No, the purpose of this thread is for women to talk amongst themselves when they wish to, not to educate men.We need this thread to be bumped constantly so guyera learns more about the fairier sex and not be shitlords?????
Does anyone else struggle with chin hair as much as I do?!! I feel like every three days I have to tweeze because already some thick hairs are growing ;~;
Wow, that's some bullshit.She's also repeatedly told me I need to lose weight (I'm 5'5 and 120 pounds)
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Wow, that's some bullshit.
But, well, I unfortunately have no advice for you. This girl's mind is thoroughly warped and she likely needs professional help IMO. Since she's an acquaintance and not a friend, she might not listen to you if you talk to her about this, right? Is there a friend of hers that you think might help and towards whom she'd be receptive to?
Maybe just try to bring it up casually? "Hey I'm worried about you"I honestly don't think she has other friends, she's considered irritating by our law class. The only other girl I can think of that could possibly be her friend is too sheepish to bring it up and an enabler.
I've been thinking about leaving resetera. I really can't stand the boys club weekend era where thread titles assume everyone on here is a dude or talks about women as if we are topics of discussions, not active participants. Was it always this bad or have I become sensitized? It might be the latter. Idk I guess I've been feeling isolated in a lot of aspects in my life.
I want to share my recent experience:
I'm a horror filmmaker and did a proof of concept trailer that has garnered attention and potential funding. I created the story, shot half of it, cut it, and did all post work on it. Worked on the story with a writer. A team started to assemble around me and the scriptwriter. Read the script last week which is totally different from the trailer I made. Oh and found out that a dude director who's not even into horror movies, nor has he ever directed a movie is being brought in to direct. And since I stood in as the lead for the trailer, suddenly I'm slated as an actor because they like my "look" even though I have zero desire to be an actor. Suddenly I have no creative role in a project I spearheaded. It happened pretty quickly with everyone assuming the screenwriter, man, is in charge. Ah to be a woman. But Hollywood is really hard for men right now and women have all the opportunities...
Sorry for the rant. Just really feeling excluded. That video hit hard.
That's an infuriating experience and I'm sorry this is happening to you.I've been thinking about leaving resetera. I really can't stand the boys club weekend era where thread titles assume everyone on here is a dude or talks about women as if we are topics of discussions, not active participants. Was it always this bad or have I become sensitized? It might be the latter. Idk I guess I've been feeling isolated in a lot of aspects in my life.
I want to share my recent experience:
I'm a horror filmmaker and did a proof of concept trailer that has garnered attention and potential funding. I created the story, shot half of it, cut it, and did all post work on it. Worked on the story with a writer. A team started to assemble around me and the scriptwriter. Read the script last week which is totally different from the trailer I made. Oh and found out that a dude director who's not even into horror movies, nor has he ever directed a movie is being brought in to direct. And since I stood in as the lead for the trailer, suddenly I'm slated as an actor because they like my "look" even though I have zero desire to be an actor. Suddenly I have no creative role in a project I spearheaded. It happened pretty quickly with everyone assuming the screenwriter, man, is in charge. Ah to be a woman. But Hollywood is really hard for men right now and women have all the opportunities...
Sorry for the rant. Just really feeling excluded. That video hit hard.
I've been lurking in this thread for a while, but your comments on weekend era are so spot on. Some posts are just random and that I don't mind. This place could use some levity. It's the rest that just bring me down. I don't think it was always this bad, but lots of really good posters have left or only check in sporadically.I've been thinking about leaving resetera. I really can't stand the boys club weekend era where thread titles assume everyone on here is a dude or talks about women as if we are topics of discussions, not active participants. Was it always this bad or have I become sensitized? It might be the latter. Idk I guess I've been feeling isolated in a lot of aspects in my life.
I want to share my recent experience:
I'm a horror filmmaker and did a proof of concept trailer that has garnered attention and potential funding. I created the story, shot half of it, cut it, and did all post work on it. Worked on the story with a writer. A team started to assemble around me and the scriptwriter. Read the script last week which is totally different from the trailer I made. Oh and found out that a dude director who's not even into horror movies, nor has he ever directed a movie is being brought in to direct. And since I stood in as the lead for the trailer, suddenly I'm slated as an actor because they like my "look" even though I have zero desire to be an actor. Suddenly I have no creative role in a project I spearheaded. It happened pretty quickly with everyone assuming the screenwriter, man, is in charge. Ah to be a woman. But Hollywood is really hard for men right now and women have all the opportunities...
