things.
I'm half Black and half Jewish from a Hispanic background. My ex, who is on this forum, would call me dirty for not washing my hair everyday and for using countless products to maintain my ringlets, texture, moisture, and overall hair health. I tried so hard to explain that my hair was not the same as his and thus had different needs. If I washed my hair every day like he wanted me to, clumps of my hair would have fallen out and I would have lost my natural oils. In the end I gave up and it was nothing more than another bullet point in the list of reasons I left him.
I love my hair with every bit of myself. My mother is white but she never taught me how to do my hair. I never had braids, locs, weaves, etc growing up. She always bullied me for having the same hairstyles but it never occurred to her to do her job as a mother and teach me how to do my hair. My bio father has a big Richard Pryor style fro but always shaves it down so as to not look Black.
The only person who taught me to love my hair was my white grandmother. She would brush my hair and she would cry a bit every time because when she was little girl she had learned that when her aunts and cousins were sent to Auschwitz their beautiful curly hair was shorn. It made me reflect and I swore to never change my hair in a way that would obscure my identity.
Learning to love my hair has been a long, long, journey.
lol, same, my hair is very very straight. The only way I could ever get it to look a bit "wavy" was to have it braided tightly (my mom did it to me as a kid/teen) while it was wet, fresh out of the shower. The next day, untying the braid would give me sorta-wavy hair... for the day. xD Haven't done that in forever, since it's too much trouble braiding my own hair (it's very long).My hair, while not as hard to manage as others is so straight I can't curl it at all. Every time I've tried with a curling iron I've burned my hair. It's a thing with native hair.
Those very obviously male-focused threads are always so eyerolly, and often make me wanna leave cheeky comments but I'm just too shy for sass lol.
Those are all very good observations and I'll bring them to the attention of the rest of the team. <3. Thanks for sharing!Fistly, huge thank you to yourself and Morrigan for all the work you do and for responding so quickly. Part of the problem is that it's not always clear on how to address these forms of exclusion without backlash or feeling like I'm being hypersensitive, because I'm not even sure why "Do you pee sitting down?" threads piss me off so much, much less the makeup thread. For me I think it's just the assumption everyone is a dude and that we don't need to be addressed in the question. Hi, I exist. Ideally, it would be simple fix. What comes to mind is maybe something like if you're only addressing a subpopulation to have it in the title, "For those of you with dongs, do you pee sitting down?" Idk. I'm not sure how to approach it. Sucks that the onus is on us instead of a group of dudes sitting around asking "how can we be better about x,y,z,"- I know the moderators absolutely do this and are always looking for feedback, I mean other members.
I guess I also feel tired of fighting sometimes. Maybe I'll just stick to here for a while since I actually feel supported. Thank you to everyone who responded.
I'm trying not to cry at work. Guess they're keeping me on as a bs advisory/producer role to make themselves feel better. I'm considering just peacing out of the project. This has happened before. What sucks is that there are a lot of grants for women filmmakers, but almost all of them require that it be about social issues or women's issues. "We want to give women a chance to tell their stories as long as they are stories that we want told." Not a lot of funding for women who want to shoot a fucked up gruesome horror film. It's unladylike.
Right, like the peeing sitting down thread I was gonna saunter in like a smartarse but then I'm like "Eh, what's the point?"
Sorry, the conversation has moved on, but I really do just wanna cheek sometimes but then sigh with resignation and don't bother.
Please sass. I do it constantly and if I'm the only one I stick out like a sore thumbRight, like the peeing sitting down thread I was gonna saunter in like a smartarse but then I'm like "Eh, what's the point?"
Sorry, the conversation has moved on, but I really do just wanna cheek sometimes but then sigh with resignation and don't bother.
I think about doing it too, but I always come to things late and don't want to be the one bumping a topic that's almost dead.Right, like the peeing sitting down thread I was gonna saunter in like a smartarse but then I'm like "Eh, what's the point?"
Sorry, the conversation has moved on, but I really do just wanna cheek sometimes but then sigh with resignation and don't bother.
Wow, sounds like you dodged a hell of a bullet there, pardon my French, but that guy sound like he hella sucked. I'm white as a toilet seat, and I have mid-length kinda-wavy hair, and I would NEVER wash my hair more than twice a week. Washing your hair everyday, when you have mid-to-long hair, is incredibly unhealthy and damaging for your scalp, for the oil production (like you said) and for the hair itself. Baffles my mind this dude thought you were "dirty" for doing exactly what was needed for your hair to be as healthy and taken care of as possible. The ignorance jumped out.
I'm glad it didn't shake your love for your hair one bit though, and the meaning behind it is very touching.
Whenever I look for a thread to talk about my hair, I always stumble upon this one, and I wish it was more active, it's a dope one. I think it's linked in the OP of this thread as well. I never bumped it up because it's not mine to bump. But I wished someone would bump it up and it was more active.
What thread?Gotta love all the guys in the Olympics thread complaining about how that porn in the library thread went.
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yep. right in the feeeeeeeeels.
super hard to convince people that you know what you are doing from the get go if you are a woman (in my experience)
This one. It ended up just being a couple in the end since the thread ended up being locked for being a dupe before it got really bad.
Thanks to spider for this, felt like sharing cause it hit me right in the feels:
Just curious if other lady imgurians experience this.
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I personally would probably just be a snarky asshole about it because like... most of the words we use are "made up" and they are "made up" due to a linguistic need.So if someone in a thread says that mansplaining is a made-up term, should that be reportable? Or should it be ignored?
edit - I'm asking here more for women's perspectives, not trying to mod. Sorry if this shouldn't have been posted. I can delete.
So if someone in a thread says that mansplaining is a made-up term, should that be reportable? Or should it be ignored?
edit - I'm asking here more for women's perspectives, not trying to mod. Sorry if this shouldn't have been posted. I can delete.
Thanks Mist. I'd normally just ignore it but since the community threads and the desire to be more welcoming to women, I thought I'd ask. Appreciate it!You don't need to apologise, it's fine to ask questions. That is something we'd action, yeah, as it's dismissing a form of sexism. Sometimes it can take a while for reports to be actioned depending on how many staff are around to handle them, and how many reports there are.
Yeah, I'm much more of a snarky asshole in person than online. I'm backwards like that.I personally would probably just be a snarky asshole about it because like... most of the words we use are "made up" and they are "made up" due to a linguistic need.
I need to do this, I need to do this, but I have giant boobs and I feel like I would have no support without the wire, I need to convince myself this is not the case ahhhhhhFellow gals, I stopped wearing bras with underwire in them and I feel like I've found the secret to life.
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I need to do this, I need to do this, but I have giant boobs and I feel like I would have no support without the wire, I need to convince myself this is not the case ahhhhhh
Welcome!¡Hola chicas! Now this thread is a breath of cool, fresh air! Had no idea we had a lil corner all to ourselves. It's also a good reminder that I really should check more of the hangouts section.
I need to do this, I need to do this, but I have giant boobs and I feel like I would have no support without the wire, I need to convince myself this is not the case ahhhhhh
Yesssss, lets share all the recommendations because I need new bras and probably many of us need suits!