Sorry for the rant. Just really feeling excluded. That video hit hard.
Fistly, huge thank you to yourself and Morrigan for all the work you do and for responding so quickly. Part of the problem is that it's not always clear on how to address these forms of exclusion without backlash or feeling like I'm being hypersensitive, because I'm not even sure why "Do you pee sitting down?" threads piss me off so much, much less the makeup thread. For me I think it's just the assumption everyone is a dude and that we don't need to be addressed in the question. Hi, I exist. Ideally, it would be simple fix. What comes to mind is maybe something like if you're only addressing a subpopulation to have it in the title, "For those of you with dongs, do you pee sitting down?" Idk. I'm not sure how to approach it. Sucks that the onus is on us instead of a group of dudes sitting around asking "how can we be better about x,y,z,"- I know the moderators absolutely do this and are always looking for feedback, I mean other members.I'm really sorry you feel that way. We're aware of the "boys club" shit and we're not going to tolerate it, going forward. As a woman myself it pisses me off too.
Would you like to see anything specific changed? We're always open to ideas, as well.
Also I'm really sorry to hear about your job :(. That's really fucking shitty and I totally know how that feels.
"How many days does your period generally last?"The "everyone is a dude, right?" threads have kinda bothered me, too. I have often thought about making just one "everyone is a woman, right?" thread but I can't think of what kind of question I'd even ask in it that wouldn't just be trolling, and I'm not a troll, so... :/
I wear makeup so rarely that I've basically never worn makeup that my mom hasn't helped me apply (note, I'm 32). I guess I've put on lipstick by myself before? I'm positive that it would be a disaster if I had to put it on without adult supervision, lol.
But kind-of from an early age I developed this attitude of, "well, the guys don't have to do it, why should I?" and I haven't totally lost that opinion. Compounded with always going to bed a bit too late and wanting to stay in bed as long as possible the following morning, it puts me in an "ain't nobody got time for that" situation in the morning so I still don't bother. >.<
"How many days does your period generally last?"
We'd likely have people grossed out by the title alone.
Then we end up with male posters using their girlfriends as shields to come into the topic to tell us all about our periods. :p"How many days does your period generally last?"
We'd likely have people grossed out by the title alone.
Cups became a thing after I already had a hysterectomy so I never did try them. I didn't really like tampons (my flow was too heavy anyhow) so I likely wouldn't have liked them but I am so happy there are better options available now.I almost made a thread about menstrual cups this weekend to counter the make-up and pubic hair threads filled with male opinions.
I am pleased as punch that I finally found one that does not feel uncomfortable and is suitable for strong pelvic floor muscles.
I've tried a total of six cups before and always went back to tampons.
Love this... poll time!"How many days does your period generally last?"
We'd likely have people grossed out by the title alone.
I've been thinking about leaving resetera. I really can't stand the boys club weekend era where thread titles assume everyone on here is a dude or talks about women as if we are topics of discussions, not active participants. Was it always this bad or have I become sensitized? It might be the latter. Idk I guess I've been feeling isolated in a lot of aspects in my life.
I want to share my recent experience:
I'm a horror filmmaker and did a proof of concept trailer that has garnered attention and potential funding. I created the story, shot half of it, cut it, and did all post work on it. Worked on the story with a writer. A team started to assemble around me and the scriptwriter. Read the script last week which is totally different from the trailer I made. Oh and found out that a dude director who's not even into horror movies, nor has he ever directed a movie is being brought in to direct. And since I stood in as the lead for the trailer, suddenly I'm slated as an actor because they like my "look" even though I have zero desire to be an actor. Suddenly I have no creative role in a project I spearheaded. It happened pretty quickly with everyone assuming the screenwriter, man, is in charge. Ah to be a woman. But Hollywood is really hard for men right now and women have all the opportunities...
Sorry for the rant. Just really feeling excluded. That video hit hard.
A lot of it is just tinkering around with different formulas and colours. Good old colour theory is a good starting point.
If you are into books, I would look into "Making Faces" by Kevin Aucoin or one of the books Bobbi Brown released. I learned a lot from them.
Another way is to look for professional Make-Up Artists on youtube and not just the gurus. Lisa Eldrige is a well known MUA. I personally like Harry makes it up. She has a series about a minimal makeup wardrobe and how to get the most out of it. They both rarely use women of colour though - which is my one caveat when it comes to both. I am not white so many of the colours they work with look funky on me but their application techniques and general tips still apply.
The porn filmed in a library thread was pretty bad imo.Btw, I know what kind of threads you're talking about but are there some recent shitty threads? I haven't really been paying attention besides the gaming side.
I've been thinking about leaving resetera. I really can't stand the boys club weekend era where thread titles assume everyone on here is a dude or talks about women as if we are topics of discussions, not active participants. Was it always this bad or have I become sensitized? It might be the latter. Idk I guess I've been feeling isolated in a lot of aspects in my life.
I want to share my recent experience:
I'm a horror filmmaker and did a proof of concept trailer that has garnered attention and potential funding. I created the story, shot half of it, cut it, and did all post work on it. Worked on the story with a writer. A team started to assemble around me and the scriptwriter. Read the script last week which is totally different from the trailer I made. Oh and found out that a dude director who's not even into horror movies, nor has he ever directed a movie is being brought in to direct. And since I stood in as the lead for the trailer, suddenly I'm slated as an actor because they like my "look" even though I have zero desire to be an actor. Suddenly I have no creative role in a project I spearheaded. It happened pretty quickly with everyone assuming the screenwriter, man, is in charge. Ah to be a woman. But Hollywood is really hard for men right now and women have all the opportunities...
Sorry for the rant. Just really feeling excluded. That video hit hard.
"How many days does your period generally last?"
We'd likely have people grossed out by the title alone.
I'm so here for this type of thread. I could talk about periods for hours.
Yeah, the reactions to the bans were very disappointing. They really, truly didn't get it huh?
Jesus that's bs, wtf is wrong with people.Sorry that you are so down. I really feel you on the bolded part of the quotation. I am mixed and live in a predominantly white country. I was always grateful for online spaces for black women. Almost all of them have been overrun by woke white ladies who are consciously or not often dismissive about topics that solely concern black women. Even natural hair communities are full of white girls who don't understand that their curly hair is different from ours.
This is 100% the truth.About the era as a boys club: It is. We have countless examples where the male users talk over women or mansplain away the moment a woman expresses discomfort with how men see things.
Sorry that you are so down. I really feel you on the bolded part of the quotation. I am mixed and live in a predominantly white country. I was always grateful for online spaces for black women. Almost all of them have been overrun by woke white ladies who are consciously or not often dismissive about topics that solely concern black women. Even natural hair communities are full of white girls who don't understand that their curly hair is different from ours.
About the era as a boys club: It is. We have countless examples where the male users talk over women or mansplain away the moment a woman expresses discomfort with how men see things.
I'm half Black and half Jewish from a Hispanic background. My ex, who is on this forum, would call me dirty for not washing my hair everyday and for using countless products to maintain my ringlets, texture, moisture, and overall hair health. I tried so hard to explain that my hair was not the same as his and thus had different needs. If I washed my hair every day like he wanted me to, clumps of my hair would have fallen out and I would have lost my natural oils. In the end I gave up and it was nothing more than another bullet point in the list of reasons I left him.
I love my hair with every bit of myself. My mother is white but she never taught me how to do my hair. I never had braids, locs, weaves, etc growing up. She always bullied me for having the same hairstyles but it never ocurred to her to do her job as a mother and teach me how to do my hair. My bio father has a big Richard Pryor style fro but always shaves it down so as to not look Black.
The only person who taught me to love my hair was my white grandmother. She would brush my hair and she would cry a bit every time because when she was little girl she had learned that when her aunts and cousins were sent to Auschwitz their beautiful curly hair was shorn. It made me reflect and I swore to never change my hair in a way that would obscure my identity.
Learning to love my hair has been a long, long, journey.